Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
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Latest episodes
Jun 11, 2025 • 1h 9min
215. Cumming into Presence and Integrating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Dr. Dave Rabin
On today’s episode, we have Dr. Dave Rabin (he/him) join us for a conversation all about the ever expansive journey of knowing thyself. Together we talk about feeling our own damn feelings, the power of presence, and cultivating safety within the body. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/215-cumming-into-presence-and-integrating-jealousy-in-non-monogamy-with-dr-dave-rabin✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Dr. Dave's Community:Website: https://www.drdave.io/
Jun 4, 2025 • 1h 19min
214. The Revolution of Relationship Anarchy with Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés
On today’s episode, we have Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés (he/him) join us for a conversation about the revolutionary power of building loving community. Together we talk about hierarchy vs preferences, the stomach ache of NRE, and rewriting the narratives of love. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/214-the-revolution-of-relationship-anarchy-with-juan-carlos-pérez-cortés✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Juan-Carlos's Community:Website : https://relationshipanarchybook.com/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/relationshipanarchybook/
May 28, 2025 • 1h 22min
213. Relationship Anarchist: Silver
On today’s episode, we have Silver (they/them) join us for another relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about the infinite gray space of connection, getting curious about jealousy, and expanding our circles of care.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. 💙 RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/213-relationship-anarchist-silver✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
May 21, 2025 • 1h 21min
212. The Edginess of Unconditional Love and Sexual Empathy with Bear Phillips
On today’s episode, we have Bear Phillips (he/him) join us for a conversation about the journey to reclaiming our whole humanity. Together we talk about how everything we learned about sex is wrong, the courage of vulnerability, and how feminism is about liberating all of us.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/212-the-edginess-of-unconditional-love-and-sexual-empathy-with-bear-phillips✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫Bear's Community:Website : https://bearphillips.co.uk/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/bear_phillips/
May 14, 2025 • 1h 38min
211. Untangling the Scripts for Intimacy and Setting Them on Fire with Elise Braunschweiger
On today’s episode, we have Elise Braunschweiger (she/her) join us for a conversation all about running wild in your erotic desires. Together we talk about embracing the fluidity of your sexuality, listening to the intuition of your pleasure, and re-igniting our imagination. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/211-untangling-the-scripts-for-intimacy-and-setting-them-on-fire-with-elise-braunschweiger✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384💫 Elise's Community:Website : https://www.queerconsciousconnections.com/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/yourdatingcopilot/
May 7, 2025 • 1h 16min
210. Harm Reduction, Non-Monogamy, and Embodied Liberation with Justice Riveria
On today’s episode, we have Justice Riveria join (she/they; ella/elle) us for a conversation about the collective liberation of our bodily autonomy. Together we talk about how compassion is better than punishment, deconstructing systems of oppression within our subconscious, and the need for both harm reduction and pleasure enhancement.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/__210✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Justice's Community:Justice Rivera (she/they; ella/elle) is a queer Jew Rican harm reduction consultant and author.Personal Website: www.justiceriverawrites.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/justicerivera_writes/Harm Reduction Website: www.reframehealthandjustice.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/harmreductionfemmes/
Apr 30, 2025 • 1h 31min
209. Relationship Anarchist: Juno Aventurine
On today’s episode, we have Juno Aventurine (they/them) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about embracing the finitude of our humanness, learning to communicate our desires, and deconstructing the intimacy escalator.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. 💙 RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/209-relationship-anarchist-juno-aventurine✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Apr 23, 2025 • 1h 15min
208. Too Queer to be Monogamous with Jaime Delgado
On today’s episode, we have Jaime Delgado (they/he) joins us for a conversation about the liberation of queer pleasure and community. Together we talk about exploring without a roadmap, reconnecting with the wisdom of our ancestors, and the sexiness of nuance. 🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/208-too-queer-to-be-monogamous-with-jaime-delgado✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Jaime's Community:Jaime is a homo who makes dreams come true.www.sodaderevival.comwww.waldorfonfire.com
Apr 16, 2025 • 1h 38min
207. The Sexual Wisdom and Liberation of All Bodies with Emily Royce
On today’s episode, we have Emily Royce (she/her) join us for a conversation about how all bodies can access ecstasy. Together we talk about embracing the big feels, the discomfort of growth, and the amazing gift that is curious lovers.🧡 If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website: www.modernanarchypodcast.com💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384🧡 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice💙 Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/207-the-sexual-wisdom-and-liberation-of-all-bodies-with-emily-royce✨Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith🔥Modern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Emily's Community:Who Said Sex Was Supposed to Be Easy? Crip wisdom for being with the difficult and insisting on accessible pleasure.Website: https://www.healwithpleasure.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pleasurablehealing/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emilyroycesomaticsexYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@emilyroycesomaticsexology
Apr 9, 2025 • 1h 49min
206. Year Four: Liberating My Authentic Voice
On today’s episode, we are celebrating the four-year anniversary of the podcast with a special reflection episode. Together we talk about the intense learning curve of practicing non-monogamy, the eroticism of a shared vision, and liberating our pleasure. For today's reflection episode, Nicole is joined by her good friend and fellow therapist-in-training, Cait Gordon.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/year-four-liberating-my-authentic-voiceIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384About Cait:Cait is a therapist-in-training who will be open to taking on sex and relationship therapy clients this fall at The Center for Modern Relationships in Chicago. She also co-founded The Feel Co, a space where play meets inner work. At The Feel Co., they create immersive experiences that support connection, healing, and pleasure. They host somatic workshops, intimacy education, and community events that help people deepen their relationships with themselves and others.
