Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

In every marriage, there is a spouse with higher desire for sex and a spouse with lower desire for sex. In this episode, I'll talk about the benefits of being higher or being lower desire. As the high desire spouse in my marriage, I know what it's like to feel anxious or "needy", and it's not attractive. I'll share some thoughts on what we can do about our anxieties to improve intimacy and connection in our marriages coming from a place of strength rather than weakness. 

For this week’s episode, we continue a Q&A session with Jenny Rose about sex and intimacy. Jenny is a family lifestyle influencer. She asked some questions from her audience that I tackle in last week’s and this week’s episode, such as: How do you balance time with yourself and with your spouse when you feel touched out at the end of the day How to transition from Mommy mode to Wife mode What to do with mismatched sex drives Toys, frequency, pregnancy, And many more wonderful questions Let’s jump back in where we left off last week.

This episode is unique! Jenny Rose, a family influencer known as @princessturnedmom reached out to me and asked if she could do a podcast takeover and ask me some questions from her audience. How fun!   Jenny likes to say she has Jesus in her heart and Disney in her veins. She was SO fun to have on the podcast. Check out PART ONE of two where we discuss your questions about sex and intimacy.

Today’s podcast is for the husbands out there that want to make sex great. There’s far more to just the mechanics and geometry of sex to being a good lover. There’s romance, creating exciting erotic contexts, sharing mental loads, and much more that go into making love with not just your body but your heart too.  This might just be my experience as a man, but we men don’t get as much helpful education on how to be a good lover. So I’m excited to have Keith Gregoire along with his wife Sheila, author of The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex. I’ve read this book and it’s excellent. Keith and Sheila have been writing about sex in marriage for 10 years, and is respected for her approachable easy-to-relate to, and humorous style towards improving sex in marriage. Be sure to listen to the very end because I’m giving away copies of their books, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and revamped The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. Those details are after our interview.

It’s normal to seek validation from our spouse in marriage. By validation I mean to get a sense of our legitimacy as a person and a spouse, such as being told we’re sexy enough, pretty enough, and desirable. And it’s normal to seek that validation. But what do you do when you don’t feel it? What do you do when you feel like your spouse isn’t interested in you romantically or sexually? What about those times you don’t feel cherished or respected?  If you’re hoping to feel inspired today, you’ve come to the right place. Jessica shares how she grew more solid within herself in her circumstances and as a result has found great strength, even in her darkest moments. I think there’s something wonderful in her message for everyone to hear! Jessica is a devoted Christian, is married to her sweetheart for over 17 years, and has four children. 

Like most kids, I loved taking on new roles when I’d play with my friends and siblings… whether it was cops and robbers, or ninjas, or race car drivers, there’s a creative & playful element to trying on new roles and identities.  As an adult in a romantic and committed relationship, you can bring that same creativity and playfulness into the bedroom through role play! Many couples role play instinctively to one degree or another as a way to add healthy newness and creative fun to bedroom play. My wife and I have always been interested in what role play sex is and fortunately, we met Jon and Katie Runyan, who are experts at role play sex and the founders of Faithful Fling. Whether you’re new to the concept of role-playing or have a lot of experience getting into character in your encounters, I’m sure you’ll love this episode!

When it comes to sexual desire, there’s a lot we can learn from our stomachs. Hey, we’ve eaten food our whole lives!   In this podcast, I will discuss 5 lessons I’ve learned about sexual desire from food. I want to encourage you to honestly discuss the differences you have in your sexual "appetites" or desires and learn how to be a good partner to your spouse.   #getyourmarriageon #sexeducationpodcast #malesexeducation #christianmarriage #christiansexeducation

Join therapists Adam and Karissa King, a husband-wife duo from Elk Grove, as they tackle the struggles of superficial intimacy in marriage. They share insights on enhancing emotional connections and the vital role of communication. The discussion dives into navigating complex sexual desires while emphasizing trust and vulnerability. The Kings also critique negative narratives around intimacy, advocating for a more positive view of sexuality as a divine gift. Get ready for practical tips to foster deeper connections and rekindle excitement in relationships!

I had the privilege of being a guest on Manda Carpentner’s podcast called A Longer Table, and wanted to share that interview here because I think the things we discussed are super valuable for you to hear. In this interview, we talk about a number of topics such as:  Purity Culture What to do when you feel the need to manage an other’s sexuality How important is sex, really? What is your definition of sex, and does it have to involve intercourse? If you’re struggling sexually, what advice would give? Is scheduling sex a good idea? Is it bad to use toys? What about dirty talk? Perspectives on how pornography affects marriage Manda Carpenter is a wife, mother, foster mom, and Christian. I love her podcast, A Longer Table, because she intentionally includes conversations with people that have very different backgrounds, just to get their perspective and to broaden her understanding with people that think differently than she does. I think we could all use a healthy dose of open and honest communication once in a while! And this topic was all about sex, a topic I’m particularly passionate about :) 

For many individuals, myself included, intercourse can feel very pleasurable. Couples can find deep meaning through intercourse as well: feeling intimate, personal, sweet, and bonding.  However, intercourse isn’t always fireworks for both people. And how can you make intercourse better for both people?  That’s what we want to talk about in today’s episode! I learned a lot from this episode and I hope you do too! Ruth Buezis is a gifted educator that has taught thousands of people how to improve their sex lives from a Christian perspective. She was a guest on this podcast last year (see episode #17) and I’ve invited her back to teach us more about how to make intercourse amazing!