PsycHacks

The key to doing something you fear is cultivating a larger fear of not doing it. In this episode, I'll discuss this principle using an anecdote from my personal life about overcoming my approach anxiety. By remembering how badly I would feel after avoiding my goal, I was finally able to move forward in spite of my fear. This is a tactic that is widely generalizable.

Explore the concept of discipline as a duty, not influenced by emotions, likened to the commitment of a postal worker, emphasizing surrendering to structure as a contractual obligation for effective discipline.

I speak to many stressed-out, burned-out folks in my clinical practice. And a common refrain from them all is that they're "too busy to rest." Supporting this statement is an underlying proposition that rest is a waste of time. However, this is a false and ineffective belief. Rather than view rest as "unproductive," I would like you to consider that it is an essential component of long-term success. I discuss more in this episode.

Nowadays, it's very common for people to seek after passion in their work. Its absence is considered problematic and troubling. However, the origin of this word reveals the absurdity of this search: "passion" means "suffering." Consequently, those who seek after passion are not only inadvertently chasing after pain, but they are subject to discarding "passion-less" opportunities for stability and prosperity, as well. I'll discuss further in this episode.

Exploring the importance of career trajectory and questioning if you aspire to have your boss's job. What factors should be considered before investing years towards a goal and how to assess if higher positions align with personal values and aspirations.

As we move through life, it's almost inevitable that someone will become angry or upset with us in response to our behavior. However, hurt feels are not -- in and of themselves -- proof of transgression. If your own examination indicates that the behavior in question does not conflict with your moral or ethical beliefs, do not apologize. This can be taken as a confession of guilt and justify additional punishments from the aggrieved party.

Delving into the concept that offense is taken, not given, the podcast explores individual agency in feeling offended. It discusses the power of controlling reactions to provocative situations, highlighting the role of judgment and complicity in perceiving offense.

The podcast delves into the dynamics of compromise and sacrifice in relationships, emphasizing how sacrifice can lead to personal growth and a healthier dynamic without the expectation of reciprocity

People want what other people want. This is because the interest of others generally serves as a proxy validation of the variable under study. And to the extent that validation is delegated across a diverse and independent network, this is actually a pretty reliable heuristic. In this episode, I'll discuss an anecdote on the topic from my personal experience and explain its relevance in professional negotiations.