
Interior Integration for Catholics
The mission of this podcast is the formation of your heart in love and for love, Together, we shore up the natural, human foundation for your spiritual formation as a Catholic. St. Thomas Aquinas asserts that without this inner unity, without this interior integration, without ordered self-love, you cannot enter loving union with God, your Blessed Mother, or your neighbor. Informed by Internal Family Systems approaches and grounded firmly in a Catholic understanding of the human person, this podcast brings you the best information, the illuminating stories, and the experiential exercises you need to become more whole in the natural realm. This restored human formation then frees you to better live out the three loves in the two Great Commandments – loving God, your neighbor, and yourself. Check out the Resilient Catholics Community which grew up around this podcast at https://www.soulsandhearts.com/rcc.
Latest episodes

Dec 4, 2023 • 1h 21min
127 Understanding "borderline personalities" through Internal Family Systems
This podcast explores the concept of emotional switching in individuals with borderline personality dynamics and discusses the struggles of establishing a coherent sense of self. It delves into the concept of internal family systems (IFS) and the roles of exiles, managers, and firefighters within a person's system. The criteria for borderline personality disorder is explored through an IFS lens, highlighting patterns of instability in relationships, self-image, and emotions. The podcast also announces an upcoming event discussing borderline personality dynamics and the reopening of applications for the resident Catholics community.

Nov 20, 2023 • 1h 23min
126 Borderline "personalities": Your questions answered by Dr. Greg Bottaro
Dr. Greg Bottaro, Psychologist at the CatholicPsych Institute, shares insights on borderline personality dynamics. Topics include staying in relationship with someone threatening harm, anger and anxiety as coping mechanisms, concupiscence and wounds in borderline personality, navigating parenting with a spouse with Borderline Personality Disorder, approaching true healing without over-spiritualizing, and helping a young adult son married to someone with BPD characteristics.

Nov 6, 2023 • 1h 24min
125 "Borderline personality" according to the conventional secular experts
Explore the internal experience and origins of borderline personality disorder, the diagnostic criteria and symptoms, genetic vulnerability and impact of early attachment issues on BPD. Discover different types of BPD and treatment approaches. Also, understand the challenges faced by family members caring for a loved one with BPD and the positive outlook of recovery over time.

Oct 18, 2023 • 52min
124 Your parts, IFS, and war: An experiential exercise
In this special edition, I invite you to an experiential exercise to connect in a loving way with your parts who are in any distress or suffering with the armed conflict between Hamas and Israel and the humanitarian tragedies that conflict has brought. I do this experiential exercise along with you, working with my Adventurer part who has been burdened with fear and anxiety, especially around the conflict broadening out regionally in the Middle East and beyond. Parts also have an opportunity, with your innermost self to question and challenge God about what is happening.

Oct 16, 2023 • 1h 30min
123 Relating well with narcissistic family members with Dr. Gerry Crete
Dr. Gerry Crete, a licensed marriage and family therapist, discusses relating with narcissistic family members. Topics include setting boundaries, understanding positive intentions, communicating limits, distinguishing advocacy from oversensitivity, and the impact of narcissism on family dynamics. The podcast also explores radical acceptance, IFS therapy, and the differences between narcissists and sociopaths/psychopaths in empathy.

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Oct 2, 2023 • 1h 38min
122 Narcissism and Gaslighting: What Catholics Should Know
This podcast explores the insidious tactics of gaslighting, including manipulation of reality, the impact on relationships, and gaslighting in the story of Adam and Eve. It discusses gaslighting tactics and red flags in relationships, as well as the motives and consequences for gaslighters. The podcast also addresses finding strength and support in Catholic marriage when facing gaslighting and emotional abuse.

Sep 18, 2023 • 1h 27min
121 Connecting with your own narcissistic parts: experiential exercise
In this podcast, the hosts explore narcissism in a compassionate way. They address questions about narcissism and the dynamics of relationships involving borderline personality disorder and narcissistic tendencies. The episode includes an experiential exercise to connect with narcissistic parts and discusses the importance of self-love and fulfillment. It also explores the harmful effects of narcissism, navigating parenting challenges, and promoting understanding and compassion for narcissistic traits.

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Sep 4, 2023 • 1h 43min
120 Understanding Narcissism More Deeply with IFS
Dr. Peter, clinical psychologist specializing in narcissism and Internal Family Systems, explains how to conceptualize narcissistic personalities and reactions through the lens of IFS. He illustrates covert and overt narcissism through case vignettes, emphasizing unmet attachment and integrity needs. The podcast delves into the dynamics of internal parts, shame, and complex narcissistic subsystems. It also explores Richard Swartz's personal journey to understanding IFS as a spirituality and discusses relationships, identity, and love in the resilient Catholics community.

Aug 21, 2023 • 1h 29min
119 Narcissism: Q & A with Dr. Peter Martin
In this podcast, Catholic psychologist Dr. Peter Martin discusses narcissism with a live audience. They explore treating narcissism, distinguishing boldness from narcissism, relating to a narcissistic spouse, managing narcissistic family members who don’t believe in God, the importance of feeling cherished by God, the relationship between narcissism and spiritual abuse, difficulties of receiving God's love for narcissistic individuals, attachment styles associated with narcissism, impact of childhood experiences of narcissism in adulthood, effects of narcissistic parenting on children's separation and individuation, and managing a contentious co-parenting relationship with a narcissistic ex-spouse.

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Aug 7, 2023 • 1h 20min
118 Narcissism: Who, What, Why, and How? The Secular Experts Share their Views
In this episode, we examine different definitions of narcissism, we look at the markers and diagnostic criteria for narcissism, we examine the main beliefs, emotions, assumptions, and internal experiences that fuel narcissistic defenses (especially idealization and devaluation), we focus on relational patterns that narcissists have, and we look at how narcissists subjectively experience themselves. I show how narcissistic defenses represent maladaptive ways of trying to get deep needs met, especially integrity needs. We explore different kinds of narcissism, especially the different between overt and covert narcissism. We then go into how to identify narcissistic behaviors and appropriate ways of responding, according to the secular experts. Also, I issue you an invitation to a special opportunity. Tonight, Monday, August 7, 2023, from 8:30 PM to 10:00 PM Eastern Time -- I will have Catholic Psychologist Peter Martin as a special guest and we will be discussing narcissism -- in this free Zoom meeting, for the first 30 minutes or so, Dr. Martin and I will have a conversation about narcissism, and then for the next hour, we open it up for questions. Register by going to our Interior Integration for Catholics Landing page at soulsandhearts.com/iic. At the top, there's a link to register for the Zoom meeting. You can send me questions to crisis@soulsandhearts.com -- or leave me a VM at 317.567.9594 and I will play that voicemail on the air and Dr. Martin and I will answer you questions.