Seeing Other People

I'm joined by Jacob, a 28 year old in NYC who opens up about going from a tumultuous, long distance, on again off again relationship to now being one year into a healthy relationship with someone he met on Hinge. We hear what his frustrations were when navigating the apps for the first time, what stood out about his now-girlfriend's profile, and how they stayed in touch when she went away for a few weeks after their first date. He shares how guys vs girls in his life approach dating when it comes to texting and overthinking. Finally, Jacob and I answer listener questions about exclusivity, photos of exes on Instagram, and more.Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkoutFind your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50 Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Garin Flowers, writer, journalist, communications expert, and former Bachelorette contestant. We chat about how long you should wait to see if chemistry develops, how to talk about your values and dating goals on a first date, and whether or not a first-date kiss is a reflection on how the date actually went. Garin shares what he learned about dating and confidence from being on The Bachelorette, as well as how being a journalist has helped him navigate communicating on dates. We answer listener questions about moving in with your partner against your parents' wishes, dates ending after going deep, and always being the 5th wheel. Follow Garin on Instagram at @garinflowers, TikTok at @garinflowers and subscribe to Garin's Youtube Channel youtube.com/@gflowers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This weeks unfiltered guest joins us to open up about reconnecting with two people from her past, almost two decades later. She shares what she learned from the experience, what surprised her, and if she would recommend reaching out to your ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image. Dr. Rachel Goldman, PHD Psychologist and Speaker, joins the podcast to share her expertise on how to overcome some of the biggest challenges that women are facing when it comes to dating, self love, and confidence. We discuss the pressures that society and social media put on us when it comes to how to look, what we're doing, and what our timelines are. Dr. Rachel explains why we should strive to feel "good enough" in our daily lives instead of perfect.Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram at @drrachelnyc and learn more at https://www.drrachelnyc.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My maid of honor Julia (!!!) and her fiancé Luke join the show to share their experiences dating while Julia went through medical school and now her residency. We hear what drew them to each other on Coffee Meets Bagel and how their app date turned into a livelong love story. We discuss what how their relationship changed when Julia became a med student, what sacrifices and compromises they each had to make, and how they worked through Julia’s demanding schedule together. We chat about their move to LA for her residency and what it was like moving across the country and moving in together at the same time. Finally, they give their best tips for anyone navigating a relationship where one partner is in school or has a job that requires a lot of their time and energy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia Koren AKA @dating.intentionally and I sit down to discuss why dating is so damn hard and what steps we can take to make it suck less. We hear about Talia’s recent engagement, how she and her now-fiancé built a strong foundation, why she was dating other people when she met him, and how she gave a chance to someone who wasn’t her usual type. We discuss the importance of experimenting with different dating styles, testing out dating advice, and finding what works for you. We chat about love bombing vs. general interest, accepting that you and your ex weren’t compatible, dating a bad texter, and more. Check out Dating Intentionally on Spotify and follow Talia at @dating.intentionally on Instagram  https://intentionally.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristina Kane, Actress and Host of Dirty Daytini, joins the show to discuss some hard truths she’s learned throughout dating. We discuss the differences in dating in LA vs NY, how we healed from toxic relationships, going after what we want,  tailoring our profiles to help attract the right person, and more. Follow Kristina on Instagram @itskristinakane and listen to @dirtydaytini wherever you get your podcasts! Watch the Tyler Perry “Let Them Go” video here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Victoria Alario, Confidence Coach and Host of For The Girls podcast, joins the Seeing Other People family today. We discuss what safety looks and feels like in a relationship, how to stop falling for a version of someone you created in your head, and why you need to focus on how you feel about them instead of how they feel about you. Victoria shares her expertise on how to become more confident, why you shouldn’t let someone’s disinterest shake your confidence, and how to develop standards that stop you from settling for less than you deserve. Later, we answer listener questions about self sabotaging and what to do when an ex continues to go to all of your spots.Follow Victoria @victoria.alario and @forthegirls.podcast on Instagram and listen to For The Girls wherever you get your podcasts!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Linda Panda, a DC-based woman in her mid thirties who opens up about how being raised in Utah with Asian parents impacted her dating life. She shares that while she didn’t have her first kiss until she was 25, a series of whirlwind romance stories would follow. We hear about her mindset with dating, how she’s approached meeting people off of dating apps, and why she’s open to finding a sperm done if she doesn’t find a partner. Follow along with Linda's adventures at @wanderwithpandalove on Instagram!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Mennano, an expert in attachment theory and improving communication, discusses how to find and keep a secure relationship. She shares advice on improving communication, staying connected during conflict, and approaching difficult situations lovingly. Julie also talks about why couples have the same fight, common relationship issues, steps to achieve secure love, and the importance of self-regulation. She even shares her experience raising six children.