

The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle
Anna Runkle
I’m Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and I teach people to recognize and heal the symptoms of Childhood PTSD. Welcome to my podcast!I’m not a doctor or therapist; I know about childhood trauma because I lived it, and I discovered a radical approach to healing that focuses first on calming neurological dysregulation, which is common in people who grew up with abuse and neglect. In my podcasts, I teach about dysregulation – how to know if you have it, what it can do to your body, your thinking and your relationships, and what to do to master re-regulation. When I learned this, everything in my life got suddenly easier. I’ll also be teaching you to heal the life problems that so often develop after years of living dysregulated – feeling tired, isolated and unfocused, finding yourself always drawn to unavailable and inappropriate partners, and falling WAY short of your professional potential, for example. The thing about me is, traditional therapies never seemed to help me. When I found techniques that did work, my whole life changed. Only in the past few years has the trauma research caught up to explain why – why the techniques I use worked, why therapy didn’t, and why my healing journey was so unnecessarily long. I’ve been teaching what I learned for more than 20 years now. It started with friends who had noticed the quick and dramatic change in me, and gradually grew by word of mouth. In 2016, I had so many people seeking instruction that I made my first online video, and then an online course, and this is how Crappy Childhood Fairy was born. My techniques and principles are practical yet powerful – an approach anyone can use, whether or not you have access to professional help. In this podcast, I’ll be talking about the master of self-regulation, and teach the tough-love life-lessons that you may not have learned at home – like how to date so that stable love finds you, how to get ahead at work, and how to calm the negative hamster-wheel thoughts that block your ability to connect with other people. Today, almost half a million people follow my work and participate in my training and coaching programs. My mission is to change the paradigm of what’s possible for people like us, and to help you free yourself from the oppression of trauma wounds, and to become your full, happy and real self. I’m glad you’re here! Watch new videos on my YouTube channel every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and access my videos, courses and free tools at crappychildhoodfairy.com.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 35min
Magical Thinking Saved Your Childhood (But NOW It's Ruining Your Life)
As a child, you developed the ability to use "magical thinking" to cope with abuse and neglect, but NOW, as an adult, it just might be blocking you from ever escaping troubled relationships, finding inner strength, and living a full life. In this episode, I answer a letter from a woman who endured deep neglect as a child and has used magical thinking to tolerate rejection and grief as she lives in the house of an ex for who she still has romantic feelings.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 20min
CPTSD Blinds You To Relationship RED FLAGS
The problem with Childhood PTSD is that when we fall in love, the traumatized part of our brain kicks in and hijacks perception, driving us to to cling when it's time to step back, or even run. How can you change your trauma-driven dating patterns, and open the door to real love?
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Jul 27, 2022 • 10min
Childhood PTSD and Loneliness -- How to Begin Healing
Childhood PTSD is, in essence, an injury to our ability to connect with others. That's why so many adults who were traumatized as kids struggle with relationships, feeling disconnected in relationships or avoiding any deep or lasting connections. In this episode, you'll hear an expert from my online course, "Healing Childhood PTSD," you can learn about how early trauma impacts our ability to connect and walks you step by step toward the path of healing.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 35min
LIMERENCE: Abandonment Wounds Cue Partners to Discard You
Any loss of a parent can leave an emotional wound on a child that affects them all their lives. How many times have you fallen for someone, only to find that you weren’t valued, your existence was a secret someone's "real" relationship, relegating you to the status of "side chick?" The consequences of this pattern don’t just daw you to the wrong person; the pattern leads to behaviors that drive away good people who would otherwise seek a relationship with you. In this episode, I respond to a letter from a young woman trying to find a way to either forget or transform a relationship with a man who treats her as a secret girlfriend.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 8min
Are You RE-Traumatizing Yourself? 16 Self-Defeating Behaviors Common with Childhood PTSD.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 31min
LIMERENCE: To Heal Obsession, Heal Wounds of Neglect
People whose childhood emotional needs were neglected are often drawn into "limerent" relationships -- an infatuation or obsession with someone unavailable, uninterested, or unknown to you. This consuming kind of love (that gives nothing back) can devastate your happiness and leave you chronically isolated. In this episode, I answer a letter from a woman who has loved a man she barely knows for years. Find out how to spot the signs of limerence, and what you can do to heal.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 14min
How COVERT AVOIDANCE Makes Your Life EMPTY
If your life feels empty and lonely, despite the fact that you do all the things that are supposed to fill up your life -- you might be a COVERT AVOIDER. This is common for adults with CPTSD, who grew up with abuse and neglect. You might have a good career, you’re friendly, you’re interesting, there are people in your life -- but if you feel like nothing is CONNECTING, if it's all superficial and not giving you happiness, it’s time to ask yourself if you’re secretly AVOIDING your own life.
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Jul 27, 2022 • 16min
Most CPTSD Treatments Don't Work. Here's What Does.
In this EXCERPT from my most popular online course, Healing Childhood PTSD, I summarize new research demonstrating that conventional CPTSD treatments for the effects of childhood trauma are not likely to work -- and I teach about what DOES work.
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Jul 6, 2022 • 11min
Five Steps to Protect Yourself from Opinion Bullies
We're all sick and tired of people who not only push their opinions, but demand that you agree with them! People with CPTSD are particularly vulnerable to losing themselves in the presence of people who's agenda (or opinions) are stronger than theirs. Here are five steps to strengthen yourself against "Opinion Bullies."
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Jul 6, 2022 • 12min
CPTSD and Visiting Family: Ten Tips for Self Care
Lately, a lot of people who grew up with childhood trauma are going “no contact” with their families and loved ones. I hear people talking about it with relief and sometimes a sense of accomplishment. For many people, the abuse was egregious and may be ongoing; in these cases, walking away for good may be necessary and courageous. For others, going no-contact is an emergency form of self-protection that, over time, may not need to be permanent.
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