The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.Show Notes:Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.

According to Edwin Friedman, one of the characteristics of a chronically anxious society is the desire to seek safety instead of adventure. Non-anxious leaders seek adventure and learn to love it. Here’s how.Show Notes:The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times by Michelle ObamaA Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin FriedmanBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Understanding emotional process helps you to see how people deal with uncertainty and anxiety. This enables you to be less anxious and judgmental, as well as more compassionate. This episode shows you how.Show Notes:The Circle of Why by Kathleen SmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This example from Edwin Friedman's video on leadership through self-differentiation will help you manage anxiety in any relationship system.Show Notes:Leadership Through Self Differentiation A lecture by Edwin Friedman on YouTubeBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

You can’t make another person responsible. If you’re trying, you’re likely doing it wrong. Here’s why and how you can do better.Show Notes:Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin FriedmanBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Dive into the intriguing world of self-differentiation and the mischief of assumptions! Discover how guessing others’ thoughts can undermine authentic connections. Explore the art of navigating emotional connections and decision-making. Learn to reflect on past experiences and reframe them for a more confident future. The journey encourages embracing your own values while respecting others, fostering better communication and understanding. It's time to break free from anxiety and truly express yourself!

Dive into the fascinating world of psychological reactance and discover how to inspire without pushing buttons. Learn how rephrasing language can influence behavior, especially in engaging teens with healthier choices. Explore the significance of identity in leadership and its impact on relationships. Unpack how self-definition can enhance leadership in worship settings, blending personal beliefs with community values. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for effective leadership!

The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader.Show Notes:Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPCBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

In A Failure of Nerve, Edwin Friedman maintained that societal regression is counter evolutionary. In this episode, I unpack his five evolutionary principles of life as leadership principles.Show Notes:Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Anxious people want a quick fix. Non-anxious leaders know this is not the answer. Here's why, as well as how you can respond to challenge in a way that will make a difference.Show Notes:How to avoid the most seductive leadership mistake by Ed O'Malley and Julia Fabris McBrideBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.