Seeing Other People

In this engaging conversation, Melissa Fitch and Michelle Unger share their personal journeys as mothers and wives, both married to their long-time partners. They discuss the crucial topics couples should address before marriage, such as finances, parenting beliefs, and mental health. Melissa reflects on feeling disconnected during Michelle's pregnancy, highlighting the importance of nurturing friendships through life changes. They offer insights on maintaining alignment in values while navigating evolving relationships, emphasizing open communication and understanding.

I’m joined by Eli Weinstein⁠, LCSW, therapist and host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, for real talk about what women often misunderstand about men, the pressure to be emotionally “on the same level” in relationships, and how to approach hard conversations with care. We also get into the overload of self-help content online, what to watch out for, and how to stay grounded in your growth—even if your partner isn’t quite there yet. Eli also answers some thoughtful listener questions about dating, sex, anxiety, and emotional connection. Learn more and work with Eli at eliweinsteinlcsw.com Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every Monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Head to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, I’m sharing some unexpected life updates—including a few medical things I’ve been navigating lately—and TV shows I recently found out not everyone has seen (which feels criminal, honestly). Then we’re diving into modern dating red flags that are actually... green. From not texting all day to taking things slow to living at home and not having social media, there are a lot of behaviors we’ve been taught to panic about that are actually signs of emotional maturity, intentionality, or just being a normal person with a life offline.Let’s break down what’s actually a red flag—and what might just be your inner saboteur overreacting. Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life to hear updates and banter every monday from me and Jake! Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com  Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares Head to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Benjamin Camras, a Flirt Coach and host of Flirtations!, dives into the art of flirting with a mix of humor and insight. He shares tips on building chemistry and recognizing romantic interest, particularly tackling the awkwardness of workplace crushes. Benjamin explains why text chemistry can crumble in real life and how to maintain confidence while flirting, even with social anxiety. With practical advice and a focus on connection over outcomes, he encourages listeners to embrace flirting as a playful and enriching experience.

I’m joined by my childhood best friend Jessie — the one who’s seen me through every confusing situationship, career pivot, and major life change. We’re talking about how she went from friends to married with her high school crush, what it was like when the three of us lived together, and her take on the guys I used to date… versus what she thought when she met Jake. We also answer listener questions about being in different life stages than your friends, falling for a friend, and how to support someone through heartbreak.Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Author and Relationship Expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me to unpack the invisible load we carry in relationships—why emotional and mental labor often falls on one partner, and how to create more balance without resentment. We also talk about how relationship needs shift from dating to marriage, how to spot self-sabotage, and why independence can be hard to let go of in your first serious relationship in your 30s. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in a long-term relationship, this episode will make you feel seen.Follow Dr. Morgan @drmorgancutlip on IG and check out drmorgancutlip.com to order her book and learn more. Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cohosts for Life is our new Patreon weekly series where we (Ilana & Jake) sit down every Sunday—just the two of us—to reflect, laugh, vent, and share the real behind-the-scenes of our lives together. Think of it as our relationship diary, marriage memoir, and life update all wrapped into one cozy, chaotic, honest little episode that drops every Monday.Whether we're unpacking what made us laugh this week, sharing stories we forgot to tell each other in real time, or navigating the growing pains of being newlyweds, this is your front-row seat to the reality of being cohosts in both life and love.Episode 1 is our here for you, but the rest will be exclusively on Patreon. Come hang with us 💛 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At 27, Alanna Vizzoni was diagnosed with breast cancer—and everything changed overnight. In this raw and honest conversation, she opens up about what it was like to go from “normal” to navigating chemo, a mastectomy, and a surprise engagement all in the same chapter. We talk about identity, body image, intimacy, and what it means to love and be loved through something life-altering. Alanna shares the moments that broke her, the ones that brought her closer to herself and her partner, and why she chose to document it all online.Follow Alanna on Instagram and TikTok Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I sit down with Emma Paige, host of 'too much.', to explore the twists, turns, and personal growth that led her to the love of her life. Emma opens up about her journey from LA to New York, the heartbreaks that shaped her, and how a chance meeting turned into something real with her boyfriend, Mr. Right. We dive deep into what it really takes to move on from relationships that aren’t serving you, why being too much is subjective, and why friendship breakups can be just as heartbreaking as romantic ones.Follow Emma on IG and TikTokFollow 'too much.' on IG and TikTok and listen on Apple and Spotify Check out my guest episode on 'too much.' hereBook a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo catch-up, I’m giving you a life and mindset update from changing my Instagram handles to finally breaking through a running plateau that had me feeling stuck for months For the heart of the episode I share how pouring into activities outside of work, social media, and my relationship transformed my anxiety into confidence. I break down how hobbies helped me learn to like myself again—and why that made my relationship with myself and Jake even stronger. Plus, I answer some of your juicy listener questions: If your boyfriend’s parents help pay for the engagement ring…is that in or out? How to stay independent while living at home in your 20s? Meeting the fam for the first time—what to bring? Long-distance communication: how much is too much?Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me hereGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Give yourself the luxury you deserve + free shipping & 365 day returns at quince.com/seeingotherpeopleStop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices