Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Today, I chat with depressed Heavy Diesel Mechanic and Male Stripper turned Agency Owner, Gym owner and Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Josh Hardy. Josh lived a life making decisions ruled by fear of not being enough, and self pity from not meeting high standards. He quit his job to pursue his passion in health & fitness, hand built his gym from scratch and is still on a huge journey of personal growth to become a better human, role model and leader. Josh and I recently connected again at a men's group after 15 years of lost contact. We used to play soccer together when we were kids. Josh offers a fascinating peek behind the curtin into the stripping industry, from the hen's nights and dance shows to the pressure to perform to the insecurities. Key Points:  - Josh's beginnings in Stripping  - Reconciling Stripping with a day job  - Being open, honest and sure of yourself  - Fitting in in male dominated spaces  - Fantasy and the popularity of Strippers  - The emphasising of physical appearance  - Insecurities in the industry  - Performance anxiety  Relevant Links:  Josh's Instagram - @thejoshuahardy  Josh's Instagram - @smacademyaus  Josh's Website - www.smacademy.com.au

In this episode I chat with Harris O’Malley, a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. He and his work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, NeilStrauss.com, The Good Man Project, MTV’s Guy Code, The Harvard Business Journal, and many others. Key Points: - Harris' journey from pick up artist to dating coach  - Unlearning pick up artistry bullshit  - The positive sides of the pick up artist community  - Real dating advice for men  - Having a healthy casual sex life  - Models of masculinity  - More practical advice Relevant Links:  - Harris' Twitter: @DrNerdLove  - Harris' Instagram: @DrNerdLove  - Harris' Facebook: facebook.com/groups/DrNerdLove

In episode 8, I chat with wellness wizard Ryan McKenna. He embodies ancient knowledge and wisdom, in unison with modernized teachings and techniques to create alchemic medicine to nourish the mind, body and soul. Fusing together elements of Celtic shamanism, Druidism, Astrology and herbalism to create optimized transformative awakening journeys for high dimensional existence. Ryan specializes in detoxification and regeneration of the physical organs through sacred healing modalities, sacred sexuality, nutritional balancing, fasting, qigong and elemental meditational journeys through ceremonial sound and music therapy. Bringing the body forward into balance and harmony, on a multidimensional level, by clearing stagnation and blockages, releasing toxic belief systems, and creating space within ones vessel allow new higher frequencies to enter and prepare the soul to ascend into higher realms of consciousness to embody new earth golden age frequencies. Key Points: - Ryan's initiation into sacred sexuality teachings - What does sacred sexuality look like? - Tantra and Celtic Paganism - The Divine Masculine and Feminine - Western esotericism - Masculine energy and how to cultivate it - Practical tips for sacred sex Relevant links: Ryan's Instagram - @theshamanicleprechaun Ryan's Website - sacredscotlandtour.com Cam's Instagram - @thecamfraser

Episode 7 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast. This is a very special and vulnerable conversation with Amos, also known as Mosman or Mos, for short. He is a loving partner as well as an adventurous father who is on a journey of self love and self healing. His passion is to connect with people. Mos is working in construction and studying to be a personal trainer. In this conversation, Mos shares a little chunk of his story about sexual trauma, vulnerability, masculinity and intimacy. He feels it is a subject that gets left in the dark and that there’s so much shame around it. Because of his journey of self development, Mos felt that it was right to share his story. He also wants you to remember you are not alone. Key Points: - An introduction to Mos - Maori culture and masculinity - Mos share's his story about sexual abuse - Doing the work and overcoming trauma - Being vulnerable with a partner - Friendships with men and women - Working through shame and having better sex Relevant links: Mos' Instagram - @mos_ptfit Cam's Instagram - @thecamfraser

In episode 6 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Herbal Alchemist, Kitchen Wizard, Sex Magician, Mescalero and traveller on the Poison Path, Joel Camp. Joel is a student of the natural world, its medicines, its magick and its mysteries. I met him several years ago when he was dishing up incredible plant-based food at some of Perth's best restaurants and cafes. He is a good friend of mine and an absolute wizard when it comes to plant medicine. We talked about his journey overcoming sexual function issues with the use of herbs and adaptogens as well as discussed ways in which you can incorporate aphrodisiacs into your sex life. This is an episode about cultivating relationships with natural medicines. Key Points: - Joel's journey overcoming sexual function issues using natural remedies - Joel's recommendations for natural sexual enhancers - Things to be aware of when working with plant medicine - Aphrodisiacs and their qualities - How to integrate aphrodisiacs into your sex life - The erotic nature of food - Practical advice for exploring this area of your sexuality Relevant links: Joel's Instagram: @the_earth.blessings

In episode 5 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Will Blunderfield. He has been teaching yoga throughout Canada, the US and Asia for the last 11 years. He has a degree in Musical Theater from the American Musical & Dramatic Academy of New York (AMDA) as well as a degree in psychology from UBC with a minor in Food, Nutrition & Health. He recently completed a year long kundalini yoga teacher training program in Vancouver and India, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Facilitator training (program from University of Massachusetts Medical School), and was grateful to study in 2020 with Sexual Kung Fu Taoist Grandmaster himself, Mantak Chia. He performs original Kirtan/Sacred Song in his classes, retreats and workshops and his music is released through Nettwerk Records/Sony. His original music has reached number one on the iTunes world music charts multiple times. This was a great chat about how using sound, yoga, and nudity can heal men's sexual insecurities. Key Points: - Will's journey through the music industry - How Will came to teach naked men's yoga - The use of sound to explore and express sexuality - Sexual repression by the dominator system - Circumcision, penis size and body acceptance - The brain and balls connection - Practical tips for male sexual health Relevant links: Instagram - www.intstagram.com/willblunderfield Only Fans - www.onlyfans.com/willblunderfield Podcast - Urban Yogi Podcast Cam's Instagram: www.instagram.com/thecamfraser

In this episode I had a great chat with a very good friend of mine, Tully O'Connor. Tully works as a transformational coach and facilitator. Working primarily with men, Tully has a passion for helping people expand their personal leadership and develop connected, fulfilling relationships. Known for his down-to-earth approach, Tully speaks about complex intimate issues with ease, clarity and humour. His unique ability to hold a deeply present and safe space allows him to facilitate powerful and meaningful transformation in both a 1-1 and group setting. The thing he’s most proud of is his relationship with his wife Kaitlin and being a father to their son. We spoke about leadership, relationships, vulnerability and how what leadership means in a sexual context. Key points: - Tully's story about his career - Framework for a healthy relationship - How to show up in a relationship - Tully's definition of presence - Sexual leadership - Strategies for communication in a relationship - Being aware of the state you're in Relevant links: Instagram: @tullyoconnor Website: www.tullyoconnor.co Podcast: Conscious Locker Room podcast

On episode three, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.  Key points: - Kai's journey and experiencing transitioning - Alternative models of masculinity - The importance of exposing yourself to diversity - Pleasure and phallocentrism - Sexual scripts and gender roles - Body image as a sexual concern for young men - Sex education and pornography - The future of sex education Relevant Links: Website: www.kaischweizer.com

This was a super informative chat with engineer, author, film maker and life-long student of all things Tantra, Nicolas Spadaccini. He dropped a lot of practical knowledge about male bodies and multiple orgasms. Nic has a refreshingly open way of talking about the not so talked about parts of our sexual bodies. In 2016, he started writing the soon to be released book entitled, "Penises & Vaginas - A Users Manual." It's a hand guide to the basics about our sexual bodies that are often overlooked in our modern world. I really resonate with Nic's approach to sexuality work and always gain valuable insights whenever I chat with him.  Key Points: - Nic's journey becoming a multi-orgasmic man - The role of sex for human survival - Caveman sex and porn - Mystical sex and dogma - Sweet spot sex - The Coolidge Effect - What our sexual body is capable of - Separating ejaculation from orgasm - Three step process to non-ejaculatory orgasms - Preparation, training and game day - Practical advice for male bodies Relevant links: Website - www.cam-fraser.com Instagram - @thecamfraser