Seeing Other People

In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your biggest dating and friendship dilemmas — from why your ex still watches your Instagram stories, to how to say no to being a bridesmaid, to figuring out if “I’m not ready for a relationship” is the truth or just an excuse. We’ll talk jealousy, first dates, situationships, and how to trust again after heartbreak. Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After years of back-to-back heartbreaks, author Abby Rosmarin hit relationship rock bottom and made a radical decision: she stopped dating—completely—and committed to an entire year of choosing herself. Abby shares how she went from chasing love to enjoying her own company, and rebuilding from the inside out. We talk about loneliness, self-discovery, codependency, sexuality, and why, for her, being single with cats really does beat being lonely with the wrong person. Her new memoir The Year of Dating Myself is out now! Learn more at abbyrosmarin-author.com. ALL links⁠⁠ here⁠⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠⁠ nutrafol.com⁠⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we’re recording from Jake’s childhood bedroom, which of course led us to wonder what 13-year-old Jake would think of his life now. We share our life updates, what we’re grateful for, how we started packing way too early, and how football season is going to affect when we see each other. Then we dive into fall date activities—everything from apple picking to haunted houses—and decide which ones we’d actually do and which we’re passing on. ALL links⁠ here⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: Abuse. This anonymous guest shares the story of being with her ex for over eight years, navigating betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak—including infidelity, a pregnancy, and the chaos of planning a wedding that never happened. She reveals how their relationship ended abroad just weeks before her wedding, the shocking ways her ex continued his betrayal, and the lessons she learned about boundaries, self-worth, and resilience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by my friend, fashion designer and founder of Maison Des Nus, Balim Tezel. We talk about what it’s like to build a life from scratch—moving to the U.S. for college, creating a chosen family in NYC, and launching the brand she dreamed of since childhood. Balim shares what dating for the first time in her twenties taught her about herself and what she was looking for, how she unexpectedly met her boyfriend Vinnie, and how his steady support helped her navigate the isolation of being far from home, especially during the four years she couldn’t leave the U.S. while waiting for her green card. Follow Maison Des Nus @maisondesnus on IG & @maisondesnus on TikTok Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠⁠ speakpipe.com/sop⁠ ALL links⁠ here⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠ nutrafol.com⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we talk about the chaos of prepping for our move and how we’re handling all the changes together. We also get into Taylor's engagement, which reality TV shows we’d join (and why we’d be like if we were on The Bachelor), plus some marathon training updates. Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I went from hating running to completing my first half marathon and signing up for the NYC Marathon. On this episode I share my full running journey—injuries, mental battles, and everything in between. I cover how to start running without feeling overwhelmed, essential gear, pacing, nutrition, and staying motivated. Plus, I dive into why I actually love running, the sense of accomplishment it brings, and how it’s helped me unplug and find community along the way. Shop my running favorites here https://shopmy.us/shop/ilana?Section_id=136776&tab=collections Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just because someone ghosted you doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. Ilana is joined by licensed therapist Carla Litto, LMFT, to unpack what actually makes someone a narcissist, what doesn’t, and why the term is being thrown around so loosely. They also talk about how to recognize real narcissistic behavior in relationships, what to do if you’re in one, and how to heal after emotional manipulation or gaslighting. Grab a copy of Outsmarting Egomaniacs wherever books are sold and learn more at https://www.carlalittotherapy.com/ Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We announce a major life update, talk about how absurd the logistics of living in NYC are, and debate whether or not Ilana should start another new business. We also get into our favorite types of nights out (with each other, with friends, and with family), recap the funniest movie we’ve ever seen (no spoilers!), and complain about books that we hate and why it takes families forever to pick a movie.  Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠⁠⁠⁠ speakpipe.com/sop⁠⁠⁠ ALL links⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠ (dating coaching, profile revamp, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at⁠⁠⁠ nutrafol.com⁠⁠⁠ promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/seeingotherpeople⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, an anonymous guest opens up about how body image struggles, weight gain, and health issues in her mid-to-late 20s held her back from enjoying life — and almost stopped her from celebrating her own wedding. From dreading engagement photos and dress shopping to nearly eloping, she shares the turning point that changed everything and how she finally embraced the love and celebration she deserves. Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠ speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices