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Why am I pulling back the curtain on my own failed launch (while marketing myself as a business strategist, coach, and consultant?)   And, why do it immediately after it happened?  I must admit I had a lot of reservations about both the content and the timing, but one of my core values is integrity and for me, that means telling the whole truth about solopreneurship, the cringe-worthy as well as the brag-worthy. I also knew if I didn’t share it now, I would miss the true value of sharing our failures- giving shame the middle finger. If you are a solopreneur, you have to become comfortable with risk and failure. You need to try things without knowing how they will turn out, ask people to hire you even if you have imposter issues, make offers before you feel ready to do so and some of your programs, products, and services will fail.  You are literally where the buck starts and stops, so getting better at dealing with failure is truly unavoidable. In this, my most vulnerable episode so far, I share the reasons that the recent launch of my new small group coaching program failed, what I learned from the experience, and what I am going to do next, because in business, as in theater, the show must go on! Highlights of this episode:How to manage our expectations Using your core values as a filter for decision making Toxic productivity & trauma patterns in business Letting yourself down vs letting others down Pushing through or pulling back - is it self-sabotage or self-care?My experience in a coaching program where the leader modeled “no failure” Is it even a failure if you pull the plug? Are launches right for you and your business? Taking control of our relationship with failure and what we make it meanResources mentioned in this episode:Trauma & Entrepreneurship: Nicole Lewis-Keeber    https://bit.ly/3JtOFnjConsultant Claudia Schalkx:  https://bit.ly/bridge2moreThe Four Tendencies: https://bit.ly/3BS1yW4Identifying Your Core Values:  https://bit.ly/3P2lQPUSo, maybe you haven't had a failed launch, but you may have habits in your business that cost you income, profit, and success.  I created a quiz with 6 different behaviors I often see in female solopreneurs that hold them back.  I invite you to take the quiz, and get specific feedback, guidance, and practical advice about your particular challenge and more importantly, steps you can take to fix it.   Click on this link to take the quiz: What’s Holding You Back?   https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizJust “browsing”? Join The Driven Woman Facebook GroupThe place to be for entrepreneurial women who are ready to go from driven and distracted to focused, fired up, and flame retardant  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman) Hate Facebook?  Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/  or Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diannwingertcoaching/So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  Please join us next week for another amazing guest interview with Scarlett De Bease, a personal stylist and image consultant for female solopreneurs.  In the meantime, stay driven!  

I recently connected with leadership coach and consultant, Joanne Zuk, and liked her immediately.  We both came to solopreneurship after long and successful careers in another sector.  Joanne was in public service and I worked in nonprofits. In her current role, Joanne is on a mission to help female solopreneurs overcome their fears of negotiation so they can go after and get what they deserve and desire. Joanne is a leadership coach and consultant, a women's negotiation advisor, course creator, and speaker who helps women around the world ditch their discomfort around negotiation, and leverage strategies that actually work for women.  In this lively convo, we talk about the 5 blindspots that cause women to settle for less than they want in negotiations, and how to get comfortable going from the minimum level to the dignified level to the generous level.  We talk about feminine conditioning, why negotiating like a man just won’t work for most women, and how we can use empathy to create better outcomes for both sides, instead of allowing empathy to be used against us.   Mentioned in this episode:  Book - The Confidence Code by Shipman & Kay Want to connect with Joanne Zuk?Website: www.joannezuk.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanne-zuk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joanne.zuk/ The Secrets of Fearless Negotiation Masterclass https://joanne-zuk.mykajabi.com/masterclass Joanne Zuk and I both work with high-achieving women and are working to help them close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Joanne helps women negotiate more effectively and with confidence and I help them eliminate the beliefs and behaviors that hold them back. Take this quiz and get your personalized result, plus some actionable tips to start changing it! What’s Holding You Back?https://bit.ly/whyb-quiz The first cohort of The Boss Up Breakthrough has begun, so it’s too late to join for 2022.  We will be offering this small group program again in 2023, so stay tuned.   In the meantime, Diann does work with a small number of clients one-to-one, so if you don’t want to wait, here is how to grab a spot on the calendar for a free consultation:  https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultationInstagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramBefore you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://bit.ly/TDWE-podchaserDon’t forget to join us next week when I return with another juicy solo episode.  If you haven’t already, please follow/subscribe to The Driven Woman Podcast so you won’t miss a single thing! 

Have you ever heard the term “boss up?”  I started using it with my one-to-one coaching clients about a year ago, at times when they needed and wanted to change their mindset and take new actions.  Usually, this happened because they had plateaued, believed they were stagnating, or just felt stuck and were ready to do whatever it took to move beyond it.  I had been trying to decide on a name for the signature framework I spent months creating (with the help of a consultant I’ve mentioned on this podcast, Claudia Schalkx.)  I looked up the term “boss up” and recognized instantly that it was the perfect name for my framework.  Here’s the Urban Dictionary definition of boss up:  “take ownership of one's life, by directing the full capacity of time, resources, and attention toward a specific direction, goal, or intent. In other words: step up, raise your standard, up your game, and take responsibility for the direction of your life and the full maturity of your dreams.”  Just substitute business for life and you will see what this program is all about. We opened the doors for sign-ups for the very first cohort of Boss Up Breakthrough yesterday and I wanted to let you know who it’s for, how to know if you are ready, and invite you to join us.  How we set ourselves up for problems in business:Thinking of yourself as a visionary in need of an implementor Business partnerships that are not real partnerships Letting our clients determine our offers, becoming a “beck & call girl”The risk of becoming a “Silly Putty Person” by following the herd Starting a business to avoid having a boss vs wanting to be the bossFocusing on passion & purpose, while forgetting about profit  When it is time to get help to boss up:We have no clue what’s actually working and what isn’t We bought into the 6 or 7-figure propaganda instead of right-sizing our bizOur boundaries are lacking, weak, or not being honored Our values are in conflict with our business model We prioritize avoiding discomfort & end up not geting what we want/need  Not ready for group coaching (but you do want to get unstuck? I created a quiz with 6 different behaviors I often see in female solopreneurs that limit their income, profit, and success.  Take the quiz, and get specific feedback, guidance, and practical advice about your particular challenge and more importantly, steps you can take to fix it.    Click on this link to take the quiz: What’s Holding You Back?   https://bit.ly/whyb-quiz Hate Facebook?  Let’s connect on Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-InstagramSo, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  Please join us next week for another amazing guest interview In the meantime, stay driven!  

I recently connected with today’s guest through our common belief that high-achieving women are most fulfilled when they are working in alignment with their core values, setting boundaries that honor them, and mentoring other women to do the same. Laura has a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology and is a college professor, author, podcaster, advocate, and coach.  She is also a wife and mom to two young sons.  Laura’s company, The Catch Group,  was founded on the principle of living a life guided by your values. They believe that leaders should bring their authentic leadership to the workplace to build inclusive teams and that leaders should be able to have big career goals AND career fulfillment. Laura believes that top leadership at companies should be diverse and that women, people of color, and LGBTQ+ leaders need to hold more top jobs at companies. We hold very similar beliefs on women and ambition,  values, boundaries, resilience, organizational dynamics, workplace culture, diversity, and change.  Here is what you’ll learn in today’s episode: Laura’s 3 Step Values First FrameworkTie the goal to one or more of your values Set up a system so it becomes repeatableCelebrate consistency Laura’s personal and professional values and how they show up in her companyJet setting and boundary setting (think introverts at a conference) Red flags and traps when experiencing conflict at work Why she named her business The Catch Group and why women in leadership need their catch crew Want more of Laura Eigel? Free workbook: https://thecatchgroup.com/contact/Book: https://amzn.to/38gmJERPodcast: You Belong in the C-Suite: https://thecatchgroup.com/podcast/Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-catch-group/Laura Eigel and I both work with high-achieving women and one of the common themes is that in spite of our effort, there is often a gap between where we are and where we want to be.   Does this apply to you and do you know the cause?  Take this quiz and get your personalized result, and what to do about it! What’s Holding You Back?https://bit.ly/whyb-quiz Instagram: https://bit.ly/DWC-Instagram Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://bit.ly/TDWE-podchaserDon’t forget to join us next week for Episode #123 when I return with another juicy solo episode.  If you haven’t already, please follow/subscribe to The Driven Woman Podcast so you won’t miss a single thing! 

Human beings have a need to understand themselves and others.  We label behavior and decide what is normal and what is not.  Our culture is particularly fond of pathologizing behavior and especially the behavior of women.  The way we speak to and about ourselves matters a lot.  We have all literally learned to think of ourselves in a certain way from an early age and it is a lot harder to change those beliefs than it is to question them before they stick. We have all used labels to refer to ourselves and others in ways that are harmful, inaccurate, and lasting.  Referring to ourselves as having imposter syndrome may be spot on, or not.  When we lack the confidence to start a business, ask to be paid for our services, are afraid to raise our rates, set boundaries with clients, or hold our team members to a higher standard, is it imposter syndrome, or could it be something else?  Just because you don’t feel comfortable introducing yourself as a business owner at a virtual mixer, doesn’t mean imposter syndrome is the reason. Your challenges may be a mindset issue, but they might just as well be an issue of experience or skill. I unpack the cure for imposter syndrome by helping you figure out that imposter syndrome is not what is going on with you, so you can do something about what is.  Imposter syndrome is the description of a very specific kind of problem that occurs among high-achieving women who attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than to competency, effort, and determination.  It should not be used as a ‘catchall” phrase for every time any of us is scared, unprepared, or avoids anything uncomfortable in business.  Sometimes we need to do something different not just think something different.  Resource mentioned in this episode: My buddy, non-sleazy sales specialist, Annie P Ruggles Website:  https://www.anniepruggles.com/Podcast:  https://www.podpage.com/too-legitimate-to-quit/Light Reading:  https://www.anniepruggles.com/salesbaggageI warned you.  She is brilliant.  You might just fall in love with sales because of Annie.  And you will definitely fall in love with Annie! So, maybe you figured out you really don’t have Imposter Syndrome. Hooray! But wait, you still aren’t crushing your goals. No worries. I created a quiz with 6 different behaviors I often see in female solopreneurs that limit their income, profit, and success.  Take the quiz, and get specific feedback, guidance, and practical advice about your particular challenge and more importantly, steps you can take to fix it.   Click on this link to take the quiz: What’s Holding You Back?   https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizDid you hear the news?  I am launching my brand new group program this fall, The Boss Up Breakthrough, based on my proven framework for next-level success for female solopreneurs.  This program is one part coaching, one part mastermind,  one part accountability circle, and a whole lotta fun getting past whatever is holding us back, with a small group of other baddies. Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist 

I love helping female solopreneurs find their genius, so they can create a satisfying and sustainable business doing what they do best. Today’s guest is client Meredith Ferguson, who decided to work with me because she had two fledging businesses and neither of them was profitable.  She had a lot of natural talent but no systems and no boundaries.  She wanted a legitimate business but was literally giving her work away and because she wasn’t taking herself seriously as a business owner, no one else did either. We worked together for several months in my 1:1 coaching program, and one of the first things we did was to set her Pilates business on auto-pilot so she would focus on her website design business.  Then, it was time to get busy creating boundaries, eliminating bartering, and being a beck-and-call-girl for everyone who needed help with their website but wasn’t paying for it.  Getting rid of the “freeples” (people who want what you’ve got and expect to get it for nothing) and learning to value her time and skill were some of Meredith’s biggest Boss Up moves during our work together.  Highlights of this convo:Dealing with imposter syndrome because you don’t have “credentials”Discovering her superpower and seeing its value in the eyes of others Owning up to her part in being taken advantage of by others Networking to market your services when you have social anxiety Giving yourself grace when things interrupt your business momentum Mic Drop Moment:  “I always heard that you teach people how to treat you but I didn’t get it until now.  If you don’t communicate your boundaries, you can’t expect people to know what they are.”  Meredith Ferguson Want your website to do more for your business than just sit there? Here’s how to connect with Meredith Ferguson:Website:  https://www.chessiemarketing.com/Free Website review: https://bit.ly/3zZu0mLMention promo code DRIVEN and get 25% off all website services through 2022IG https://www.instagram.com/chessiemarketing/FB https://www.facebook.com/chessiemarketing/Meredith knew she had problems with distractability before hiring me but most of us just know we aren’t making progress without being clear about why. There are six common struggles that may be holding you back. Take my quiz and find out which one is yours, and what to do about it! What’s Holding You Back?https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizBoss Up Breakthrough, my small group coaching program is coming soon! Want to add yourself to the waitlist to find out more?  There is no obligation, but if you want to get more information, you gotta be on the list, so click here: Group Coaching Waitlist The Driven Woman Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdiannwingert/ Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast, I’d love to read it on a future episode!    Apple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485

If you are like most of us, you jumped into your online business with nothing more than the intense desire to BYOB ( Be Your Own Boss, that is…) and put your faith in the celebrity coaches and online gurus to show you the way.  Now you are a few years into it, working too many hours,  making too little money, and feeling super stressed about how to get anything else done in the rest of your life.  It’s time to do a reality check, climb out from under our sunk cost and shame and forgive ourselves, so we can get busy right-sizing our business. None of those gurus is living your life, paying your bills, or coping with your problems so you are the expert on how your business should actually look and how to make it fit your life, instead of taking over your life.  You can right-size your business, no matter how long you have been in it, by asking yourself some important questions and making the changes that align with your honest answers.  Things to Consider to Right-Size Your Business:How many hours a week can you devote to your business?How soon do you need revenue & profit to keep your boat afloat? What are your financial needs and cash flow comfort zone? What is your end game for this business? What level of intimacy & contact do you want with your clients?How much time (or money) can you devote to marketing? What is your capacity to sustain all this without burning out (energy, bandwidth)?There is no one “right-size” business for everybody because each of us has a different life, responsibilities, challenges, and priorities.  Your business can change as your stage of life and opportunities change, so don’t shoehorn yourself into anyone else’s version of a dream business.  You don’t “have to” do anything unless it’s right and sustainable for you.  Did you recognize yourself in any of the ways I talked about in this episode? So many of my clients knew they were struggling and suspected they were holding themselves back in their business when they hired me, and one of the first things we did was to assess their mindset and habits.  If you don’t know what isn’t working, you won’t know what to change, right?  I created a quiz with 6 different behaviors I often see in female solopreneurs that limit their income, profit, and success.  Once you take the quiz, you will receive specific feedback, guidance, and practical advice about your particular challenge and more importantly, steps you can take to fix it.   Click on this link to take the quiz: What’s Holding You Back?   https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizAs you heard in today’s episode, it’s finally happening!  (cue Lizzo’s  “It’s About Damn Time”) I am launching my brand new program this fall, The Boss Up Breakthrough, based on my proven framework for next-level success for female solopreneurs. This program is one part coaching, one part mastermind,  one part accountability circle, and a whole lotta fun getting past whatever is holding us back, with a small group of other baddies.  It is for committed bosses who are not where they want to be and are ready to break through their obstacles and boss up in their business. Click here to be notified of all the details: Group Coaching Waitlist  So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  Please join us next week for another amazing Client Success Story episode with Meredith Ferguson, a brilliant website designer.  Meredith and I will be talking about marketing your genius and how to launch your creative business even if you are scared shitless, feel like a fraud, and have no boundaries. In the meantime, stay driv

I am pretty sure I am not the only one who has noticed the dramatic increase in the number of coaches who refer to themselves as ‘trauma-focused”, ‘trauma-aware” or “trauma-conscious.”  There is no question that there is a tremendous need. Half of all women have experienced trauma at some time in their lives and there is a significant percentage of traumatized people who become entrepreneurs.  Because I work with female entrepreneurs, I wanted to address this issue on the podcast, and talk with someone who is a legitimate expert on the intersection of trauma and entrepreneurship, so I invited Nicole Lewis-Keeber back as my first return guest. Nicole has spent years studying, training, and developing her expertise in this area as a licensed psychotherapist, coach, facilitator, speaker, trainer, and published author. She created her signature program “Do No Harm” because simply having a personal history of trauma and the desire to help others does not qualify anyone as “trauma-conscious.” This convo may be triggering to some, but I hope will listen all the way to the end of the episode.  This subject is far too important to not address, even if it might ruffle some feathers.  Nicole and I discuss:The definition of traumaWhy trauma has become trendy What Nicole noticed in biographies about both Will Smith & Prince Therapy, coaching, trauma & entrepreneurship Also mentioned in this interview:ACES Scale  https://bit.ly/3Qw6Vi9Bruce Perry's book: What Happened to You?Mic Drop Moments:“What works for you works for you.”  (not necessarily someone else…)  Nicole Lewis KeeberNicole’s first interview with me: https://apple.co/3OOboeMIf you’d like to connect with Nicole, here are all the details: Do No Harm Program: https://nicole.lewis-keeber.com/Trauma & Entrepreneurship Assessment: https://nicole.lewis-keeber.com/self-assessment/?preview=true“Love Your Business” Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B092CBWWX9?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420Love your business course: https://www.loveyourbusinessschool.com/p/love-your-business-self-paced/?preview=logged_outLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolelewiskeeber/If trauma is the reason you are struggling in your entrepreneurial journey, please reach out to Nicole.  If your challenge is more likely to be your mindset, take my quiz and see which of the six common struggles may be holding you back and what to do about it! What’s Holding You Back?https://bit.ly/obstaclesquiz (click on the link) Thinking about working with me? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you. Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching (click on the link) Want to add yourself to the waitlist for our fall group coaching program?  There is no obligation, but if you want to get more information, you need to be on the list, so click here: Gr

If you have been a regular listener, you know that I am obsessed with helping female solopreneurs gain confidence and courage so they can pursue and achieve their goals and dreams.  One of the most common scenarios I encounter with my business strategy and coaching clients the fear of hearing the word “no.  I have been interviewed on the topic of entrepreneurship and rejection sensitivity on several other podcasts, so I know this is a pretty widespread struggle. There are a number of ways we unconsciously resist hearing no that actually limit our income, profit, and success in business.  Behaviors such as never raising our prices, asking a team member to learn something new, and avoiding creating new offers are a few.   Many of us go so far out of our way to avoid being rejected that we basically reject the chance of being found, hired, and paid.  Or, we just don’t ask for the sale, avoid using a Call to Action in our marketing, and “forget” to follow up with prospects.  With everything I am learning about confidence, failure, and resiliency, I have come to the conclusion that getting better at dealing with “no” is a skill that all of us need to get better at.  Think of it this way: we either need to learn how to deal more effectively with “no” or get used to settling for less than we truly want.  The main issue is what we make it mean when we hear no, especially for those who are shy, introverted, highly creative, socially anxious, and who experience rejection sensitivity, but the good news is that getting better at hearing no is a skill that anyone can learn.  I share several strategies that have been helpful to my clients and also to myself, including one I adapted from my experiences as a psychotherapist, including:Upping the ante on your “no” Role-playing with your biz bestieQuestioning the “no” Asking for things you don’t really want/need Also mentioned in this episode: “Go for No” by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz  https://amzn.to/3vjEtaZDid you recognize yourself in any of the ways I talked about in this episode? So many of my clients knew they were struggling and suspected they were holding themselves back in their business when they hired me, and one of the first things we did was to assess their mindset and habits.  If you don’t know what isn’t working, you won’t know what to change, right?  I created a quiz with 6 different behaviors I often see in female solopreneurs that limit their income, profit, and success.  Once you take the quiz, you will receive specific feedback, guidance, and practical advice about your particular challenge and more importantly, steps you can take to fix it.   Click on this link to take the quiz: What’s Holding You Back?   https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizWith 20+ years of experience as a psychotherapist and 7+ years as a coach, I rarely meet a solopreneur who wouldn’t benefit from some expert guidance. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my signature 12-week 1:1 coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/So, that’s all for now, Driven Woman!  Please join us next week for an amazing guest interview with Nicole Lewis Keeber, my first-ever repeat guest. Nicole and I will be talking about what entrepreneurs need to know about trauma and why it seems like everyone on the internet is suddenly claiming to be a trauma specialist.  In the meantime, stay driven! 

Just because you work for yourself, doesn’t mean you need to work by yourself.  Hiring a virtual assistant can be one of the best investments in your solopreneur business because you simply can’t do everything on your own as efficiently and profitably as you can with the right kind of help.  I can say without reservation that hiring a VA changed my business and I should have done it sooner.  Today’s guest, Belinda Sandor,  is a business workflow and productivity expert with 25 years of experience, and the founder of RocketGirl Solutions. After years of being hired by small businesses on a contract basis to act as their part-time “business manager,” she turned her experience into founding The VA Connection, a professional online community with the goal of educating and connecting independent virtual assistants around the world.  Belinda is also a sought-after speaker and has been quoted in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Reader’s Digest, and other national and local media. Our conversation today is about how to partner with your VA so that they can accelerate your business growth and profit.   Want to connect with Belinda Sandor?  Let me count the ways! RocketGirl Solutions: https://rocketgirlsolutions.com/The VA Connection: https://www.thevaconnection.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/belindawasser/Want Belinda’s help to hire your very own VA? https://thevaconnection.mykajabi.com/hire A virtual assistant can be a tremendous asset in your business, but just having one isn’t going to solve every problem, especially if those challenges are related to your business mindset.  Mindset tends to be overlooked by many solopreneurs who don’t really understand why they are stuck at a certain level of business growth or income.  I created this quiz to help you figure out the underlying reason you feel stuck.  Take the quiz and get your personalized result, as well as the first steps for what to do about it!    What’s Holding You Back?    https://bit.ly/obstaclesquizIs Your Business Slower in the Summer? If you need the focused attention on your business & life that is only available through 1:1 coaching, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her 12-week private coaching program is right for you.  Summer is a slower time for many businesses, so why not spent this summer investing in yourself? Free Consultation for 1:1 Coaching Want to add yourself to the waitlist for our next round of coaching groups?  There is no obligation, but if you want to get more information, you need to be on the list, so click here:    Group Coaching Waitlist Before you bounce, don’t forget to leave a review of The Driven Woman Podcast.  It really does help other Driven Women find the showApple: https://apple.co/2BZDFzcAndroid: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-driven-woman-1194485Don’t forget to join us next week for Episode #117 when I return with a solo episode called “From Chasing Clients to In Demand”. Join me next Tuesday, August 2nd when it drops!