Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we dive into Khloe & Tristan and Kylie & Travis and explore why we keep choosing people that end up cheating on us or treating us badly? Plus, we explore can we really make a relationship work again with someone who has been unfaithful and the top, therapist backed tips, that you HAVE to consider if you want to rebuild a relationship that has gone through infidelity? We look at Khloe Kardashian and dive into: ⇢ Why did Khloe continue to take Tristan Thompson back after his repeated infidelity? ⇢ Comparisons to her marriage to Lamar Odom; ⇢ What is going on with Khloe’s unconscious attraction; and ⇢ Why do we act like caregivers to our lovers and partners? Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into: ⇢ The psychology behind why we choose people who treat us badly; ⇢ Why do we stay with people who cheat on us and can it ever work?; ⇢ Unconscious attraction EXPLAINED; and ⇢ Why do we repeat the same cycles even when we’re aware it’s not good for us. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss Cardi B & Offset as our celebrity couple as a vehicle so that we can further explore the big, and sometimes painful, question - why do people cheat? We follow the rocky rollercoaster of the Cardi B & Offset romance, whilst going deeper into: ⇢ The psychology of cheating; ⇢ Why do people cheat; ⇢ The top 10 signs that someone is a serial cheater; ⇢ The top 4 reasons that people cheat; ⇢ Does your partner have narcissistic and sociopath tendencies?; ⇢ Is 'one time a cheater, always a cheater, true?' ⇢ The connection between cheating, self-esteem, communication, and validation; ⇢ How much of a role does sex play in cheating? ⇢ The impact that cheating in our childhood can have on us; and ⇢ How and why cheating goes back to often many years, or even decades, before the event itself happens. We also explore Louise’s own experiences with infidelity - something that it has taken her many years to come to terms with, release shame from and be able to speak openly about. We discussed why she cheated, how she feels confident she won't again as well as a couple of her own personal dating stories - ex boyfriends, watch out! ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode, we start by discussing the recent announcement that Jason & Chrishell from Selling Sunset are dating. Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack go deeper into: ⇢ The psychology behind why no one is happy for them; ⇢ How soon is too soon to start dating again after a breakdown or a divorce; ⇢ The power dynamics of dating whilst rich, beautiful and... short; ⇢ Exploring the fast chemistry blow out vs. the slow build friendship; and ⇢ Why do people so often turn friendships into something more when it isn't always the best option?; and  ⇢ The psychology of the unavailable man. Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly: ⇢ What her most recent relationship taught her about finding love in unusual places; ⇢ The importance of different sex friendships and the dangers that they bring with them. Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Louise & Tari go deep into the recent Teddy & Faye argument that recently blew up on Love Island and use it as a vehicle to discuss conflict and toxic conflict, what does it mean when we get triggered, where and who do we learn our anger responses from, and is anger self-sabotage or does it hold the key to something deeper? Dr Tari also takes the pair through who was gaslighting who in this situation, who should have walked away; and whether or not she would advise the two to repair their relationship. ⠀ They also look at the biology of anger, what healthy conflict means; and the four 'horseman' - the four communication and conflict errors that have been statistically proven to be most likely to lead to divorce and relationship breakdown. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Louise Rumball and her team of leading psychologists as we venture into Series 2 of the OPENHOUSE podcast. This quick trailer gives you a sneak peak of what you may expect in all things OPENHOUSE Series 2.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When my recent break up happened, it hit me like a truck and I went into a total tailspin of panic, sadness, fear, distress and desperation. Breakups are hard enough in normal, day to day life but there is something about going through any kind of break up during a global pandemic that makes this event even worse.  In this episode, I share the top 10 things that I have learnt from therapy around break ups and how they have helped me so far. This is the episode that I wish someone had given me before everything happened.  I'm bringing the therapy to you. This episode covers: ⇢ the things you NEED to know when you enter into break up territory; ⇢ why our bodies and minds react so severely to rejection of any kind; ⇢ how MRI scanners will show that you're not too different from a drug addict going cold turkey; ⇢ how understanding the concepts of attachment, love and fear cycle will help you to be ok with what is happening; ⇢ how neural affirmations and self-care can help to calm your nervous system and re-wire your brain; ⇢ the psychology behind 'out of sight and out of mind', and what to do with your memories together; and ⇢ how to stop romanticising your past relationship and objectively understand the WHY. My two favourite parts of the episode include: ⇢ how understanding your - and your ex's - personality style and attachment style will help you to understand why you both might be reacting differently in the wake of a break up; and ⠀ ⇢ what closure really means (and it’s really not what you think!). If you yourself are struggling, or you know someone that is, please do seek professional help. ⠀ If this is not possible, then I hope that you digest this episode and apply some of it to your own situation so you can move forward. Whatever you are going through - my heart goes out to you - I would not wish heartbreak on anyone. I trust that you can heal. I hope you believe that too. With love, Louise x Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to our second live therapy workshop in partnership with FORA London, London’s tailored workspace that provides its residents with spaces to be happy and healthy to deliver their best work. This workshop - ‘how to manage the uncertainty of a Corona Christmas’ is a pre-record of a live therapy workshop where Louise & clinical psychologist Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver work through a vast variety of topics that often come up in therapy in the winter months, whilst going deeper on specific topics such as the winter blues, seasonal triggers, family boundary setting, loneliness, excess around Christmas, and more. The workshop also discusses management techniques to make this Christmas a little less stressful than those gone before. The free worksheet for this session is available at https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/coronachristmas To start the workshop, Dr Helene explores Louise’s historical connection with the winter blues and how her winters previously have been very different to this one. Dr Helene discusses Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), explore whether Louise has ever experienced it, and the two discuss the value of a morning routine and the small daily activities that Louise feels are contributing to her good mental and physical health this year. The two work through a morning routine exercise and Dr Helene also demonstrates a ‘Locus of Control’ exercise to help us better manage anxiety, uncertainty and catastrophising. Louise & Dr Helene then explore how lockdown has impacted Louise and how she is feeling - connected, disconnected, reliant on others, independent?. They discuss friendships, relationships and how, for many, loneliness is rearing its head. The pair also explore a trigger and boundary setting exercise to help you best manage any familial situation this Christmas when many personalities all come under one route. To finish the workshop, Louise & Dr Helene explore how the pandemic this year has made many people feel pressurised that they have not yielded any progress or moved forward. The pair go through a positive and compassionate reflection exercise on the year gone by and look towards 2021. This is led by Louise and her own experiences throughout 2020. Throughout the session, Louise & Dr Helene also take live therapy questions and help viewers at home with any questions that they might have. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Louise and Dr Helene explore Louise’s coping mechanisms over the past few years and how an intense life of hard work and constant pressure, often led to her partying harder than she had wanted to on the weekends. Whilst initially seemingly innocent, Louise started to understand that whilst she didn’t classify herself as having a traditional ‘problem’ with alcohol, her relationship with alcohol wasn’t as healthy as it could be, often ending up in awful hangovers, bad decisions and added stress when Monday came around. Louise and Dr Helene explore why, unfortunately, Louise had to come head to head with a traumatising event one evening whilst intoxicated before she decided that it was time to face up to her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills. Since that evening, Louise embarked on a journey of sobriety and it has now been 2 years and 8 months since she decided to stop drinking. Until now, Louise has never shared this personal story, but is today sharing in the hope that it may be comforting for others who have been in a similar situation, and potentially inspiring for those who are sober curious and interested in exploring a life without alcohol and drugs. Louise & Dr Helene also discuss how she went sober, whether she did it with professional help or on her own, and how she has managed to stay sober in a world full of party animals and normalisation of drinking. This episode is for anyone - the people who love drinking but hate the hangovers, the people who end up making bad decisions and wish they could stop but don’t know how, those who self medicate with alcohol and drugs to distract from reality, and those who would just be interested in knowing what it might be like to not drink for a day, week or month. Trigger warning - this episode contains information regarding sexual assault ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s live therapy session Dr Helene and I explore what it means to be a perfectionist. For me, I have never classified myself as one - I always thought that I was too ‘much’ to be a perfectionist. I wasn’t super tidy, nor the perfect homemaker, the perfect partner or the perfect daughter, and I always had so much on my plate, that I never thought this term was right for me. However, what came out of Episode 3 was that perfectionism has shown up in my life in so many of ways but mainly as a constant and relentless drive and pressure to be more successful, to be in better shape and to achieve more and keep up with those around me. The underlying driver of perfectionism is the feeling that you have to be MORE of something to be more worthy, more lovable or more valuable. In this episode, we go deeper and explore why this is - how it ties back to my family experience, school and university experiences and early career milestones, as well as how it has mainly shown up in my relationship with my career and my body in adulthood. We also touch upon my relationship with men and ageing. In today’s society, we so often are left feeling just not good enough in comparison to those around us and the shiny lives of others on social media - so I love how we are able to run through the impact social media also has on those who have a tendency to feel ‘less than’. So, this is OPENHOUSE. Our goal is to normalise these conversations so together, we can be happier. Everyone is invited and I’m so glad you turned up. Love Louise x ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This one is a little different to our usual pre-recorded podcast episodes and it is a live-streamed therapy workshop where we explore how childhood impacts your development into adulthood. This episode includes an at-home worksheet booklet for you to work through as we go through the session. If you want to join into the session, please head to http://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/episode-3- to get yours! The importance of childhood experiences cannot be underestimated. Seemingly small events in childhood can sometimes have more significance than major events in adulthood and hugely impact the way we develop. The situations that we grow up in become our baseline normal and we form ideas about how life should be and how others should act from this perspective. Many are not always aware of this template that has been built from a young age. Should we experience stressful situations as a child, we also may develop unhelpful coping mechanisms that can endure long into adulthood and our adult relationships. What did you learn from your family? ⇢ What is an attachment style and how do they impact our connection with those around us?  ⇢ How to work out our attachment style with those closest to us. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised? How does this differ across family members?  ⇢ What is self esteem, how is self esteem built in childhood and how does it change into adulthood? ⇢ What are love languages and how can you most effectively manage your relationships in order to help them flourish by understanding these? We also run through a number of different analogies - including the Oil Rig analogy - to best understand how you can bolster your self esteem to support you as you grow from childhood, into adolescence and then into adulthood, as well as answering live questions along the way. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices