

Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging
Emma and Fin
Hi! We’re Emma and Fin! We’re a married couple in our thirties who have been exploring non-monogamy for over 15 years. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship styles to hear their amazing stories.
Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be up for sharing your own story. We’d love to hear it!
Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.
We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be up for sharing your own story. We’d love to hear it!
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Oct 21, 2020 • 1h 9min
Ep 151 - Gabrielle
Gabrielle grew up in Jamaica Queens with various forms of non-monogamy happening around her. She has been exploring it herself since the beginning of her dating life around age 17. Since then she has experienced a variety of dynamics and is currently happily identifying as solo poly. She is also a freelance writer who covers polyamory, sex, mental health, relationships, and the intersections of race. Her story is amazing as is her writing. We hope you enjoy!
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Oct 14, 2020 • 1h 13min
Ep 150 - Polyamory Today (Rachael)
Rachael shares with us a powerful and beautiful story of self-discovery. She married at a young age and realized years later that she had never had the time to find who she was. At age 32 she had zero sex drive but figured that was just normal because she was "getting old..." Then she went to see the movie Wolverine and saw Hugh Jackman with his shirt off and it hit her that she needed to make some changes. Since then, she has separated from her high school sweetheart, learned a ton about herself, gotten involved in various polyamory and kink organizations, and even started her own publication on Medium called Polyamory Today. This interview covers so much ground and is super inspiring. Enjoy!
Rachael's Contact Info:
Polyamory Today
Fattitude
Twitter: @rachael1013
Email: rachael.hope.writes@gmail.com
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Oct 12, 2020 • 56min
Ep 149 - Wilson
During college Wilson had a long distance relationship with a woman in Argentina. The two of them decided to open the relationship in an effort not to limit the other's physical needs. As he describes it, they had no idea what they were doing or that open relationships were even a "thing" that you could do. They just did it. It was a rocky few years and now he has done extensive research and discovery into what kind of non-monogamy he is interested in. This is a great discussion for anyone who is sort of unsure and just starting to figure things out. Enjoy!
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Oct 7, 2020 • 1h 26min
Ep 148 - Everyone's Autonomous (Marie)
You're about to embark on one of our most powerful episodes to date. Marie gracefully blends her moving personal stories with humor as she takes us through how she deconstructed her religious upbringing and then monogamy. It truly is a beautiful story. Beyond her guest starring role on our show, she also hosts her own podcast called Everyone's Autonomous, she's a non-monogamy relationship coach, and she runs a humanist photography business. To sum it up, she's an amazing human doing powerful work and we're honored to share her story.
Marie's Website
Everyone's Autonomous Podcast
Markei Photo and Video
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Sep 30, 2020 • 1h 12min
Ep 147 - Sophie + Brandon
This is a fantastic discussion tying together infidelity, a desire to live life to the fullest, and incredible growth and communication... Sophie and Brandon are in their mid thirties and have been married for four years. This is the second marriage for both of them and they have been "intentionally non-monogamous" for about three years. The way they share how they have overcome obstacles and how they have grown together is beautiful. We are incredibly grateful to them for sharing such a vulnerable and powerful story with us.
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Sep 23, 2020 • 1h 17min
Ep 146 - Leah
This is a wonderful discussion about self-discovery, boundaries, standing up for yourself, and communicating with compassion. Leah is a self-proclaimed relationship junky but only recently dipped her toes into non-monogamy after accidentally matching with someone on a dating app. She didn't read the whole profile... Oops! She ended up going on a date with him and his partner anyways and had a great time but ultimately things didn't work out. She details the whole story and shares with us how her approach to relationships has shifted since this experience. Additionally, a few years ago after getting ghosted she created an Esther Perel Discussion group on Facebook that has grown to almost 12k members.
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Sep 16, 2020 • 1h 20min
Ep 145 - Mel + Rah + Tom
Our first interview with a throuple! Woop woop! Not just any throuple either... These three are incredible humans and have such an amazing attitude towards life and relationships. It's no wonder they all fell in love with one another! Rah and Tom have been married for about 10 years and open for most of their relationship. About a year and a half ago they met Mel. None of them were looking for a serious relationship, yet, here they are today happier than ever. This is a fantastic discussion about how people's approaches to relationships can evolve and more than that, it's a heartwarming and beautiful story. Enjoy!
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Sep 9, 2020 • 1h 10min
Ep 144 - Nicki
At 22, Nicki is our youngest guest so far. She has recently started exploring non-monogamy with her partner and as she puts it, she's standing at the edge of the abyss looking in... And she's super excited about it. All of it! She has a very high EQ and talks about how her experiences in exploring non-monogamy have already helped her understand and confront her anxiety and perfectionism. She's also gained a better understanding of how being highly empathetic and an HSP (highly sensitive person) fit into relationships and self care. This is a fantastic episode and we hope you enjoy it!
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Sep 2, 2020 • 1h 25min
Ep 143 - Christy + Rebecca + David + Jason
This episode is such a ball of positive energy and good vibes that it should be titled "How to make Covid your Biatch!" Basically, it's like this: Christy is married to David and in a long term relationship with Jason... David is also in a long term relationship with Rebecca... Jason and Rebecca aren't technically in a relationship but hey, who doesn't like to have a little fun? Oh yeah... They also all moved in together at the start of the pandemic and then had some family join them. So, if you are in need of a little something to brighten your day and to give you some inspiration, look no further. Enjoy!
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Aug 31, 2020 • 58min
Ep 142 - Rebecca
Rebecca's story is so amazing and inspirational! After a difficult breakup and being monogamous her entire life, she has spent the last 18 months (ish) rethinking everything. In that time, she has jumped into a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship, started exploring kink, moved into a house with her polycule, and done an incredible amount of personal growth. This is a fantastic story and we hope you enjoy it.
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