Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Paris tells her story of marrying a victim-playing abuser. At first, Paris was love-bombed in a way that set her heart on fire. It was intoxicating and overrode all her other senses. From there, her future abusive husband began to play the victim in his life and use guilt to hook Paris in for good. It was a whirlwind that was hard to break free from, and before she knew it, as soon as they were married, the abuse and devaluation began. It's a story putdowns, doubt, humiliation, entitlement, self-centeredness, stalking, church abuse, physical abuse, sexual coercion, emotional abuse, manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, infidelity, domestic violence, domestic abuse, narcissism, toxic relationships, self-worth, patriarchy, financial abuse, and post separation abuse.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, sexual coercion, and uses the "r" word when recreating dialogue from their abuser. ***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Shilo tells her story of growing up in an enmeshed family and a marriage marred by faith-based abuse. Throughout Shilo's life, her mother was always in the background pulling strings and this included her abusive marriage. Shilo was literally living in a twilight zone, only to emerge once she divorced.It’s a sinister story of scapegoats, puppet masters, smear campaigns, and toxic therapists. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, covert narcissistic mothers, victim playing, kernels of truth, toxic faith communities, fraud, deception, faith belief systems, believing the lies you're told, trusting yourself, theft, feeling seen, using faith against you, triangulation, using your past against you, pushing buttons, reactive abuse, justice, generational trauma, control and more.*** This is a rerelease of an old episode and there are some sound issues we did our best to fix ***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Debra tells her story of being the family scapegoat for 50 years. Following a horrific three-year period, in which Debra discovered that her teenage daughter had been sexually assaulted by her nephew (the only son of Debra's golden child turned narcissist twin brother), Debra broke up with her family after enduring decades of emotional/psychological abuse, which in Debra's childhood was also punctuated by physical abuse.It's a story of intergenerational trauma, scapegoats, gaslighting, the golden child, competition, physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual assault, bullying, control, cruelty, epiphanies, rationalizations, the need for approval, being good enough, resilience, courage, putdowns, and manipulation.***Debra would like to recognize and acknowledge all the caregivers and support from police, child services, and support services involved in her story.****** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and child sexual assault.***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we have the return of Maude from our March 7th, 2024 survivor story, and we discuss the crucial moments that led to her escape and the subsequent journey of healing/self-discovery. Maude also discusses the ways you can doubt yourself after being gaslit for so long and the tips she has for abuse survivors to regain their sense of self and what is true. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and animal abuse.***Maude's 1st survivor story can be found by clicking here.If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Blue tells her story of The Frog in the Boiling Pot. Blue was swept off her feet by the man of her dreams, and they moved in together quite quickly However, the abuse began slowly as nitpicking. A year later, the nitpicking also included putdowns. And by year three, the nitpicking and putdowns began to take a toll on Blue's identity. So by the time the physical abuse began, Blue couldn't recognize who she was anymore. It's a story of control, Mr. Right, slow builds, being good enough, future faking, identity erosion, going no contact, gaslighting, nitpicking, sexual coercion, physical abuse, toxic in-laws, self esteem, people pleasing, perfectionism, and threats.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses sexual coercion, physical abuse, and suicidal ideation.***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we welcome play therapist, Sybil Cummins (MA, LPC, ACS), to explore the transformative power of play therapy for children who've faced/witnessed the darkness of coercive control, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Listen in as Sybil enlightens us on how imaginative play not only offers a vital outlet for children to process trauma but also strengthens their problem-solving skills. The conversation takes a crucial turn to address the devastating impact of domestic violence on children, revealing levels of PTSD that rival those experienced by war veterans, and emphasizing the urgent need for tailored support for these young survivors.In the realm of protective parenting post-domestic violence, this episode sheds light on the strategies for nurturing and supporting children who have been through coercive control. We share personal insights on the importance of self-care for the parent and practical tips on creating moments of regulation to be that stable figure children need. Sybil offers her expertise on connecting with children who may be turned against the protective parent, reinforcing the significance of consistent behavior, unconditional love, and compassionate boundaries. For any parent facing the challenges of single parenting and striving to create a safe haven for their child, this discussion is an invaluable resource.Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACSRising Beyond Power and ControlIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women, head over to Sybil's website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Emma chronicles her triumph over childhood trauma and a series of scary abusive relationships. Emma's story begins with an upbringing fraught with abuse, low self-worth, and suicidal ideation. As Emma grows older, her life takes a turn into darker waters as she recounts how she navigated the treacherous currents of coercive control, gaslighting, manipulation financial abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and stalking. Also, Emma discusses her healing journey, self-love, self discovery, and the fortitude required to establish personal boundaries.It's a story of intergenerational trauma, self worth, trauma bonds, love addiction, manipulation, changing abuser types, coercive control, gaslighting, manipulation financial abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and stalking.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses sexual abuse, physical abuse, sexual coercion and suicidal ideation.***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon reads letters and poems from survivors of domestic violence, coercive control, and narcissistic abuse about their experiences. Plus, Brandon analyzes the letters to discuss the big themes of being good enough, survival, and your basic human rights.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses sexual abuse and physical abuse. ***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.The poets you heard today were Kate Rogers and Patrick Grace - They are published by River Street Writing.About the author Kate Rogers: Kate Rogers' poetry and critical writing have appeared in many literary journals and anthologies both in Canada and abroad, including The Montreal International Poetry Prize Anthology (Véhicule Press), Looking Back at Hong Kong (CUHK Press), subTerrain, ARC, PRISM, and many others. Her most recent poetry collection is Out of Place (Aeolus House/Quattro Books 2017.) She is a co-director of the Art Bar Poetry Reading Series in Toronto.About Patrick Grace:Patrick Grace is an author and teacher who divides his time between Vancouver and Victoria, BC. His poems have been published widely in Canadian literary magazines, including Arc Poetry Magazine, Best Canadian Poetry, Columba, EVENT, The Ex-Puritan, The Fiddlehead, The Malahat Review, Prairie Fire, and more. His work has been a finalist for literary contests with CV2 and PRISM international, and in 2020, his poem "A Violence" won The Malahat Review's Open Season Award for poetry. He has published two chapbooks: a blurred wind swirls back for you (Turret House Press, 2023), and Dastardly (Anstruther Press, 2021), both of which explore aspects of love, fear, and trauma that represent a personal queer identity. Deviant, his first full-length poetry collection, continues to explore these themes. Follow him on IG: @thepoetpatrick.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, a transgender woman named Dana courageously shares her story of surviving emotional and sexual abuse by her father. As the eldest child, Dana grappled with the responsibility of protecting her mother and sister while navigating her own harrowing path in and out of the home. Once Dana was out of her abusive home, she thrived through the transformational power of activism and solidarity. However, after losing her job, Dana found herself back living in her childhood abusive household, only to gain her freedom a year later. Dana's experience, which spans the stages of outrage, grief, and empowerment, offers listeners an intimate glimpse into the recovery process, support groups, the importance of advocacy work, and the systemic barriers that survivors often face. It's a story of coercive control, domestic abuse, hate, gender identity, oppression, the patriarchy, ptsd, support, freedom, justice, trauma, mental health, putdowns, belittling, shame, empowerment, psychological abuse, racism, transphobia, homophobia, and the dedication to preserving life.*** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, sexual harassment, and suicidal ideation.***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Maude about how she plans to escape her current relationship with an animal abuser, who is also an emotionally, physically, and sexually abusive narcissist. We used a voice changer for this episode. The sound may not be the best because of it, but it was needed for safety reasonsIt's a story of dehumanization, infidelity, suicide threats, stalking, and the fear of leaving. Plus they discuss, jealousy, rage, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, devaluation, proximity safety, thinking things are your fault, constant blame, kernels of truth, fear, obligation, guilt, shame, steroids, cocaine, addiction, alcohol, reactive abuse, guns, hope, silent treatment, verbal abuse, and much more. We rarely record with someone still in the relationship, but we knew Maude had the perspective needed to tell her story and she pulled it off in spades.*** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses graphic depictions of sexual abuse/coercion, extremely graphic discussion of animal abuse, as well as brief talk of physical abuse.***If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.comTo help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here.PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click HereThe Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click HereSomething Was Wrong | Click HereSUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.comIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllAIf you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypseJoin our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices