Seeing Other People

Jenna Langbaum, author of “Me in Search of You,” joins us on this episode of Seeing Other People. Jenna’s writing beautifully dissects the nuances of modern dating, ghosting, and dating apps and helps to remind us that we’re not alone in what we’re facing, as we’re all connected by shared dating struggles. We discuss how the concept of ghosting is actually insane and how painful and confusing getting ghosted can really be. We explore how dating apps have led us to consider potential partners based on their basic credentials. We debate if dating is really just a numbers game. Finally, Jenna helps us answer listener questions about whether or not to text a guy after meeting at a party and spending the night, what to do when your friend’s SO is toxic, and how to navigate simply not liking your friend’s partner.  “Me in Search of You” is available everywhere books are sold. Follow Jenna @jennalangbaum for more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Situationships? More like situationshits. We’re diving into the ins and outs of situationships with Ali and Roark of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast. What exactly is a situationship and how do you know if you’re in one? Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? How do you know when it’s time to leave? We’re discussing all of this, answering listener questions, and so much more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We go on a date with Alexis Wolfe AKA @nycdatenite to talk all about post-pandemic dating. From getting back out there and going on that first in-person date in over a year, to determining what the best and worst types of places to go on a first date are, we’re covering all of the bases for you to shoot your shot at love (after getting that #vax shot).-How to choose a first date spot-What not to talk about on your date-Why you shouldn’t have a regular “first date spot”-What to do if you’re not yet comfortable with indoor dining-How to tell someone you don’t want to go to the place they suggested-What to do if you think you’re getting ghosted-Bachelor & Bachelorette of the weekFollow Alexis at @nycdatenite and check out her website www.nycdatenite.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We chat with Sandro D’Abruzzo, author of “So You Think You Can Date?” We hear what led Sandro to write about how to find success in dating and his experiences dating around the world. We discuss the importance of being yourself from the start in any dating situation, and get into the nitty gritty of how to actually practice being yourself. Sandro shares what the process of writing his book was like, and we dive into topics like spontaneity, self perception, and whether or not guys are complicated or overly simple. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love when you ask us questions, so we're taking up a whole episode to answer as many of them as we can! We're answering questions including: Do people deserve second chances?How soon is too soon to have sex?If we didn't kiss on the first date, is it doomed?How do I ask someone to put effort into planning dates? Why do people lose interest?Do guys still ask to be official?Plus long distance, pandemicships, DTR, and more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Noa Porten who hosts the Spooning with Spoonies podcast where she chats about dating and relationships with experts, singles, and couples from the chronic illness community. We learn how chronic illness can impact someone’s dating life and daily life, and how tools like setting boundaries and practicing open communication are crucial in the search for a lasting romantic partnership. For those who are chronically ill, Noa shares advice on how and when to comfortably communicate information about your chronic illness to someone you’re seeing. For listeners who do not have a chronic illness, we learn more about what it means to have chronic illness and how we can best support someone if and when they inform us of theirs.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The episode you probably knew you needed is finally here. Are your texting habits holding you back from finding what you’re looking for? Are they not into you if they don’t text you back right away? Can it work if you’re a “bad” texter? Are you rightfully stressing over your crush’s response time or are you expecting too much? Does lack of texting mean the relationship is doomed before it even started? We’re breaking down everything about texting when it comes to dating so you can have the tools to text for success. Towards the end of the episode, we shift gears and answer your questions about paying for dating apps, when is the right time to make things official, and how to ask friends and family to set you up with people without coming off as desperate.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole Pellegrino, cohost of the Betches Brides podcast joins us to prep you all for this year’s wedding season. Nicole spills the secrets to what has kept her eight-year relationship going strong, how we can work towards keeping that relationship (once we all find it). She shares the importance of enjoying your independence when you’re single and carrying that independence with you into a relationship. Nicole gives us the scoop on what brides and grooms are doing to help their single friends out at weddings, and we discuss how we can all turn weddings into opportunities to spark your own love story by putting yourself out there to meet someone new at a wedding. Finally, we debate how soon is too soon to start planning your wedding. Hear more from Nicole on @betchesbrides and @nicolepellegrin0!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not having the best luck meeting people on dating apps? This episode is all about other ways you can put yourself out there and find love. Whether it be the comment section of a post on any platform, through TikTok (Jonah’s favorite dating app), sliding into the DMs, or finding love on Club Penguin (Ilana’s pick), it’s not all about dating apps. Our listeners chime in to tell us about their experiences meeting people via email, Instagram DM, and from a TikTok video. We discuss the right ways to approach people on all different platforms so you can set yourself up for success. Later, we change gears to meeting someone IRL– in an elevator to be specific, as we sit down with Ilana’s good friend and former FWB, Alex. Ilana and Alex share their story of their transition from friends, to friends with benefits, to a situationship that took them on a European "honeymoon," all the way to a potential relationship, and finally to a friendship-ruining spiral. We dive into the nuances of friends with benefits, whether or not it’s possible to go from FWB to a relationship, and if you can be FWB without ruining the friendship.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re kicking off our Thursday episode series by catching up with Bachelor Nation’s Ed Weisbrot. We hear about Ed’s dating life since his time on Clare/Tayshia’s season and he shares how being on the show reinforced the importance of authenticity, vulnerability and communication. Ed talks about why he has chosen to stay off of dating apps, how he’s been meeting people IRL, and why Whole Foods is the best spot to find your soulmate. We discuss whether or not all dates should end with a rose ceremony, what the audience saw vs. what really went down throughout, and what really happened on that infamous night when he knocked on Chris Harrison's door. Finally, Ilana shoots her shot with Ed. Pesented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices