

Emotional Longevity
Elisha Goldstein
"Emotional Longevity" explores how emotional health serves as the cornerstone of a happier, healthier, and longer life. Hosted by Dr. Elisha Goldstein, this podcast blends cutting-edge science, practical strategies, and inspiring stories to help you enhance your emotional well-being, build resilience, and strengthen relationships—without the overwhelm of doing more.
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Sep 9, 2025 • 1h 15min
Why You Still Feel Lonely (Even with People Around)
What if the cure for loneliness isn't more people—but a deeper connection with yourself?In this eye-opening episode of the Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Dr. Amit Sood—founder of the Global Center for Resiliency and Wellbeing and former Mayo Clinic professor—to shatter the biggest myth about loneliness.Dr. Sood reveals why adding more social connections often backfires, how loneliness literally rewires your DNA for inflammation, and the simple practices that can shift you from isolation to genuine belonging—starting from within.From silent blessings to the neuroscience of smiling with your eyes, this conversation is packed with research-backed tools to transform how you connect with yourself and others.🎧 In this episode, we explore:✅ Why most loneliness solutions completely miss the point✅ How loneliness triggers ancient genes that harm your health ✅ The "kind attention" practice that rewires social anxiety ✅ Why self-worth is the hidden key to all connection ✅ Simple shifts to move from judgment to genuine curiosity ✅ How to convert guilt into compassion and action⏱ Chapters:00:00 — The loneliness misconception that's harming millions 06:11 — How loneliness affects your body at the cellular level 11:55 — Why social connections don't cure loneliness 23:42 — The "kind attention" practice that changes everything 32:10 — Converting shame and guilt into growth 49:26 — Scaling emotional health in organizations 55:30 — Making these tools accessible to everyone🌟 Learn more about Dr. Amit Sood: Website: https://amitsood.com Book: It Takes Two to Tango🌱 Explore Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Support Tools:Therapeutic Coaching Program (Free Consult):Newsletter & Free Emotional Health Guide: Free Tools for Emotional Resilience: 📕Get on the Early Access List for the new book Tiny Shifts (+Access to the Tiny Shifts Mini-Guide) - https://drelishagoldstein.com/tiny-shifts-earlyConnect with Dr. Elisha GoldsteinInstagramLinkedInYouTube📧 Sign Up for Elisha's Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health Guide: https://bit.ly/DrGoldsteinNewsletter🎯 Join Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Private Therapeutic Coaching Program: https://bit.ly/UPWFreeCall📖 View Full Blog for This Episode:

Sep 2, 2025 • 1h 7min
How to Deal With Your Feelings (and Find Emotional Freedom) | Marc Brackett
What if the single biggest shift in your life was learning how to deal with your feelings differently? In this powerful episode of the Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Dr. Marc Brackett—Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of "Dealing with Feelings"—to explore the life-changing power of emotional freedom.From relationship breakdowns to classroom struggles, Marc reveals why emotional dysregulation—not lack of love—drives most of our problems. He shares his personal journey from childhood trauma and bullying to becoming a leading voice in emotional intelligence, all thanks to one transformative mentor.This conversation cuts through cultural myths about emotions being "soft" and delivers research-backed strategies to regulate feelings, improve relationships, and help kids thrive without "toughening up."🎧 In this episode, we cover:✅ Why emotional freedom is the biggest life shift you can make ✅ How emotional dysregulation destroys relationships (not lack of love)✅ The RULER framework for real-time emotional regulation ✅ Marc's story: from abuse victim to Yale professor ✅ Why only 35-40% have an emotional mentor—and what it costs ✅ The surprising antidote to envy and social comparison ✅ Daily practices that actually work for emotional regulation⏱ Chapters:00:57 — The Power of Emotional Freedom 04:37 — Why Culture Resists Emotional Education 08:49 — The Real Reason Relationships Fail 16:15 — Marc's Transformation Story & Uncle Marvin 25:01 — RULER Method: Teaching Kids Emotional Skills 38:47 — The Research on Emotional Mentors 56:38 — Daily Practices for Emotional RegulationConnect with Marc Brackett:📘 Book: Dealing with Feeling: Use Your Emotions to Create the Life You Want🅰️https://amzn.to/3UUVg0x 🌐 Website🔗LinkedInConnect with Dr. Elisha Goldstein:📸 Instagram 🔗 LinkedIn ▶️ YouTube 📝 Newsletter 🎯 Join the Program🔗 Sign Up for Elisha's Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health Guide🔗 Join Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Private Therapeutic Coaching Program🔗 View Full Blog for This Episode

Aug 26, 2025 • 1h 11min
How to Parent Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Mind | Kirk Martin
If parenting your strong-willed child feels like a constant battle of power struggles, meltdowns, and defiance—this episode is for you. Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm and host of the Calm Parenting Podcast, who has helped over 1 million parents transform their family dynamics.Through his own journey raising a strong-willed son and working with 1,500 challenging kids, Kirk shares simple, practical shifts—like “motion changes emotion” and sitting down instead of storming in—that create massive change.Whether it’s meltdowns in Target or teens who argue like lawyers, this conversation delivers hope, validation, and a clear path forward.🎯 In this episode, we dive into:The one question Kirk's wife asked that changed his entire approach to parentingWhy strong-willed kids need intensity (but not the kind you think)Why modeling beats lecturing every single timeThe tiny shifts approach: small changes, massive results⏱ Timestamps03:13 — Welcome Kirk Martin to the Show06:51 — From Control to Connection10:08 — The Power of Sitting Down 14:53 — Dealing with Teenagers Who Won't Talk23:19 — The Matter-of-Fact Tone That Changes Everything28:35 — Activities That Regulate Both Parent and Child32:56 — Motion Changes Emotion: The Power of Movement44:25 — Creating Vision Instead of Criticism59:12 — Self-Compassion for Overwhelmed Parents🌱 Explore Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Support Tools:Therapeutic Coaching Program (Free Consult)Newsletter & Free Emotional Health GuideFree Tools for Emotional ResilienceConnect with from Kirk Martin:Instagram | Website | PodcastConnect with Dr. Elisha Goldstein:InstagramLinkedInYouTube: /elishagoldsteinphdNewsletter: https://bit.ly/DrGoldsteinNewsletter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 19, 2025 • 56h 25min
Kristin Neff on Fierce Self-Compassion, Stress, and Real Strength
If you've ever caught yourself saying something to yourself that you'd never say to a friend, this episode will change everything.Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Dr. Kristin Neff—the researcher who brought self-compassion from "squishy self-help topic" to hard science. As a UT Austin professor and author of Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion, Kristin proves being kind to yourself isn't weakness—it's your secret weapon.🎯 What we explore:Why self-compassion was once "too feminine" for psychologyThe three essential components that make self-compassion workHow self-compassion changes your nervous system and inflammationThe difference between self-compassion and self-pityWhy "this is a hard moment" are four life-changing wordsHow AI might revolutionize self-compassion practicesWhether you're battling imposter syndrome, perfectionism, or tired of being your worst critic, this episode offers the science behind lasting self-acceptance.⏱ Timestamps:00:00 – The Human Truth About Getting It Wrong02:00 – When Self-Compassion Was "Too Soft"11:00 – The Three Core Components33:00 – The Biology of Self-Compassion42:00 – The Question That Changes Everything51:00 – One Thing to Whisper to Your Struggling Self🔗 Resources & Free Tools✨ Learn More About Dr. Kristin Neff:Website | Take the Self-Compassion Scale | Self-Compassion CommunityBooks: Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion available wherever books are sold🌱 Explore Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Support Tools:Therapeutic Coaching Program (Free Consult)Newsletter & Free Emotional Health GuideFree Tools for Emotional ResilienceConnect with Dr. Kristin Neff:Research & ResourcesMindful Self-Compassion ProgramConnect with Dr. Elisha Goldstein:InstagramLinkedInYouTube: /elishagoldsteinphdNewsletter: https://bit.ly/DrGoldsteinNewsletter🔗 Sign Up for Elisha's Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health Guide: https://bit.ly/DrGoldsteinNewsletter🔗 Join Dr. Elisha Goldstein's Private Therapeutic Coaching Program: https://bit.ly/UPWFreeCall🔗 View Full Blog for This Episode: https://elishagoldstein.com/articles/kristin-neff-self-compassion/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 12, 2025 • 13h 34min
You're Not Broken. You Just Learned to Abandon Yourself
Do you feel like you've done everything right, but still feel empty inside? That bone-deep emotional tiredness that no amount of sleep can fix? The quiet disconnection from yourself and what truly matters?If you're in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond—someone who's spent their life taking care of others, holding it all together, but somewhere along the way lost touch with themselves—this episode is for you.Dr. Elisha Goldstein addresses something he's heard countless times from clients, friends, and family: "I don't think I'm broken, but I do feel like I abandoned myself a long time ago."The truth? You're not broken. You've just learned protective patterns that once kept you safe but may now be keeping you stuck.Dr. Goldstein shares the invisible moments where we silence our needs, override our bodies, and stay busy to avoid what's really there. More importantly, he offers practical "tiny shifts" from his upcoming book that can gently guide you back home to yourself.In this episode, you'll discover:✅ Why self-abandonment happens in small, invisible moments over time✅ How saying yes when you mean no became a survival strategy✅ The three tiny shifts that can bring you back to yourself✅ Why naming your patterns is the beginning of changing them✅ How to speak to yourself like someone you love✅ Why you're never too old or too far gone to reconnect with your life⏱Timestamps:00:00 – The Invisible Moments We Lose Ourselves01:00 – You're Not Broken: Understanding Self-Abandonment02:00 – How We Abandon Ourselves in Small Ways03:00 – Protective Patterns That Keep Us Hostage04:00 – Tiny Shifts for Emotional Health05:00 – Shift #1: Recognize Your Emotional Loop05:44 – Newsletter Break06:24 – Shift #2: Use Your Breath to Ground07:00 – A Personal Story of Overwhelm08:00 – From Survival Mode to Strength09:00 – Real Stories of Transformation10:00 – You're Not Too Old to Change11:00 – Starting with One Breath11:47 – Closing & Resources🌱Ready to stop abandoning yourself? This episode is just the beginning. Dr. Goldstein's upcoming book Tiny Shifts (2026) explores the small pivots that create the biggest impacts on your stress, relationships, and longevity.🔗Resources & Support: 📧 Join Dr. Goldstein's Free Newsletter: Get weekly insights, tiny shifts for emotional health, and instant access to free guides including "5 AI Prompts to Ease Anxiety" and "4 Steps to Process Difficult Emotions"🌟 Ready to Go Deeper? Join the Emotional Longevity Experience: Work with Dr. Goldstein and a supportive community in his therapeutic coaching programConnect with Dr. Elisha Goldstein: 📸 Instagram🔗 LinkedIn ▶ YouTube: /elishagoldsteinphd🔗 Sign Up for Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health Guide🔗 View Full Blog for This Episode Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 5, 2025 • 1h 6min
From Rock Bottom to Resilience: Eric Zimmer on Emotional Strength and Recovery
If you've ever felt stuck knowing what to do but struggling to actually do it—this conversation will give you both hope and practical wisdom.Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Eric Zimmer, host of The One You Feed podcast, for an honest exploration of change, self-sabotage, and emotional steadiness. Eric brings both professional insight from interviewing hundreds of experts and the raw authenticity of someone who went from homeless heroin addiction to hosting one of the most impactful podcasts on personal growth.🔹 In this episode, we explore:The moment hope returned in Eric's darkest period—and why "keep coming back" became his mantraWhy the Two Wolves parable serves as a daily compassThe truth about why we struggle to receive good things and take complimentsEric's Six Saboteurs of Self-Control—the hidden patterns that keep us stuckWhy "little by little" beats dramatic change every timeThe difference between structural change and emotional resistanceHow AI is changing our relationship with intelligence and intimacyWhy there's no "right" path for everyone—and how to find what works for you💡 Key Insight: Change happens "little bit by little bit"—even dramatic transformations are built on thousands of small daily decisions.⏱ Chapters:00:00 A Life in Ruins: My Story of Addiction00:24 The Struggle of Self-Improvement01:00 Introducing Eric Zimmer: A Journey of Transformation04:25 The Power of Hope in Recovery13:04 The Two Wolves: A Guiding Compass19:52 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Resistance32:43 Overcoming Resistance: Just Start33:31 Newsletter Invitation34:11 Awareness and Action: Bridging the Gap34:57 Diagnosing Resistance and Procrastination38:08 The Role of Self-Compassion and Growth Mindset42:57 Small Steps to Build Motivation45:12 AI and Emotional Health57:50 Reflections on Emotional Health and Personal Growth01:04:08 Conclusion and Community Invitation01:06:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts🔗 Resources✨ Get Eric's Six Saboteurs of Self-Control (Free)🎧 The One You Feed Podcast: Available on all platforms🌱 Dr. Goldstein's Tools:Therapeutic Coaching (Free Consult)Newsletter & Free GuideConnect: InstagramLinkedIn🔗 Full Blog Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 16, 2025 • 48h 31min
Flex Your Feelings: The 7 Traits That Build Real Emotional Strength
What if the key to feeling more grounded, connected, and emotionally resilient wasn't about being perfect or calm—but about being prepared?In this powerful episode of the Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Dr. Emily Anhalt, clinical psychologist, founder of Coa, and author of "Flex Your Feelings," to explore what it really takes to ride the edge of emotional discomfort without shutting down or checking out.From breaking an emotional sweat to navigating modern challenges like AI companions and digital communication, Emily reveals the research-backed framework that transforms how we approach mental health, treating it more like going to the gym and less like going to the doctor.In this episode, we explore:The 7 traits of emotional fitness and why self-awareness is just the beginning"Breaking an emotional sweat" - how discomfort becomes your greatest teacherWhy preparation beats perfection for handling life's inevitable challengesThe power of playfulness and how it signals safety in relationshipsResilience redefined - bouncing forward instead of bouncing backModern communication challenges including AI, emojis, and authentic connectionImposter syndrome decoded - when external praise doesn't match internal dialoguePersonal stories of early career struggles and the gifts hidden in rejectionJoin Dr. Elisha Goldstein’s Private Therapeutic Coaching ProgramSign Up for Elisha’s Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health GuideGet Your Free 5 Prompt AI GuideLearn more about Dr. EmilyWebsiteInstagramSpeaking: Available for corporate speaking engagements"Flex Your Feelings" - Available wherever books are soldConnect with Elisha:FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInSubscribe to Emotional Longevity:Apple PodcastsSpotifyYouTubeProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 8, 2025 • 58h 41min
Rethinking ADHD: Why It’s Not a Disorder—It’s a Performance Challenge with Michael McLeod
If you’ve ever watched a child (or yourself) struggle with focus, motivation, or follow-through and thought, “They know what to do—so why can’t they do it?”—this episode will change how you see ADHD.Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with Michael McLeod, speech pathologist and founder of GrowNOW ADHD, to explore a powerful shift in understanding: ADHD is less about attention and more about performance under pressure, deeply tied to emotional regulation and inner safety.In this eye-opening conversation, they explore:Why emotionally sensitive kids often shut down—not act outHow typical ADHD strategies miss the emotional rootWhat to do before you try reward charts or productivity hacksSimple mindset shifts that help children build internal trustWhy "connection before correction" leads to lasting growthWhether you're a parent, teacher, or adult navigating ADHD yourself, this episode will give you tools, validation, and a fresh path forward.Join Dr. Elisha Goldstein’s Private Therapeutic Coaching ProgramSign Up for Elisha’s Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health GuideGet Your Free 5 Prompt AI GuideLearn more about Michael McLeod:WebsiteInstagramConnect with Elisha:FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInSubscribe to Emotional Longevity:Apple PodcastsSpotifyYouTubeProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 10, 2025 • 15h 40min
Why Your Brain Feels Fried (And the Tiny Reset That Breaks the Loop)
Ever feel like your brain is just... fried? You’re not alone—and it’s not a personal failure. It’s your nervous system trying to keep up in a world that never shuts off. In this solo episode of The Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein breaks down why we get stuck in emotional loops of anxiety, fatigue, and self-doubt—and how to interrupt them with one small, research-backed shift. If you're stuck in overthinking, checking your inbox 100 times a day, or constantly bracing for what's next—this episode is your reset. Dr. Goldstein shares: What “anxious loops” really are (and how they form) The neuroscience of burnout and identity fusion Why naming your loop can instantly give you more space and choice A 3-step daily reset grounded in behavioral science to rewire calm, clarity, and control These are tiny shifts that build real momentum—and might just save your brain from the burnout spiral.In this episode, we explore:Why Your Brain Feels FriedThe Anxiety Loop ExplainedWhen Preparation Becomes ObsessionIdentity Fusion and “I’m Just an Anxious Person” The Tiny Shift That Breaks the LoopHow to Practice the Reset DailyJoin Dr. Elisha Goldstein’s Private Therapeutic Coaching ProgramSign Up for Elisha’s Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health GuideGet Your Free 5 Prompt AI GuideConnect with Elisha:FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInSubscribe to Emotional Longevity:Apple PodcastsSpotifyYouTubeProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 3, 2025 • 15h 59min
You Don’t Need to Fix Your Anxiety | Here’s How to Live With It
View Show Notes & Blog Page for This EpisodeJoin Dr. Elisha Goldstein’s Private Therapeutic Coaching ProgramSign Up for Elisha’s Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health GuideGet Your Free 5 Prompt AI GuideYou don’t need to get rid of your anxiety to feel better.In today’s solo episode of The Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein challenges the myth that anxiety is a problem to fix—and shows you how to see it for what it really is: a protective, human process that you can learn to live with, not fear.This episode will help you:Understand the real purpose of anxiety (and why it’s not a flaw)Spot when anxiety becomes harmful—and how to stop it from running your lifeDefuse from the “I’m just an anxious person” identityPractice 3 research-backed tools to create space from anxiety and reclaim your sense of agencyLearn the bus driver metaphor to remember: anxiety may be along for the ride, but you’re still in controlIf you’ve ever thought, If I could just get rid of this anxiety, everything would finally feel better, this episode is your wake-up call. You don’t have to be free from anxiety—you can be free with it.Connect with Elisha:FacebookTwitterInstagramSubscribe to Emotional Longevity:Apple PodcastsSpotifyYouTubeProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.


