

What I Love About Sex
Stephanie Ganowski
Stephanie Ganowski is a clinical sexologist and sex coach for men. In her podcast, “What I Love About Sex”, her mission is to take the pressure out of sex and put the pleasure in! She does this by helping men overcome their d*ck-related issues and improve their sex communication skills, so they can feel in control of their bodies and connecting deeply with their partners. Coaching clients 1:1 for 6+ years, with a background in psychology, relationship communication training and clinical sexology makes Stephanie the person you can trust to help you. She especially wants men to have a ‘go-to’ place for help here, so they feel they’re directly spoken to and supported. Stephanie is a firm believer that sex is like any other part of life in that we need to work to understand and improve it through practice, vulnerability and patience. And if we can do that while having fun and not taking ourselves so seriously, we can create the sex life we’ve always dreamed of.Stephanie’s style of coaching (and podcasting) is lighthearted, fun and action oriented. Her aim is to have her listeners leave her show feeling confident in what step to take next!
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Aug 8, 2025 • 50min
7 Ways to Make Her Feel Emotionally Safe (and Sexually Open Up) / Episode #409
Do you know what it really means to make a woman feel emotionally safe—and why it’s the foundation for her opening up sexually?In this episode of What I Love About Sex, I break down 7 powerful actions you can take to build trust, connection, and desire in your relationship. You’ll learn how to:✅ Create an environment where you both feel at ease, valued and excited to build a strong partnership together.✅ Understand why your sex life is currently the way that it is.✅ Know the first step to take to improve emotional safety and therefore your sex life.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Aug 7, 2025 • 4min
#405 From Sexual Reactivity to Sexual Power
In this episode, Stephanie dives into how your automatic urge to release sexual tension may be quietly undermining your power, not building it. If you're used to chasing release through porn, masturbation, or even sex itself just to “feel okay,” you're stuck in a loop of dependency, not control. That ends here.Top Takeaways:✅ Release ≠ Power: Reacting to sexual tension by chasing release trains your nervous system to depend on escape, not presence.✅ Control the Charge: Sexual energy is neutral power until you learn to breathe through the discomfort and use it for clarity, action, and leadership.✅ Shift the Focus: Stop using sex as proof of masculinity. Start using your arousal as fuel for deeper presence and masculine composure. 🎯 Ready to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me:https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Aug 6, 2025 • 9min
#404 3 Sex Myths That Are Destroying Good Relationships
There are a few beliefs around sex that seem harmless, but are quietly eroding your connection, confidence, and communication in the bedroom.In this episode, I break down the 3 most common myths I hear from men—and why believing them will leave even high-quality couples feeling confused, ashamed, and disconnected.✅ Myth #1: “Men should always want sex.”This creates shame on both sides. When desire dips (which it will), most people blame themselves—or their partner—instead of recognizing that libido is contextual, not constant.✅ Myth #2: “Good sex is always spontaneous.”The movies lied to you. Great sex is often intentional sex, especially in long-term relationships. And when you plan it with care, it can actually feel hotter, not colder.✅ Myth #3: “If sex is hard, it means something’s wrong.” Difficulty in your sex life isn’t a red flag—it’s a signal for connection. When you avoid it, you isolate. When you face it together, your relationship deepens.If you’re tired of second-guessing your sex life, and you’re ready to lead with confidence and clarity…Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me:https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Aug 5, 2025 • 10min
#403 Sex 3x a Week Starts With This One Leadership Shift
In this episode of What I Love About Sex, I'm breaking down exactly how one of my private clients went from disconnected and frustrated to having deeply connected, fulfilling sex three times a week, with the same woman he was barely connecting with once a month. We didn’t change his wife—we shifted his strategy, communication, and leadership.Here's how.✅ Clarify the real goal. Most men aim for more sex, but miss the quality. We defined what "great sex" actually looked like for him—physically, emotionally, and energetically.✅ Use masculine leadership to foster emotional safety. My client learned how to ask the right questions, speak from calm confidence, and approach his wife without pressure. This unlocked connection and trust that led to more frequency naturally.✅ Reframe sex as a shared experience, not a transaction. The more he prioritized her pleasure and made her feel valued, the more often she wanted to connect with enthusiasm.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Aug 4, 2025 • 6min
#402 She’s Not Feeling Loved? It’s Not What You Say—It’s How
Flat words kill connection. In this episode, I break down a game-changing insight most men overlook: how your tone, delivery, and emotional presence transform your words from “meh” to magnetic. You might be saying all the right things, but she’s not feeling them.✅ Tone Is Everything: Saying "you look great" doesn’t hit the same as "you look beautiful"—especially when said with eye contact and a warm tone.✅ Romanticize What You Already Say: Learn how to take your go-to compliments and upgrade them to create more intimacy and desire.✅ Lead the Connection: If you want her to feel more loved, you have to speak in a way that shows it—consistently, intentionally, and with ownership.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Aug 1, 2025 • 5min
#401 Why Every Man Should Buy His Woman a Vibrator
This episode is going to challenge your assumptions—and possibly transform your sex life. If you're the kind of man who values real connection and takes pride in your partner’s pleasure, this one’s for you.Top Takeaways:✅ Vibrators are not your competition—they’re your secret weapon. When a woman feels safe, seen, and stimulated, your connection deepens. The right tool enhances the experience for both of you.✅ Her orgasm doesn't always equal satisfaction. Just because she finishes doesn't mean the sex is good for her. Want to know if she’s truly fulfilled? Ask—and be ready to listen.✅ Confident men introduce tools without ego. It’s not about replacing you. It’s about amplifying pleasure and proving that her needs matter more than your pride. The more she feels your confidence, care, and curiosity, the more she’ll lean into intimacy with you. So ask the question, buy the toy, lead with presence.Vibrator:https://woomoreplay.com/collections/all-products/products/vibezReady to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Jul 31, 2025 • 5min
#400 The Real Reason You’re Finishing Too Fast (And How to Take Control)
If you finish too quickly during sex, you’ve likely tried it all—Kegels, squeeze techniques, delay sprays. But what if the real key to lasting longer is restructuring your routine? In this episode, Stephanie dives deep into a powerful, often-overlooked strategy that’s been a game-changer for her clients with premature ejaculation: mixing up the way you do sex.✅ Rethink the Routine – Sex doesn’t have to be a straight line. Switching up the order and slowing things down can shift your arousal curve and help you last longer.✅ Build Arousal Awareness – Learn how to identify your low, medium, and high arousal activities—and how to intentionally weave them together for control and clarity.✅ Lead With Dominance & Intention – Discover ways to create sexy pauses, introduce new sensations, and still remain in control of the moment, without losing your edge. If you’re ready to stop performing and start leading in the bedroom...Ready to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Jul 21, 2025 • 29min
#399 Q&A: Cream Pies, Gag Reflexes, Erectile Confidence & More
In this no-holds-barred Q&A, we will answer your most honest, awkward, and important sex questions—covering everything from ejaculation issues to prostate play, threesomes, and navigating insecurity in the bedroom. Whether you're looking to boost confidence, improve connection, or get real answers, this episode brings it all.Top 3 Takeaways:✅ Confidence starts with clarity. If you’re confused by her lack of expression in bed, don’t assume—ask. Direct, open-ended questions get better answers (and better sex).✅ Your body isn’t broken—it’s under pressure. Stress, anxiety, shame, and habit can all impact your performance. Many common issues are treatable once you understand the root cause.✅ Communication beats technique. Whether it’s foreplay, anal play, or asking for what you want—your best move is always a curious, judgment-free conversation.🎯 This episode is packed with practical insights and a refreshing dose of honesty.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video

Jul 18, 2025 • 30min
#398 She’s Not Opening Up About Sex? Here’s Why.
Trying to improve your sex life with your partner—but every conversation feels like pressure or rejection? In this episode, I break down how the tone of your conversations shapes everything in the bedroom and how to become a more confident, connected sexual leader.✅ Why your tone—not your words—is often the real issue ✅ How to reframe sex talks as loving, team-oriented conversations ✅ The one mindset shift that turns rejection into emotional intimacyReady to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/

Jul 17, 2025 • 6min
#397 Is Masturbation Bad for You? Let’s Set the Record Straight
In this episode, I’m calling out the misguided advice telling men to quit masturbating to be better lovers. The truth? Cutting off self-pleasure without understanding it is wrecking your confidence and your performance.✅ Cutting off masturbation kills sexual confidence When you label self-pleasure as “wrong,” you wire guilt into your arousal—and that guilt follows you into the bedroom.✅ You master your sex life by knowing your own body Men who lead well in bed first learn what turns them on alone. Masturbation is about building that awareness, without pressure, without performance.✅ Masturbation and porn are not the same Porn can desensitize you. But masturbation—done right—is a tool. It helps you build control, clarity, and connection with your body.🎯 Ready to take command of your sex life? Apply here: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/