Seeing Other People

We recorded this episode on our actual one-year anniversary, from Turks and Caicos! We set out to recap the year, and ended up talking about how Ilana ruined the surprise trip, little moments that brought us joy, and what our marriage actually feels like day to day. We answer listener questions about what the first year of marriage has really looked like, what we do and don't remember from our wedding, what our plans are for what's to come, and more. If you love this episode and want to support the show (and our future kid's college funds) check out Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist! Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by therapist Annie Josephson, PsyD, MSEd, Founder of Uptown Psychology to talk about why dating make us so anxious, even when it’s going well. We discuss why it shows up, how to manage it, and how to tell the difference between fear and intuition. We also answer listener questions about spiraling after dates, ghosting before anything starts, and feeling stuck in situationships. Subscribe to our Patreon show ⁠Cohosts for Life⁠ for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me⁠ here⁠ RSVP ⁠here⁠ for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist! Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at⁠ zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople⁠Your mental health matters. Head to ⁠rula.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ to connect with a licensed therapist who truly care. Go to ⁠HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm⁠ to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode my be triggering to those with sensitivities around physical and emotional abuse. I’m joined by Ryan Spencer, who I met on the Tamron Hall Show, for a powerful conversation about healing, heartbreak, and holding out hope for love. Ryan opens up about leaving an abusive relationship, the strength it took to start over, and the frustration of wanting love so badly after doing the work—therapy, growth, reflection—and still not finding it. She shares how her family became her village, the lessons she’s learned in therapy, and how she’s finally enjoying dating again without the pressure to find "the one." Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist! Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeopleYour mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly care. Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m joined by Syd Miller , founder of the fitness brand Housework. Syd shares how a breakup at 30, right when all her friends were getting engaged, became the catalyst for the best years of her life. We talk about how she built her brand from scratch, makes friends IRL, and navigates friendship shifts in different life stages. Most importantly, Syd shares how she’s created a full life that doesn’t need someone to complete it—just someone to add to it. Try Housework with their 2-for-1 new client special at www.joinhousework.com/bookstudio. ⁠RSVP⁠ to come to my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly caresHead to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault. This week, I’m joined by Meg Reynolds (@meg_reynoldss), host of Not the Girl Next Door (@notthegirlnextdoorpodcast), for a real conversation about healing after a hard relationship. We talk about relationship PTSD, rebuilding self-worth, why healing can take way longer than you expect, and how to stop shrinking yourself to be loved. If you’ve ever felt stuck, triggered, or like you lost yourself in love—this one’s for you. Meg shares what it means to truly be yourself again, even when it feels messy or slow. ⁠RSVP⁠ to come to my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Head to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jen Glantz, founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and accomplished author, dives into her unique wedding insights as she recounts her experiences standing beside countless brides. She shares her own love journey, revealing why she chose to elope after years of travel. The emotional depths of wedding-day anxiety and cold feet are discussed candidly, along with engaging listener stories about relationship stress and feeling out of place amid friends getting married. Jen's wisdom offers a refreshing take on love, commitment, and the pressure of societal expectations.

Ilana is joined by Human Design expert and author Erin Claire Jones (@erinclairejones) to break down how understanding your unique design can shift the way you date, connect, and make decisions in love. Erin explains what Human Design is, how it compares to tools like astrology or the Enneagram, and how your chart reveals insights into your relationship patterns and emotional wiring. They talk about the five Human Design types and how each one tends to show up in dating, why we’re drawn to certain people, and how to tell the difference between authentic traits and protective patterns. Erin also shares what she’s learned from working with thousands of couples, how to navigate red flags, and how your design can help you stop second-guessing yourself when it comes to love. Erin's book "How Do You Choose" is out now wherever books are sold. Learn more at https://humandesignblueprint.com/ and use code ILANA for a discount on your guide! ⁠RSVP⁠ to come to my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Head to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jake plays cohost as we’re joined by comedian and podcast host Jared Freid—someone who’s played an unexpectedly big role in our relationship. From being mentioned on our very first date to inspiring parts of our vows, Jared has been part of our love story from day one. We talk about the grind of building a show, what Jake has learned from Jared, and what it feels like to open a DM from a listener. We dive into a listener question about food sharing, discuss dating with food allergies, and hear the behind the scenes of Jared’s stand-up career. Plus, Jake vents about what it’s like to be married to someone who wants to make new friends. Follow @JaredFreid on IG and @WizardofHa on TikTok Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly caresHead to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging conversation, Melissa Fitch and Michelle Unger share their personal journeys as mothers and wives, both married to their long-time partners. They discuss the crucial topics couples should address before marriage, such as finances, parenting beliefs, and mental health. Melissa reflects on feeling disconnected during Michelle's pregnancy, highlighting the importance of nurturing friendships through life changes. They offer insights on maintaining alignment in values while navigating evolving relationships, emphasizing open communication and understanding.

I’m joined by Eli Weinstein⁠, LCSW, therapist and host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, for real talk about what women often misunderstand about men, the pressure to be emotionally “on the same level” in relationships, and how to approach hard conversations with care. We also get into the overload of self-help content online, what to watch out for, and how to stay grounded in your growth—even if your partner isn’t quite there yet. Eli also answers some thoughtful listener questions about dating, sex, anxiety, and emotional connection. Learn more and work with Eli at eliweinsteinlcsw.com Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every Monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Head to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices