

The Alcohol ReThink Podcast with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox - Mens Life and Sober Coach
The Alcohol ReThink Podcast is for men who want to change their relationship with alcohol, whether you're in the sober-curious stage or ready to quit for good.
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
We're ripping up the script on outdated stereotypes and stigmas when it comes to alcohol and addiction, and showing you how you can rethink your relationship with alcohol in a way that feels empowering and sustainable.
Join Patrick as he shares practical strategies, interviews, experiences, coaching tools and concepts to help you break free from alcohol, reclaim control, and start living the life you truly want.
www.patrickjfox.com
Episodes
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Oct 25, 2024 • 55min
171. A New Way of Understanding Addiction with Maia Szalavitz
In this episode of the Alcohol Rethink Podcast, host Patrick Fox has a deep and enlightening conversation about addiction and how we approach it with Maia Szalavitz, a New York Times best-selling author and renowned neuroscience journalist.
They explore the complexities of addiction, discussing its definition, the distinction between compulsion and physical dependence, and the role of developmental experiences in addiction susceptibility.
Maia Szalavitz emphasises that addiction is more about compulsive behaviour than pleasure, and highlights the importance of understanding the brain's mechanisms of wanting and liking.
The conversation also touches on the impact of adolescent development on risk-taking behaviour and the need for effective prevention strategies that address emotional management rather than fear-based tactics.
In this conversation, Patrick Fox delves into the complexities of addiction, highlighting its nature as a learning process influenced by childhood trauma and the role of shame.
They advocate for compassionate approaches to recovery, highlighting the importance of understanding neurodiversity in addiction. The discussion also touches on the evolving landscape of addiction treatment and the significance of being radically human in our connections with others.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Maia Szalavitz
Website: https://maiasz.com/
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Oct 18, 2024 • 25min
170. Who Am I Without Alcohol In My Life?
Have you ever found yourself contemplating the question 'who am I without alcohol in my life?' and not having an answer...
You're not alone.
Considering a life without drinking can feel daunting if not near impossible.
Especially if you've spent a lifetime associating alcohol with pretty much everything you do.
On the surface it makes sense, you've taught your brain that alcohol is part of who you are and what you do.
But what if that's not true?
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick shares a reframe to that question.
He shares a question that will help move you from a place of fear about not drinking, to one of excitement and possibility.
Get ready to hear a cool visualisation exercise to help you along the way.
Other awesome things he mentions:
Changing your perception of alcohol is crucial for sobriety.
Recognizing self-sabotage is key to overcoming it.
Sobriety can lead to unexpected positive changes in life.
It's important to acknowledge and celebrate small wins.
The question 'Who am I without alcohol?' can be reframed.
Visualization techniques can help in imagining a sober life.
Your identity is not solely defined by alcohol consumption.
Focusing on what you gain from sobriety is empowering.
Self-talk and mindset play a significant role in change.
You have the power to rewrite your personal narrative.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Oct 4, 2024 • 40min
169. Breaking Vicious Cycles - A Guide For Better Mental Health
Have you ever noticed how one small decision can either make your day better or completely unravel it?
Maybe you reach for a drink after a tough day or push through and go for a walk instead.
What if I told you those moments of choice are part of something much bigger—what we call a virtuous or vicious cycle?
In today’s episode of Alcohol Rethink, we’re diving into these cycles, exploring how your perception of life’s events determines which path you take, and what lies in the middle—the space where your mindset, thoughts, and feelings decide if you spiral down or build yourself up.
In episode 169 of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, host Patrick Fox, will be sharing how to recognize when you’re caught in either cycle and how to shift your momentum for the better.
He shares insights from his experiences and recent coaching sessions, emphasising the importance of self-awareness and intentionality in breaking negative patterns.
The episode provides practical tools for listeners to identify their cycles and make supportive choices, ultimately encouraging a shift towards healthier behaviours and mindsets.
Some of the key takeaways:
Rethinking alcohol will lead to personal growth.
Understanding the difference between a vicious and virtuous cycle
The power of awareness in creating change
Positive actions create a virtuous cycle
Negative actions lead to a vicious cycle
Self-reflection helps identify your current cycle
Small wins can build momentum for change
Intentionality in choices leads to better outcomes
Supportive environments foster positive behaviours
Be kind to yourself is essential during the journey of change
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Sep 27, 2024 • 28min
168. Disappointment, Triggers and Building Resilience
What do you do when you feel disappointed?
Do you acknowledge that you didn't achieve what you set out to and that's ok OR do you beat the crap out of yourself instead?
Unfortunately for many, it's the latter and it sucks.
In episode 168 of The Alcohol Rethink Podcast, host Patrick Fox discusses the importance of understanding and dealing with disappointment, especially when it comes to rethinking alcohol and changing habits.
He shares personal experiences and insights on how disappointment can trigger unhealthy coping mechanisms, and highlights the need to recognise and adjust expectations where necessary.
You will hear Patrick offer practical steps for managing disappointment, including acknowledging your feelings, adjusting goals, and practicing self-compassion.
Get ready to hear about the power of patience and developing resilience as you rethink alcohol.
Some of the awesome takeaways you'll hear in this episode:
Rethinking alcohol starts with a shift in mindset
Disappointment can trigger unhealthy coping mechanisms
Recognising triggers is essential for personal growth
Expectations often lead to disappointment when unmet
Disappointment can be a teacher, guiding you to adjust your mindset
Patience is key in the journey of change
Celebrate small wins to build momentum
Self-compassion is crucial when dealing with disappointment
Disappointment is a natural part of life and growth
Focus on the process rather than the outcome
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Sep 20, 2024 • 26min
167. Compassion vs Excuses: How to Use Compassion For Accountability
Are you afraid that being compassionate means excusing your drinking habits?
Or that if you're compassionate with yourself you'll keep justifying your reasons to drink?
Compassion is not the same as justifying or excusing your behaviour. In fact, it's the opposite.
In episode 167 of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick gets stuck into the difference between compassion and excuses.
He shares how compassion is about acknowledging your humanity and learning from your mistakes.
Get ready to hear some practical strategies for practising self-compassion so you can develop accountability and ultimately personal growth in your life.
SPONSOR Patrick and ALCOHOL CHANGE UK here
Some of the cool takeaways:
Compassion is essential for personal growth and healing.
Self-compassion is not the same as making excuses.
Acknowledging mistakes allows for learning and growth.
Language impacts our self-perception and accountability.
Compassion helps disrupt cycles of shame and guilt.
Practicing compassion can lead to better decision-making.
Self-reflection is key to understanding our choices.
Compassionate inquiry can help us understand our feelings.
The power of mantras.
Compassion leads to accountability, not avoidance.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Sep 13, 2024 • 39min
166. Break The Habit of Drinking: How to Stop Using Alcohol to Escape Emotions
In this episode of the Alcohol Rethink podcast, host Patrick Fox discusses the importance of understanding your relationship with alcohol and the emotional mechanisms behind it.
He introduces the concept of the 'window of tolerance' and how it relates to coping mechanisms, particularly for men.
The conversation explores the differences between hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal, societal influences on emotional regulation, and practical strategies for expanding your emotional capacity.
Patrick emphasises the significance of self-awareness and the need for healthier coping strategies to manage emotions without relying on alcohol.

Sep 6, 2024 • 27min
165. How To Quit Alcohol and Feel In Control
What if the real fear of giving up alcohol isn’t about the drink itself, but about what you think you’ll lose?
In this episode, Patrick Fox tackles the deeper fears men face when rethinking their relationship with alcohol, offering bold strategies to make the journey easier.
He breaks down the fear of missing out (FOMO), showing how it’s really tied to feelings of loss and grief, not the act of drinking.
Patrick dives into the fear of the unknown and the anxiety of losing an identity attached to alcohol. He challenges listeners to focus on the powerful gains of quitting rather than clinging to perceived losses while emphasising the importance of creating evidence for a stronger future and finding the right support to stay on course.

Aug 30, 2024 • 30min
164. Stupid Sh1t People Say When You Stop Drinking Alcohol
Do you find that people like to chip in with their opinion about your decision to stop drinking?
Do you find it annoying or perhaps draining?
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick Fox discusses the reasons why men decide to stop drinking and the pushback they often receive from others.
He shares some of the stupid/unhelpful comments people make when someone stops drinking and provides insight into why they might say these things.
Patrick also highlights the importance of not taking these comments personally and owning how you feel.
He explores various reasons why alcohol can become a problem for men, such as drinking alone, hiding drinking habits, increased tolerance, and the impact on mental, physical, and emotional health.
This episode is all about perspective and focusing on what matters most, you and your sobriety.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Aug 23, 2024 • 53min
163. Addiction, Recovery and Feeling ReBourne with Bash Bashford
You've quit your addiction, now what?
Life after alcohol, drugs or any other addiction can feel a little different.
A huge part of letting these things go from your life is about creating a new life without them and giving your mind and body a chance to recover.
In episode 163 of the Alcohol Rethink Podcast, host Patrick Fox interviews Bash from Rebourne Recovery.
Bash has been around addiction for over 25 years, and has been in recovery for 17 years from his own personal 'addiction career'. Using his experience and special interest in supporting others, he has been running his ReBourne Recovery practice for the last 5 years.
During this episode, they discuss the importance of learning how to feel better instead of just feeling better. They look at the nature of addiction, and the role of a recovery plan can play in post-addiction life.
Bash shares his personal journey of addiction and recovery, emphasising the need for self-reflection, meditation, exercise, and journaling.
They also touch on the concept of relapse as an opportunity for growth and the importance of embracing both the highs and lows of life.
This is an awesome conversation about all things addiction and recovery that you won't want to miss.
Cool things you'll hear about in this episode:
- Why creating perspective is so important
- Discover why learning how to feel better is more important than just feeling better
- The allergy analogy (A great tool to shift your mindset)
- Addiction is a complex condition influenced by various factors such as genetics, environment, trauma, and family history
- Recycling critical energy into creative energy
- Creating balance in life is essential for overall well-being and recovery.
- Learning how to embrace the lows as well as the highs
- Cultivating a willingness to feel & a tool to help
- Focus on good habits to assist your recovery
- The difference between reacting and responding
- How finding purpose and replacing the buzz of addiction with the buzz of mediocrity can support you on your journey.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Bash:
Website: https://www.rebournerecovery.co.uk/
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject

Aug 16, 2024 • 29min
162. Beyond the Buzz & Beating Boredom
When you're not getting a buzz from drinking or you've not got that quick escape route from how you're thinking and feeling, life can feel that little bit more uncomfortable or perhaps even boring...
The way the mind compares drinking to not drinking isn't a fair comparison though.
It's distorted at best and requires some time and patience to re-adjust.
On this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick is sharing a recent challenge that a client had when it came to feeling a bit 'meh' and that life was becoming 'mundane' without alcohol.
In this episode Patrick takes you through his process of coaching his client on this challenge the mind presented as well as teaching on why he may have felt the way he did.
You can expect to create some awesome awareness and insights for yourself in this episode, as well as some cool tools to help you when boredom strikes.
Cool topics Patrick gets into:
Quitting alcohol doesn't mean quitting fun; it's just the brain's attempt to trick you into thinking you need alcohol to have fun.
Alcohol hijacks the brain's reward system and creates a false sense of pleasure and enjoyment.
Finding fun and enjoyment in life after quitting alcohol takes planning, practice, and patience.
Engaging in hobbies, exercising, getting social, practising mindfulness and gratitude, and setting new goals can help create fun experiences without alcohol.
The power of play
Boredom can be an opportunity for creativity and exploring new activities and experiences.
Awesome resources to help you stop drinking:
1. The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Guide
The simple guide to rethinking alcohol. It was created from the top 3 episodes of the podcast. Each episode has a cool exercise to help you rethink alcohol for good.
Get your guide here:
www.patrickjfox.com/podcast-guide
2. The Alcohol Mindset Reset Challenge
Imagine in the next 30 days that you have radically changed the way you think about alcohol. Imagine getting some sober firsts and sober wins under your belt and feeling incredibly proud of yourself.
That is what's possible when you participate in the alcohol rethink project.
A free 30-day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking.
Change the way you think about alcohol and yourself and stop drinking today.
Get stuck in here: The Alcohol ReThink Project
Connect with Patrick:
To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create an awesome life without alcohol, book a free one hour consultation.
Break free from the cycle of drinking and start doing more of what you love in life. Time waits for no one and alcohol is stealing it from you.
Start changing your relationship with alcohol today. Book a free consultation here.
Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thealcoholrethinkpodcast
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholrethinkproject
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobercuriousmen