The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 for more details Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com Episode #375: Miranda Hawk - How To Cultivate A Loving Relationship. Miranda Hawk is an award winning sales professional, builder of teams, and sits on the board for multiple non-profit organization. Miranda is my wife, and together we are striving to raise our daughters to be kind, strong, hard-working, resilient leaders. Miranda is the former owner of the Dayton Mom Collective, a business that provides a positive voice for motherhood by connecting moms to resources and parenting perspectives unique to their communities. She has worked in the profession of selling since she was 14 and understands the determination and work ethic it takes to sustain excellence. **We recorded this conversation on our Anniversary.** Notes: The symbolism of a wedding anniversary - The amount of time is not impressive. It's what you do during that time. The type of people you become. Not just that you've made it a certain number of years, but making those years count. The relationship has grown. The love for one another has grown. You've accomplished things together and on your own. And both people in the relationship and the world around are better because of the relationship. What was the initial attraction and how that has grown and/or changed over time? (Confidence (shoulders back), beauty, work ethic, your demonstration of excellence at your craft, toughness) --> the blending of a family. Challenges and the joy of it.... What is beauty? Is beauty a pretty face, a nice smile, flowing hair, nice skin? Not to me, it's not. To me beauty is living life to higher standards, stronger morals and ethics and believing in them, whether people tell you you're right or wrong. Beauty is not wasting a day. Beauty is noticing life's little intricacies and taking time out of your busy day to really enjoy those little intricacies. Beauty is being real, being genuine, being pure with no facade—what you see is what you get. Beauty is expanding your mind, always seeking knowledge, not being content, always going after something and challenging yourself." -- Jake Plummer (describing Pat Tillman) The pursuit - the importance of being in pursuit of one another -- Love is a verb. It's a constant action. It's a behavior towards one another. Why "happy wife, happy life" is stupid -- In what other world is the focus on only making one person in the relationship happy? You wouldn't do that in a friendship. You wouldn't do that at work. Why would you do that in your marriage? Gratitude -- Saying the words. The power behind words. Being intentional about saying thank you. The importance of specificity. Learning Leader Circle question (Chris G) I'm always fascinated by how things start. As you have started the podcast, what did that look like for your family in starting the venture? Also the dynamic that you have as far as how much you are involved with each other's careers? i.e. involved and talk about it daily, or primarily keep your conversations centered on the family and personal life. The importance of leading yourself first... It gives you the energy and drive to love others. Conflict resolution - It's critical to have open dialog about the mistakes made and how we rectify them... We strive to have a relationship where we can discuss disagreements, come to a resolution, and move forward. Health and wellness -- Why taking care of ourselves is so important. You're passionate about this and have made our family better because of it. "If you take care of your body, it will take care of you." "I'm striving to be the best version of myself." I'm attracted to discipline... And the ability to do what's hard Our WHO -- Becoming more intentional about dinner dates/friends/how we spend our time Advice for younger women - Be proactive - Your job responsibilities are the minimum, do more than that Develop a strong work ethic Be positive -- Bring positive energy Learning Leader Circle question from Nick -- What are your key family anchors" for the week or month? Example: Sunday dinners, etc.- We invested in a nice area to gather outside on our back porch. Our family dinners together are what we love most... The exercise we do: Each person says something they love about every other person at the table. Get specific! "Your mate will either inspire you to grow into your greatness or they will confine you to complacency. They'll either be your other half, or they'll make you half of yourself." - Nuri Muhammad "Business like life is all about how you make people feel. It's that simple and it's that hard. —— Consciously think about how I make you feel." - Danny Meyer "Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation." - Oscar Wilde Habits/Routines -- Differences and similarities The importance of long walks together...

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 for more details Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com Episode #374: Alexandra Carter - How To Ask For More. Alexandra Carter is a Clinical Professor of Law and Director of the Mediation Clinic at Columbia Law School. She has spent the last eleven years helping thousands of people negotiate better, build relationships and reach their goals. In 2019, Alex was awarded the Columbia University Presidential Award for Outstanding Teaching, Columbia University's highest teaching honor. She is a world-renowned negotiation trainer for groups and individuals from all over the world Notes: Excellent leaders have a beginner's mindset What does a mediator do? They are a third person that helps people negotiate. The good ones don't act like the smartest person in the room. They are learners and great listeners. What is negotiation? It is NOT a transaction over money. Negotiation is any conversation where you are steering a relationship Every conversation is like being in a kayak. Approach every conversation differently... With intention. "We make our world significant by the courage of our questions and by the depth of our answers." - Carl Sagan The ultimate open ended question -- "Tell Me…" Questions - an open question is like fishing with a net. A closed question is fishing with a pole. A great open question doesn't have a question mark. "Tell me about your trip to India!" Change your WHY questions to WHAT questions...Rather than ask "Why haven't I been able to… Turn that around to "What has made this challenging for me?" Move from a place of blame to curiosity. How to handle a PDP (performance development plan) meeting? How to ask for a raise? Recruit your manager to be on your side. Share your goals with them, bring them along with you... Connect with your manager. Talk about the future and how you can work together. Ask open ended questions to learn more about the needs of the business. Tie your money request to your production. Use "I + We" statements - Share how your work benefits the company. Your asks should be: Optimistic Specific Justifiable Research suggests that women hold themselves to perfectionist standards As a boss: Invest in top performers, mentor people, empower them, unleash them What do you need? 2 buckets Tangibles - touch, see, count Intangibles - Values, freedom, acknowledgement Questions to ask yourself: What would progress look like? What do I feel? Grapple with your feelings so that they don't control you How have I handled this successfully in the past? Ask yourself about prior success. Write down your answer. It's a "power prime." Questions to ask: The first 5 questions are for your side- The Mirror: What's the problem I want to solve? What do I need?, What do I feel?, How have I handled this successfully in the past?, What's the first step? Then, the second 5 questions are for your opposite number: The Window: Tell me?, What do you need?, What are your concerns?, How have you handled this successfully in the past? What's the first step? The five, best open-ended questions to ask in each part seek to identify and define the following: (1) the problem/goal; (2) needs; (3) feelings/concerns; (4) previous success; and (5) the first step. And that the answers to these important questions can help steer conversations, relationships, and negotiations that will increase the likelihood of a desired negotiation destination. "The Mirror," in that knowing oneself by spending the time it takes to honestly ponder, reflect, and journal one's personal thoughts, feelings, expectations, and dreams to answer those five questions, in an attempt to not only improve one's skills in formal negotiations, but to also navigate the relationships in life's journey.

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes can be found at www.LearningLeader.com #373: Bill Perkins is a hedge fund manager, film producer, and high stakes poker player. He is the author of Die with Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life. Notes: Your life is the sum of your experiences… "The business of life is the acquisition of memories. In the end, that's all there is." - The butler from Downtown Abbey... Excellence: Integrity with your word and yourself -- Don't lie to yourself and others. You can't be flippant with yourself. Don't say it unless you mean it (to yourself and others) How to maximize your lifetime memorable moments with "memory dividends" How to get the most experiences in the optimal time with "experience bucketing" In each season, experiences will forever go away. Map out the experiences you want and what you are saving for. There are some experiences that you can only do when you're young and healthy. There is a deterioration of health. You won't always be able to climb a mountain or wake board. Do those now. Follow your "net worth curve" - "Consume money and convert it into experiences." How to navigate whether to invest in or delay a meaningful adventure based on your "personal interest rate" -- "Should I take one trip today or two trips in 10 years?" Bill shares the life changing conversation he had with his boss, Joe Farrell, a partner at the company where he worked -- Bill was making $18,000/year and had saved $1,000. Joe questioned him... "Go spend that money! Why deprive yourself? You don't think you're going to make more money as you get older?!" Jason Ruffo -- Backpacked Europe when he was young and able even though he didn't have any more. He did it while he could instead of waiting to have enough money. He now has an experience dividend for life that Bill doesn't. What are we saving for? Survival Experiences we want - The memory dividend - "This is the stuff of life." It's a compounding dividend "Who am I? The summation of my experiences." "Money is a tool to have the experience." Die With Zero is about choices - What do you choose to do now? What later? Bill and I have the same literary agent, Jim Levine - Bil liked Jim because he told him that his proposal wasn't good enough to share with publishers when it was first written... Bill appreciated that honest feedback and desire to make it better. "It's hypocritical and stupid to leave inheritance to your kids." (Give them money when they're young and can use it for cool experiences). Behaviors for hiring: Integrity Intrinsic motivation Problem solvers "Aiming to die with zero is the most thoughtful thing you can do."

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes can be found at www.LearningLeader.com #372: Will Guidara Notes: Sustaining excellence = Everyone has the capacity for excellence Hard work Giving a lot of yourself to something -- A" passion for the thing you're excellent at doing." The nobility of service It requires getting up on a day when you're tired and not feeling it "You need to be on even when you feel off" The "pre-shift" meeting -- "As a leader, you have a responsibility to share what inspires you." "Everyone craves affirmation." Lessons from his Mom: She became a quadriplegic when Will was nine You can talk things into existence - Will's mom said she wanted to stay alive until he graduated college. And she did it by one day. Doctors said she should have died when Will was 12. "What would you attempt to do if you could not fail?" The power of non-verbal communication. Integrity in the face of adversity - Life is not always awesome. There's always ups and downs. Perspective is key. Eleven Madison Park - Setting the goal to be the #1 rated restaurant in the world. In 2010, they were #50. Seven years later, they were #1. "You need to love what you're doing to be great at it." There is power in having extraordinary intention Strategic planning -- Be specific and actionable Have endless reinvention Be willing to take risks "Unreasonable Hospitality" You need to decide what you want to embody "Business like life is all about how you make people feel. It's that simple and that hard." - Danny Meyer Hiring: "We hired dream weavers from art schools, designers..." Experiential design separated them from the rest Be present Listen to what is being said and what's not being said. Engage with people. Serve them. Meet them where they are. "Hospitality is one size meets one" - Have to meet them one at a time What's the secret to a happy marriage? "Never stop pursuing each other" Ruth's Chris - The special calamari strips -- Not on the menu, but available to make an experience exceptional The nobility of service... The four words: Hospitality Excellence Education - "A day you aren't learning isn't a day worth living" Passion - "Our work matters. What we do matters." Meeting at The White House: Restaurants during the pandemic His dad's advice -- "Adversity is a terrible thing to waste" "It's not what happened to you, it's how you respond." "Through crisis comes community" The Welcome Conference "Hospitality is just as much a craft as cooking." Will's dad is his hero "Next level intense responsibility" He never complained "Name what you want to accomplish and do it" "The secret to happiness is always something to look forward to." Here is WHY joining a Learning Leader Circle is a good idea...

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes are at www.LearningLeader.com #371: Maria Konnikova - Maria Konnikova is the author of two New York Times bestsellers, The Confidence Game, winner of the 2016 Robert P. Balles Prize in Critical Thinking, and Mastermind: How to Think Like Sherlock Holmes, an Anthony and Agatha Award finalist. Her new book, The Biggest Bluff, will be out from Penguin Press on June 23, 2020. She is a regularly contributing writer for The New Yorker whose writing has won numerous awards, including the 2019 Excellence in Science Journalism Award from the Society of Personality and Social Psychology. While researching The Biggest Bluff, Maria became an international poker champion and the winner of over $300,000 in tournament earnings—and inadvertently turned into a professional poker player. Maria's writing has been featured in Best American Science and Nature Writing and has been translated into over twenty languages. Notes: Sustaining excellence = Genuine interest in what they do for a living They follow their curiosity - "It's not about wanting to make a shit load of money." Passionate "They work their asses off" - They work a lot. It doesn't just happen. "Follow your curiosity and obsessions with great rigor." - Brian Koppelman Why write a book about poker when you've never played before? "I wanted to write about chance and the role luck plays in our life." Game theory stemmed from poker Poker is about strategic decision making Why poker? "Poker is a powerful tool to metabolize the luck that surrounds us, and a way to become comfortable with something that is not only all too applicable to our current situation, but extremely difficult for the human mind to process: uncertainty." Erik Seidel became Maria's personal coach/mentor "There's no one like him." He's stood the test of time. He's been successful at poker for decades... He's evolved with the changes of the game, made adjustments and has won. He's kind and humble. Tips on asking for someone to mentor you: Do your homework - Read everything there is to know about the person before contacting them Be specific with your ask Make sure you know why this person should be your mentor Figure out what's in it for them Find someone who can help amplify your strengths Don't write a novel in the first email or DM - Get to the point quickly If you can get an in person meeting, do it NEVER say: "Can I pick your brain?" Why playing poker is comparable to writing: Both are deceptively simple on the surface. Anyone can do either, but to do either well in the long term, a certain mastery is needed. Both are subject to the Dunning-Kruger effect, which means that the more someone knows, the more they realize how much they don't know on a topic, while someone with little knowledge tends to be falsely confident about their understanding of a topic Meta-cognitive process - "I great more aware of my thinking." You must reflect before reacting. Poker helps you to practice this valuable skill. Make decisions after going through a process of reflection List the things you need to be attentive to What are the relevant factors? What should I be paying attention to? Write it down In order to make better decisions, you must be able to identify your process The ultimate goal of poker and life is to make the optimal decision in that moment The best poker players work incredibly hard: They study hands, they talk hands over with other bros, they watch video, they dissect hands. They build up their self control and their emotional regulation What Maria learned from playing a lot of tournament poker? "It is an extreme sport. You can't take breaks. You're put in a pressure cooker for hours and must make the right decision." "I had internalized gender stereotypes. I was letting myself be bullied. I'd take less active lines because I was scared. I had to overcome that and still need to work on it." Advice: "Work hard. Life gives you nothing. Everything is earned. Life isn't fair. You must work for it. Saying life isn't fair isn't good for you. Think: 'What can I do about it? What can I control?'" Follow your curiosity Read, Read, Read. Read poetry and read fiction

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 For full show notes, go to www.LearningLeader.com #370: Steve Herz: Don't Take Yes For An Answer Notes: Sustaining excellence = Curiosity - Genuine interest A desire to learn and grow Finding uncommon commonalities: His parents went to Ohio University (which is where I graduated) Do your homework prior to meeting someone (as Steve did on me) Be actionable and intentional Meet someone on their turf. ACKNOWLEDGE them. Turner Smith: "Don't Take Yes For An Answer" -- Beware of the counter-fit yes. They are not helpful. "Don't live in an echo chamber of Yes." Seek feedback - Turner Smith not only didn't give Steve an offer... He gave him specific feedback as to why. Changed his life. Tough love with kindness Read the book: Seabiscuit. Knowing when to use carrots vs. sticks. Taking his shot with Alfred Geller - "I met him in a elevator and only had a few seconds. I asked to work with him... He said, 'meet me in my office at 8:00am tomorrow.'" "I downloaded his brain." "You need to perfect your A. W. E." Authority Warmth Energy John Kasich didn't use his voice properly. "Change your voice, change your life." Mid-level manager advice: "Act like you've been there before (like Barry Sanders)." Internalize it. "When you're walking your dog, who is walking who?" Providing feedback to his clients: "Joe Tessitore couldn't figure out how to modulate his voice." Don't get into the "vortex of mediocrity:" The most painful thing in the world is unfulfilled potential. Find the people who are able to give you critical feedback and listen. When he started his company, he called it IF after Rudyard Kipling's poem by the same name which says, "If you can dream-- and not make dreams your master… yours is the Earth and everything that's in it." We are ALL in sales: Steven Shapiro, member of the board of overseers of University of Pennsylvania Law School, "We have a saying at the firm: You can buy a pound of brains at the butcher. I walk through the halls of the university, and there are many brilliant future lawyers. But they can't look you in the eye in the hallway. In 15 years, this person may be writing law on the tax code, but they're probably not going to have a lot of clients." You know where lawyers, or salespeople, or consultants go when they don't bring in business? Neither do I. Because you rarely hear about them ever again."

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes can be found at www.LearningLeader.com #369: Nancy Koehn & Adi Ignatius Nancy Koehn is a historian at the Harvard Business School. She's the author of multiple books, her most recent: Forged in Crisis: The Power of Courageous Leadership in Turbulent Times. Adi Ignatius is the Editor in Chief of the Harvard Business Review. Previously, he was deputy managing editor for Time, where he was responsible for many of its special editions, including the Person of the Year and Time 100 franchises. Notes: Sustaining excellence = Leaders are made, not born "Crisis are great greenhouses to make great leaders" Resilience - It's a muscle built over time A unique combination - The ability to commit, married to that, but flexibility to the means to make it happen Empathy & Emotional awareness - How a leader shows up in service to the mission Convey conviction and confidence A real sense of how much impact a leader has. Humble and own the sense that they have great influence. They use it to help people overcome their own limitations Adi - Understand the long term. Need the ability to shift. Transparency - Direct reports should know where they stand at all times. Emotional discipline: Don't send email when you're mad. Think about the long term impact of what you do. JFK - White House discovered missiles in Cuba. Read: Guns Of August - How WWI Started Slow pace down Imagine what Khrushchev would do - Give him room, hold off... Use "calculated empathy" Standing up to others like Winston Churchill - He stood up to the opposition. Dunkirk - Leadership when everything changes Ernest Shackleton - He took 27 men to Antarctica How did he avoid mutiny in the midst of huge adversity? He had the trust of his men. They believed he cared about them. Emotional awareness - He addressed their fears - "What can I do to address their fears?" Extraordinary ability to toggle seamlessly between little things like the weather and the big picture. Zoom in and zoom out. Pay attention to the mundane - The daily work schedule. Stick to the routine. And also have a plan to solve the problem. How to lead a remote team: It's reassuring to have your leaders step up and speak the truth. "Here's what we're going to do..." False optimism doesn't help. Honesty is critical. Brutal honesty + credible hope... Share the team's capabilities, the history. "Nothing to fear but fear itself." Great leaders 'feed their team.' Leaders in crisis: Shackleton gave duties to each man. They regularly changed duties to stay fresh. Isolation feeds fear. It feeds the 'worst case scenario' in the minds of people. Shackleton combated that by forcing them to socialize. They told stories, had skits, made up games. He empowered his team. It's important to have rituals that bring you back to a good place. For Nancy: 1) Deep breaths 2) Classical music 3) Walks Adi: Meditates daily, 10 minutes of breath work. Connect, Connect, Connect with others. Say thank you. Shift places depending on the type of work. President Lincoln had no plans for winning the way. "I navigated from point to point." "Great careers are build on passion and the dedication to do the work." Gather years in every career. You do not always need to check off boxes. "Life is long. Don't burn bridges." The benefits of teaching: "It keeps you honest. You have to think like a chess player. You must stoke the fires of curiosity."

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full notes at www.LearningLeader.com 358: Jim McKelvey - How To Build An Unbeatable Business (One Crazy Idea At A Time) Jim McKelvey is the co-founder of Square, was chairman of its board until 2010, and still serves on the Board of Directors. In 2011, his iconic card reader design was inducted into the Museum of Modern Art. Jim also founded Invisibly, a project to rewire the economics of online content; LaunchCode, a non-profit that trains people to work in technology; and Third Degree Glass Factory, a publicly accessible glass art studio & education center in St. Louis. In 2017, he was appointed as an Independent Director of the St. Louis Federal Reserve. Sustaining excellence = The people you lead will eventually kick you out... This signifies your ability to hire, train, and develop excellent leaders. "I'm not a good leader. I don't run the business. I build the company and then get out of the way." "I have a weird skill set... I'm comfortable doing things that have never been done before." What it's like working with Jack Dorsey (Jim started Square with Jack): "He has the ability to administer and incrementally improve... That's something I value in a person. Jack is incredibly competent, very quiet, and very capable. He knows the difference between good and excellent." Jim sees himself as a normal guy without any gifts... "Don't disqualify yourself because you think other people are special (or gifted) and you're not." What if the activity had never been done before? The Wright Brothers were no more qualified to build the first ever flying machine than someone else. They made the choice to do it, and put in the work to make it happen. "To be excellent, you need to reach out to others who are." Interview process: "People who lie are not consistent. Ask similar questions in different ways multiple times." Tell people very honestly all the reasons they shouldn't work at your company. Be very honest. Then say, "I can't tell if you're lying to me, I won't be able to catch you now, however I will find out eventually and I will fire you." Jim describes what it's like to be a billionaire... Think of the companies that have done something that had never been done before: Bank of America Ikea Southwest Airlines Square "Commitment can be a great substitute for being qualified." "Admitting you don't know something frees your mind from constraints. To actually do something new requires the humility to admit that your solution may not work, followed by the audacity to try anyway." How to get people to perform at higher levels? "Go hang out with smarter people and raise their level of performance... Ask questions." Never interrupt Leave pauses in a sentence, give them a chance to keep going... An Innovation Stack = Series of inventions that create a new product. Doing something new. What it was like to prepare for a demo with Steve Jobs: "He can be nasty if he doesn't like you. You had to make it beautiful." Advice: "Consistently do something that makes you slightly uncomfortable." Jim flies planes and gives speeches (both make him uncomfortable) --> This will slowly expand the things that you like. It will create more friends, and you'll develop more respect for people who have differing views. "You'll learn it's possible to function even when you're uncomfortable." Continually do little things to strengthen yourself... It helps you continue to go when others quit. "Customers who trust you are more valuable than customers who love you. There's only one shot at trust, and Square was trustworthy because of its values and mission, and built its Innovation Stack around them." Here is WHY joining a Learning Leader Circle is a good idea...

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes found at www.LearningLeader.com #367: Ozan Varol - How To Think Like A Rocket Scientist Sustaining excellence = The ability to learn from failure - "Failure sucks and shouldn't be celebrated. We must learn from it." "Learn fast, don't fail fast. We need to get better with each iteration. Breakthroughs should be evolutionary, not revolutionary How success can lead to failure The Challenger Explosion - A string of successes discounted the role that luck played in the process "Just because you're on a hot streak doesn't mean you'll beat the house." Post mortem - A Latin phrase for "after death." Instead of a post mortem, do an "after action review." Review after all actions whether they succeeded or failed. The "Kill The Company" exercise Ask the people within your company what they would do to compete and beat your company... And then do that. Mark Zuckerberg does this with acquisitions (WhatsApp, Instagram). One of his greatest fears is becoming the next MySpace. As a mid-level manager: Put yourself in the position of your customer. Why are customers justified in buying from our competitions? "They see something we're not seeing." Growing up in Istanbul, Turkey. It was a culture of conformity. Ozan did not fit in. In fact, he was assigned a number in school and that was used to call on him instead of his name. His parents let him choose which school he went to and he remembers feeling so empowered by them for having a choice. He wanted more of that. So he decided to come to the United States for college and attended Cornell. Ozan blindly applied for a job that didn't exist by emailing Steve Squyres (he was in charge of a NASA funded project to send a river to Mars). And he acted on his dad's advice, "you can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket." "Science is a way of thinking much more than it is a body of knowledge." - Carl Sagan In the modern world we look for certainty in uncertain places. We search for order in chaos. The right answer in ambiguity. And conviction in the complexity. We should be fueled not by a desire for a quick catharsis but by intrigue. Where certainty ends, progress begins. "The great obstacle to discovering was not ignorance but the illusion of knowledge. - historian Daniel J Boorstin It takes courage... Often times there is a failure of courage. Have the courage to take action when the rest of the world is standing still. Ask yourself two questions: What's the worst that can happen? What's the best that can happen? Adopt an experimental mindset - Frame your actions as experiments. Don't be afraid to try new things... "The way you figure out what's right is to try to prove it wrong." The goal? "Find what's right, not to be right." Ask people who disagree with you... Why? Have a mindset to learn from them. "Tell me what's wrong with this..." Be a work in progress. "All progress happens in uncertain times." "It's bizarre. People prefer certainty of bad news instead of the fear of the unknown." "Be curious about tomorrow." Think: "What problems can I solve right now?" It is not helpful to try and solve something that you cannot control. Diversify your identity and services -- This allows you to be flexible and not depended on one stream of revenue. "All of our differences are minimized when we zoom out." The Apollo 8 mission gave us an opportunity to look at the Earth from afar (mission to go near the moon). Jim Lovell could cover up the earth with his thumb. It put things in perspective. Rocket science teaches us about our limited role in the cosmos and reminds us to be gentler and kinder to one another.

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Text LEARNERS to 44222 Full show notes can be found at www.LearningLeader.com Episode #366: Laurie Santos - Laurie Santos is a cognitive scientist and Professor of Psychology at Yale University. She has been a featured TED speaker and has been listed in Popular Science as one of their "Brilliant Ten" young scientists in 2007 as well as in Time magazine as a "Leading Campus Celebrity" in 2013. In January 2018, her course titled Psychology and the Good Life became the most popular course in Yale's history, with approximately one-fourth of Yale's undergraduates enrolled. Notes: Sustaining excellence: Good habits: Form consistent routines Healthy: Exercise regularly Socialize with others They "offload dumb decisions" Create a morning routine - Limit the wardrobe (limit mental energy spent on trivial things). Harness the power of habits - "Set you exercise clothes out the night before." Do it at a consistent time each day no matter what. This decreases anxiety. For writing: Stop in the middle of a sentence. This will help you get started the next day (and avoid seeing the blank screen) Laurie is the head of a college at Yale. She lives and eats with the students in the dining hall. She built her class based upon hearing the complaints of students daily (they were unhappy) Important behaviors: Gratitude Social connection Random acts of kindness Students didn't realize their misconceptions about happiness It's not about your job, house, or money. Happy people are: Socially connected - They spend a lot of time with others. They prioritize connecting with others. They don't focus on themselves - "Others oriented." They do more for others. Grateful - They look for the good. They have a mindset of gratitude. They write down 3-5 things they are grateful for everyday. They are mindful. The GI Fallacy - It's more than just knowing... "You must DO IT." Be deliberate about connecting with others. Hang out with people you care about. Set up Skype calls with others. Do NOT complain - It's awful. Laurie's class has become the most popular class in the history of Yale... Her lectures have been filmed for the Today Show Created The Happiness Lab It's given more meaning to life Advice for mid-level managers: Doctors find happier workers use less than 15 sick days a year Work with your employees to do what they're best at Find out what they're getting out of the job "Your emotions can be contagious. If you embody calm, they will be calm." Affective spirals - The leader can turn emotions positive How to run excellent meetings: Infuse it with gratitude - Say what you're grateful for. Grateful team members are more productive. Regulate your emotion. Don't transmit negative energy to your team. At home: Regulate emotion. Take time to pay attention to your emotion. What are you bringing home? Be present. Express gratitude to your family. Shift from complaining to being grateful. Say what you love about each other at your family dinner table The best way to learn is to teach it.