Seeing Other People

A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual.She explains what led to this exploration, what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life.Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misconceptions of bisexuality, and advice she has for anyone else who is considering exploring their sexuality.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell-all about their relationship. Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA.They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they became official. We also hear their first fight go down as they debate some of these details. Ilana and Jake answer listener questions about pre-date nerves, timing, communication, what it’s like dating a "dating expert," how long it took to feel comfortable with each other, what Jake likes and doesn’t like about Ilana and more. Jake closes out the episode by begging you to please support his girlfriend by following @seeingotherpeople on IG, signing up for the Patreon, leaving 5-star reviews, and sending the podcast to your friends.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really finding his person has been very difficult. We discuss what it was like for him to tell people that he was divorced, and we hear about the similarities and differences between dating in the US and dating in Australia. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meeting someone, how to navigate you or your date having a fear of commitment, what to do when someone says they’re not looking for something serious, when and how to have the DTR convo, what to do if they’re not on the same page, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered episode we’re joined by a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with herpes. She shares what it was like receiving her diagnosis, communicating it to the person who transmitted it to her and what it’s been like to date with herpes. We hear how her diagnosis impacted her mental health and self worth and she walks us through the steps she took to get herself back to a good place. We learn about the common misconceptions about herpes, the resources that are available for those who find out they have herpes and how we can better communicate about sexually transmitted infections in order to reduce the stigma.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling than partying and sex. Andrew walks us through what sparked his transformation, including taking a break from alcohol and dating while spending time in India, his move to the San Francisco Bay Area which allowed him to explore the spectrums of sex, gender, identity, etc., studying attachment styles, spirituality, and researching how childhood and ancestral trauma prevent us from showing up fully in life, and are often present major challenges in relationships of all types.Check out a piece by Andrew on his womanizing past: https://link.medium.com/65gcweVc2hb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26-year-old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprising things about dating in the 50s and dating now, and more.Follow along at @excusemygrandma, @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by Caroline, a 27 year old living in New York City who is navigating dating after losing her older brother. She shares what it’s like to communicate her loss to a date, what people’s reactions have been, and how each individual has their own personal preference on the grieving process and on how and when to have these conversations with a potential partner. Caroline and I discuss how people can have more thoughtful and empathetic conversations surrounding loss and grief in order to destigmatize and reduce the overall awkwardness.Follow along on Instagram @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be longer than an hour, how important the little things in dating are.Follow @fourplaysocial, visit Fourplay Social’s website at https://www.fourplaysocial.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices