Enneagram and Marriage

Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. If you find yourself or someone you love shamed or scared to leave but being threatened and gaslighted in a marital, dating, or spiritual situation, this episode is for you! We are joined by NPD expert Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2, who is here giving us the very best tools for healthy empowerment! Watch on YouTube!Find Melissa's FB Group here! Follow Melissa on Instagram Follow Melissa on TikTokFind Melissa's website here!Find all of your relationship needs at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hannah Hardin, Type 4 enthusiast and Jane Austen fan, discusses the enemies-to-lovers trope in Pride and Prejudice. The hosts explore the Enneagram types of characters from the book, analyze the dynamics of relationships, and recommend watching movie adaptations for personal reflection and growth.

Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here!Get your Enneagram Glow pairing guide here!For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here! Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment. Learn from Holly on her website with her offerings right here! Here is her Instagram also! Get her book on Amazon here! It's here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the All-Access Pass to the Summit here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types?  Watch On YouTube Here Take the TypeFinder/16 Personalities (their free MBTI variant) on Truity.com Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body approach to help us discover what we can do when we are lost and feeling unsafe in our relationships. Watch the uncut version on YouTube here! Join Juliane Taylor Shore at her website with her offerings right here! Get her book on Amazon here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every personality type! Watch on YouTube! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements from the accompanying Netflix series. Tune in here for reminders of how to love in each of our own very small but also very significant ways! Watch YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Read or watch All the Light We Cannot See here: Netflix Series:  https://www.netflix.com/title/81083008 Book: https://www.amazon.com/All-Light-We-Cannot-See/dp/1501173219 Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices