

Negotiate Your Best Life Podcast with Rebecca Zung
Rebecca Zung, Esq. | YAP Media
It is time for all of us to grow, expand and feel the metamorphosis that we call go through as a result of successfully navigating and negotiating the toughest times and the narcissists in our lives. Divorce, death, breakups, rejection in any form, mean people and narcissists are all just a small part of the hard knocks of life that we all experience. Maybe even more toxic than the external debris flying at us constantly is our own internal “head trash”. As humans, none of us are immune. We all have to deal with it all. In this podcast, we are talking to people who have successfully navigated and negotiated their way past their external and internal challenges and found their way to a place where they are finally living their best lives. Our guests know when they come on this show that they are going to have to get real, get raw and bare their souls then share how they found the path out of the black hole and are now living their best lives. We’ve broken free, we’ve revolutionized the conversation about divorce. Now we are revolutionizing the conversation© about negotiation. Come listen, laugh with us, cry with us, learn and be inspired with us. Today a great day to start Negotiating Your Best Life! Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News as a “Best Lawyer in America”. She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win, (Foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and the host of the top podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life. Her perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among numerous others. Now based in Los Angeles, she is continuing to serve through her negotiation training programs, which are accessible through online on-demand formats as well as in live group formats. She has taken thousands of people from drama, trauma and chaos to living lives of freedom, possibility, prosperity and purpose.
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Sep 29, 2025 • 14min
The ONE Question That Traps Any Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #747
Discover the one powerful question that instantly traps a narcissist and exposes their manipulation tactics.
-Learn how to use this simple sentence to stop gaslighting, break free from emotional abuse, and gain immediate clarity in any interaction.
-Ideal for use in high-conflict relationships, court proceedings, the workplace, family dynamics, or toxic romantic partnerships.
-Narcissists thrive in vagueness and chaos — this question forces them into specifics and removes their power to spin the narrative.
-Understand how to shift the burden of proof, create leverage, and regain control during narcissistic encounters.
-Includes strategic phrases and pro-level follow-up questions to pin down lies and contradictions.
-Practical tips for documenting communication, staying regulated under pressure, and maintaining your power.
-Featuring Rebecca Zung, top negotiation expert and lawyer, specializing in narcissistic relationship dynamics.
-Access free resources, legal tools, and join the support community to
further empower yourself.
-Stop arguing. Start strategizing. Clarity is your ultimate weapon.
Who This Helps:
-Survivors of narcissistic abuse
-Individuals facing narcissists in court or custody battles
-People dealing with toxic co-workers or bosses
-Anyone seeking tools to confront manipulation and emotional control
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #Gaslighting #NarcissistRecovery #EmotionalAbuse #RebeccaZung #NegotiationTips #HighConflictDivorce #ToxicRelationships #TakeBackYourPower #NarcissistExposed #LeverageOverNarcissists #NarcissistSurvivor #ManipulationTactics #StopGaslighting
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Sep 26, 2025 • 1h 35min
What Narcissists Do When They Know They have LOST with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #746
Discover exactly what happens when a narcissist knows they have lost, and how you can use this moment to finally reclaim your power. In this episode, Rebecca Zung breaks down the psychology of narcissists when their control slips away, the tactics they use to regain supply, and the exact signs that show you are defeating them.
What you will learn:
-Why narcissists see the world as winners vs losers and what happens when they feel they’ve lost
-The role of exposure and why it is their deepest fear
-How narcissists react when attention shifts away from them
-The manipulative tactics they recycle: love bombing, gaslighting, smear campaigns, rewriting history
-Signs that you are starting to defeat a narcissist and regain your control
-Why detachment and emotional neutrality are key to winning against them
-The cycle every narcissist repeats: love bombing → devaluing → discard
-How documentation, leverage, and remaining calm can give you the upper hand
-The importance of support networks, therapy, and self-care when breaking free
-Strategic tools and resources to protect yourself and build lasting strength
This is for you if:
-You want to understand narcissistic behavior when they lose control
-You are looking for proven strategies to handle high conflict personalities
-You want to learn how to turn the tables on manipulation and regain your power
-You need actionable steps to deal with smear campaigns, gaslighting, or love bombing
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistExposed #NarcissistCollapse #NarcissistLoses #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Gaslighting #LoveBombing #SmearCampaign #DefeatTheNarcissist #BreakFreeFromNarcissist #RebeccaZung #NarcissistRecovery #NarcissistNoContact #NarcissistTactics #NarcissistSigns #NarcissistBehavior #NarcissistSurvivor #HealingFromNarcissist #NarcissistSupport
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Sep 24, 2025 • 1h 41min
What Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #745
Have you ever asked yourself: “Why does my ex keep reaching out?” “What is hoovering in narcissism?” “How do I stay strong after going no contact?” This episode is a must watch. They don’t disappear when you go No Contact — they escalate.
In this episode, I break down the 4 things narcissists do after you cut them off (Heat, Workarounds, Rotation, Hawk), the real psychology behind hoovering, and the exact boundary language that starves their supply and puts you back in control. If you’re done with the chaos and ready to reclaim your power, this is for you.
Find out:
How narcissists hoover (subtle + overt) and why it’s all about supply
The difference between diamond-level vs coal-level supply (and how to leverage both)
Stealth smear tactics “couched in care” — and how to shut them down
Trauma-bond science (why your brain keeps checking the phone) + fast boundary resets
Scripts and response frames that end circular conversations — for good
#Narcissist #NoContact #RebeccaZung
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
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Sep 22, 2025 • 42min
Loopholes = Leverage: How People Hide Money & Gain Power with Guest Mark Kohler and Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #744
Mark Kohler, a CPA, attorney, and bestselling author, reveals how the wealthy navigate legal loopholes to safeguard their assets and minimize taxes. He describes how trusts and offshore accounts are used for both protection and sometimes deception in divorce scenarios. Kohler explores the complexities of business structures and their impact on reported income, as well as the mindset shift necessary for wealth building. With insights on creating a family board for governance and legacy, this conversation is a treasure trove of strategies for financial success.

Sep 19, 2025 • 1h 37min
7 Reasons Why Highly Intelligent People Fall For a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #743
Are you smart, intuitive, or highly successful but still find yourself falling for a narcissist? 🧠💔 You’re not alone! In this eye-opening episode, we break down why narcissists are drawn to highly intelligent people and the psychological tactics they use to manipulate, control, and destabilize.
💡 What you’ll learn:
💘 How narcissists lovebomb and mirror you to gain your trust
🧩 Why they devalue people of high value to boost their ego
🎭 The secrets behind projection, gaslighting, and outrageous accusations
🛡️ Strategies to observe without reacting and maintain your power
😇 How covert narcissists play the martyr and manipulate with guilt
🔄 The subtle mind games, gossip, and psychological warfare they use
💎 Understanding narcissistic supply: diamond vs. coal level supply
🧠 The connection between childhood trauma, emotional immaturity, and narcissism
🎯 Proven tips for disarming narcissists and protecting your energy
💬 Comment below: Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Share your story!
🔗 Check out free phrases for disarming narcissists: disarmthenarc.com
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #SmartPeople #HighlyIntelligent #LoveBombing #Gaslighting #PsychologicalManipulation #CovertNarcissist #EmotionalAbuse #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #OutsmartANarcissist #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #HealingFromAbuse #Boundaries #NarcissisticSupply #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalIntelligence #selfdefense
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Sep 17, 2025 • 1h 31min
Negotiation Expert Reveals Exactly What To Say To a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #742
Are you tired of feeling powerless in conversations with a narcissist? 😤
Do you want the exact words 💬 that stop their manipulation, calm them down, and shift the power back into YOUR hands? 💪🔥
In this episode, top negotiation expert Rebecca Zung shares game-changing phrases to disarm a narcissist instantly, protect your peace ✨, and take back control. 🚫👹
✅ What you’ll learn :
🚀 The #1 phrase that shuts down narcissists instantly
🧠 Why you should NEVER JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain)
💡 Disarming responses like “I agree with you” & “You’re entitled to your opinion”
💥 How to set unshakable boundaries with simple but powerful statements
👀 How narcissists feed on control & supply—and how to starve them of it
🛡️ The hack to flip the power dynamic so they fear losing control over you
🧘 How to detach emotionally (grey rock method) & protect your mental health
🙅 Why “I’m not going to tolerate your behavior” is your ultimate power move
💎 The difference between diamond-level vs coal-level narcissistic supply
✨ How to stand firm, reclaim your energy, and finally BREAK FREE
💥 Why listen to this episode?
Because narcissists THRIVE on emotional reactions 😡—and the second you learn these powerful responses, you’ll stop feeding their ego and start protecting YOURSELF. 🛑🦸
📌 If you’re struggling with narcissists in relationships, family, work, or even court cases — this video gives you the exact words to shut them down and SLAY your negotiations. ⚖️💼
#Narcissist #Negotiation #RebeccaZung #NarcissisticAbuse #GreyRockMethod #Gaslighting #HowToDealWithANarcissist #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #ToxicRelationships #NarcissistSurvivor #Boundaries #NarcissisticSupply #EmotionalAbuse #StopNarcissists #TakeBackYourPower #SlayTheNarc
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Sep 15, 2025 • 16min
The Fastest Way to Make a Narcissist Respect You with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #741
Struggling with a narcissist who ignores your kindness and disrespects you? 😤 This episode reveals the ultimate psychological secrets to command respect from narcissists WITHOUT yelling, begging, or pleading! 🚫🗣️
💥 What you’ll learn :
Why kindness and empathy don’t work on narcissists 💔
How narcissists thrive on chaos and disrespect 🚨
The #1 thing narcissists actually respect and fear — leverage and boundaries 💪⚡
3 POWERFUL phrases to instantly flip the power dynamic 🔄🗝️
How to stay calm, confident, and UNBREAKABLE around toxic narcissists 🧘♀️🛡️
Why narcissists test your limits and how to make those limits non-negotiable 🚧🔥
The secret to communicating with narcissists that forces them to respect YOU 🤐✉️
Pro tips for dealing with narcissists in family, relationships, and negotiations 👨👩👧👦🤝
How to avoid common traps like gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional exhaustion ⚠️🧠
✨ Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, family member, coworker, or client, this video gives you the tools to reclaim your dignity, peace, and power. No more chaos, no more pain — just strategic strength. 🚀
🔔 Subscribe now for more powerful negotiation & relationship strategies from trial attorney & negotiation expert Rebecca Zung! 🔥
✅ Join the private Facebook group for ongoing support & tips!
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #Boundaries #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissistRespect #Gaslighting #RelationshipAdvice #NegotiationTips #RebeccaZong #MentalHealth #SelfCare #EmotionalStrength #Healing #NarcissistManipulation #StopGaslighting #SetBoundaries #CommunicationSkills #ConflictResolution #PowerDynamics #ToxicPeople #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #SelfEmpowerment
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Sep 12, 2025 • 1h 43min
The #1 Strategy You Need To Beat a Narcissist in Mediation with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #740
🎯 Ready to turn your pain into power and finally SHUT DOWN a narcissist — legally, emotionally, and spiritually? In this game-changing episode, top legal expert 🧠 Rebecca dives deep into:
💣 What You’ll Learn:
🧨 The ONE question that can expose any narcissist in a deposition!
🎭 How narcissists unravel with silence & contradictions — let them self-destruct!
🧘♀️ The mindset strategies that helped a small-town kid build a media empire
🧠 How to overcome self-doubt, anxiety & trauma to lead with confidence
💔 Why your trauma self shows up in relationships — and how to silence it
👨👩👧 Navigating marriage, parenting & entrepreneurship without losing yourself
🚩 How to spot covert narcissists in business before they wreck your culture
🧱 Building bulletproof boundaries, company culture & team values
📚 Must-read books: The Miracle Morning, The Big Leap, The Advantage & more!
🌈 Perfect For:
🙋♀️ Empaths, survivors, and professionals dealing with narcissistic abuse
💼 Entrepreneurs, CEOs & leaders growing their businesses and teams
🎯 Anyone wanting to master mindset, set boundaries & reclaim their power
#NarcissistAbuseRecovery #HighConflictDivorce #DepositionTips #RebeccaZung #SeanCannell #NarcissistExposed #NarcissistLies #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealing #LeadershipGrowth #EntrepreneurLife #ToxicPeople #CompanyCulture #BusinessBoundaries #TheMiracleMorning #TheBigLeap #DisarmTheNarc #HealingFromAbuse #EmotionalIntelligence #Gaslighting #silentpower
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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Sep 10, 2025 • 1h 36min
The Truth Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #739
Discover the hidden weaknesses of narcissists that they desperately try to keep secret. 🎭 Behind the mask of power, control, and manipulation lies fear, insecurity, and fragility. In this episode, Rebecca Zung, top narcissist negotiation expert & attorney, reveals exactly how to spot their tricks — and how to turn the tables. ⚖️✨
💡 What You’ll Learn:
🎭 The Wizard of Oz illusion: why narcissists seem powerful but are actually weak.
🚫 10 things narcissists cannot do (from taking criticism to showing real empathy).
⚔️ The secret fears narcissists try to hide: rejection, exposure, abandonment, and more.
🧩 Gaslighting catchphrases you MUST recognize (“You’re too sensitive,” “I never said that”).
📉 Their biggest weaknesses in court, negotiations, and relationships.
💥 How YOU can become the most powerful one in the dynamic.
✨ Whether you’re divorcing a narcissist, co-parenting, or trying to break free, this video gives you the clarity and strategies you need to reclaim your power.
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#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #Gaslighting #NarcissistExposed #NarcissistWeaknesses #RebeccaZung #DivorceWithANarcissist #NarcissistManipulation #SurvivingNarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistControl #NarcissistRelationship #ToxicRelationships #NarcissistVsEmpath #NarcissistRecovery #NarcissistCourt #NarcissistExposed
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Sep 8, 2025 • 15min
The Fastest Way to Make a Narcissist Respect You with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #738
Struggling with a narcissist who ignores your kindness and disrespects you? 😤 This episode reveals the ultimate psychological secrets to command respect from narcissists WITHOUT yelling, begging, or pleading! 🚫🗣️
💥 What you’ll learn in this game-changing episode:
Why kindness and empathy don’t work on narcissists 💔
How narcissists thrive on chaos and disrespect 🚨
The #1 thing narcissists actually respect and fear — leverage and boundaries 💪⚡
3 POWERFUL phrases to instantly flip the power dynamic 🔄🗝️
How to stay calm, confident, and UNBREAKABLE around toxic narcissists 🧘♀️🛡️
Why narcissists test your limits and how to make those limits non-negotiable 🚧🔥
The secret to communicating with narcissists that forces them to respect YOU 🤐✉️
Pro tips for dealing with narcissists in family, relationships, and negotiations 👨👩👧👦🤝
How to avoid common traps like gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional exhaustion ⚠️🧠
✨ Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, family member, coworker, or client, this video gives you the tools to reclaim your dignity, peace, and power. No more chaos, no more pain — just strategic strength. 🚀
🔔 Subscribe now for more powerful negotiation & relationship strategies from trial attorney & negotiation expert Rebecca Zung! 🔥
✅ Join the private Facebook group for ongoing support & tips!
#Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #Boundaries #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissistRespect #Gaslighting #RelationshipAdvice #NegotiationTips #RebeccaZong #MentalHealth #SelfCare #EmotionalStrength #Healing #NarcissistManipulation #StopGaslighting #SetBoundaries #CommunicationSkills #ConflictResolution #PowerDynamics #ToxicPeople #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #SelfEmpowerment
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Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE
Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here: https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!
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