

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast
Jack Shitama
The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence.
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Mar 18, 2024 • 10min
Episode 270: The Problem with Diagnosis (and How to Avoid It)
When we diagnose others, we avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what that looks like and how we can do things better.
Show Notes:
Here's What Happens When We Stop Diagnosing Each Other by Kathleen Smith
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Mar 11, 2024 • 11min
Episode 269: 5 Ways to Stop People Pleasing
Many leaders who want to make an impact are people pleasers. Yet, this leads to over commitment and overwhelm. Here's how to stop.
Show Notes:
Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk
Podcast Episode 230: How to Say "No" as a Non-Anxious Presence
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Mar 4, 2024 • 13min
Episode 268: How Self-Differentiation Breeds Self-Confidence (rebroadcast)
Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here’s how it works.
Show Notes:
5 habits of confident people by Stephanie Vozza
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Feb 26, 2024 • 8min
Episode 267: Non-Anxious Leaders Don't Complain (and 5 ways to stop)
Complaining is not helpful to you or those you lead. Here's how to stop.
Show Notes:
The Happy Way to Drop Your Grievances by Arthur C. Brooks
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Feb 19, 2024 • 14min
Episode 266: 4 Ways to Be a Better Parent (and Leader)
This episode explores why parents are so annoying to their children from a family systems standpoint. Understanding how to do things differently will make you a better parent and leader.
Show Notes:
What makes parents so annoying, even to their middle-aged children? by Carolyn Hax
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Feb 12, 2024 • 15min
Episode 265: A Family Systems Take on The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
Patrick Lencioni's book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, helps you understand what makes for ineffective and effective teams. This episode tells you what you can do about it.
Show Notes:
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni
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Feb 5, 2024 • 12min
Episode 264: 3 Ways Avoidance Increases Anxiety and 3 Things You Can Do About It
This podcast explores the concept of psychological avoidance and how it increases anxiety. It provides real-life examples and strategies for overcoming avoidance to reduce anxiety in relationships. The importance of taking responsibility and addressing difficult conversations is emphasized, with tips on preparation and expressing boundaries in a non-anxious way.

Jan 29, 2024 • 13min
Episode 263: The Spotlight Effect and Taking Responsibility for Self
Taking responsibility for self means not making assumptions about others are thinking. Here's what that looks like and how to do things differently.Show Notes:How Anxiety Distorts Your To-Do List by Kathleen SmithRead the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails.

Jan 22, 2024 • 14min
Episode 262: How Can Someone Who Is Trying to Help Be So Annoying?
The podcast explores the challenges of interacting with an elderly family member, sharing personal stories about their mother's habits, including constantly offering food. They discuss asserting independence and setting boundaries with their mom, as well as the complexities of relationship systems and self-differentiation.

Jan 15, 2024 • 15min
Episode 261: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve - Part 2 of 2
The podcast discusses the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, the principles of leadership through self-differentiation, navigating delays and trusting the process, and persisting through sabotage. It also explores the 'Yeager heresy' and provides examples of creating an environment for change.