

Negotiate Your Best Life Podcast with Rebecca Zung
Rebecca Zung, Esq. | YAP Media
It is time for all of us to grow, expand and feel the metamorphosis that we call go through as a result of successfully navigating and negotiating the toughest times and the narcissists in our lives. Divorce, death, breakups, rejection in any form, mean people and narcissists are all just a small part of the hard knocks of life that we all experience. Maybe even more toxic than the external debris flying at us constantly is our own internal “head trash”. As humans, none of us are immune. We all have to deal with it all. In this podcast, we are talking to people who have successfully navigated and negotiated their way past their external and internal challenges and found their way to a place where they are finally living their best lives. Our guests know when they come on this show that they are going to have to get real, get raw and bare their souls then share how they found the path out of the black hole and are now living their best lives. We’ve broken free, we’ve revolutionized the conversation about divorce. Now we are revolutionizing the conversation© about negotiation. Come listen, laugh with us, cry with us, learn and be inspired with us. Today a great day to start Negotiating Your Best Life! Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News as a “Best Lawyer in America”. She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win, (Foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and the host of the top podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life. Her perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among numerous others. Now based in Los Angeles, she is continuing to serve through her negotiation training programs, which are accessible through online on-demand formats as well as in live group formats. She has taken thousands of people from drama, trauma and chaos to living lives of freedom, possibility, prosperity and purpose.
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Oct 8, 2025 • 1h 32min
Gut Feelings You Should Never Ignore in a Narcissistic Relationship with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #751
Your gut isn’t dramatic—it’s data. In this powerful conversation, we unpack the physiology of trauma bonds, why covert tactics feel “small but constant,” and the exact steps to trust your instincts, set boundaries, and break free (quietly, safely, strategically).
You’ll learn:
✅ How love-bombing + intermittent reinforcement create chemical addiction
✅ Why targets look “emotional” while narcissists look calm (courtroom optics)
✅ The SLAY Method to negotiate and win: Strategy • Leverage • Anticipate • You
✅ Practical scripts to hold boundaries without inviting rage
✅ Recovery tools: documentation, no-contact, somatics, therapy, and community
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Oct 6, 2025 • 46min
The Expectation Hangover Free Yourself from the Narcissist’s “Hope Hook” with Guest @christinehassler with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #750
Discover how to break free from disappointment and transform setbacks into powerful opportunities with Christine Hassler, author of Expectation Hangover.
Learn how unmet expectations can lead to emotional pain, anxiety, and frustration—and why they are actually hidden invitations for growth.
Explore Christine’s proven strategies for reframing failure, shifting mindset, and moving past regret so you can reclaim your power and purpose.
Gain practical tools to let go of what you thought your life should look like and embrace what’s possible instead.
Understand the three types of expectation hangovers—situational, interpersonal, and self-imposed and how to heal from each one.
Discover why emotional processing is critical for success, resilience, and authentic fulfillment.
Perfect for anyone navigating heartbreak, career disappointment, or life transitions who wants to find clarity and freedom on the other side.
#ExpectationHangover #ChristineHassler #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealing #MindsetShift #Resilience #Breakthrough #LifeCoach #SelfDevelopment #TransformYourLife #OvercomeDisappointment #SpiritualGrowth
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Oct 3, 2025 • 1h 40min
The Discard Phase, What Narcissists Do When They’re Done With You with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #749
In this episode, Rebecca Zung breaks down the brutal reality of the discard phase in narcissistic relationships. Discover the exact patterns narcissists follow when they are done with you, the psychological tactics they use to devalue and discard, and how you can take back your power.
What you will learn:
The 10 warning signs that a narcissist is preparing to discard you.
Why narcissists ghost, gaslight, and smear their targets.
How narcissists manipulate with flying monkeys and projection.
Why they often leave you feeling worthless and doubting your own reality.
The hidden psychology of the hoovering cycle and why they come back.
The role of your own survival brain and trauma bonds in keeping you stuck.
How to stop the cycle and protect yourself from future narcissistic abuse.
Real-life examples of narcissist discard patterns in high-conflict relationships.
The first of the 7 things you can always rely on narcissists to do (ruin special occasions).
Practical steps to regain your confidence and break free from narcissistic control.
Who this is for:
Anyone recovering from narcissistic discard.
People dealing with toxic partners, exes, parents, or coworkers.
Those preparing for divorce, custody battles, or high-conflict negotiations with a narcissist.
Survivors who want to understand the discard, devalue, and hoover cycle.
#NarcissistDiscard #NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistRecovery #NarcissistHoovering #NarcissistSmearCampaign #ToxicRelationships #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Gaslighting #FlyingMonkeys #NarcissistCycle
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
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Oct 1, 2025 • 1h 21min
How A Narcissist Behaves When They Know You Can’t Be Messed With on Negotiate Your Best Life with with Rebecca Zung #748
Discover how narcissists behave when they realize they can no longer manipulate or control you. This video breaks down the psychology of narcissists, the signs that you’ve taken your power back, and how to stand strong against their tactics.
Description
What happens when a narcissist knows you can’t be messed with
How narcissists react when they lose control and power over you
Key psychological patterns of narcissistic behavior exposed
Signs that you’ve set boundaries the narcissist can’t break
Why narcissists become fearful when their manipulation fails
The hidden emotional triggers driving narcissists when they’re exposed
Steps to protect yourself and maintain leverage against toxic people
Real strategies to break free from narcissistic abuse and reclaim confidence
Expert insights into navigating relationships with narcissists safely
How to recognize when you’ve reached a turning point in your power dynamic
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Sep 29, 2025 • 14min
The ONE Question That Traps Any Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #747
Discover the one powerful question that instantly traps a narcissist and exposes their manipulation tactics.
-Learn how to use this simple sentence to stop gaslighting, break free from emotional abuse, and gain immediate clarity in any interaction.
-Ideal for use in high-conflict relationships, court proceedings, the workplace, family dynamics, or toxic romantic partnerships.
-Narcissists thrive in vagueness and chaos — this question forces them into specifics and removes their power to spin the narrative.
-Understand how to shift the burden of proof, create leverage, and regain control during narcissistic encounters.
-Includes strategic phrases and pro-level follow-up questions to pin down lies and contradictions.
-Practical tips for documenting communication, staying regulated under pressure, and maintaining your power.
-Featuring Rebecca Zung, top negotiation expert and lawyer, specializing in narcissistic relationship dynamics.
-Access free resources, legal tools, and join the support community to
further empower yourself.
-Stop arguing. Start strategizing. Clarity is your ultimate weapon.
Who This Helps:
-Survivors of narcissistic abuse
-Individuals facing narcissists in court or custody battles
-People dealing with toxic co-workers or bosses
-Anyone seeking tools to confront manipulation and emotional control
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #Gaslighting #NarcissistRecovery #EmotionalAbuse #RebeccaZung #NegotiationTips #HighConflictDivorce #ToxicRelationships #TakeBackYourPower #NarcissistExposed #LeverageOverNarcissists #NarcissistSurvivor #ManipulationTactics #StopGaslighting
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!
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Sep 26, 2025 • 1h 35min
What Narcissists Do When They Know They have LOST with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #746
Discover exactly what happens when a narcissist knows they have lost, and how you can use this moment to finally reclaim your power. In this episode, Rebecca Zung breaks down the psychology of narcissists when their control slips away, the tactics they use to regain supply, and the exact signs that show you are defeating them.
What you will learn:
-Why narcissists see the world as winners vs losers and what happens when they feel they’ve lost
-The role of exposure and why it is their deepest fear
-How narcissists react when attention shifts away from them
-The manipulative tactics they recycle: love bombing, gaslighting, smear campaigns, rewriting history
-Signs that you are starting to defeat a narcissist and regain your control
-Why detachment and emotional neutrality are key to winning against them
-The cycle every narcissist repeats: love bombing → devaluing → discard
-How documentation, leverage, and remaining calm can give you the upper hand
-The importance of support networks, therapy, and self-care when breaking free
-Strategic tools and resources to protect yourself and build lasting strength
This is for you if:
-You want to understand narcissistic behavior when they lose control
-You are looking for proven strategies to handle high conflict personalities
-You want to learn how to turn the tables on manipulation and regain your power
-You need actionable steps to deal with smear campaigns, gaslighting, or love bombing
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistExposed #NarcissistCollapse #NarcissistLoses #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Gaslighting #LoveBombing #SmearCampaign #DefeatTheNarcissist #BreakFreeFromNarcissist #RebeccaZung #NarcissistRecovery #NarcissistNoContact #NarcissistTactics #NarcissistSigns #NarcissistBehavior #NarcissistSurvivor #HealingFromNarcissist #NarcissistSupport
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!
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Sep 24, 2025 • 1h 41min
What Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #745
Have you ever asked yourself: “Why does my ex keep reaching out?” “What is hoovering in narcissism?” “How do I stay strong after going no contact?” This episode is a must watch. They don’t disappear when you go No Contact — they escalate.
In this episode, I break down the 4 things narcissists do after you cut them off (Heat, Workarounds, Rotation, Hawk), the real psychology behind hoovering, and the exact boundary language that starves their supply and puts you back in control. If you’re done with the chaos and ready to reclaim your power, this is for you.
Find out:
How narcissists hoover (subtle + overt) and why it’s all about supply
The difference between diamond-level vs coal-level supply (and how to leverage both)
Stealth smear tactics “couched in care” — and how to shut them down
Trauma-bond science (why your brain keeps checking the phone) + fast boundary resets
Scripts and response frames that end circular conversations — for good
#Narcissist #NoContact #RebeccaZung
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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Sep 22, 2025 • 42min
Loopholes = Leverage: How People Hide Money & Gain Power with Guest Mark Kohler and Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #744
Mark Kohler, a CPA, attorney, and bestselling author, reveals how the wealthy navigate legal loopholes to safeguard their assets and minimize taxes. He describes how trusts and offshore accounts are used for both protection and sometimes deception in divorce scenarios. Kohler explores the complexities of business structures and their impact on reported income, as well as the mindset shift necessary for wealth building. With insights on creating a family board for governance and legacy, this conversation is a treasure trove of strategies for financial success.

Sep 19, 2025 • 1h 37min
7 Reasons Why Highly Intelligent People Fall For a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #743
In this engaging discussion, Rebecca Zung, an attorney and negotiation expert, delves into why highly intelligent individuals often fall prey to narcissists. She explains the tactics narcissists use, such as love bombing and gaslighting, to gain trust and instill dependency. Zung reveals how covert narcissists manipulate others with guilt and project their faults. She provides powerful strategies for maintaining control, documenting interactions for leverage, and recognizing the subtle signs of psychological abuse, making it essential listening for anyone navigating toxic relationships.

Sep 17, 2025 • 1h 31min
Negotiation Expert Reveals Exactly What To Say To a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #742
Are you struggling to communicate with a narcissist? Discover the vital phrases that help you regain control and calm tensions, like saying "I agree with you". Learn the dangerous trap of JADE and how to avoid it. Master powerful boundary statements that assert your self-respect. Find out the grey rock method to detach emotionally and starve narcissists of their supply. With techniques to anticipate narcissistic behavior and disarm them effectively, reclaim your peace and energy in negotiations.


