Seeing Other People

We’re told that once we find the right person—boyfriend, fiancé, husband—everything will fall into place. But when I got the relationship I always wanted, I realized it didn’t magically fix my insecurities, anxiety, or self-worth. In this episode, I’m opening up about what didn’t get better in my relationship and the surprising things that actually helped me feel more confident, grounded, and whole. If you’ve ever believed a relationship would be the solution, this one’s for you. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carli—friend and now 4x Unfiltered guest (you can catch her most recent episode linked below)—is back for a very real conversation about all the moments we ignore the red flags… until we can’t. We talk about brushing things under the rug, what it feels like to know something’s off but not be ready to walk away, and the pain of breaking up with someone you still love. We get into what it means when someone won’t define the relationship, how to spot the difference between compromising and settling, and the surprisingly wise lessons Carli teaches her young students that we could all stand to learn. Carli's previous episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pkIT3qzFjS6BwR3MQ9wcP?si=fb54defaca914cb0 ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Cohosts for Life, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our relationship—not just the milestones you see on social media, but the ones that shaped us the most. We walk through the major (and not-so-major) moments that brought us closer, the surprising moments that felt bigger than expected, and missed moments where we almost didn’t end up together. We also recap Jake’s birthday celebrations and talk honestly about the hate and negativity that comes with sharing your life online.  Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at speakpipe.com/sop ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When this week’s guest decided to freeze her eggs at 30, she thought she was biding her and her husband time. Instead, she was hit with the news that she had a diminished ovarian reserve and that getting pregnant would be far more difficult than expected. In this episode, she opens up about the rollercoaster of fertility treatments, the pressure women carry when it comes to family planning, and how it’s impacted her relationship. We talk about the conversations with friends that helped her feel less alone, the way her husband has shown up for her, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going when the path to motherhood isn’t what you imagined. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Paul Schoenberg joins us today to get into why “nice guys” are often misunderstood, how texting culture has made rejection feel impersonal and confusing, and why so many people can’t recognize a red flag until they’re paying $2.99 a week just to text someone. We also talk about gluten, group chats, the emotional risk of being earnest, and why knowing what you want isn’t the hard part—finding someone who matches your energy is. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Cohosts for Life, we’re diving deep into a tradition that’s become core to our relationship: the date list. We share how it started, why it’s surprisingly meaningful, and how it's helped us remember little memories that would've been lost to time. We also take a nostalgic walk through five years of Jake’s birthday celebrations — including what we did this past week. And, in true chaotic balance, we also cover: the ridiculous cost of trendy athleisure, why Ilana can’t throw out dried flowers, and Jake’s oddly specific fashion hot take. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all got something we’re scared to talk about. Maybe you still live at home, haven’t had sex yet, just lost your job, or are quietly working through something painful. So many of us carry shame about parts of our lives we think others will judge, but the truth is, everyone’s going through something. In this solo episode, I’m talking about what it means to truly own your story. Not justify it. Not explain it away. Just own it. I’ll share examples, reframes, and reminders to help you feel more confident in the parts of your life that might feel complicated or hard to say out loud. This episode is your permission slip to stop hiding and start showing up exactly as you are. Donate to my Planned Parenthood Marathon Fundraiser at fundraisers.nyrr.org/ilana Download Fourplay Social to meet single friends with your single friends  ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychologist, relationship expert, and author Dr. Harry Cohen joins us to explain the power of being a “positive energizer,” what it really means to bring good energy into a room, and why it’s often the smallest things that make the biggest difference. We dive into how to show up better in your relationship, how to recover from mistakes without overprocessing, why most people give advice the wrong way, and what Dr. Cohen has learned from 45 years of marriage. Get Harry's book here ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeopleGo to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana’s back from a fun bachelorette weekend in Maine and shares her travel nightmares, while Jake recaps his boys weekend with Barkley. Ilana’s riding high from her best long run yet, while Jake’s stuck on the couch dealing with his calf injury. We dive into the viral street-side walking debate that has TikTok roasting Jake for his so-called lack of etiquette. We break down what actually counts as bare minimum vs princess treatment in relationships, debating location sharing, gender norms, what chivalry really means, and more. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople Get 60% off the Magic Mind offer with our link and code https://magicmind.com/seeingmm & SEEING60 #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance  Go to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Waverly Colville signed a lease with a stranger named John Guilyard in the summer of 2020, she never imagined she was also meeting her future partner. Two years of friendship, late-night talks, and dancing around their feelings later, one kiss changed everything. In this episode, Waverly and John join us to share the real story of how they went from roommates to best friends to partners — and everything they learned along the way about timing, fear, and falling in love with someone who already knows the real you.Waverly's IGJohn's CartoonVersion 1 PodcastBusiness Insider Article ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeopleGo to HelloFresh.com/seeingotherpeople10fm to get 10 Free Meals with a Free Item For Life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices