
Social Skills Coaching
While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...
Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.
Latest episodes

Apr 2, 2025 • 17min
Unlocking Motivation: Hack Your Brain & Body With Evolutionary Action
Motivation Triggers: Psychological Tactics for Energy, Willpower, Self-Discipline, and Fast Action (Clear Thinking and Fast Action Book 9) By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/motivationtriggerskinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08K8DQKRJ "Discover the secrets of motivation in this enlightening video! Explore how evolutionary action can hack your brain and body to boost energy, willpower, self-discipline, and fast action. Learn about Sung Il-Kim's tripartite framework for cultivating motivation and how to generate, sustain, and regulate it effectively. Uncover the key role of dopamine levels, circadian rhythm, and exercise in your journey towards motivation. Don't procrastinate! Click now and take a step towards unlocking your true potential!" **Book Link:** https://bit.ly/motivationtriggersking In this episode, we'll dive into the science behind starting tasks with enthusiasm instead of procrastination. We’ll explore how to hack our brains and bodies for maximum energy while staying focused on goals. The book provides strategies that tap into your evolutionary drive towards action by understanding psychological tactics surrounding motivation, willpower, self-discipline, fast thinking, triggers, habit loops, reward systems—all of which are essential to taking control over our minds and behaviors for success in all facets."Motivation Triggers - Psychological Tactics for Energy, Willpower, Self-Discipline, and Fast Action", is available on Amazon as both a paperback and an audiobook—and can also be found at iTunes or Audible to enjoy it anytime! Visit the author's website: PKConsulting.comLet’s get started by learning how we can transform our lives from complete apathy into full sprint, together!

Mar 26, 2025 • 38min
Become A “Cool Kid”
The Science of Social Intelligence: 45 Methods to Captivate People, Make a Powerful Impression, and Subconsciously Trigger Social Status and Value [Second ... (The Psychology of Social Dynamics Book 7) By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/socialintelkinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0893ZRW1BHello, listeners! This is Russell on "Social Skills Coaching," where we're delving into social psychology to become more likable, charismatic, and productive. Today, March 26, 2025, brings an exciting episode with a special focus from Patrick King’s book, The Science of Social Intelligence.In this book, You’ll learn to understand and leverage motivation and popularity dynamics in social situations for better outcomes. We will cover key topics such as how dominance is different than prestige but equally important to projecting an appealing persona, why warmth matters more over competence when forming connections with others, and strategies to increase your own perceived value without compromising personal integrity or authenticity. Join us in unraveling the science of social interaction that will empower you for better relationships today!

Mar 19, 2025 • 35min
Master The Art Of Charisma: Design Your Own Personal Gravity For Lasting Impact
MASSIVE CHARISMA: Small Talk, Charm, Likability, and How to Succeed With People (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 31) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3uhUQ6Thttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C7Q9FBM8"Discover the secrets to developing your own personal gravity with concrete skills to stand out, be noticed, and captivate people. In this episode, we dive into "MASSIVE CHARISMA - Small Talk, Charm, Likability, and How to Succeed With People" by Patrick King, uncovering the five distinct charismatic traits that can transform your social interactions: likeability and warmth, power and influence, emotional intelligence, presence, awareness, and self-control, and social intelligence and leadership. Learn from real-life celebrities and historical figures, such as Will Smith and Marilyn Monroe, how to effectively tick all five charisma boxes in your unique way. Find out how to design your own unique charisma formula by honestly rating your performance in each area and committing to taking action today to improve. Don't miss this opportunity to elevate your social skills and make a powerful personal impact! #Charisma #SocialSkills #PatrickKing"

Mar 6, 2025 • 17min
Err On The Side Of Action
00:00:00 Hello Listeners00:03:11 Get a Little Uncomfortable00:09:00 Tiny StepsTake Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/takerapidactionkinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YZ95LVAre you tired of saying "I'll do it later" and feeling stuck in a cycle of inaction? Look no further! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of productivity and efficiency with Patrick King's book, "Take Rapid Action." Discover how quieting your overthinking through the Premortem Analysis and Ostrich Theory can help you overcome procrastination and laziness. Learn actionable rules to get started before you feel 100% ready, and how taking tiny steps can lead to significant progress.We'll also explore how comfort inaction is sabotaging your success, and how strategically planning your days can prevent distractions and promote efficiency. Uncover what you think is action but is actually a waste of time, and how bundling tasks can defeat procrastination once and for all.Join us as we break inertia overthinking paralysis sloth and insecurity to transform from struggling with getting off our butt to becoming a machine of productivity. Take rapid action now and start hitting your goals like never before!

Feb 27, 2025 • 38min
Mastering Relationships: How To Listen, Hear, And Validate
How to Listen, Hear, and Validate: Break Through Invisible Barriers and Transform Your Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 11) By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/listenhearvalidatekinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WLBD418📚 Are you looking for ways to improve your relationships and become more likable and charismatic? In this podcast episode and YouTube video, we delve into the powerful techniques presented in "How to Listen, Hear, and Validate: Break Through Invisible Barriers and Transform Your Relationships" by Patrick King.In Chapter 2, we explore the concept of Validation - The Basic Steps and how it plays a crucial role in effective communication. We discuss the framework outlined by Patrick King, which consists of six key steps:1. How to be present and listen2. How to reflect and ask questions3. How to mindread using feeling words4. How to find context, validate, and center their experience5. How to normalize and refrain from judgment6. How to show genuine validation by being realBy mastering these techniques, you'll be able to break through invisible barriers, transform your relationships, and become more likable and charismatic in the process.🔗 Get your copy of "How to Listen, Hear, and Validate" by Patrick King: https://bit.ly/listenhearvalidatekingDiscover the power of Validation and elevate your communication skills. Watch this video now to learn how to be present, listen, reflect, ask questions, mindread using feeling words, find context and validate, normalize without judgment, and show genuine validation in your relationships.

Feb 19, 2025 • 16min
Mastering People Reading: Uncover Hidden Intentions
00:00:00 Hello Listeners00:03:29 A Glimpse Beneath the Mask 00:05:12 The 2014 French movie Force Majeure explored this concept in an interesting way.Become A Human Behavior Scientist: Observe, Read, Understand, and Decode People With Minimal Information (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 18) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/424plO2https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KQFLNSCDiscover the hidden art of reading people like a book with our exclusive YouTube video covering Chapter 2 of Patrick King's bestseller "Become A Human Behavior Scientist". In this chapter, we dive deep into understanding the subtle cues and habits that reveal someone's true intentions, personality, background, and goals. Beyond surface-level observations, learn how to peel back the layers of human behavior using proven psychological principles and superior observational skills.Our video explores:- The science behind effective people reading- How emotional and social intelligence play a crucial role in understanding others - The difference between generic books on body language vs. mastering human behaviorJoin us as we unravel the secrets to becoming a true mind reader and gaining insight into what people are thinking without even saying a word. Get ready to level up your social skills, likability, and charisma by learning how to decode people with minimal information.Don't miss out - grab your copy of "Become A Human Behavior Scientist" today at [book link] and hear it here: https://adbl.co/424plO2

Feb 12, 2025 • 34min
Mastering Empathy: Unlock The Key To Stronger Relationships
Train Your Empathy: How to Cultivate the Single Most Important Relationship Skill By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3shIydQhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BDXLTRD2Get ready to transform your relationships with "Train Your Empathy" by Patrick King! In this groundbreaking book and accompanying podcast episode, discover the power of empathy and how it can help you build deeper connections with others. In Chapter 1, dive into the fascinating world of empathy as we explore its neurobiology, types, and importance in our lives. Learn the difference between cognitive empathy, emotional empathy, and compassionate empathy, and find out which type is crucial for maintaining strong relationships.Throughout this enlightening journey, you'll uncover the secrets to cultivating your own empathy skills, allowing you to truly understand and support those around you. Patrick King's expertise shines through as he guides you through the nuances of balancing compassion with self-care, ensuring that you remain emotionally healthy while helping others.Whether you're seeking to improve your personal or professional relationships, "Train Your Empathy" provides the tools you need to succeed. As you navigate the topics covered in this podcast episode and YouTube video, prepare to be inspired and equipped with the knowledge to create more meaningful connections.Don't miss out on this opportunity to revolutionize your relationships! Get your copy of "Train Your Empathy" today and start your empathy journey now: https://adbl.co/3shIydQ

Feb 5, 2025 • 29min
Master Likability: Unlock Charisma With Science-Backed Tips
Looking to boost your charisma and become more likable? In this video, we'll explore the chameleon effect and attitude similarity to help unlock your charisma!The Science of Likability: 67 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction (4th Ed.) (The Psychology of Social Dynamics Book 12) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3BXFuHQhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RW4ZJB3Discover the science behind being liked and loved by everyone around you. In this groundbreaking video, we dive deep into the 4th edition of Patrick King's bestseller "The Science of Likability" to reveal evidence-based methods that will make you radiate charm, impress others, win friends, and attract people effortlessly.Based on over 67 seminal scientific studies and psychological research, including works from renowned minds like Sigmund Freud, Ivan Pavlov, Stanley Schachter, and Daniel Goleman, this video distills actionable insights into a comprehensive guide for personal growth and social success. Learn how to subconsciously make yourself likable, trustworthy, and intelligent by understanding what makes people tick and strategically applying these findings in your daily life.Our expert analysis covers topics such as creating equity within relationships, the power of similarity in friendships, using eye contact to build trust, and even how tripping or vulnerability can positively impact social dynamics. You'll also discover universal definitions of charisma, wit, and humor, alongside practical tips on eye contact, touch, and charm.Unlock the hidden force that propels people forward - likability - which opens doors to better career opportunities, love life, relationships, and friendships. Embrace Patrick King's science-backed wisdom to become someone's favorite person and experience the transformative power of likability in your life.Don't miss out on this chance to hear it here: https://adbl.co/3BXFuHQDiscover how to create a foundation for friendship, embrace the psychology of social dynamics, and master the art of making people love you. Watch now and start radiating charisma today!

Jan 29, 2025 • 45min
The Introvert Survival Guide: Master Social Situations, Boost Confidence, & Thrive!
Get 45% off the Magic Mind bundle with with my link: https://www.magicmind.com/ERICJAN00:11:26 Introvert Defined00:15:54 Biological Differences00:18:12 Kinds Of Introverts00:28:42 Self-sabotage, And Why You Stay In Your Comfort Zone00:40:18 The STAR acronym explains four main typesThe Introvert Survival Guide: How to Stretch your Comfort Zone, Feel Comfortable Anywhere, and Become a “People Person” By: Patrick Kinghttps://bit.ly/IntrovertSurvivalKinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0976S4RGTAre you an introvert struggling with social situations? Tired of feeling like a party pooper or doing a bad impression of an extrovert? Look no further! In this video, we'll explore the revolutionary book "The Introvert Survival Guide" by Patrick King. Discover how to turn your introversion into an advantage and thrive in any social setting.Learn:- How to understand and embrace your true introverted nature- Practical strategies for surviving and thriving in parties and demanding social obligations- The science behind introversion and why you recharge differently than extroverts- How to make deep connections, escape interactions gracefully, and implement introvert life design- Tips for feeling completely at ease with yourself while being a social powerhouseThis book is your ultimate guide to mastering social situations without social fatigue. No more self-sabotage or staying in your comfort zone! Patrick King, an international bestselling author and social skills coach (and fellow introvert), shares his insights on how you can conquer your fears and make the most out of every interaction.Join us as we dive deep into each chapter, uncovering the secrets to becoming a people person while staying true to yourself. Whether you want to make friends, network at work, or navigate romantic relationships, this guide has got you covered!Don't miss out on this life-changing opportunity to boost your confidence and get out of your shell. Get ready to embrace your introversion, find your solitude in our loud world, and become the social powerhouse you've always wanted to be.

Jan 22, 2025 • 21min
Boundaries, Self-Worth & More!
Get 45% off the Magic Mind bundle with with my link: https://www.magicmind.com/ERICJAN00:00:00 Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others00:03:32 The Terrible Tale of the “Gunnysack”00:07:26 Try a Hypothetical00:10:54 Use the “Five Whys” techniqueStand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others (if that’s okay with you…) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 9) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3To6NDuhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B7GWJN4FAre you tired of putting everyone else's needs before your own? Do you constantly seek approval and validation? If so, you might be a people-pleaser. In this video, we dive deep into the psychology behind people-pleasing and provide practical strategies to break free from this harmful pattern. Discover how to build self-worth, set boundaries, and overcome the fear of rejection. Learn powerful techniques like the "separation of tasks" exercise and how to challenge your self-limiting beliefs. It's time to reclaim your life and prioritize your own happiness. This video is your first step towards becoming a more confident and authentic version of yourself. People-pleasing is a learned behavior that can be changed. Your worth is not determined by others' approval. Setting boundaries is essential for your well-being. Overcoming fear of rejection is possible. Self-compassion is key to personal growth.#peoplepleasing #selflove #mentalhealth #personalgrowth #confidence #boundaries