Men Talking Mindfulness

Self Sabotage… it’s when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen … Author Alyce Cornyn-Selby   Welcome to Men Talking Mindfulness where we do our best to de-mystify and make mindfulness meaningful to you… To help us understand Self Sabotage … what it is, why it’s so pervasive and so destructive, and how to decrease it in our lives, we’re bringing one of our previous guests back, Dr. Robb Kelly.   Dr. Robb Kelly is a world-renowned addiction expert and CEO of Robb Kelly Recovery. He has appeared on multiple TV Talk shows, holds two PhD’s with his first from in Philosophy from Oxford University and the second from University of SouthHampton in Behavioral Science.   This is Dr Robb’s second appearance on MTM. We are super stoked to have him back and feel he is one of  the best teachers we can interview to help us understand what Self Sabotage is, where it comes from, and how to get past it.   If you would like to hear more from Dr Robb and learn more about him please check out our first MTM podcast interview with him on “Understanding Addiction” we will drop the pod link in the comments. (Pod link: https://pod.fo/e/f0dc4) Estimated Time Stamps 01:00 Self-Sabotage with Dr. Robb Kelly 03:30 Introducing Dr. Robb Kelly 5:00 Jon leads Opening Ground Practice (~3 min) 8:00 Dr. Kelly’s experience with self-sabotage 11:30 The power of your internal dialogue 17:00 Is it a fear of Failure or a fear of Success? 18:00 Your early trauma will become your inner guide 22:30 How Will started living his dream 25:30 Start with a routine and a checklist 28:00 Content Warning - Story of kidnapping and sexual assault 29:30 The missing buttons 32:00 Content Warning - Child abuse 33:30 Everything happens for a reason 35:00 Everyday self-sabotage and creating new patterns 40:00 The mind and the brain are two different things 48:00 Circle of influences 55:00 Will leads Closing Grounding Practice (~1 min) About our hosts:  Will is excited to teach you how to develop self-mastery. From teaching and practicing for the last 19 years, he feels it's a joy to work with long-time practitioners and students that have never tried these practices before or have only dabbled. Stripping away all the fancy words and esoteric language has helped all his students embody these practices in a meaningful and sustainable way. This unique approach has placed him as one of the most sought-after teachers in all of New York City (ClassPass 2017) and beyond.  Email: will@mentalkingmindfulness.com Website: willnotfear.com   Jon is a Navy SEAL Commander turned mindfulness and meditation teacher. He’s a Naval Academy graduate and has his masters in Operations Research from the Naval Postgraduate School. Jon has served in Iraq, Afghanistan, off the coast of Somalia, and in Panama.  Since ending his 24-year military career in June 2020, Jon is now dedicated to spreading the practices of meditation and mindfulness to help others live happier and more fulfilling lives.  Email: jon@mentalkingmindfulness.com  Website: macaskillconsulting.com     Opening and closing Music: Malecon by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons —   Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/al-malecon Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/xbWzYbtMgIEHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

A preview of tomorrow's show...  Self Sabotage… it’s when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen … Author Alyce Cornyn-Selby.  Tune in tomorrow to learn from addiction, trauma, and self sabotage expert, Dr. Robb Kelly Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Starting with a quote from Eckhart Tolle - Will leads us through a meditation to help “stop the insanity!”Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Ever feel like the work or task you were doing felt completely effortless?  Ever lose track of time while playing?  Ever get into "the zone?"  That's what we're talking about today with Cara Bradley - FLOW STATE.  Cara Bradley, Founding Member of the Mental Fitness Collective and former Lead Mentor for the Flow Genome Project (https://www.flowgenomeproject.com/). Listen to learn more.    Cara Bradley has been teaching body-first practices for improved mental fitness for over 30 years. Her signature strategies include mindful movement, nervous system training and gut-brain optimization. (Would love to know your thoughts on our recent episode, this is your brain on food, with Dr. Uma Naidoo!)  Cara designs courses for top wellness brands and has trained premiere college sports teams, CEO’s and Fortune 100 companies. In 2020, she was named one  of the “Top 12 Most Powerful Women in the Mindfulness Movement” by Mindful Magazine. Cara is the host of a daily podcast, the author of On The Verge: Wake Up, Show Up, and Shine and Founder of the award-winning Verge Yoga Center.    Here's Cara on Social, the web, & email:  cara@carabradley.net   https://www.carabradley.net   https://www.instagram.com/carabradleylife/   https://www.facebook.com/carabradleyteacher/   https://www.linkedin.com/in/carabradley/   https://www.youtube.com/user/cmbradley64?sub_confirmation=1   Rough Time Stamps:  01:00 The State of Flow with Cara Bradley  03:30 Introducing Cara Bradley  05:30 Will leads Opening Grounding Practice (~4 min)  10:00 Cara’s Journey from Athlete to Mindfulness  17:00 Early Flow State Influences and Experiences  22:00 Defining Flow  26:00 Stretching juuuuuust past the Comfort Zone  30:30 Identifying your Primary Flow Activity  34:30 The Flow Cycle  36:30 The Science of Flow  42:00 What challenges are there to entering a flow state?  48:00 Ways to enter Flow  52:30 Grand Gesture Flow  55:00 Cara leads Closing Grounding Practice (~3 min)    About our hosts:  Will is excited to teach you how to develop self-mastery. From teaching and practicing for the last 19 years, he feels it's a joy to work with long-time practitioners and students that have never tried these practices before or have only dabbled. Stripping away all the fancy words and esoteric language has helped all his students embody these practices in a meaningful and sustainable way. This unique approach has placed him as one of the most sought-after teachers in all of New York City (ClassPass 2017) and beyond.  Email: will@mentalkingmindfulness.com Website: willnotfear.com Jon is a Navy SEAL Commander turned mindfulness and meditation teacher. He’s a Naval Academy graduate and has his masters in Operations Research from the Naval Postgraduate School. Jon has served in Iraq, Afghanistan, off the coast of Somalia, and in Panama.  Since ending his 24-year military career in June 2020, Jon is now dedicated to spreading the practices of meditation and mindfulness to help others live happier and more fulfilling lives.  Email: jon@mentalkingmindfulness.com  Website: macaskillconsulting.com   Opening and closing Music: Malecon by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons —   Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/al-malecon Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/xbWzYbtMgIEHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

What's tomorrow's show hold?  Here's a little sneak peak.   Ever feel like the work or task you were doing felt completely effortless?  Ever lose track of time while playing?  Ever get into "the zone?"  That's what we're talking about today with Cara Bradley - FLOW STATE.  Cara Bradley, Founding Member of the Mental Fitness Collective and former Lead Mentor for the Flow Genome Project (https://www.flowgenomeproject.com/).  Listen to the full episode to learn more!  Cara Bradley has been teaching body-first practices for improved mental fitness for over 30 years. Her signature strategies include mindful movement, nervous system training and gut-brain optimization. (Would love to know your thoughts on our recent episode, this is your brain on food, with Dr. Uma Naidoo!)  Cara designs courses for top wellness brands and has trained premiere college sports teams, CEO’s and Fortune 100 companies. In 2020, she was named one  of the “Top 12 Most Powerful Women in the Mindfulness Movement” by Mindful Magazine. Cara is the host of a daily podcast, the author of On The Verge: Wake Up, Show Up, and Shine and Founder of the award-winning Verge Yoga Center.     Here's Cara on Social, the web, & email:   cara@carabradley.net    https://www.carabradley.net  https://www.instagram.com/carabradleylife/  https://www.facebook.com/carabradleyteacher/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/carabradley/  https://www.youtube.com/user/cmbradley64?sub_confirmation=1Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Our bodies and minds are subjected to so much throughout each and every day. This meditation is designed to help you release what we have been exposed to and will be exposed to - letting go of the past and the future - allowing for a much deeper, more restorative sleep.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Let’s learn how to be better listeners so we can be better leaders!  Join Jon and Will as they discuss this with guest, communications specialist, Ryan Schadt.   Check us out in Mindful Magazine (https://www.mindful.org/a-grounding-practice-to-cultivate-resilience-and-equanimity/)  Join us for the M2 Experience with Movement Rx (http://movement-rx.com/mtm)  Get your own Mindful Frogman Shirt (https://bit.ly/3Bv27Dg)   Book mentioned by Ryan, You're Not Listening by Kate Murphy: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Listening-Kate-Murphy-audiobook/dp/B07WJ6MR2P/ref=sr_1_2?crid=Y7LFJKJQ3GYO&keywords=you%27re+not+listening+kate+murphy&qid=1645213295&sprefix=you%27re+not+li%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-2   Contact Ryan here: ryan@gsbcomms.co.uk    01:00 Leadership through Listening with Ryan Schadt  02:30 Announcements  04:30 Welcome Ryan Schadt  06:00 Jon leads Opening Grounding Practice (~4 min)  10:00 Listening as Digestion through Receptive Observation  14:00 What makes a “Good Listener?”  18:00 Build relationships faster and create deeper connections  22:00 Moving beyond the content of the conversation  25:30 Jon’s listening epiphany and Will f*cks it up  29:00 Am I listening or waiting to speak? Responding or regurgitating something?  32:00 How to say “Yes, and . . .” and mean it  35:00 What makes an effective leader?  38:30 Listening on the battlefield  40:00 Falling back on our training  46:00 Listening 3.0 - Can you listen to yourself?  50:00 The bad habits of poor listeners  1:03:00 Building trust through listening  1:08:00 How to be a better Virtual listener  1:15:30 Will leads Closing Grounding Practice (~2 min)   Opening and closing Music: Malecon by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic   https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons —   Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/al-malecon Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/xbWzYbtMgIEHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Check out the preview of tomorrow's show.  Will and Jon discuss what they learned and why YOU should LISTEN to the episode on LISTENING!  :)Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Hey, do you know how important it is to stay hydrated?  Will uses this week's mindful moment to share what water does for us - it is WAY more important than you think it is; and he shares his secrets on how he stays hydrated and how you can know if you're optimally hydrated or not ... hey 8 glasses a day is NOT the way!   We will be doing a more in depth episode on this later this season!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

What would make meditation and mindfulness more "palatable" to most men?  What language should we be using?  What IS masculinity?  Will and Jon discuss that with Dr. Clark Chilson on this special bonus episode of Men Talking Mindfulness.   01:00 Further Discussions on Masculinity with Dr. Clark Chilson 02:00 Quote from “Mindful America: The Mutual Transformation of Buddhist Meditation and American Culture“ by Jeff Wilson 04:30 How will MTM make mindfulness attractive and available to more men? 14:30 Language is important 20:30 Toxic habits make for confined masculinity 24:30 Are you strong enough to be “weak?” Opening and closing Music: Malecon by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic   https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons —   Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/al-malecon Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/xbWzYbtMgIEHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.