Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre

Kat Vellos, author of "We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships," shares her wisdom on transforming casual acquaintances into true friends. She discusses the challenges of fostering deeper connections and emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in building relationships. Kat provides practical strategies for initiating meaningful conversations and underscores the value of proactive scheduling to revive friendships. With tips on leveraging networks and recognizing potential friends, she inspires listeners to cultivate lasting bonds.

Discover strategies for using social media to foster genuine connections rather than loneliness. Hear personal anecdotes on the joys of friendships and the significance of making plans, even amid unexpected cancellations. The hosts humorously liken social media consumption to enjoying donuts, advocating for balance. Explore the challenges of maintaining friendships in the digital age while stepping outside comfort zones. Emphasize the value of meaningful interactions over mere follower counts and engage with online communities with a positive mindset.

Media - and social media in particular - is often pointed to as a culprit in our loneliness. Why is this? And are there ways to better harness the power of social media to feel less alone? Kristen and Jolenta get insights from Dr. Jeffrey Hall, author of Relating Through Technology.We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Laura Tremaine’s tips for building and nurturing their friend councils. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Society often celebrates the BFF, the squad, or the busload of besties. But Laura Tremaine has a different take. She believes our lives are richer when we have a variety of unique friends to love and lean on - even if those friends never meet each other. She shares her philosophy with Jolenta and Kristen, and in her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you’ve shared about the topics we’ve recently covered on the showWe want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Jeremy Nobel, a seasoned expert in personal development, shares insightful strategies for reveling in solitude. He and the hosts explore the important distinction between loneliness and the joy of alone time. They discuss the transformative power of creativity and self-discovery in solitude, highlighting activities like cooking and drawing. The conversation also touches on maintaining connections with others while embracing independence. Listeners are encouraged to view time alone as an opportunity for personal growth rather than isolation.

According to Dr. Jeremy Nobel, author of Project Unlonely, "at its core, a true sense of loneliness results from a disconnection to the self." But what does he mean by disconnection? What causes this kind of disconnection? And steps can we take to develop a good relationship with ourselves? Dr. Nobel stops by to share his findings. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Liz Craft and Sarah Fain’s tips for working together as friends. We want to hear from you! Please share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When is it a good idea to mix friendship and work? What are the benefits and drawbacks of working with a friend? And what can we do to ensure both the work and the friendship succeed when the two are mixed? Liz Craft and Sarah Fain, BFFs and business partners, share their wisdom.We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com   And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices