

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Apr 1, 2020 • 32min
Helping Parent-Child Relationships Thrive During Long Separations and Transitions
Janet, a consultant specialized in parent-child relationships during separations, shares her insights with a military mom facing a lengthy deployment. They discuss strategies for emotionally preparing children for separation, emphasizing the importance of open communication and tangible connections, like letters and care packages. Janet also explores the emotional complexities during reunions and offers tips to maintain secure attachments. Her expert advice helps navigate the challenges of military family life and fosters resilience in parent-child relationships.

Mar 25, 2020 • 29min
Kickstarting Your Child's Learning and Play at Home (with Lisa Griffen-Murphy)
In this engaging conversation, Lisa Griffen-Murphy, an acclaimed early childhood educator and play-master, shares her expertise on nurturing independent play. She encourages parents to let go of the pressure to direct their children's learning and highlights the importance of boredom in sparking creativity. Lisa discusses how structured downtime fosters essential life skills and the power of child-led exploration. Her insights help parents embrace a relaxed, less interventionist approach to play, recognizing its vital role in their children's development.

Mar 20, 2020 • 23min
Parenting in Anxious Times (with Susan Stiffelman, MFT)
Susan Stiffelman, an author and therapist, shares valuable insights on parenting during turbulent times. She emphasizes age-appropriate communication strategies to help children, especially anxious ones, understand complex topics like current events. The discussion explores how parents' anxieties can affect their kids and offers practical techniques for reassurance. Stiffelman also highlights the importance of creating safe spaces for children to express their fears, fostering autonomy and resilience in the face of uncertainty.

Mar 10, 2020 • 23min
How to Help a Strong-Willed Child Listen (Without Wounding His Spirit)
A parent seeks advice on helping a strong-willed 4-year-old listen without stifling his spirit during nature walks. Strategies for understanding the child's perspective, creating a supportive environment, and navigating transitions are discussed. Emphasis on communication, empathy, and building a strong relationship with the child.

Mar 3, 2020 • 18min
Anger, Sadness, Fear: Showing Our Emotions to Our Kids
Janet, an expert in modeling self-regulation and healthy emotional expression, dives deep into the complexities of showing emotions to kids. She addresses whether it's beneficial or unsettling for parents to express vulnerabilities like anger and sadness. Janet emphasizes the importance of balancing authenticity with guidance and fostering open communication. The conversation also touches on navigating parental confidence while understanding children's emotional needs, providing insightful tips for healthier emotional development.

Feb 18, 2020 • 24min
What Children Really Need to Succeed in School... and Life (with Rick Ackerly)
Rick Ackerly, a nationally recognized educator and author, shares his insights on nurturing children's unique needs for success in school and life. He emphasizes the broader definition of genius, which includes character and creativity. The discussion highlights the importance of encouraging curiosity and individual readiness over societal pressures for early academic success. Ackerly advocates for empowering child autonomy and innovative conflict resolution strategies, helping parents build supportive environments that foster natural learning and personal growth.

Feb 11, 2020 • 21min
What to Do About Your Clinging Child
A parent shares her struggles with her son's clinginess, revealing how his behavior intensifies after a long day of work. The conversation shifts to understanding children's emotional needs, while also emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Strategies for encouraging independence and self-care for parents are discussed. Listeners also learn about the benefits of allowing children some freedom and explore resources that promote nutritious eating for kids, highlighting practical tips for a balanced family life.

Jan 28, 2020 • 19min
The Most Helpful Response When Your Child Gets Hurt (4 Guidelines)
In this insightful discussion, Janet, a mindful parenting expert, shares practical guidelines for responding when children get hurt. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining calmness and validating emotions to foster resilience. Janet addresses the impact of adult reactions on a child's emotional state, particularly when they feel overwhelmed after an injury. Throughout the conversation, she provides empowering responses and strategies to help parents support their kids in processing these experiences effectively.

Jan 21, 2020 • 13min
My Kids Seem Ungrateful and Entitled
A parent struggles with feelings of her children's ingratitude and seeks ways to instill humility and appreciation. There’s a deep dive into the importance of modeling empathy and creating a supportive home environment. Strategies for cultivating gratitude include promoting small acts of kindness and fostering meaningful community connections. Practical parenting tips are discussed, aimed at reducing entitlement while celebrating the joys of both experiences and possessions. The conversation sheds light on nurturing emotional growth after the holiday season.

Jan 14, 2020 • 18min
No Bad Kids: Questions About Tantrums, Mealtimes, and Cleaning Up
After reading Janet’s book “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame,” a parent has some practical follow-up questions about his daughter’s behaviors; specifically in regard to tantrums, mealtime boundaries, and cooperation in cleaning up her messes. This dad says there are certain “values/etiquette” he would like his daughter to learn, but he realizes these qualities must evolve organically and can’t be coerced. He describes his own upbringing as disciplinarian, and he doesn’t want to expose his kids “to the same feelings of shame and mistrust.”For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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