PsycHacks

Explore the benefits of internally imposed structures over external ones, align values with goals, and treat commitments seriously for meaning and goal-directed activity.

When we're faced with an important decision, it's a good idea to perform due diligence: to collect information relevant to the situation and to forecast probable outcomes. However, the results of this analysis alone are never sufficient to produce the actual decision. This is because decision is an act of the will, and more closely aligned with emotion than with reason. The highest to which the rational mind can attain is the calculation of odds ratios associated with certain outcomes given specific assumptions. Understanding the limits of rational thought will help improve your decision-making process.

Other people have what we want, but may not give it to us. In this way, other people are both an opportunity to be seized and a problem to be solved. So what is the most effective way of dealing with them? Karen Horney's "Three Trends" model provides us with an excellent lens through which to view potential paths forward. According to her theory, we can either move toward others, move against others, or move away from others. In this episode, I'll briefly discuss each of these interpersonal strategies.

Explore the idea of indulging in lapses without guilt, finding pleasure in cheating behaviors, and considering the consequences of temporary satisfaction in the long run.

In this episode, the podcast delves into the power of assuming victory in high-stakes situations. By cultivating the belief that you've already won, you can exude confidence and calmness, increasing your chances of success in difficult conversations and negotiations.

Though I speak with many successful and accomplished people, I often hear from them that they were happiest back when they were hungry and striving. This is a dirty little secret about people: they're generally more satisfied climbing a mountain than perched on its summit. This is the "gift of becoming" -- and it's the quickest route to increasing your happiness and satisfaction.

Learn how trying to change the weather is futile and expensive, focus on being a skillful sailor instead. Explore navigating emotions using the sailor metaphor for emotional control.

Many of the issues folks struggle with today have their origins in the distant past in their families of origin. At that time, children unconsciously adopted coping strategies and defense mechanisms in order to face their circumstances, most of which were outside of their control. Their suffering was generally not their fault. However, now that these same folks are grown up, it is their responsibility to address. Why? Because they are the only ones with the ability to respond to the wounding.

The aperture through which we view a problem is very important. If it's too large, we are subject to becoming overwhelmed, which frustrates constructive action. Rather than attempt to plan out all of the steps to a goal that can take months or years to achieve, focus on the making the next right move. What can you do today to move the ball further down the field? By limiting yourself to what is immediately available, you will be more likely to take action, which will accelerate progress toward your goal.

The critical inner voice is a phenomenon that most of us experience from time to time; however, it can be incessantly cruel in the case of depressives. The critical inner voice is generally understood to be an introject of a parent's perceived negative attitudes toward the child. With this in mind, the first step toward mitigating the effect of this voice is to make it ego-alien, to consider it as something that's in you, but not of you.