Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Terry, and Terry was trauma bonded to a manipulative physical abuser. They say it takes an average of 7 times to leave your abuser, but for Terry is was much higher. To quote Terry "It's not that I didn't want to break away from my abuser, it was just, I didn't know how to." However, Terry eventually did go no contact, and then took her power back in a very big way.It's a story of isolation, feeling stuck, threats, stalking, trauma bonds, triangulation, physical abuse, addiction, infidelity, putdowns, humiliation, financial abuse, intimidation, minimization, denial, gaslighting, protection orders, love bombing, and exerting your power.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. ***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more.*** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. ***Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comPODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Abigail tells her story of being raised by a psychologically and physically abusive father. Abigail's father needed to be the center of attention for everything, and if he wasn't, everyone in her family faced the consequences. Abigail's story isn't just a story of being abused, but it's also a story of seeing her mother being abused, how her mother didn't protect her, and the smear campaign against her when she tried to leave the family for good.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse of a child. ***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Dr. Ryan Sultan unpacks the complexities and nuances of trauma and its therapies. Dr. Sultan explores how cutting-edge therapies are revolutionizing the way we approach healing. He demystifies the scientific intricacies behind treatments like EMDR, a fascinating neurological approach for addressing trauma, and discusses the promising frontiers of ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. And Dr. Sultan also discusses the power of empowerment in recovery, the impact of a trusting therapist-client dynamic, and its pivotal role in the journey towards reclaiming authority over one's life.To reach out to Dr. Ryan Sultan, please visit his website by clicking here.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Carmella recounts how she found unexpected support from an engaged man during a personal crisis. Their friendship blossomed into romance, and then a pressured proposal, highlighting the struggle of reconciling the whirlwind of emotions with societal expectations and personal apprehension. As we further dissect coercive control dynamics, Carmella examines the effects of controlling behaviors and jealousy, the intense pressure to conform, and the emotional repercussions of a marriage shadowed by a husband's intrusive scrutiny, lack of privacy, and the unequal distribution of domestic responsibilities. Carmella also provides insight into the harrowing effects of escalating physical abuse and control, and the often invisible struggles of co-parenting post-divorce with an uncooperative ex-partner.It's a story of misogyny, pushing boundaries, jealousy, entitlement, physical abuse, custody, post separation abuse, court, divorce, narcissists, narcissism, domestic violence, domestic abuse, rage, bullying, lack of responsibility, emotional abuse, putdowns, financial abuse, lying, infidelity, and generational trauma.*** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse is discussed in this episode. ****If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me, your host Brandon Chadwick, as I sit down with the esteemed Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola to unpack the complex issue of coercive control within intimate relationships. By using the unsettling coercive control allegations by Olya Sharypova against tennis star Alexander Zverev as our backdrop, we navigate the crucial shift in terminology from domestic violence to coercive control, offering a more encompassing understanding of these toxic dynamics.Our conversation delves into the pervasive nature of coercive control across all levels of society, from the personal to the systemic. Explore with us the psychological underpinnings of coercive control, including trauma bonding, grooming, and the role of narcissism. Dr. Cocchiola and I dissect the multifaceted aspects of control and manipulation, emphasizing the critical need for education on the signs of unhealthy relationships and the importance of early boundary setting. We also touch upon the challenging landscape victims face within systems like family courts, which can further perpetuate cycles of abuse.*** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse is discussed in this episode. ****Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola's website can be found by clicking here.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's abuse survivor story, Johana discusses her three year abusive relationship. Like many narcissistic abuse survivor stories, it all started with love bombing. And once the love bombing was complete, Johana's abuser had complete control as the truth teller in her world. From there, Johana's abuser started to weaponize his culture, and he began to employ every tactic in the power and control wheel. Isolation. Intimidation. Checking-in. Male privilege. Minimization. Denial. Blame. Gaslighting. Animal abuse. Financial abuse, Showcasing weapons. Putdowns. Johana's abuser used them all, and thankfully, Johana is still alive today and able to tell her story.It's a story of belief systems, using culture as a weapon, coping mechanisms, the power-control wheel, getting your voice back, animal abuse, physical abuse, addiction, guilt, coercive control, jealousy, intimidation, minimization, gaslighting, isolation, toxic masculinity, weapons, slamming doors, putdowns, competency, doubt, financial abuse, Disney, self esteem, self confidence, suicidal ideation, suicide attempts, self love, getting your voice back, trust issues, rage, anger, being assertive, making yourself small, and trauma.*** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse, Animal Abuse, & Suicidal Ideation/Attempts are discussed in this episode. ****If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses the complexities of seeking validation from an abuser and how this can trap abuse victims in a never-ending cycle of mistreatment. Plus, Brandon discusses the top 8 ways in which validation can help in the healing of narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, and coercive control.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this survivor story, Parker returns to our show, inviting us into the heart-wrenching labyrinth of her past entanglement with emotional abuse. Her story unravels the complexities of a marriage that began with love-bombing and spiraled into a chilling reality marked by financial manipulation and psychological control.Surrounding Parker's abusive relationship, was the continued abuse from her Jehovah's Witness congregation. Parker's story is not just about survival—it's about healing abuse and reclaiming a voice muted by years of psychological abuse. It's a reminder to us all of the transformative power of speaking out and the healing that comes when silenced truths finally find their echo.It's a story of pettiness, emotional abuse, intimidation, control, love bombing, silent treatments, competence, support, getting your voice back, healing abuse, and healing trauma.*** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss sexual abuse and graphic abusive conversations in this episode. ****To listen to Parker's previous survivor story, click here.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Brandon breaks down five types of narcissistic abuse manipulation tactics that exhaust you and why they employ them. If you are in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser, then you know that it can be both mentally/physically exhausting and can leave you feeling drained and depleted.We discuss fear based manipulation tactics, doubt based tactics, monitoring tactics, guilt tactics, lack of responsibility tactics, and sabotage tactics. Each have their own purpose and can all be compounded on top of each other.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices