Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
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Latest episodes
Feb 5, 2025 • 1h 34min
197. Relationship Anarchist: Mx. Flow
On today’s episode, we have Mx. Flow (they/she) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about balancing autonomy and community care, embracing the inevitability of change, expanding into deeper love.
If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/197-relationship-anarchist-mx-flow
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5
Mx. Flow's Community:
Website : Dhammaflow.org
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mx.flow1312/
Jan 29, 2025 • 1h 11min
196. Building Psychedelic Communities of Care with Ifetayo Harvey
On today’s episode, we have Ifetayo Harvey (she/her) join us for a conversation all about the psychedelic transformation of trauma. Together we talk about examining systems of oppression, bravely imagining a new future, and the transformative power of vulnerability.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/196-building-psychedelic-communities-of-care-with-ifetayo-harvey
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Ifetayo's Community:
Website : www.ifetayo.me
POCPC : www.pocpc.org
Jan 21, 2025 • 1h 19min
195. Following Abundant Pleasure After Purity Culture with Kelly Pastori
On today’s episode, we have Kelly Pastori (she/her) join us for a conversation all about embodying your right to pleasure. Together we talk about the transformative power of community, reconnecting with the wisdom of our bodies, and embracing the abundance of the erotic.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/195-following-abundant-pleasure-after-purity-culture-with-kelly-pastori
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Kelly's Community:
Website: https://www.kellypastori.com/
Purity Culture Recovery Group: https://www.agavechicago.com/groups
Jan 15, 2025 • 1h 34min
194. The Polywise Paradigm Shift with David Cooley
On today’s episode, we have David Cooley (he/him) join us for a conversation all about intentionally cultivating secure and dynamic attachments. Together we talk about moving through relational fluidity, waiting to attach until navigating conflict, and going down the rabbit hole of non-monogamy.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/194-the-polywise-paradigm-shift-with-david-cooley
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
David Cooley's Community:
Website : https://www.restorativerelationship.com/
Jan 8, 2025 • 1h 15min
193. Relationship Anarchist: Miles Wilcox
On today’s episode, we have Miles Wilcox (they/them) join us for another relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about shedding internalized scripts of normality, healing in community, and expanding our capacity for intimacy.
If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/193-relationship-anarchist-miles-wilcox
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5
Miles' Community:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mkwftm/
Jan 1, 2025 • 1h 28min
192. The Set and Setting of Your Somatic Intuition with Dr. Karolina Mikos
On today’s episode, we have Dr. Karolina Mikos (she/her) join us for a conversation about reconnecting with our healing wisdom. Together we talk about intentional drug use, getting curious about our triggers, and being present enough to experience pleasure.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/192-the-set-and-setting-of-your-somatic-intuition-with-dr-karolina-mikos
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Dr. Karolina Miko's Community:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karolinamikosmd/
Website: https://www.plantmedhealth.com/
Dec 25, 2024 • 1h 19min
191. Relationship Anarchy and The Romance Myth with Dean Spade
On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (he/him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy.
If you are also interested in participating in the research on Relationship Anarchy and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/191-relationship-anarchy-and-the-romance-myth-with-dean-spade
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Dec 18, 2024 • 1h 10min
190. Claiming Each Other Across the Divide with Lorie Solis
On today’s episode, we have Lorie Solis (she/her) join us for a conversation about the revolutionary power of softening. Together we talk about healing intergenerational trauma, stepping into embodiment, and the transformation of belonging.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/190-claiming-each-other-across-the-divide-with-lorie-solis
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Lorie's Community:
www.somasanctum.org
www.claimingeachother.org
https://www.instagram.com/soma.sanctum/
https://www.instagram.com/claimingeachother/
Dec 11, 2024 • 1h 29min
189. Relationship Anarchist: Absayonika Hone
On today’s episode, we have Absayonika Hone (they/them) join us for a relationship anarchy research interview Together we talk about the expansive wish to love and share, embracing our humanness, and how another world of relating is possible.
If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/189-relationship-anarchist-absayonika-hone
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Dec 4, 2024 • 1h 8min
188. Crafting Deeper Love in Your Relationships with Taune Lyons
On today’s episode, we have Taune Lyons (she/her) join us for a conversation about expanding our capacity to feel love. Together we talk about how we grow in relationships, co-creating relationship agreements, and enjoying the inevitability of change.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/188-crafting-deeper-love-in-your-relationships-with-taune-lyons
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Taune's Community:
Website: https://www.taunelyons.com/
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