
Seeing Other People
Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Join host Ilana and both well-known and anonymous, unfiltered guests as they navigate the complexities and realities of modern dating. From first dates to breakups, they’re not afraid to bare all as they dive deep into what it means to be single, in a relationship, or anything in between. Whether you're looking for love, or just want to laugh and commiserate with others, tune in to explore the rollercoaster that is the ever-evolving world of dating. And in the meantime, follow along @seeingotherpeople to feel a little less alone.
Latest episodes

Jul 3, 2025 • 1h 9min
Lessons From the Ones Who Weren’t My Person
In this Unfiltered, a listener shares the hard truths she’s learned through dating, heartbreak, and situationships. From realizing you can’t force someone to like you, to learning that overcompromising and over-efforting doesn’t lead to love, she reflects on the patterns she’s finally ready to break. If you’ve ever asked yourself why didn’t they choose me?—this one’s for you.
ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)
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Jul 1, 2025 • 1h
Inside the Modern Male Mind on Dating
Ryan Kenny, a comedian and avid dater, shares his amusing insights into the world of modern dating. He tackles ghosting, the fatigue from dating apps, and the challenges of initiating conversations. Their chat takes a comedic turn as they explore the awkwardness of first dates, bad sex with good people, and the perceptions surrounding exclusivity talks. Kenny also highlights the art of crafting engaging dating profiles and the significance of authentic communication, all while keeping the mood light with humorous anecdotes.

Jun 26, 2025 • 57min
"How My Worst Relationship Led to Real Growth"
In this Unfiltered, a 39-year-old New Yorker opens up about dating a guy who was terrible for her, but ultimately changed her life for the better. Before, she was stuck in the “cool girl” role, hiding her needs and feeling constant anxiety. After this relationship led her to work with a relationship coach, she learned to be honest with herself and others and date without shame, leading to her now connecting with people who don’t trigger her fears.
ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
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Jun 24, 2025 • 52min
"Hitting The Reset Button on Life"
Dana, a 31-year-old nurse, shares how her seemingly “on track” life slowly unraveled in a toxic marriage that took a toll on her mental and physical health, even causing heart palpitations. After facing manipulation, family drama, and feeling like a stranger in her own life, Dana hit rock bottom — but that moment became the start of her healing. She opens up about rediscovering herself through therapy, self-care, and leaning on her family, and how she’s now focused on rebuilding her independence and creating a life that actually feels good.
Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life.
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Jun 19, 2025 • 55min
Commitment Issues, Pregnant Bridesmaids, and Paying for Apps
n this solo episode, I’m catching you up on life lately—books I'm reading, finishing my half marathon, how I feel about content creation right now, and whether I ever miss being single. I’m also answering your questions on dating app upgrades, chemistry that’s missing, ghosting after three great dates, confusing “what are we” situations, and wedding drama with a very pregnant bridesmaid. It’s honest, a little messy, and very real.
Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist!
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life.
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Jun 17, 2025 • 50min
Meet-Cute Masterclass: Everything You Need to Meet Someone Offline
In a world dominated by dating apps, real-world romance comes alive with practical tips on creating your own meet-cute. Discover how simple gestures and authentic connections spark lasting relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of women taking the initiative, filled with personal success stories to inspire resilience. Listeners are encouraged to share their own experiences, creating a vibrant community around offline connections. Plus, enjoy a glass of wine while planning your next romantic adventure!

Jun 12, 2025 • 60min
The Truth About Healing No One Talks About
I’m joined by Han Huante, host of How I See It, for a vulnerable conversation about mental health, dating patterns, and the real (often messy) work of healing. We talk about how moving out of her comfort zone triggered depression and anxiety, how self-hatred shaped who she dated, and why being “real” with yourself is the first step toward real peace. Hannah opens up about choosing discomfort to find clarity, busts a few big healing myths, and shares why fear has been one of her greatest teachers.
Check out How I See It on Spotify and follow @howhanseesit and @howiseeitpod on IG.
Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist!
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 10, 2025 • 1h 7min
"All Of Our Friends Are Progressing in Life"
I sit down with Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the cofounders of Fourplay Social (@fourplaysocial), for a real, unfiltered girl chat. We’re diving deep into what it feels like when your friends are hitting major life milestones like marriage, babies, and buying homes, while you're still single and wondering if you’re getting left behind. We talk about the pressure to define yourself by your relationship status, the confusing space of wanting a relationship but knowing it might not quite fit into your life right now, and the scary thought of maybe not finding a life partner at all. We also get into how to meet new single friends as an adult, and how to bring up these vulnerable conversations with the people in your life—without shame, and without feeling like you're being dramatic.
Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist!
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 5, 2025 • 55min
Anniversary Special: What Changes (and What Really Doesn’t)
We recorded this episode on our actual one-year anniversary, from Turks and Caicos! We set out to recap the year, and ended up talking about how Ilana ruined the surprise trip, little moments that brought us joy, and what our marriage actually feels like day to day. We answer listener questions about what the first year of marriage has really looked like, what we do and don't remember from our wedding, what our plans are for what's to come, and more.
If you love this episode and want to support the show (and our future kid's college funds) check out Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist!
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople
Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 3, 2025 • 56min
Dating Anxiety: How to Stop Overthinking and Self-Sabotaging
I’m joined by therapist Annie Josephson, PsyD, MSEd, Founder of Uptown Psychology to talk about why dating make us so anxious, even when it’s going well. We discuss why it shows up, how to manage it, and how to tell the difference between fear and intuition. We also answer listener questions about spiraling after dates, ghosting before anything starts, and feeling stuck in situationships.
Subscribe to our Patreon show Cohosts for Life for weekly bonus episodes from me and Jake!
Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here
RSVP here for my Meet Cute Masterclass with Louis Jadot on June 10th in NYC! If there are no spots left, email kobrand@coynepr.com to get on the waitlist!
Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE
Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeopleYour mental health matters.
Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly care.
Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices