

Negotiate Your Best Life Podcast with Rebecca Zung
Rebecca Zung, Esq. | YAP Media
It is time for all of us to grow, expand and feel the metamorphosis that we call go through as a result of successfully navigating and negotiating the toughest times and the narcissists in our lives. Divorce, death, breakups, rejection in any form, mean people and narcissists are all just a small part of the hard knocks of life that we all experience. Maybe even more toxic than the external debris flying at us constantly is our own internal “head trash”. As humans, none of us are immune. We all have to deal with it all. In this podcast, we are talking to people who have successfully navigated and negotiated their way past their external and internal challenges and found their way to a place where they are finally living their best lives. Our guests know when they come on this show that they are going to have to get real, get raw and bare their souls then share how they found the path out of the black hole and are now living their best lives. We’ve broken free, we’ve revolutionized the conversation about divorce. Now we are revolutionizing the conversation© about negotiation. Come listen, laugh with us, cry with us, learn and be inspired with us. Today a great day to start Negotiating Your Best Life! Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News as a “Best Lawyer in America”. She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win, (Foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and the host of the top podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life. Her perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among numerous others. Now based in Los Angeles, she is continuing to serve through her negotiation training programs, which are accessible through online on-demand formats as well as in live group formats. She has taken thousands of people from drama, trauma and chaos to living lives of freedom, possibility, prosperity and purpose.
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Nov 19, 2025 • 1h 21min
10 Weird Things Narcissist Do In Your Absence with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #769
In this powerful episode, top narcissism expert and attorney Rebecca Zung exposes the shocking and manipulative behaviors narcissists engage in when you’re not around. From secret spying to smear campaigns and emotional triangulation, learn exactly what happens behind your back — and how to take your power back using Rebecca’s proven S.L.A.Y. Method (Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, You).
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Nov 17, 2025 • 17min
Why Do Narcissists Make Fake Allegations Against Someone with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #768
In this episode, top lawyer and leverage expert Rebecca Zung reveals why narcissists make fake allegations and how to protect yourself legally and emotionally. Learn the psychological reasons behind false accusations, the manipulation blueprint narcissists follow, and proven legal and communication strategies to neutralize their attacks while maintaining credibility.
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Nov 14, 2025 • 1h 42min
A Typical Example of a Toxic Text Message with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #767
In this episode, Rebecca Zung breaks down the secret texting tactics narcissists use to manipulate, confuse, and control you - and shows exactly how to take your power back. Learn how love bombing turns into gaslighting, ghosting, and guilt-tripping, and discover the communication strategies that put you back in control.
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Nov 12, 2025 • 1h 44min
This Is How A Narcissist Weaponizes Sex in a Relationship with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #766
Do you suspect you're dating a narcissist? This episode dives into the world of narcissism and relationships, revealing key narcissist red flags to watch out for. Learn about the subtle manipulation tactics they use and how to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse.
You’ll learn:
How narcissists turn intimacy into a form of control and domination
The 10 signs you may be having sex with a narcissist
How narcissists withhold affection, attention, and truth to punish you
The real difference between “diamond-level” and “coal-level” supply
Why narcissists crave admiration and use sex to feed their ego
The psychological and physical effects of sexual and emotional abuse
Why narcissists fear true intimacy and vulnerability
How to protect yourself and rebuild emotional and physical safety
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Nov 10, 2025 • 15min
The Secret Psychological Weapon Narcissists Never See Coming with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #765
Discover a powerful strategy to regain control when dealing with narcissists. The Micro-Yes Technique shifts power dynamics without confrontation. Learn how to stack small agreements to build momentum towards larger requests. Rebecca shares practical phrases for everyday interactions, enhancing accountability while minimizing conflict. Understand the psychological principles behind this technique, empowering you to navigate manipulative situations with ease. It's all about winning with logic, not emotion.

Nov 7, 2025 • 1h 46min
What Is Mirroring, The Narcissist’s Copycat Tactic Explained with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #764
Learn how narcissists use the technique of mirroring — copying your words, body language and behavior — to create emotional bonds, gain control and eventually manipulate you. Rebecca Zung exposes the tactic, shows how it plays out in relationships and negotiations, and provides powerful strategies and phrases to reclaim your power, set boundaries and stop being manipulated.
Description:
Discover what the mirroring tactic is and why narcissists use it.
Understand how covert and overt narcissists become emotional “chameleons” by mimicking you to gain trust and access.
See how mirroring evolves from love‑bombing and idealization into manipulation, gaslighting and control.
Learn how in negotiations or high‑conflict interactions mirroring may appear, and how to spot it.
Get practical tools: neutral phrases that don’t escalate drama; voice and tone techniques to stay calm and grounded.
Explore a toolkit of 10+ “kick‑ass comebacks” and dialogues to defuse manipulation and reclaim your voice.
Understand how to differentiate care vs control: boundaries, freedom, communication, intentions and your gut response.
Recognize deeper traps: hero/victim roles, passive‑aggressive behavior, guilt‑baiting, financial or social dependency, and manipulation disguised as support.
Learn how to document inconsistencies, force the narcissist into contradiction (e.g., by asking “Can you repeat that?”), and build leverage for your own negotiation strategy.
Reclaim self‑worth: You have value. You deserve relationships where you are celebrated, not controlled.
Find additional resources: free phrase sheets, email/text templates for narcissist interactions, support communities and more.
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Nov 5, 2025 • 1h 17min
The Signs You Successfully HURT That Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #763
Learn the top ways to stop a narcissist’s control, expose their lies, and protect yourself emotionally, legally, and socially. Discover what truly hurts narcissists, how to navigate love bombing, Hoovering, and smear campaigns, and the signs that you’ve gained leverage over them. This guide is essential for anyone dealing with narcissistic manipulation in personal, business, or family relationships.
Understand the three things that hurt narcissists the most: loss of supply, fear of abandonment, and being exposed.
Learn how going no-contact or setting boundaries affects a narcissist’s control.
Identify Hoovering tactics: Heat, Workaround, Rotation, and Hawk.
Recognize signs that you’ve hurt a narcissist: withdrawal, excuses, blame-shifting, accusations, and full-on discard.
Discover why narcissists fear your independence and how it drives their rage, gaslighting, and smear campaigns.
Explore the love bombing and devaluation cycle and how narcissists condition their targets.
Gain insights into managing narcissistic manipulation in romantic, family, and business contexts.
Learn strategies to ethically expose narcissists while protecting yourself.
Practical tips for negotiating and reclaiming control from narcissists using proven psychological strategies.
Access resources like phrases to disarm narcissists at disarmthenar.com and negotiation prep at winmynegotiation.com.
Who this is for:
Survivors of narcissistic abuse
Professionals dealing with narcissistic colleagues
Anyone navigating toxic family or business relationships
People wanting to understand and reclaim power from manipulative individuals
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Nov 3, 2025 • 1h 4min
Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Person (And How to Fix That) with Guest Thais Gibson and Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #762
In this powerful interview, relationship expert Thais Gibson explores the underlying reasons you may consistently attract the wrong partner, and offers actionable strategies to shift your dynamic — starting with your relationship to yourself. Rather than focusing solely on dating tactics, she emphasizes the importance of healing attachment wounds, rewriting your relational blueprint, and establishing healthy boundaries so you can start attracting the right person with alignment and authenticity.
Discover why you keep attracting mismatched or emotionally unavailable partners — and what’s really going on under the surface.
Understand the role of attachment styles in repeating relationship patterns and how your early experiences shape who you’re drawn to.
Learn why the “wrong” person often feels familiar because they reflect unresolved parts of you — and how to begin healing that.
Gain clarity on how to rewrite your relationship blueprint: replace unconscious patterns with conscious choices.
Explore how healthy boundaries, consistent self-respect, and emotional authenticity change your attraction dynamic.
Shift your focus from trying to fix or win someone over to becoming someone who attracts from a place of wholeness.
Find practical steps to stop settling for less, stop performing for approval, and begin embodying the kind of love you deserve.
Suitable for anyone tired of repeating the same relational cycle and ready to create lasting change in how they connect.
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Oct 31, 2025 • 1h 33min
The Narcissist's Playbook, Tactics They Use to Manipulate, Control, and Sabotage You with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #761
In this eye-opening episode, Rebecca exposes the hidden tactics narcissists use to manipulate, control, and sabotage you — from covert insults and gaslighting to gift-giving traps, holiday sabotage, and the dangerous “dangling carrot” of future faking. Learn how to recognize these psychological weapons, reclaim your power, and stop falling into their emotional traps for good.
Discover the Narcissist’s Playbook — the exact methods narcissists use to confuse, dominate, and control you. Rebecca Zung breaks down how narcissists manipulate emotions, twist reality, and keep you trapped in their toxic cycle.
You will learn:
How narcissists weaponize gift-giving to insult, control, and create guilt.
The 9 most common narcissistic insults that destroy your confidence and independence.
How gaslighting works — and the subtle ways it makes you doubt your memory, judgment, and sanity.
Why narcissists ruin holidays and special occasions just to keep the attention on themselves.
The meaning of the “dangling carrot” tactic — how they promise love, change, or rewards they never deliver.
What future faking looks like in relationships, workplaces, and negotiations.
Why narcissists act kind or generous only when it serves their image or control.
How to protect your mindset and use leverage to shift the power dynamic back to you.
Rebecca Zung draws from her powerful S.L.A.Y. Negotiation Method (Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, You) to show you how to outsmart manipulation and take back control of your life, confidence, and peace.
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Oct 29, 2025 • 1h 21min
THIS Is The Most POWERFUL Tool You Can Use Against A Narcissist with Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #760
Learn how to finally turn the tables on the narcissist in your life using the most powerful tool — leverage. In this eye-opening conversation, Rebecca Zung and Judge Lynn Toler reveal how to outsmart manipulation, regain control, and win — both in court and in life. Discover the S.L.A.Y. Methodology and insider strategies to protect yourself, negotiate powerfully, and stop being controlled by a narcissist’s lies and tactics.
FULL DESCRIPTION:
Discover the #1 most powerful tool you can use against a narcissist — leverage — and how to build it ethically and effectively.
Learn the S.L.A.Y. framework: Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and focus on You.
Understand the difference between diamond-level supply (status, image, reputation) and coal-level supply (chaos, control, and conflict).
Hear real-life insights from Judge Lynn Toler on handling narcissists in court and separating emotion from strategy.
Learn how to stop defending yourself, set boundaries, and communicate from strength.
Discover how to use narcissists’ own behavior — lies, contradictions, and ego — as leverage.
Explore Rebecca’s M.A.T.T.E.R. Framework for negotiation success.
Find out how to prepare mentally, emotionally, and legally when a narcissist tries to destroy your peace or reputation.
Gain clarity on how leverage is not manipulation — it’s your power to create incentive for fair outcomes.
Transform fear into confidence and finally shift from victim to victor.
Perfect for: anyone navigating narcissistic abuse, divorce, custody battles, or high-conflict negotiations.
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