
Social Skills Coaching
While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...
Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.
Latest episodes

Jun 6, 2025 • 16min
Embracing Authenticity and Freedom with Malitta Seamon - Highlight Reel
In this episode, Malitta Seamon shares her journey as a wife, mother, entrepreneur, and former CEO. She details her evolution towards leading a more authentic life through her organization, Inbound Leadership, and discusses her co-authored book 'Mindset Freedom' set to release on May 17th. Full conversation is at https://youtu.be/8qwlMHaQyDEMalitta candidly recounts the challenges of living a life that wasn't truly fulfilling and the pivotal moments that led her to abandon a successful business. She emphasizes the importance of being present, listening to inner voices, and the transformative power of proving one's desire for happiness. This heartfelt narrative offers valuable lessons on living authentically, making small meaningful changes, and pursuing inner peace over external success.00:00 Introduction: Meet Malitta Seamon00:12 The Journey to Authentic Living01:35 Questioning Life's Path02:34 The Turning Point: Choosing Happiness04:41 Prove It: The Methodology07:10 The Importance of Presence09:01 Making Small Changes11:35 Working with Malitta: Retreats and Workshops13:15 Daily Practices for Centering14:48 Conclusion: Finding Peace and Happiness

Jun 5, 2025 • 25min
## "Uncover the Science of Reading People with Patrick King's New Book"
The Science of Reading People: How to Understand What People Are Really Saying and Why (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 26) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/47LRdYk00:00:00 Hello listeners00:02:27 Perceptual Selectivity 00:03:54 Attribution00:05:20 Stereotyping00:06:41 The Halo Effect00:08:22 Projection00:09:33 Perceptual Set00:10:51 Implicit Personality Theory00:12:27 Expectancy00:13:53 Perceptual Defense00:15:12 Improving Your Perceptual Accuracy 00:22:59 Summaryhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BTYQXK62Uncover the Science of Reading People with Patrick King's New Book" Are you ready to unlock the secrets of human behavior and become a master of perception? In this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of behavioral psychology and explore how it can be applied to our daily lives. Join us as we discuss "The Science of Reading People," a captivating book by Patrick King, which offers an in-depth look at understanding others and becoming more charismatic. In Chapter 1, we uncover the barriers that hinder accurate perception: perceptual selectivity, attribution, stereotyping, and more. Discover how these psychological concepts influence our interactions and shape our perceptions of others. Learn practical tips to improve your own perceptual accuracy and develop a deeper understanding of those around you. With tons of science-backed methods and an easy-to-understand approach, this book is a game-changer for anyone looking to enhance their social skills and become more likable. Don't miss out on this opportunity to boost your people skills and take control of how others perceive you! Click the link in the description to grab your copy now: httpsadbl.co47LRdYk Whether you're a business professional, a student, or just someone looking to navigate social situations with ease, "The Science of Reading People" is an essential guide that will leave you feeling more confident and charismatic. Let's explore the power of perception together! Remember to check out our podcast episode for even more insights and don't forget to subscribe for future content!

May 22, 2025 • 44min
One Mouth but Two Ears
00:06:27 The True Win-Win00:09:27 Unconscious Obstacles00:23:42 But They’re Boring…00:30:22 All Hail Conan 00:40:09 Summary and TakeawaysHow to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 7) By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/listenintentionkinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08B5QRV5XDiscover the secret to building deep and meaningful connections with Patrick King's latest book, "How to Listen with Intention." In this episode, we dive into Chapter 1, where you'll learn the art of active listening and why it's a game-changer in your relationships. Did you know that by simply focusing on listening, you can go from a stranger to a cherished friend? It's time to unlock the true win-win situation! But beware, there are unconscious obstacles that might bore you (and your potential friends!). We'll explore these pitfalls and provide tips on how to avoid them. Patrick King also highlights the importance of creating a balance in relationships - giving and taking equally. Are you guilty of being a conversational narcissist? Find out with this eye-opening chapter!

May 21, 2025 • 55min
Momentum and Mindset: Insights from Dan Bowling
Transformative Leadership: The Power of Belief and Positivity with Dan BowlingIn this episode of 'The Science of Self,' host [Host Name] introduces guest Dan Bowling, founder and owner of a globally recognized sales and marketing firm. Dan shares his journey from overcoming personal adversity to achieving professional success. He discusses his company’s unique approach to scaling consumer product brands across multiple channels and his commitment to redefining success beyond profits through philanthropy and community outreach. Key themes include the importance of nurturing a positive belief system, consistent action, and celebrating small victories. Dan also delves into his company’s employee retention strategies, the impact of meditation, and the significance of protecting one's mental inputs from negativity. Listeners are encouraged to educate versus entertain, embrace challenges as opportunities, and celebrate not only their personal but also their organization's achievements.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:31 Dan Bowling's Business Journey01:23 Philanthropy and Redefining Success03:20 Creating a Better Story11:35 The Power of Belief and Consistency16:27 Overcoming Adversity and Personal Growth23:04 Hiring and Company Culture27:14 Celebrating Success and Building Momentum28:22 The Flywheel Effect and Company Resilience29:35 Overcoming Negativity and Embracing Opportunities32:38 The Power of Small Steps and Consistency33:15 Guarding Your Beliefs and Meditation35:46 Incorporating Social Impact into Business41:13 Celebrating Successes and Learning from Failures48:17 Final Thoughts and Practical AdviceDan Bowling is the president and founder of The Genesis company, a globally recognized consumer products commercialization firm. Under his leadership, his firm has redefined what success looks like for CEO’s and founders by using his company to serve as many people as possible, starting first with his own team, then his clients, and also his community. The GC has not only earned prestigious accolades such as Inc Magazine’s “Best of” winner three times, but also won Sales Firm of the Year in 2024, and a Global Award for its industry’s Amazon division. But, what he’s most proud of is that he has a 100% employee retention rate and his firm is has fed over 1 million children, saved 200 girls from human trafficking, and provided domestic abuse counseling to 100 kids.

May 16, 2025 • 1h 2min
Living Authentically: Colby Wilk’s Guide to Self-Discovery
Discovering True Wellbeing with Colby Wilk: Intuition, Empathy, and Self-RealizationFREE GIFT FOR LISTENERSThe First Step to Finding Your Way – a short, powerful practice to help people reconnect with their truth and move forward with clarity.https://colbywilk.com/the-first-secret-to-finding-your-way/ONE SHEET: https://colbywilk.com/one-sheet/In this insightful episode, we sit down with Colby Wilke, an intuitive guide and healer, to explore the concept of 'wayfinding.' Colby shares his unique approach to helping individuals discover their true selves and the life that calls to them, emphasizing the importance of intuition and empathy. He delves into the distinctions between empathy and being highly sensitive, discussing the challenges and gifts of each. Colby also addresses the misconceptions around wellbeing and the importance of self-realization over material success. Tune in to learn about the journey of becoming oneself and the role of spirituality versus religion, along with practical tips on how to navigate life’s challenges and uncertainties.00:00 Introduction00:30 Understanding the Role of a Wayfinder03:15 Exploring Empathy and Being an Empath11:17 Defining Highly Sensitive People15:06 Spirituality vs. Religion20:17 Colby's Industry and Daily Work29:05 Self-Realization and Self-Actualization33:25 Accessing and Enhancing Empathy35:13 Navigating Psychic Abilities and Ego38:53 Understanding and Controlling Gifts43:04 The Journey to Self-Discovery56:09 The Process of Letting Go58:39 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

May 7, 2025 • 36min
Mastering Social Engagement: Transform Conversations Today
00:11:08 Reading Out Loud00:17:01 Choose a Role Model00:23:57 The landmark study on modeling and social learning00:24:24 Life is a Series of Stories00:29:59 Plumping up Your Conversation ResumeHow to Engage, Connect, & Captivate: Become the Social Presence You've Always Wanted To Be. Small Talk, Meaningful Communication, & Deep Connections By: Patrick Kinghttp://bit.ly/EngageConnectKimghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0952B32XQDive into this episode as we explore Chapter 2 of Patrick King's book, "How to Engage, Connect, and Captivate." Discover powerful strategies to enhance your social presence and transform mundane conversations into meaningful connections. Learn why reading out loud is an essential practice for improving communication skills and how choosing a role model can inspire your own charisma. We'll uncover the secret to crafting captivating stories from everyday life experiences and discuss practical ways to "plump up" your conversation resume. Don't miss this insightful episode! Take control of your interpersonal relationships and become the confident, engaging presence you've always wanted to be. Get ready to embark on a journey towards more fulfilling connections!

Apr 30, 2025 • 41min
Unlock Your Charismatic Superpowers: Power, Presence, & Warmth
00:00:00 Hello listeners00:01:33 The visionary00:11:54 Be present, build presence00:29:46 Change your attitude to strangers00:35:28 “Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow."Massive Charisma: Likability, Charm, Presence, and Success With People By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3OJ4V72https://www.amazon.com/MASSIVE-CHARISMA-Likability-Succeed-Charismatic-ebook/dp/B0C7Q9FBM8Are you ready to take your social skills to the next level? In this episode, we dive into Chapter 2 of Massive Charisma by Patrick King. Discover the secrets to building real-world charisma and learn from experts Fox Cabane and Howard Friedman on how to exude power, presence, and warmth in any situation.

Apr 23, 2025 • 52min
Uncover the Art of Reading People: How to Get Straight Answers from Anyone
How to Extract Info, Secrets, and Truth: Make People Reveal Their True Thoughts and Intentions Without Them Even Knowing It (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 12) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/ExtractInfohttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B093ZRPCDKDive deep into the second chapter of Patrick King's book, "How to Extract Info, Secrets, and Truth." Learn powerful techniques to navigate conversations with ease. From putting questions in context to recognizing elicitation tactics, this episode uncovers the secrets behind getting honest responses. Discover insights from FBI experts, psychologists, and renowned lawyers. Uncover the truth, enhance your likability, and boost your charisma. Watch now to master the art of conversation!

Apr 17, 2025 • 23min
Unveiling The Art Of Self-Awareness: A Deep Dive Into Your Inner World
00:00:04 Today is April 17th, 202500:03:45 Psychologist Tasha Eurich and colleagues conducted a massive study on self-awareness00:05:43 Low internal SA, low external SA – SEEKERS 00:06:00 Low internal SA, high external SA – PLEASERS 00:06:18 High internal SA, low external SA – INTROSPECTORS00:06:37 High internal SA, High external SA - AWARE The Art of Self-Awareness: How to Dig Deep, Introspect, Discover Your Blind Spots, and Truly Know Thyself By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3J5AJhHhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B09Q29TLNWIn this insightful episode, we explore the transformative power of self-awareness. Our host takes you on a journey through 'The Art of Self-Awareness' by Patrick King, uncovering the three crucial levels of self-understanding. From recognizing your actions to understanding your emotions and blind spots, this video delves into Kegan's theory of adult development. Join us as we discuss why looking within is essential for personal growth and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life. Get ready to embark on an inward expedition and discover the incredible rewards that await! Grab your copy of 'The Art of Self-Awareness' now at https://adbl.co/3J5AJhH" Self-awareness is not just about knowing personal details; it's a deep exploration of what triggers happiness or sadness, and the core beliefs that shape these emotions. Most people seek solutions externally, but King asserts that true change begins within. It's time to uncover the hidden gems beneath the surface. We will be covering an introduction and Chapter 1 of this thought-provoking book. The chapter delves into the three levels of self-awareness: what you do, feel, and are unaware of. This episode also explores Kegan’s theory of adult development, offering a comprehensive understanding of personal growth. The book is available on Amazon, while the audiobook can be found on Amazon, iTunes, and Audible. For more insights, visit Patrick King's website at bitly - PKConsulting. Join us as we embark on this exciting exploration of self-discovery!

Apr 9, 2025 • 28min
The Power Of Dopamine & Routine: Your Key To Unstoppable Motivation
00:00:00 Today is April 9th, 202500:03:23 “Reward learning”00:14:27 Rubber Hits the Road00:23:56 The TakeawayMotivation Triggers: Psychological Tactics for Energy, Willpower, Self-Discipline, and Fast Action (Clear Thinking and Fast Action Book 9) By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/motivationtriggerskinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08K8DQKRJDiscover the secret to transforming from a sloth into a powerhouse of productivity! In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of dopamine - the motivation molecule. We'll explore how your body's natural rhythms and everyday routines can either energize or drain you, and most importantly, learn practical strategies on how to create an environment that fosters success and keeps you sprinting towards your goals. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to a life of action and achievement!