The Self Love Fix

“We all have the same 24 hours in a day.” The WORST, right? Nobody likes being told this when it comes to the discussion around time management. Here’s the thing: while this (admittedly annoying) statement is absolutely true, the conversation around time management isn’t actually about time…it’s about attention. We all have the same amount of time, but we DON’T have the same amount of attention, and that’s where this “Same 24 Hours” theory breaks down. I firmly believe that not being able to get things done—or burning yourself out from piling too much on your plate—is not actually a TIME management problem. The truth? This is actually a DISTRACTION and ATTENTION management problem. Here are my two best tips for utilizing attention and distraction management!   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you want to learn how to start setting boundaries with time and energy management according to your unique energy load, as well as managing abundance, you need to sign up for ATTENTION DEFICIT and INDULGENT AF! They’re being sold as a bundle, and you can find them right here: https://beatricekamau.com/indulgentaf Want to say goodbye to procrastination, feeling out of control and scarce with your money, and struggling with time management? You need ATTENTION PLEASE, a free limited private podcast series! You can get access here: https://beatricekamau.com/attentionplease

Does it feel like you’ve become a magnet to every emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic person in the dating pool? Have you been blaming it on this generation’s idea of dating, the fickleness of dating apps, or just about any other excuse you can come up with? Bad news: it’s none of those things. It’s you. Ultimately, it’s not that we’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners…it’s that we’re making ourselves available to them. We’re looking for the first thing that crosses our path, whether that person is truly in alignment with what we consciously desire or not, because our unconscious desires are actually the ones running the show. How do you escape this cycle? Good news: as always, I’m here to tell you what you need to hear, even if it’s not what you want to hear. Listen now to find out how to find the partnership you truly want.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you’re ready to start your shadow work journey with the guidance of someone who knows her stuff, sign up for my masterclass, THE OTHER YOU: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/UuJEETZf/checkout

Shadow work: it’s a term you’ve probably heard before. But what is it, and why does everyone seem to be talking about it? Take out your flashlight, friends, because today I’m taking you on a journey into all the shadowy, invisible parts of your personality. Shadow work is all about turning the unconscious conscious, which means taking a look at some things you might’ve shoved so far down that you’ve forgotten they even existed…or maybe you’re hoping they’ll disappear if you don’t look too closely at them. Shadow work isn’t scary; in fact, it’s an amazing, AMAZING tool for improving your self-image, your relationships, and your patience with yourself. But it can be emotional…and it can actually be harmful if done without the right guidance. Let me tell you what shadow work actually is, and what you need to do to get started.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you’re ready to start your shadow work journey with the guidance of someone who knows her stuff, sign up for my masterclass, THE OTHER YOU: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/UuJEETZf/checkout

I could talk about money all day long, and let me tell you—you’re getting a masterclass about money manifestation all packed into one episode today. Manifesting abundance in your life isn’t complicated…in fact, half of it is about recognizing the abundance already present in your life. We experience abundance in a hundred beautiful ways every single day, but without a shift in perspective, we might miss it altogether. Today, I have four powerful tips for how you can manifest more abundance in your life. Be warned—a couple of them aren’t easy to swallow, but discomfort can be necessary in order to help us grow.    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.   EPISODE RESOURCES: indulgentandbalanced.com

Last week, I talked about managing your energy and your other resources. This week, I want to talk about the management of one of those resources, and what can happen when you don't manage it: money. There are four signs that you might have a yo-yo relationship with money: Lack of control around money Speaking poorly about money Only speaking positively about money when you have it in excess Making more, but not keeping more A yo-yo relationship means there's no real consistency and balance in your relationship with money, and when you're going through this type of scarcity surrounding money, it's impossible to manage it properly. Let me tell you how to start turning this relationship around for the better.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.   EPISODE RESOURCES: https://beatricekamau.com/indulgentaf

Last week, I talked about how mismanagement of your energy and resources can lead to severe burnout. This week, I want to talk about four signs you can watch out for to identify whether you're struggling with energy mismanagement: Struggles with self-control around money Struggles with energy management Struggles with time management Struggles with self-control around food When you're operating in extremes with your energy, burnout isn't only possible—if you're not careful, it could become inevitable. We're not built to run on extremes every day of our lives; we need balance. We need to make room for duality. We need to escape the scarcity mindset and embrace abundance.   How do we change the way we manage our energy? Let me share what I've learned.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this post and what your major takeaways were.   Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life.     EPISODE RESOURCES:   https://beatricekamau.com/attentionplease

Quick trigger warning, friends: this episode involves discussions about suicidal thoughts, depression, and anxiety. If these topics are triggering to you, I suggest skipping this episode.   This isn't an easy topic for me to talk about. It's still very fresh in my mind, and I get really emotional trying to talk about it, but I'm doing it anyway. I'm doing it because I know someone needs to hear it—someone needs to know that they're not alone and they don't have to be ashamed. Or someone needs to realize that they're heading toward a bad situation, and they can still stop it before it's too late.   I'm coming on today to talk about my experience with severe burnout, and how it led to anxiety, depression, lost sleep, and ultimately a hospitalization. Now, rest assured, I'm fine now—I got through it, and I want you to know that you can, too. But I'm hoping that by sharing my story, I can help you all avoid falling into the same situation I found myself in.   Just because it isn't easy doesn't mean it doesn't need to be done. I'm ready to share this story with you.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com   EPISODE RESOURCES   Get access to the Attention Please! EXCLUSIVE Private podcast by yours truly on ENERGY and MONEY MANAGEMENT by clicking here to listen in!

These days, it's easier to follow, isn't it?   Follow your coach's example.   Follow your partner's lead.   Follow the way you've always done things.   Why is this? Because if you follow someone else's instructions or example, you get to blame them when things go wrong. If you never change anything about how you're pursuing whatever it is you want—a relationship, a job, a friendship—then you never have to acknowledge the ways that you've been responsible for your "failures."   It's time to learn what it takes to become a leader in your own life, ladies. Because the only way you're ever going to finally accomplish your beautiful vision for your life is by taking responsibility and leading yourself toward the culmination of that vision.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix   DM WOD to get access to enrollment for Woman of Desire. This premium 4-month live group program is designed to help you manifest the relationship that matches your standards. Or go here: https://beatricekamau.com/wodpre   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcW   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

We've been talking a lot about vulnerability lately...but what happens if you avoid that kind of intimacy with your partner?   For those who lean avoidant in their dating life, it's usually because you're trying to protect yourself. But when you hide behind walls to try and make yourself look better, you cut off the beating heart of connection and love: emotional vulnerability. When you refuse to let someone see the softer parts of you, the messier parts, the "What if they can't handle this?" parts...it doesn't make you safer. It actually closes you off from receiving love, and closes your partner off from trusting you with their more intimate parts, too!   But how do you solve this as an avoidant or anxious-avoidant dater? If you have no idea where to begin, don't worry—I'm here today to help you get started.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix DM WOD to get access to enrollment for Woman of Desire. This premium 4-month live group program is designed to help you manifest the relationship that matches your standards.   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcW   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

Let's talk entitlement and scarcity...and how the two actually go together.   Entitlement says, "I deserve a relationship, because I am a wonderful person. I am a catch. I'm amazing." Scarcity says, "I can't have what I want (or deserve) because there isn't enough to go around, so I'm going to turn whatever I have into the thing that I feel I deserve."   When both of these mindsets show up to a party together, only trouble can come out of it, right? No matter what you might think, these attitudes aren't going to get you the relationship you're looking for. You know why?   The universe doesn't owe you a relationship just because you're a nice or fun or cool person. You can't just show up and expect it to fall into your lap. You have to do the work...and there is work to do. There is a way to get what you want. But you have to learn how to get rid of that entitlement mindset first.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcW   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101