Modern Anarchy
Dr. Nicole Thompson
Modern Anarchy is your weekly invitation to reclaim pleasure, sex, and desire as radical acts of collective liberation. Hosted by Queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist and Researcher trained in Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy, Dr. Nicole. She is the leading academic voice on non-monogamy and embodied pleasure. Modern Anarchy explores intimacy, erotic sovereignty, and healing through raw conversations with pleasure activists, artists, therapists, and rebels from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Learn more: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
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Dec 3, 2025 • 1h 20min
240. Stepping into Your Sensual Empowerment with Ally Iseman
On today’s episode, we have Ally Iseman (she/her) join us for conversation about following your curiosity all the way home to your pleasure. Together we talk about the politics of a full-belly laugh, sexual habituation in long-term relationships, and making up for the years of woman’s lost orgasms.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/240-stepping-into-your-sensual-empowerment-with-ally-iseman✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Ally's Community:Website: https://www.passport2pleasure.com/
Nov 26, 2025 • 1h 20min
239. Decolonizing and Unsettling Sexuality with Dr. Roger Khun
On today’s episode, we have Dr. Roger Khun (he/him) join us for a conversation about embracing the innate wisdom of the body. Together we talk about exploring the edges of your conditioning, finding empowerment in our choice, and the lifelong process of unlearning. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/239-decolonizing-and-unsettling-sexuality-with-dr-roger-khun✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Roger's Community:Website: https://www.rogerjkuhn.com/
Nov 19, 2025 • 1h 31min
238. Dismantling Purity Culture: Abstinence, Drug Use, and Harm Reduction with Sheila Vakharia
On today’s episode, we have Shelia Vakharia (she/her) join us for a conversation about our right to bodily autonomy. Together we talk about meeting people where they are at, consciousness raising around set and setting, and moving beyond abstinence only paradigms. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/238-dismantling-purity-culture-abstinence-drug-use-and-harm-reduction-with-sheila-vakharia✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Shelia's Community:Website: https://www.sheilavakharia.com/
Nov 12, 2025 • 1h 20min
237. Relationship Anarchist: Momo
On today’s episode, we have Momo (they/them) join us for another Relationship Anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about creating mutually pleasurable relationships, getting off the intimacy escalator, and stepping into an abundance of love.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. 💙 RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/relationship-anarchist-momo✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Nov 5, 2025 • 1h 19min
236. Relaxing into an Abundance Mindset with Sex and Relationships with Roy Graff
On today’s episode, we have Roy Graff (he/him) join us for a conversation all about finding pleasure in expansive relating. Together we talk about the generations of lost orgasms, our unconscious cultural conditioning, and stepping into more touch support.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/236-relaxing-into-an-abundance-mindset-with-sex-and-relationships-with-roy-graff✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Roy's Community:Website: https://openrelating.love/
Oct 29, 2025 • 1h 32min
235. Learning the Language of Creative, Erotic Intimacy with Darshana Avila
On today’s episode, we have Darshana Avila (she/they) join us for a conversation all about erotic exploration. Together we talk about the connection between your eroticism and vitality, becoming a professional pussy stroker, and learning to receive pleasure.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/235-learning-the-language-of-the-creative-erotic-intimacy-with-darshana-avila✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Darshana's Community:Website : https://darshanaavila.com/
Oct 22, 2025 • 1h 28min
234. Exploring the Edge of Infidelity with Paul Keable
On today’s episode, we have Paul Keable (he/him) join us for a conversation all about non-monogamy and the future of modern relationships. Together we talk about the difficulty with defining infidelity, how women grow tired of monogamy faster than men, and liberating our desires. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/234-90-million-are-ready-to-cheat-on-ashley-madison-with-paul-keable✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Oct 15, 2025 • 1h 24min
233. Relationship Anarchist: Aaron
On today’s episode, we have Aaron (he/him) join us for another relationship anarchy research conservation. Together we talk about the finitude of our humanness, nerding out on the concept of hierarchy, and stepping into the abundance of expansive relating.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. 💙 RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/233-relationship-anarchist-aaron✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Oct 8, 2025 • 1h 19min
232. Our Failure of Imagination with Non-Monogamy with Shai
On today’s episode, we have Shai (he/him) join us for a conversation about expanding the capacity of our cultural imagination. Together we talk about the spectrum of non-monogamy, the Olympics of relationships, and how to support yourself and others through the expansion process.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/232-our-failure-of-imagination-with-non-monogamy-with-shai✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Shai's Community:Website : https://www.leveleduplove.com/
Oct 1, 2025 • 1h 22min
231. Playing with your Erotic Edge & Sexuality Beyond Consent with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou
On today’s episode, we have Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou join us for a conversation about pushing the boundaries of your erotic edge. Together we talk about connection between pleasure and pain, limit consent, and the gift of erotic astonishment 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/231-playing-with-your-erotic-edge-sexuality-beyond-consent-with-dr-avgi-saketopoulou✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Dr. Avgi's Community:Website: https://avgisaketopoulou.com/
