Enneagram and Marriage

How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively successful The Minimalist Mom Podcast and Instagram influencer, Diane Boden, Enneagram 7 (7-5) pairing on the pod! We analyze the 5-7 pairing deeply and then Diane to help us with the gift of her pairing as she gives realistic and life-giving tips for minimalism and experiences so you can truly simplify in an overly complex world!Specific convos here are:Diane's 5-7 pairing and what she's learning in her second decade of marriage about becoming less scattered with friendshipsSetting systems into place to help everyone in the family, not just one personStarting in spaces with less sentimental itemsTalking with your spouse for 5 min each week to get settled into the rhythmsFinding what you're both on board with in terms of minimalism and getting focused and organizedFind more free mental and physical space with your systemsHow to work with the busy chaos and say no moreHow to find the jomo (joy of missing out!)Find Diane's Minimalist Mom Podcast here on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minimalistmomspodcast/?hl=en and on her website here https://minimalistmomspodcast.com/aboutCan you spread the word on the book tour? 🥳🙏 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are: "How do you start becoming more truthful?""How do you tell harder truths?""How can you welcome truth from your spouse so they're more likely to be open?"Visit Laurie's website for her support here: https://lauriegerber.com/Laurie is offering you a FREE GIFT with lots more expert dating advice:"3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments"In this webinar, you will learn:✓How to be Ready to Date Like You Mean It in 30 Days or Less✓The #1 Ingredient to Finding A Suitable Companion without Repeated Disappointment✓Essential Elements to Effective Communication even about the Most Awkward Topics✓PLUS: The Key to Finding Your Soulmate in Way Less Dates!REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinarVisit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs!Leaving a show review is HUGE! Leave one here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity and direction. Make sure to tune in as we talk with Marty not only about relationships (of course, and she's in a systematizing 5-7 pairing!) but also how your work typology can be both a strength and a liability you must pay attention to if you want to thrive! Christa shares her work temperament as well! ALSO: Marty and her team have an INCREDIBLE offer for our wonderful E + M Community (you!) right here! >> https://workcoach.co/marriage📣 Take Marty's assessment and get a FREE intro coaching session! 📣 Here's her Instagram for a follow there as well!📣 Don't forget to get Christa's book here too for all of your relationship needs! 📣 https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 or visit the website at www.enneagramandmarriage.comDid you like today's episode and offer? It would be awesome for you to leave a review here! ❤️https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Each of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk through conflict with those people with temperaments who do not show as much emotion and/or prefer to solve problems logically or linearly. You'll learn ways you can develop a healthier internal narrative as well as prevent and repair conflict, building understanding together, too! Make sure you get a copy of "The Enneagram in Marriage" also here to get Enneagram and conflict tips. https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Make sure you connect with us at 941301-8420 if you'd like to connect with a coach or counselor or visit https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Troubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and in your marriage dance as well! If you want to truly ignite your love and work in the best ways possible, you’ll pay attention to these rhythms and honor each precious week across the month for what it really allows for versus forcing everything all at once. Yes, every week truly has a sacred gift of its own, whether rest, reflection, or revving you up and although we can push through, allowing for some nuanced microtweaks helps a great deal! To do this with order and fun, we're strategizing with occupational therapist Renae Fieck, Enneagram 9w8, in a convo about how to walk through the month with healthy, healing, and joyful systems for passion and productivity. Join us as we round out and troubleshoot in our final episode of the Igniting Your Sexual Instinct series. Join Renae on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/renaefieck/?hl=enJoin Renae on her helpful email list right here! https://renaefieck.com/Get Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage" here! https://a.co/d/bU7BNqyCatch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the fun freebies and sales!Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just building attraction and desire and also how to successfully approach sexual arousal and resolution, especially since statistically women experience about half the full sexual arousal as compared to men. Improving your sexual intimacy together in the bedroom takes not only guesswork but active research and tips that begin outside of the bedroom as well so you can understand a healthy sexual response cycle in marriage. Today, Christa walks you through some of the most important tips for building intimacy and enjoying mutually pleasurable sex in your marriage. This is a very important episode for your marriage and for more life-giving relationship-building tips, make sure you grab Christa's book right here! Watch on YouTube here! Find more relationship tips overall here! www.enneagramandmarriage.com and for more sexual tips. Research from Sheila Wray Gregoire's book, The Good Girl (and Guys) Guide to Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Christa needs most, too, as you figure yours out as well! Tune in to truly learn rest for you, your marriage, and your family right here! Watch on YoutTube here!Take the Rest Quiz free here! https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/Get a copy of Dr. Dalton’s book, Sacred Rest, here! https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Rest-Recover-Energy-Restore/dp/1478921676To join the E + M Collective membership, join here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here!This week only, join the Enneagram & Marriage Membership here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-joinThe sensate focus exercise is here: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf For even more details on the research behind this episode, check out www.thepauselife.com and www.hubermanlab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply personal account, If I Don't Laugh I'll Cry: How Death, Debt, and Comedy Led to a Life of Faith, Farming, and Forgetting What I Came into This Room For. Tune in to hear Molly's tips for other 2-8 couples and for all of us walking through communication issues, and life crises, including finances, losing parents, and potentially losing ourselves too, if we step into the light of connection and faith. Watch on YouTube!Purchase Link: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/if-i-dont-laugh-ill-cry/ Website: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/ Social Media Links: https://www.facebook.com/stillbeingmollyhttps://www.instagram.com/stillbeingmollyTo join our Enneagram and Marriage Collective membership group for more authenticity and vulnerability, join us here for only $29 a month for four extra pods a month, Zoom meetings, and more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape together, one step at a time. Tune in as we gently and respectfully explore how to nourish your sexual intimacy life from the foundation up, bringing a baseline of goodness versus rigidity, perfectionism, and especially as you let go of hurtful practices that ultimately leave you in shame or addictive cycles. Tune in to create a baseline for true, heart-stopping intimacy goodness together here in this primer for the SX instinct new series!Show links:Here's the Heart of Parenting seminar mentioned on the podcast!Here's our Relationship Bundle where we go type by type through tips for spouses in the bedroom type by type + bonuses as well!For our deeper dive podcast on Sexual Desire & Arousal Change Across the Monthly Cycle, visit Apple Podcast Subscriber Series here!Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices