EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Of course this seems like something that could never happen, but being honest, do you feel like you and your partner are just high functioning roommates? We are not talking about your actual college roommates, but at some point the experience of aliveness, passion, and being prioritized was overtaken by getting things done, having half conversations, and even disconnection. This is happening for a lot of couples in the season however, as even mentioned by Chris Rock this week on SNL (eluding to the 34% rise in divorce rates over last year). Couples like you are finding themselves in difficult places and reevaluating the relationship. In this episode we give you 3 things to focus on and implement so that you get out of just feeling like roommates and get back to co-creating your life together that doesn't have to look like anyone else's relationship, or how your relationship was in the past. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! (message us for code) Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

It's shocking and contradictory from what you've heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It's not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship. Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills! In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you 3 reasons why love is not enough and then the 3 skills every couple must have to keep love alive. By implementing these skills you will be able to bring love back in any moment that is not feeling as connected or loved by your partner. You will learn that love is not conditional but an experience you always have control over. That's a truly unconditional, empowered relationship! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Hey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.) The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home! Here is the website to read more and save your seats The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Better & Resolve Conflicts Faster, in 5 Hours Instead of 5 Months! We're coming to you live from a super high tech studio that literally will feel like you're in person with us, yet you're in the privacy of your own home. This is NOT going to be full of cliches like "communication is the key to a relationship." Everyone knows that! It will provide you with step-by-step exercises to FINALLY feel understood, and resolve those same 2 or 3 disagreements that keep coming up over and over. Save your seats here! Surprise! A $40 off coupon code that's only good for 48 hours (till midnight on Sept 25th). Enter code: workshop40

So here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say "I'm not talking about this, move on" or even "get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue. Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be talked about. When this happens a few times you get frustrated because nothing seems to change and you are unable to make any progress together when your partner is totally unwilling to open up and let you in. Hope is not lost (Aaron can vouch for that)! In this episode you will understand why this happens for your partner, as well as 3 things you can do differently to keep this pattern from happening. If you use these 3 things you will feel you can actually make progress in the relationship and understand more about each other's needs. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)! Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE event streamed right to your home

Ever have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that's often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past! Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun. In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or past relationships can/is impacting your relationship now. But here's what's taking this to the next level….we also dive into how those past events lead to subtle forms of sabotaging behavior. Before you think, "oh, I don't do anything sabotaging," take a listen and hear some behaviors that you might not have noticed before, that could be keeping your relationship in the same place rather than growing. This is a powerful episode for you to reflect on individually and discuss together. Plus you will get a process to identify what these patterns are, where they come from, and what to do to change them. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 21 Day Relationship Upgrade starting next week! All you have to do is order a FREE hard copy of our book, then you get access to the private group with the 21 day group and activities coming up. Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE-streamed to your home

Real talk....we had a 3 hour conversation this weekend about the possibility of ending our partnership. Not because we haven't been "happy" or that we don't love each other anymore... but because we haven't been living in our full potential as individuals or as a couple. We have high standards for what kind of partnership we're capable of and that's what we invite you into. So we shared openly and candidly with each other about our disappointments, frustrations, and doubts. We used our skills to listen and hold space for each other. Which led to a MASSIVE triumph and feeling more connected and loved than ever. There's too much to tell about this here, so we recorded an entire podcast episode on it. Not only do we share transparently about this deep and vulnerable conversation, but we share with you a COMPLETELY different way of "ending" the relationship so you can truly evolve as a couple. It's something you never will have heard before and many couples never do... About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: "podcast40" at checkout. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.

If you are like Aaron and had a loving upbringing with lots of support from your parents, that means you would be better set up for a strong relationship rather than if you were like Jocelyn and had your parents go through a divorce or tough upbringing right? NOPE! Did you ever think that whatever your past upbringing, it could be what is causing any hiccups in your current relationship? In this episode will hear each of our stories about how we grew up and how Aaron was limited in being able to express and feel love by not seeing examples of emotion and how to handle any conflicts growing up. While Jocelyn's story is one about feeling she had to be the rescuer and felt there needed to be drama to feel that her partner cared about her. Whatever your past upbringing, you are not just interacting with who your partner is right now today, but you are being influenced by your own past examples that are most likely not in the best service of your relationship. This episode is about you bringing awareness into just what that unconscious behavior and impact might be. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: "podcast40" at checkout. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.

You can't get 'down' enough or have a bad enough attitude to positively influence your partner. You just can't; and we prove it to you today! This episode will light a fire in YOU, and shift a destructive belief you might have about how to truly influence your partner to change. Sure, you could get your partner to be "compliant" because of your bad attitude and they just want to succumb to make you happy or get you off their back. But that's not a recipe for lasting love and connection. Instead, you're going to hear a powerful, counterintuitive approach to motivating and positively influencing your partner to shift their attitude or behavior. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources for you: Pre-order The Argument Hangover and get $200 of bonus gifts, including a conflict resolution course Looking for immediate and personal guidance? Schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session Follow us on Instagram

This is one of the truest quotes we've ever heard: "There isn't anything that anyone wants for any other reason than they believe that they will feel better in the having of it." So everything you do in life is all for this one reason-- to feel better! The problem is that this puts your experience of life based on things you don't have 100% control over. It gets even worse for your relationship if you rely on your partner's mood, energy, or actions to make you feel good. This puts pressure, stress, and overwhelm on your partner as well as you in a passive and reactive state within your relationship. Nothing good comes from that! In this episode you get the proactive and active (in the moment) ways to take control of your emotional and mental health. This way you don't rely on your partner but be able to positively influence each other and support the health of your relationship! About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts. The NOW available free mini course will Transform your conflicts Give you power over emotional triggers Set you up to fight smarter Allow you to repair from conflicts faster

Listening is not a passive action! Listening is actually an intentional action. You might not recognize the difference between when you're listening from your EGO vs your HEART. In this podcast, we're going to break down the difference- how it sounds, how it feels to you, and how it feels to your partner. None of us were really taught how to LISTEN, which can leave your partner not feeling truly understood. Sure, you might have HEARD them, but did you TRULY listen. You'll find out how to know. This episode is critical for all couples to listen to and will help you connect at deeper, more profound levels than you've ever imagined. About Us: We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts. To learn more about the last 2 spots for the group coaching journey starting soon, Upgrade Your Partnership, DM us on Instagram.