
Do You F*cking Mind?
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak.
And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change - exclusively an audiobook - at https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
Latest episodes

Nov 12, 2024 • 8min
FOCUS: This is why you struggle with acceptance
Explore the powerful role of acceptance in personal growth and coping with life’s challenges. Discover how unresolved feelings like jealousy can hinder self-improvement. Learn to recognize emotional clues that signify struggles with acceptance, promoting awareness. The conversation emphasizes that true acceptance is crucial for healing, while highlighting the pitfalls of denial. Embrace acceptance to transform your responses to adversity and foster proactive life changes.

5 snips
Nov 10, 2024 • 44min
375. Hyper-independence - your coping mechanism / trauma response. How to turn it into healthy independence instead
Explore the intricacies of hyper-independence as a coping mechanism rooted in trauma, contrasted with healthy independence. Delve into the science behind motion sickness and how our brains adapt to discomfort. Hear personal stories of love bombing and the struggle for vulnerability in relationships. Discover pathways to transforming hyper-independence into a balanced life filled with genuine support and self-kindness. It's a journey of healing, insight, and embracing connection.

Nov 7, 2024 • 32min
374. HEADNOISE How do I repair a friendship? + How to get over when someone leaves you for "bad timing" - Head Noise
This conversation dives into the complexities of friendship and love. It explores strategies for repairing broken friendships and emphasizes the importance of self-care during emotional upheavals. Anxiety related to relationships is a hot topic, especially feelings of distress and existential fears. The discussion encourages listeners to prioritize their own needs and self-worth, while also addressing the challenge of moving on from relationships that didn’t work out due to 'bad timing.' Prepare for a mix of self-reflection and practical advice!

5 snips
Nov 7, 2024 • 33min
PART 2. Your voicemails. I'm addicted to Limerence, How do I stop night time phone use, Fear of missing out on the big life experiences + More.
Listener voicemails spark a lively dialogue about nighttime phone habits and the addictive nature of digital life. The discussion shifts to navigating relationships and limerence, reflecting on how personal desires can conflict with commitments. Insights on overcoming addiction in relationships emphasize growth through open communication. The episode also distinguishes between anxiety and intuition, stressing the need to recognize calm instincts over frantic fears. Real-life anecdotes enrich the conversation, making it relatable and engaging.

Nov 5, 2024 • 10min
FOCUS: Motivation to get sh*t done
Explore effective strategies for boosting motivation and self-discipline, including the power of rising early and maintaining focus. Discover how to overcome obstacles and build healthy habits through self-belief. Rethink your views on success, emphasizing dedication over luck while recognizing your personal potential. Challenge the myth of luck, as consistent effort takes center stage in achieving your goals, advocating for perseverance over temporary inspiration.

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Nov 3, 2024 • 46min
373. What is your default mode network? & how you can reset it
Explore the fascinating Default Mode Network of the brain and its influence on creativity and emotional regulation. Discover the nuances between being nice and truly good, and how social media impacts relationship choices. Learn how mindfulness and creative practices can transform self-criticism and promote presence. Delve into the ways anxiety and mood disorders affect cognitive processes, while uncovering strategies to manage emotional health. It's an enlightening journey into understanding the mind!

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Oct 31, 2024 • 52min
372. This is your sign to let that thing go. (And how to do it)
Explore the intricacies of letting go of attachments that no longer serve you. Dive into the frustrations of unsolicited advice, especially in religious contexts. Uncover the swimmer's body illusion and how biases shape our perceptions of success. Learn the importance of releasing unfulfilling aspects of life and embracing change. Discover the cognitive benefits of learning new languages and the need to identify unhealthy attachments in relationships. Personal stories and metaphors inspire you to confront fears and seek growth.

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Oct 29, 2024 • 16min
FOCUS: Top 10 things to let go of to live the best life
Explore the transformative power of letting go of entitlement to improve your mental health and relationships. Discover how entitlement can create emotional manipulation and hinder genuine connections. Learn about the importance of brain health and how activities like language learning can boost cognitive function. Dive into strategies like circuit breakers to break negative thought patterns and cultivate a more positive mindset. It's all about fostering appreciation, accountability, and a healthier mental landscape!

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Oct 27, 2024 • 45min
Create excuses or create change. You decide. (E)
The discussion reveals how excuses hinder personal growth and offers insights into their psychological roots. Listeners learn nine actionable tips to foster accountability and break free from destructive patterns, particularly in relationships. The impact of procrastination and tardiness is also examined, urging self-reflection and ownership of one’s choices. Additionally, the benefits of language learning for personal development are highlighted, emphasizing its cognitive advantages. Engaging and thought-provoking, the dialogue promotes consistent action for positive change.

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Oct 24, 2024 • 40min
371. The top 10 cognitive biases that may be affecting all your decisions - and how to change them
Explore the fascinating world of cognitive biases and how they shape our decisions in everyday life. Discover biases like self-serving bias, anchoring, and confirmation, and learn their effects on finances and relationships. Dive into hindsight bias and its influence on our perceptions of past events. Unpack the affect heuristic, highlighting the difference between gut instincts and emotional reactions. Get practical tips to improve decision-making by recognizing these biases and learning the importance of flexibility in beliefs for personal growth.