Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Latest episodes
May 8, 2024 • 1h 12min
158. Liberating Non-Monogamous Play and Your Birthright to Sexual Pleasure with Kristen Thomas
On today’s episode, we have Kristen Thomas (she/her) join us for a conversation about our cultural shift towards more expansive pleasure. Together we talk about unpacking why you might be nervous at your first play party, telling your mom about your first threesome, and embracing the fluidity of our sexuality.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Learn more here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/158-liberating-non-monogamous-play-and-your-birthright-to-sexual-pleasure-with-kristen-thomas
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Kristen's Community :
Website : https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/
Resources to Learn More :
All or Nothing Marriage : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781101984345
Purity Culture with Dr. Rachel Smith : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/e4c490ce/134-healing-from-the-grooming-of-purity-culture-with-dr-rachel-smith
Sexual satisfaction among individuals in monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-13429-005
Are there “Better” and “Worse” Ways to be Consensually
Non-Monogamous (CNM)?: CNM Types and CNM-Specific Predictors of Dyadic Adjustment https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-021-02027-3
The more the merrier? New study suggests polyamorists may have more satisfying relationships: https://www.cbc.ca/life/wellness/the-more-the-merrier-new-study-suggests-polyamorists-may-have-more-satisfying-relationships-1.4681382
May 1, 2024 • 60min
157. Relationship Anarchist: Sarah Caroline
On today’s episode, we have Sarah Caroline (she/her) join us for a research conversation exploring the practice of relationship anarchy. If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/157-relationship-anarchist-sarah-caroline
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Sarah Caroline’s community:
Ny Times Article : https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/30/fashion/weddings/sarah-lenz-stephen-paskey-wedding.html?unlocked_article_code=1.N00.XYtp.uh0ce93H4sqB&smid=url-share
Resources to Learn more:
Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/109-the-relationship-anarchy-smorgasboard-and-finding-queer-belonging-with-maxx-hill
Apr 24, 2024 • 59min
156. Unlocking Your Inner Dominatrix and Finding Erotic Catharsis with Mistress Wild Iris
On today’s episode, we have professional dominatrix Mistress Wild Iris (She/Her) join us for a conversation about exploring our psyches through BDSM and fantasy. Together we talk about confronting your shadow in play, the power of the priestess archetype, and surrendering to the keys of your erotic liberation.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Learn more here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/156-unlocking-your-inner-dominatrix-and-finding-erotic-catharsis-with-mistress-wild-iris
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Mistress Wild Iris:
Website: https://www.mistresswildiris.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MxWildIris
Apr 17, 2024 • 1h 19min
155. The Relational Power of Psychedelics, Spirituality, and Integration with Tony Moss
On today’s episode, we have psychedelic activist Tony Moss (He/Him) join us for a conversation exploring the relational impact of psychedelics. Together we talk about the importance of examining your set and setting, seeing your relational patterns from a new perspective, and finding your own spiritual empowerment with psychedelics.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/155-the-relational-power-of-psychedelics-spirituality-and-integration-with-tony-moss
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Tony's Community:
Tony Moss is a recording artist, producer, and creative director at I.AM.LIFE MUSIC, with over 25 years of experience working with plant medicines and psychedelics.
Website: https://www.tonymoss.me/
Resources to Learn More:
Harm Reduction with Irina : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/2a5e0581/128-whats-your-cage-drug-use-pleasure-enhancement-and-harm-reduction-with-irina-alexander
Rat Park: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNeSkyHccmo
The Immortality Keys : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781250803986
The Four Agreements : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781878424310
Millionaires own a record 45% of the world’s wealth : https://www.cnbc.com/2017/06/14/millionaires-own-a-record-45-percent-of-the-worlds-wealth--and-their-share-is-growing.html
Apr 10, 2024 • 1h 6min
154. Year Three: A Feminist Tale of Non-Monogamy, Jealousy, and Pleasure
On today's episode, we are celebrating the three year anniversary of the podcast with the annual reflection episode.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join
the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/154-year-three-a-feminist-tale-of-non-monogamy-jealousy-and-pleasure
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Resources to Learn More:
Somatics with Elmo Painter Episode: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/2647cd81/124-play-as-rebellion-eco-sexuality-kink-healing-and-somatic-connection-with-elmo-painter-edington
Raquel Savage Episode : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/3cf1f83d/115-are-therapists-causing-harm-when-it-comes-to-sexuality-with-raquel-savage
Relationship Anarchy with Tuck Malloy : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/3ce615e1/137-whats-your-frame-for-relationship-anarchy-with-tuck-malloy
Sex, Explained: Episode 1 Sexual Fantasies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11535966/
Sex, Explained: Episode 2 Attraction : https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11535972/?ref_=ttep_ep2
Apr 3, 2024 • 1h 8min
153. Relationship Anarchist: Lara Okafor
On today’s episode, we have our second relationship anarchy research interview with Lara Okafor (They/Them). If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join
the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/153-relationship-anarchist-lara-okafor
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Resources to Learn More:
The RA Manifesto : https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy
Lara's Community :
Lara Okafor is a Black queer curator, software developer, and writer currently based in Oslo, Norway.
X : https://twitter.com/quaerendum?lang=en
Mar 27, 2024 • 1h 14min
152. Pleasure and Passion: Exploring Sex-Positive Expression with Anita Nevar
On today’s episode, we have artist Anita Nevar (She/Her) join us for a conversation about living into sexual liberation. Together we talk about growing up in a doom’s day cult, the connection between creativity and embodiment, and letting our pleasure lead by example.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together.
Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/152-pleasure-and-passion-exploring-sex-positive-expression-with-anita-nevar
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Anita's Community:
Website : https://www.anitanevar.com/
Insta : https://www.instagram.com/anitanevar/
Mar 20, 2024 • 1h 24min
151. Stepping Into the Next Playfully Erotic Version of Yourself with Nicolle Hodges
On today’s episode, we have Nicolle Hodges (She/Her) join us for a conversation about exploring our erotic psychology. Together we talk about the transformation of looking at your vulva in the mirror, the joy of sexual world building, and the curiosity and courage needed to play in the erotic.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together.
Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/151-stepping-into-the-next-playfully-erotic-version-of-yourself-with-nicolle-hodges
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Nicolle's Community:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolledoublel/
Mar 13, 2024 • 1h 10min
150. Reconceptualizing Attachment as an Act of Social Justice with Dr. Adele Lafrance
On today’s episode, we have Dr. Adele Lafrance (She/Her) join us for a conversation about examining mother blame. Together we talk about healing from internalized patriarchy, navigating the Madonna and the whore complex, and integrating the political need for pleasure.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/150-reconceptualizing-attachment-as-an-act-of-social-justice-with-dr-adele-lafrance
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Adele's Community:
Adele Lafrance is a psychologist, author and research scientist.
Website: https://dradelelafrance.com/
The Love Project: https://psychedeliclove.org/
Resources to Learn More:
Woman and Madness : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781641600361
Mar 6, 2024 • 56min
149. Relationship Anarchist: Renya NeoNorton
On today’s episode, we have our first relationship anarchy research interview with Renya NeoNorton (They/Them). If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join
the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/relationship-anarchist-renya-neonorton
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Renya’s Community:
Renya is an anarchist organizer, writer, YouTuber, and
therapist based in Philly.
Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/@cometogether/featured
Therapy : https://cometogethercounseling.net/
https://allmylinks.com/cometogether
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