
Social Skills Coaching
While everyone wants to make themselves and their lives better, it has been hard to find specific, actionable steps to accomplish that. Until now...
Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication, and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk.
Latest episodes

Jul 17, 2025 • 22min
Murphy's Law is your secret weapon!
00:09:30 For example, take the Pareto Principle00:12:37 Models in Brief00:14:11 Satisficing. 00:15:34 Distinguish feeling or thinking.00:17:13 Prioritize motion.00:19:14 Whatever Can Go Wrong Will Go Wrong.00:21:00 Here are the takeaways from today's episode.Practical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/practicalintelligencekinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08263KGHKIn this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of practical intelligence as outlined by author Patrick King. Discover the neuroscience-backed strategies to enhance your critical thinking skills and never be fooled again! Chapter 3 unveils the power of 'thinking in models' - a game-changing approach to problem-solving. Learn how to create mental models for faster, more accurate decision-making. We'll explore concepts like satisficing, the difference between feeling and thinking, and the importance of motion. Plus, uncover why Murphy's Law is your secret weapon! Join us as we deconstruct these powerful insights and learn how to analyze deeply, think critically, and transform our thinking for a smarter future.

Jul 14, 2025 • 21min
Unlocking Human Connection in the Digital Age: Insights from Robin Nathaniel - Voice over Work - An Audiobook Sampler
Russell welcomes social media strategist and TEDx speaker Robin Nathaniel. See the full interview at https://youtu.be/edHZvzIGu3oRobin shares his journey from hip-hop artist to public speaker, emphasizing the power of forging intentional human connections online. He elaborates on his experiences as a father, husband, and author, highlighting the importance of sharing one’s personal story to create impactful connections. Robin also discusses his guiding principles—Connect, Create, Contribute—and how these can be applied to lead a fulfilling life. Additionally, he offers practical advice on becoming a TEDx speaker and recommends essential reading material to help find purpose and drive meaningful human interactions.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:15 Robin's Background and Career00:56 The Impact of Social Media01:35 Journey as a TEDx Speaker04:21 Moving from New York to Atlanta06:03 The Power of Sharing Personal Stories07:11 Book Insights and Frameworks08:39 Personal Philosophy: Connect, Create, Contribute13:17 Spiritual Journey and Family16:09 Recommended Reading and Daily Habits19:34 Closing Thoughts and Practical Advice #RobinNathaniel #Socialmediastrategy #Personalgrowth #Musicindustry #Authenticconnection #TEDxspeaker #Creatingconnections #Digitalcommunication #Resilience #SocialMediaSYNC #Publicspeaking #Inspiration #Careertransition #Storytelling #Intentionalcommunication #ConnectCreateContribute #Humanconnection #Socialmediaexpert #Author #Mindfulcommunication #Socialmediatips #Thoughtleadership #Professionaldevelopment #Entrepreneurship #thescienceofself

Jul 2, 2025 • 17min
Mastering the Art of Listening: Chapter Two 'Improve Your People Skills'
00:03:21 We Have Two Ears and Only One Mouth00:08:56 Ineffective listening00:15:59 TakeawayImprove Your People Skills: How to Connect With Anyone, Communicate Effectively, Develop Deep Relationships, and Become a People Person By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3nQxB0Nhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XK7WBW2Dive into this insightful episode as we explore the second chapter of Patrick King's groundbreaking book, "Improve Your People Skills." Discover why staying quiet and honing your listening skills are essential for building deep connections. In a world where communication is key, learn to adapt and navigate social situations with ease. Uncover the secrets to becoming likable, improving interpersonal relationships, and maximizing your personal growth. This episode delves into the psychology of people, providing a blueprint for understanding others and developing harmonious relationships. Don't miss out on this opportunity to enhance your soft skills and become a captivating presence in any social setting. With practical tips and actionable advice, you'll learn how to handle any situation with grace and confidence. Click the link below to grab your copy of "Improve Your People Skills" and take control of your social life today! https://adbl.co3nQxB0N Are you ready to transform your people skills? Let's dive in!In our fast-paced world, it's easy to overlook the fundamental yet powerful act of listening. This podcast episode delves into the lost art of active engagement, exploring how genuine listening and validation can transform our interactions. We'll uncover the distinction between truly hearing others and merely awaiting our turn to speak, revealing how this simple shift can elevate conversations from solitary monologues to vibrant exchanges. Moreover, we'll examine the parallels between listening and validation, understanding their shared goal of creating positive and meaningful connections. Get ready to explore these essential people skills, as we delve into the intricacies of effective communication, uncovering practical insights that will enhance your interpersonal relationships and foster deeper, more fulfilling conversations.

Jun 26, 2025 • 16min
Beyond Destinations: Zach Smith's Story - Voice over Work - An Audiobook Sampler
Intentions and Transformative Travel with Anywhere.com Founder, Zach SmithIn this episode of 'The Science of Self,' host Russell interviews Zach Smith, the founder and CEO of Anywhere.com. Zach shares his story of how a post-college trip to Oaxaca inspired the creation of his company. He emphasizes the importance of intentions and attention in shaping one's life experiences. Zach also discusses how travel can be a powerful tool for personal transformation, drawing from both childhood lessons and professional experiences. Additionally, he touches on his daily habits, the significance of conscious living, and the philosophy behind Anywhere.com's approach to meaningful and culture-respecting travel. Join us to explore the deeper aspects of intentionality and the transformative power of travel.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:14 The Birth of Anywhere.com02:22 The Power of Intentions04:22 A Childhood Lesson on Intentions08:55 The Importance of Perspective10:51 Daily Habits for Success13:35 The Mission of Anywhere.com

Jun 25, 2025 • 57min
Chapter 2. Watch Yourself from Practical Intelligence-Overcoming Bias & Mastering Logical Arguments
00:00:12 Today's featured book from Patrick King is Practical Intelligence00:04:55 Two Systems of Thought00:16:22 Battling Biases00:28:01 Four Cognitive Biases to Watch Out For00:36:03 Beating Cognitive Bias00:41:52 Logical Arguments00:52:51 TakeawaysPractical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/practicalintelligencekinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B08263KGHKAre you ready to become an expert in practical intelligence? In this episode, we dive into Chapter 2 of Patrick King's groundbreaking book, 'Practical Intelligence.' Discover the fascinating neuroscience behind our thought processes and learn how to harness both systems of thinking for optimal decision-making. Biases can cloud our judgment, but with the strategies outlined in this chapter, you'll learn to identify and overcome them. From improving your critical thinking skills to mastering logical arguments, this video will empower you to think faster and more accurately. Don't miss out on these essential tips to stay ahead of the curve! Click the link below to get your hands on a copy of 'Practical Intelligence' and start your journey towards becoming smarter ASAP: https://bit.ly/practicalintelligenceking

Jun 24, 2025 • 13min
Highlights from The Literary Pugilist: Mark Connor's Journey - Voice over Work - An Audiobook Sampler
Mark Connor on Boxing, Writing, and Reconnecting with Faith | The Science of SelfSee the full interview at https://youtu.be/EhcVLPlyiGkIn this episode of The Science of Self, we sit down with Mark Connor, a literary pugilist from St. Paul, Minnesota. Mark discusses his unique career path merging boxing and writing, and his successful book, 'It's About Time,' which explores his relationship with his father and his spiritual journey. Tune in to hear about Mark's deep connection with his Catholic faith, his involvement with the Native American community, and how he navigates both worlds with respect and authenticity. Mark also shares insights on the discipline required in both writing and boxing, and offers thoughts on moral values and personal growth.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:17 Mark Connor's Background and Book Overview01:12 Themes and Inspirations Behind the Book01:53 Mark's Journey with Faith and Community04:48 Involvement with Native American and Irish Communities08:02 Reflections on Faith, Morality, and Writing13:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Jun 20, 2025 • 17min
Awakening Your Inner Billionaire with Debbie Dobbins
Awakening Your Inner Billionaire with Debbie Dobbins | The Science of SelfHear the full interview Here - https://self-growth.captivate.fm/episode/unleashing-your-inner-billionaire-with-debbie-dobbins/In this episode of The Science of Self, our host interviews Debbie Dobbins, author of 'Your Inner Billionaire.' Debbie, who calls herself the barefoot thought leader, shares her journey of awakening her inner billionaire—an inner mindset of freedom and abundance—despite facing serious life challenges, including a cancer diagnosis and financial hardship. This conversation delves into the importance of gratitude, brainwave frequencies, the power of storytelling, and practices such as meditation and future journaling. Debbie also explores how spirituality and consciousness contribute to a fulfilling life. Tune in to learn how to reveal your true self and cultivate abundance in all areas of your life.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:12 Debbie's Journey to Writing 'Your Inner Billionaire'00:30 The Concept of the Inner Billionaire01:22 Debbie's Personal Struggles and Lessons Learned02:36 The Power of Gratitude06:09 Understanding Brainwave Frequencies and Hypnotherapy09:23 Spirituality vs. Religion11:44 Manifestation and Abundance13:44 Practical Tips for Building Abundance15:46 Final Thoughts and Resources

Jun 19, 2025 • 15min
Six Different Ways to Say NO
Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others (if that’s okay with you…) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 9) By: Patrick King Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3To6NDu00:00:00.000 Hello listeners, and welcome to Social Skills Coaching00:02:11.800 Trevor Powell is a psychologist and assertiveness expert00:02:24.120 Direct NO00:03:56.560 Reflecting NO00:04:45.720 Raincheck NO00:05:59.800 Enquiring NO00:07:17.280 Broken Record NO00:11:28.080 Challenging the Beliefs that Stop You from Saying No00:13:50.000 Takeawayshttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B7GWJN4FAre you tired of putting others first? It's time to stand up for yourself! In this episode, we dive into the world-renowned book by Patrick King, 'Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries,' and uncover practical ways to practice self-care. Discover the art of saying NO with confidence and fearlessness. From direct refusals to reflecting on your priorities, learn six unique methods to set boundaries without guilt. Join us as we explore why being nice to yourself is essential for a fulfilling life. Click above to buy the book now! Let's embrace our right to prioritize ourselves and bid farewell to anxiety-induced people-pleasing!"

Jun 13, 2025 • 13min
Thriving Amidst Uncertainty: Jonathan Gluck's Journey with Treatable Cancer
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:18 Jonathan's Background and Cancer Journey00:46 Living with Uncertainty02:10 Coping Mechanisms and Mindfulness04:58 Life Lessons and Mindful Living06:45 Optimistic Realism and Spirituality10:02 Supporting Others with Cancer11:37 Final Advice and ConclusionFull podcast at https://self-growth.captivate.fm/episode/surviving-the-unsurvivable-optimistic-realism-with-jonathon-gluck/Join us on The Science of Self as we welcome Jonathan Gluck, author of 'An Exercise In Uncertainty'. Jonathan shares his 20+ year journey as a cancer patient, thriving in a state of treatable yet incurable cancer. We delve into the emotional and practical strategies he has learned to cope with uncertainty, drawing insights from his life and his extensive research, including interviews with experts like sociology professor Kate Sweeney. Discover valuable life lessons on mindfulness, realistic optimism, and the importance of taking action now. Whether you’re facing serious challenges or seeking self-improvement, this episode offers wisdom and inspiration for everyone.https://www.amazon.com/Exercise-Uncertainty-Memoir-Illness-Hope/dp/0593735781https://www.audible.com/pd/An-Exercise-in-Uncertainty-Audiobook/B0DJHBLVQ6https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2320094/jonathan-gluck/#https://lithub.com/the-craft-of-this-mortal-coil-jonathan-gluck-on-writing-a-different-cancer-story/

Jun 11, 2025 • 15min
Conquer Procrastination: Uncover the Science of Getting Started with Patrick King
00:00:08 We welcome you today to Social Skills Coaching00:10:38 The Procrastination Cycle.00:11:54 1. Unhelpful assumptions or made-up rules.00:12:07 2. Increasing discomfort.00:12:19 3. Excuses for procrastination to decrease psychological discomfort.00:12:36 4. Avoidance activities to decrease psychological discomfort.00:12:50 5. Negative and positive consequences.00:14:06 TakeawaysThe Science of Getting Started: How to Beat Procrastination, Summon Productivity, and Stop Self-Sabotage By Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/4biaP9Jhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S4GSHZYAre you tired of letting procrastination hold you back from achieving your goals? It's time to become a productivity powerhouse! In this episode, we dive into the groundbreaking book "The Science of Getting Started" by Patrick King. Discover why procrastination is an opportunity assassin and learn how to break free from its grip on your life. Chapter 1 reveals the shocking truth about why you might be a 'couch potato' and how it's linked to your tendency to delay tasks. We explore the vicious cycle of procrastination and provide insights into understanding and overcoming psychological barriers. King delves deep into the biological and evolutionary reasons behind our procrastination habits, offering a scientific approach to beating these instinctual drives. Get ready to transform your life by applying these powerful strategies! With studies analyzed and practical tips provided, you'll be equipped to slay your personal procrastination monster once and for all. --Don't miss out on this opportunity to boost your productivity and achieve success faster. Click the link in the description to purchase the book and get started on your journey towards a more disciplined and fulfilling life. Hear it Here: https://adbl.co/4biaP9J