1000 Days Sober Podcast

This morning, I walked past the Ivor Davies pub in Cardiff. It was 9:04 am—and already, ten men were drinking pints in silence.   Not celebrating. Not connecting. Just… escaping.   Fifteen years ago, I might’ve judged them. Today, I feel heartbreak.   Because this is what “normal” has become. Early-morning sedation. Loneliness on tap. And a culture that teaches men to drown instead of feel.   In this raw episode, I unpack the quiet tragedy of early pub drinking, the post-divorce disintegration of male identity, and the real story behind the law that made it all possible. This one’s for the men who’ve lost their way—and the STRIVERS ready to help them find it.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #mensmentalhealth #divorcedfathers #emotionalhealth #toxicmasculinity #theliquidlie #selfledlife #morningdrinking #cultureofescape #alcoholfreejourney #healingmen #masculinitymatters #purposeoverpints #reclaimyourlife #notjustadrink #pubculture #earlymorningdrinking #cardifflife #emotionalnumbing #grieveculture #alcoholfreeasfuck #STRIVEcommunity

When Zia told me—so matter-of-factly—that she’ll probably drink wine when she grows up, it hit me like a truck.   She’s eight. She’s never seen me drink. Barely sees her mum drink. She doesn’t live in a booze-soaked house.   And yet… she thinks she will.   Why? Because culture doesn’t need to knock. The Liquid Lie slips through the cracks—TV, school, books, weddings, jokes.   This episode isn’t about parenting. It’s about programming. It’s about the invisible inheritance we pass down—even when we try not to.   If you’re a single mum, a dad trying to do things differently, or someone who’s ever thought “just one glass” was harmless—this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #parentingtruths #alcoholculture #alcoholawareness #mumswhodontdrink #singlemumlife #livingAFAF #breakthecycle #raiseconsciouskids #healingjourney #alcoholfreedom #theLiquidLie #ZiaSaidItAll

You quit drinking. You meditate. You read all the books on masculinity.   And then your partner looks you in the eye and says: “It feels like I’m married to a little boy.”   That’s what happened to me. And it broke me—so I rebuilt.   In this episode, I unpack a quote from John Wineland and explore what masculinity really means when you stop performing and start embodying. We’re talking nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and how to live with clarity, stillness, and integrity—without reaching for the bottle to fake it.   If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to lead from your core—this one’s for you.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #masculinity #mensmentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystemregulation #alcoholrecovery #embodiment #selfledlife #johnwineland #menswork #spiritualmasculinity #sobercurious #mensgroup #traumahealing #IFS #healingjourney #menscoach

In today’s episode, I sit down with STRIVER John Bell—a father, a counsellor, and a man who used to drink to forget who he was.   We talk about what it’s like to be a healthcare professional struggling with alcohol, the guilt of being physically present but emotionally absent as a parent, and the deep identity shift required to live a SELF-led life, alcohol-free-as-fuck.   John shares his journey from being a mechanic stuck in the wrong life to becoming a therapist who helps others navigate their own. We unpack approval-seeking, male friendships, parental shame, and the culture that tells us numbing out is normal.   This is a conversation about regret, redemption, and the quiet power of presence. And it’s for anyone who’s ever wondered if it’s too late to change.   Spoiler: it’s not.   If you’d like to connect with John or work with him, visit daisyhillwellbeing.co.uk.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #emotionalpresence #alcoholrecovery #fatherhood #mensmentalhealth #IFS #reparenting #selfledlife #alcoholfree #dadlife #malevulnerability #mentalhealthawareness #parentingjourney #healingjourney #counsellorlife #approvaladdiction #daisyhillwellbeing #JohnBell #frommechanictotherapist #alcoholculture #traumahealing

BrewDog just inked a deal with West Ham United. To most, it’s just marketing. To me? It’s a megaphone for the Liquid Lie.   In this episode, I take you back to my boyhood in Manchester—pies, Bovril, and the first time I swore at a match. But beneath those memories was something deeper: a craving to belong.   The pint wasn’t about taste. It was about validation. It said: “You’re one of us.”   Football is supposed to unite us—but for many boys, it teaches that manhood is earned through alcohol. That to be part of the tribe, you must drink like one of the lads.   We’re not just talking beer and goals—we’re talking identity. And it’s time we rewrote the script.   🎧 Listen in to explore: – The emotional grooming hidden in football culture – Why brands like BrewDog keep tying booze to masculinity – How to reclaim your worth without pouring a pint   STRIVERS, it’s time to break the chain.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholculture #footballculture #BrewDog #masculinity #toxicmasculinity #validation #belonging #alcoholtruth #mentalhealth #alcoholawareness #selfledliving #WestHam #sponsorshiplies #drinkaware #greyareadrinking #boystodrinkingpath #emotionalhealing #rewritethecode #liveAFAF

#1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE   You hit the goal. You land the deal. You finally feel proud.   And then… you pull back. You brace for impact. You numb the joy.   This episode dives into the hidden reason so many high-achievers can’t feel happy even when everything looks right. It’s not sabotage. It’s self-protection—rooted in something Brené Brown calls foreboding joy.   🎧 In this episode: ✅ The reason joy triggers fear—not celebration ✅ How PARTS use success as a warning sign ✅ Why the STRIVE Method focuses on nervous system repair, not just gratitude ✅ Tools to stop numbing and start feeling again   You’re not broken. You’re just bracing. But there’s another way.   👊 Join the waiting list for the STRIVE Method: www.thestrivemethod.com 📩 Or email Lee directly: thestrivemethod@gmail.com 💥 Don’t forget to rate & review the show—it helps others find this message.   Until tomorrow— Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #alcoholfree, #highachievers, #forebodingjoy, #traumarecovery, #nervoussystemhealing, #selfledlife, #AFAF, #selfsabotage, #emotionalresilience, #brenebrown, #IFStherapy, #healingjourney

I moved back into my childhood bedroom at 35. Same carpet. Same curtains. Same crushing sense of failure. My marriage was over. My son no longer lived with me. And I felt invisible. Powerless. Drowning in silence.   This episode is for every divorced parent—especially dads—who feels like they’ve lost more than a partner. If you’ve ever stared at a ring on your finger and asked, “What now?”… you’re not alone.   Inside, I share the powerful concept of The Line—and how learning to live above it changed everything for me. This isn’t mindset fluff. It’s how we stop parenting from PARTS, co-parenting from pain, and living in survival mode.   Tune in to discover how to return to SELF, find your TRIBE, and finally stop drinking just to feel okay.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #DivorcedFathers #SelfLedLife #IFS #MensMentalHealth #TribeNotTreatment #EmotionalSobriety #HealingAfterDivorce #ConsciousParenting #VictimConsciousness #AboveTheLine

You probably don’t crave alcohol as much as you think.   You’re not in pain. You’re not desperate. You’re just… human. A human living in a world where drinking is the default—where Fridays mean wine, and success gets toasted.   In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the coaches, therapists, and healthcare workers—the ones who know how to regulate a nervous system, but still pour a drink when the house goes quiet.   This isn’t about relapse. It’s about realisation.   Because when you stop and ask, “How intense is this craving, really?”—you might discover there was never a craving at all.   You were just following a script.   STRIVERS don’t follow scripts. We ask better questions.       #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #emotionalregulation #nervoussystemhealing #alcoholfreecoach #coachingtools #sugarcravings #drinklesslivebetter #stopdrinking #cravingsupport #healthcareworkerburnout #therapytools #integrity #alcoholfreelife #mentalhealthawareness #selfleadership

Have you ever tried to iron a shirt in the dark with wet hair, no hot water, and a podcast deadline breathing down your neck?   That was me—in Montenegro, mid-power cut, spiralling.   No electricity. No way to work. No escape.   And that’s when I realised something most people never stop to see: we don’t drink because we’re weak—we drink because we’re trying to run. From stillness. From feeling. From ourselves.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing what happens when all your exit routes vanish—and you’re left with nothing but your nervous system, your stories, and the one voice that’s been waiting underneath it all… your SELF.   Tune in as we explore: – Why alcohol becomes a default escape route – How your parts hijack your peace – The surprising power of discomfort when you stop running from it – The STRIVE Method’s way of helping you stay present without sedation   If you’re ready to stop escaping and finally arrive, this episode is for you.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #mentalhealth #nervoussystemregulation #selfledlife #alcoholfree #innerpeace #traumarecovery #emotionalresilience #healingjourney #recoverytools #dailyvow #stopescaping #powerofpresence #IFS #partswork #mindfulness #selftrust #Montenegro #victimmode #selfoverstory #healingstartswithawareness

We’ve been sold a lie. That alcohol is a treat. A reward. A moment of pleasure after the grind.   But what if that “reward” is actually keeping you stuck?   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I unpack a core idea from Allan Dib’s Lean Marketing—and show you how alcohol functions just like Muda (waste) in a broken system.   If you’ve ever poured a glass at the end of the day and called it “self-care,” this one’s for you. We’re not here to deprive ourselves. We’re here to reclaim our value system—and redesign it around what actually matters.   You’ll learn how to spot the false rewards, break the belief system that keeps you stuck, and start building a life that flows from SELF, not sabotage.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholawareness #selfledliving #quitdrinking #emotionalfreedom #rewardnotregret #alcoholtruth #selfleadership #healyourself