Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Today I had the pleasure of talking with Mental Health Practitioner, Tobias Penno, Bach. Sci. Engineering, Masters of Social Work (Hons; Research Prize Faculty of Health & Medical Science UWA) Tobias is an Emotional Health Practitioner & Social Worker with a background in Government Child Protection and Counselling. After years of professionally managing extreme child, family and relationship stress, Tobias has found his passion in healing Emotional Pain & Trauma through the body. Tobias currently runs a clinical practice, Emotional Healthcare, where he combines somatic techniques with narrative therapy, as well as working with people to prepare and integrate psychedelic experiences. Tobias is a researcher at the University of Western Australia, with an award-winning dissertation titled How Ayahuasca Offers Psychosocial Wellbeing, and is currently working on a PhD researching the links between attachment trauma, the body, and best-practice in psychedelic integration therapy. We spoke about the similarities between the sexuality and psychedelic industries and communities, from the challenges to the successes.  Key Points: - Tobias shares a bit of his story - Therapeutic vs Recreational use of drugs - What it's like to have sex on psychedelics - Psychedelic vs Antidepressant model of therapy - Integration and aftercare for peak experiences - Supporting altered states of consciousness - The ACE model of intervention - Fast food analogy of sex and drugs - MDMA assisted psychotherapy - Using ecstasy for ecstatic self-pleasure Relevant Links: Tobias' website: https://www.emotionalhealthcare.com.au/

On episode 20 of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Josh Fairleigh. Josh grew up on the east coast of Australia, surfing, skating, boxing, fishing, loving all the outdoor active lifestyle this environment allows. School was very low on the list; this resulted in a early school drop out and the introduction of his first job in the surfboard industry. Surfing being Josh’s life passion; he shaped custom surfboards for about 15 years until his Saturn return when he began to see the environmental impact of the industry and pictured his own health in another 15 years. This was the time when Josh became very interested in health and natural medicines. After an awakening during a yoga course in Thailand with some influential teachers Josh began studying Ayurveda, Yoga, Reiki, Pranic Healing and Shamanic Crystal work and finally found the passion for academic education that he could not find in the earlier school years. Josh now teaches Breath workshops and does energy and Shamanic Healing’s. Josh became interested in Feng Shui as he spent many years traveling the world and Australia, through this travelling from town to town, country to country he was aware of his own moods, perception and reality changing; which made him curious as to how much our environment has an effect on our reality, from the weather, the land forms, water quality, different beliefs, colours, shapes and the spiritual energy. Josh has studied Feng Shui and Environmental studies with the Australian College of Environmental Studies. He now emphasises Breathwork as a tool to facilitate spiritual, mental, physical and emotional health. This approach and training touches all of these aspects of life; from physical fitness, to harmonising our internal and external energy bodies. We spoke about Josh's Lyme Disease and how it has affected his relationship with himself, his wife and his daughter, particularly with regards to how he perceives his masculinity. We also spoke about conscious conception and what men can do to contribute to the conceiving process. Key Points: - Josh story - Contracting Lyme Disease - Trusting teachers and cultivating discernment - Physical health and relationships - Shifting perceptions about masculinity - Can you look yourself in the eye? - Unpacking conscious conception - A man's role in the conceiving process - Bringing consciousness into the conceiving process Relevant Links: Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser Cam's website: www.cam-fraser.com  

On today's episode I chat with a dear brother of mine, Tim Morrison. He is a leading Mens work facilitator and transformational coach, he is also a multi instrumentalist and gifted shamanic, somatic bodyworker who uses sacred sound and breath to create deep transformational spaces Tim guides people on the path of personal transformation. He initiates a deep inner journey to walk people home to themselves, to connect back to the earth, back to who they truly are so they can live and lead from their heart. His passion is to walk through the shadows of deep change. Tim is building a transformational movement where everyone is guided to consciously lead within their own life, so they can live a life of purpose and fulfilment in their own genius. Tim was initiated onto the shamanic path from spirit and plant medicines, along with having trained in breath work, jungle medicine with the Katukina tribe of Brazil and worked with the Shipibo and Mestiso lineage in Peru. His focus now is on expanding consciousness and deepening human connection. We talk about the intersection of men's work and sexuality as well as the transmission of sexuality teachings in the Tantra community. Key Points: - Tim's journey from fighter to warrior - Being that creepy, seedy, sexual guy - Parental wounding and sex - Men teaching men about sex - Tantric Gurus and sexual abuse - Ethical standards in sacred sexuality work - Neediness, weakness and sex - Holding space for the erotic feminine - The difference between conflict and challenge Relevant links: Tim's Instagram: @timmorrison__ Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser

Welcome back to the #MenSexPleasure podcast, this is episode 17. Today, I'm chatting with Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. For forty years, Joseph has traveled the world teaching erotic bodywork. In 1984, he founded the Body Electric School in Oakland, California, where he trained thousands of professional massage therapists, erotic bodyworkers and somatic educators. In 2003, Joseph founded the new legal profession of Sexological Bodywork™. Joseph Kramer teaches in Sexological Bodywork trainings in California, Europe, Canada, Brazil and Australia and through his educational websites:  OrgasmicYoga.com, EroticMassage.com, EroticIntegration.com and YogaofSex.com. Joseph and I discuss his practice of Porn Yoga, now called Erotic Integration. I've spoken on many other podcasts about my opinion that porn can be used intentionally as a tool to aid our arousal. This point of view comes directly from Joseph and the work that he does. We speak about how to watch porn healthily.   Key Points:  - Joseph shares a snippet of his story  - How porn is being used  - The "porn high"  - Standing up is a leverage practice  - Hands free masturbating  - "Balloon" masturbation vs erotic flow state  - Connecting with your body  - Integrating your heightened arousal  - Intentional ejaculation  - Practical advice for healthy porn watching  Relevant links:  Joseph's Websites:   - OrgasmicYoga.com  - EroticMassage.com  - HealthyPornWatching.com - YogaofSex.com Cam's Website: www.cam-fraser.com  Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser

On the first episode of season 2 (episode 16 overall) of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Juliana, the “girl next door” (with a PhD). Dr. Juliana is always up for a down and dirty conversation about sexuality and intimacy. As a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bonafide (S)expert, Dr. Juliana has spent decades counseling and supporting thousands of individuals on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency. Having traversed her own journey through love, loss, motherhood, and the world of academics, Dr. Julianahas come to understand that ownership over one’s own sexuality is the at the foundation of every fulfilled and confident person. She has developed a clear, action-driven method to help people of all backgrounds discover their own path to authenticity through holistic sexuality.  Dr. Juliana is a certified by Betty Dodson as a BodySex Workshop facilitator and offers tons of tips, insight and support through coaching, therapy, online courses and in person retreats for becoming your own (s)expert over at dr-juliana.com. We chat about working with men, the differences between being a man and woman in this space, and how we can get men to open up to talk about sex. Key Points: - Dr. Juliana shares some of her history working with men - Getting comfortable talking about sex - Men working with men vs men working with women - Private vs public work - Specialising and collaborating  - Celebrating sexual wins - Educating and problem solving - Healthy sexuality impacting our lives - How can women make men feel safe to be vulnerable Relevant links: Dr. Juliana's Instagram: @drjulianahauser Dr. Juliana's Facebook:  Dr. Juliana

On episode 15 of the podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires. Key Points: - Dr. Lehmiller introduces his research - The most common fantasies - Differences between men's and women's fantasies - Men's fantasies and pressure to be a certain way - Shame about our fantasies - The origin of sexual fantasies - Underlying emotional needs - Dr. Lehmiller's dial analogy - Advice for exploring sexual fantasies Relevant Links: Dr. Lehmiller's website: www.lehmiller.com

Taylor Johnson, a sex educator and intimacy coach, shares insights on sexual energy sublimation, focusing on transmutation over ejaculation. He discusses changing perspectives on pleasure to enhance vitality and creativity. The conversation explores the impact of pornography, advocating for reduced consumption to improve sexual fulfillment. Techniques for mindful self-pleasure are shared, emphasizing patience and bodily awareness. Taylor also touches on prostate stimulation and offers grounding tips for managing sexual energy in everyday interactions.

On episode thirteen, I chat with entrepreneur, artist, and Shamanic practitioner, Paisley Heart. He embodies the hybrid archetypes of the Wild Businessman and Lifestyle Artist. Founder of the shamanic rite of passage event The Funeral and panel style podcast Curious Conversations, and previously such businesses as the holistic digital marketing agency DigiLove and Independent record label Fight Music -  his gifts are unique and diverse. Paisley is known to prowl the mysterious shadow realms of business. With the flaming torch of innovation, he sets the normal and mundane ablaze with alternative business approaches. Combining his obsession with spirituality, artistic expression, nature, and ritual, he has made a strong impact on the music, social media marketing, and personal development industries. Paisley’s unorthodox style has often been challenging for his clients and for professionals in the industry. Pushing against these paradigms has become a strong and recognizable brand he is proud of. Paisley has proven that he has a sharp eye in discerning who he works with and where he invests his creative magic. The accolades, achievements, and rapid growth shared between his clients, artists and business are a testament to his uniqueness and grit. Key Points: - Paisley shares some of his story - Bisexuality and sexual fluidity - Feeling comfortable exploring sexuality - Creating a container for transformation - The recipe for ritual - Honouring what comes up for you - It's the journey, not the destination - Practical advice Relevant links: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/paisleyheart_ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/paisleyhearttt/ Website - https://www.hellopaisleyheart.com/

On episode twelve of #mensexpleasure, I chat with a very good friend of mine, Jarred Dickie. Jarred is a friendly face you might have seen around Fremantle, Western Australia, for years. He started his Yoga journey in 2013 as a student of Ava Irani (Spanda school founder) and progressed through the teachings of Hridaya Hatha Yoga. This gentle style of meditative Yoga is rooted in the “Self enquiry” method of Ramana Maharshi. Jarred also co-founded Kommunity Brew Kombucha in 2015, learning the incredible journey of running a small, conscious business. We chat about the dualistic nature of masculinity and femininity as well as the idea that all spiritual practices are true, relative to our own perception and understanding. We also reflect on the current global conditions. Key Points: - Jarred shares some of his story - Men's work and men's groups - Spiritual technologies - Practicing what you preach - Fluctuations with ejaculation retention - Jarred's definition of masculinity - Blind Men and an Elephant - The light and the dark Relevant links: Jarred's Instagram: @jarreds_ectojourney Kommunity Brew website: https://kommunitybrew.com/

New episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. This time I chat with Devin Fredericksen about reframing our relationship with the earth, from Mother to Lover. Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer. By weaving these elements together, Devin facilitates the process of living in harmonious relationship with ourselves. Devinembraces life with gratitude for every day because of the gift of this opportunity to live life NOW! Key points: - Devin's journey into his current work - The difference between Mother Earth and Lover Earth - Men's relationship with the feminine - Harnessing sexual energy - Celibacy and ejaculation - Nature worship as sexual initiation - Play and pleasure Relevant links: Devin's instagram: @devinfredericksen