Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
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Latest episodes
Apr 2, 2025 • 1h 27min
205. Relationship Anarchist: Star Stewart
On today’s episode, we have Star Stewart (she/they) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about learning to see the beauty in all of our relationships, finding creative ways to reconfigure our connections, and deconstructing the intimacy escalator.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchyIf you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/205-relationship-anarchist-star-stewartIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5
Mar 26, 2025 • 1h 23min
204. Queering Our Religious Trauma and Sexual Liberation with Thickie Comrade
On today’s episode, we have Thickie Comrade (any/all) join us for a conversation all about reclaiming our pleasure. Together we talk about demonic nose piercings, rewriting the meaning of family, and planting trees for future generations.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/204-queering-our-religious-trauma-and-sexual-liberation-with-thickie-comradeIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Thickie's Community:Insta: https://www.instagram.com/thickiecomrade/Youtube: Youtube.com/@thickiecomrade
Mar 19, 2025 • 1h 27min
203. Healing to Create Our Collective Pleasure with Jessica McDuffee
On today’s episode, we have Jessica McDuffee (she/her) join us for a conversation about how another world is possible. Together we talk about following your zest for life, creating mutually empowering relationships, and joining in our collective repair.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/203-healing-to-create-our-collective-pleasure-with-jessica-mcduffeeIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Jessica’s Community:Jessica McDuffee, MS is a psychedelic facilitator, paradigm-shifting coach, shamanic practitioner, and ceremonial leader who provides guidance and support to individuals, couples, and groups who are on a path of spiritual healing andawakening.www.jessicamcduffee.com
Mar 12, 2025 • 1h 13min
202. BDSM, Kink, and Psychedelics: Exploring the Edge with Mike Margolies
On today’s episode, we have Mike Margolies (he/him) join us for a conversation all about the crossover between psychedelics and sexual liberation. Together we talk about the need for kink integration circles, learning to embody peace, and embracing our interconnectedness.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/202-bdsm-kink-and-psychedelics-exploring-the-edge-with-mike-margoliesIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Mike's Community:Mike Margolies is a psychedelic community catalyst and conversation creator; he is Co-Founder and Co-Steward of the Global Psychedelic Society, a decentralized network for hundreds of Psychedelic Societies around the world providing local education and community.Website: https://globalpsychedelic.org/Insta: https://www.instagram.com/globalpsychedelicsociety/
Mar 5, 2025 • 1h 26min
201. Relationship Anarchist: Jasper Brown
On today’s episode, we have Jasper Brown (he/they) join us for another relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about embracing our interconnectedness, moving at the speed of trust, and finding security in your community. If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchyIf you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/relationship-anarchist-jasper-brownIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5
Feb 26, 2025 • 1h 18min
200. Results from the First Research Study on Relationship Anarchy
On today’s episode, Nicole shares her Clinical Psychology Doctoral Dissertation results from the first ever research study of Relationship Anarchy. If you are interested in reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community? Join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole?Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/200-results-from-the-first-research-study-on-relationship-anarchyIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community:Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5 Notes:Relationship Anarchy Manifesto: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchySmorgasbord Episode: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/e4b03010/109-the-relationship-anarchy-smorgasbord-and-finding-queer-belonging-with-maxx-hillDean Spade Episode:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/254c2778/191-relationship-anarchy-and-the-romance-myth-with-dean-spadeJessica Fern Episode: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/1b497590/175-the-polysecure-paradigm-shift-with-jessica-fernMonogamy and Relationship Anarchy: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/26c528e9/161-relationship-anarchist-kat-pfligler
Feb 19, 2025 • 1h 2min
199. Becoming a Turned On Female Leader with Pamela von Sabljar
On today’s episode, we have Pamela von Sabljar (she/her)join us for a conversation about liberating our authentic sexual expression. Together we talk about following the zest of life, connecting with erotic rage, and the power of your narrative.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/199-the-world-needs-more-female-leaders-turned-on-with-pamela-von-sabljarIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Pamela's Community:Website: https://www.pamelavonsabljar.com/Notes:TarsierSensitivity: https://medium.com/student-conservation-corner/meet-the-philippine-tarsiers-where-stress-could-kill-4e48ef51c52d
Feb 12, 2025 • 1h 7min
198. Exploring Non-Monogamy and Queer Sexual Freedom with Ren DAuria
On today’s episode, we have Ren DAuria (they/them) join us for a conversation about our ever-evolving connection to the erotic. Together we talk about making out in confessional booths, learning to receive, and creating expansive connections.If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the websitewww.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join ourpatreon here:https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/198-exploring-non-monogamy-and-queer-sexual-freedom-with-ren-dauriaIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your SmithModern Anarchy Community:Website :www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram :https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon :https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Ren's Community:Email: dauriala@yahoo.com
Feb 5, 2025 • 1h 34min
197. Relationship Anarchist: Mx. Flow
On today’s episode, we have Mx. Flow (they/she) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about balancing autonomy and community care, embracing the inevitability of change, expanding into deeper love.
If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/197-relationship-anarchist-mx-flow
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5
Mx. Flow's Community:
Website : Dhammaflow.org
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mx.flow1312/
Jan 29, 2025 • 1h 11min
196. Building Psychedelic Communities of Care with Ifetayo Harvey
On today’s episode, we have Ifetayo Harvey (she/her) join us for a conversation all about the psychedelic transformation of trauma. Together we talk about examining systems of oppression, bravely imagining a new future, and the transformative power of vulnerability.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/196-building-psychedelic-communities-of-care-with-ifetayo-harvey
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Ifetayo's Community:
Website : www.ifetayo.me
POCPC : www.pocpc.org
