Daily Boost Motivation and Coaching

Creating a difference in your life is a non-stop process that requires simple actions to help you get what you want. And it is, after all, about getting what you want and keeping what you love.You’ll always go through these steps:1) Decide. Everything begins with your decision to head off in a new direction. While sometimes you may feel like you’ve made a decision, if you’re not moving, you haven’t.2) Define. Aimless wandering is fun when that’s what you’ve decided to do. Otherwise, it’s frustrating, exhausting, and takes place more than you think. When you define your path, you get to walk your path.3) Deploy. As dull as the advice may be, putting your plan into action is the only way to get what you want. If you don’t deploy, you don’t get it.4) Defend. After working hard to get what you want, you can guarantee that something or somebody will try to take away your results. That’s not good or bad. That’s life. When you find what you love, defend it so you never lose it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve noticed in my life that humans are hoarders when it comes to keeping stuff that works and doesn’t. They keep hanging on; their life depends on it.Now, before I go on, I think there are two situations at play here:1) Hanging on to what has worked well but needs to go so you can do more of what you want to do.2) Hanging on what doesn’t work in hopes that it will work well someday.Both can go on for years, leading to frustration as you long for something else. I was on the phone with a client this morning, and we ran into that situation. We began dealing with it a few months ago, and it’s still rearing its ugly head in her life. After exploring it from every angle—Should I keep it?Should I put it to the side and come back to it?Should I toss it and start over?Should I… should I… should I.I finally said the only thing that came to mind -“The mere fact that you keep questioning it tells me you want to drop it. You’re just worried about what comes next, which is strange because what’s next is what you want. Let me ask a question—How would you feel if you dropped everything holding you back and woke up in the morning with a clean slate and ready to move?”She smiled. You know, with that almost embarrassed look that people get when they can’t pretend anymore. She was busted, and she knew it. That’s when she said—“I’m not going to lie. That would feel great!”We had a “moment,” and everything changed. I suggested a 30-day cooling-off period, but with the understanding that she is moving forward and not backward.A few hours later, she sent me a note. It said, “I don’t need 30 days. Thanks.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every day, we all jump into the craziness of life with little thought to the basic rules we use to run our day. Here are a few of mine. You can borrow them if you would like:1) Do what makes your heart sing. You'll always feel better when you are dancing down your path.2) Believe anything is possible. As soon as you believe - everything IS possible.3) Be nice to others. Expect them to do the same. No further explanation is required.4) Believe in people and encourage their dreams. When you do, they'll return the favor.5) Do the right thing. If you mess up, say you're sorry, try again. 6) Meet people where they are in their lives and walk with them to where you both want to go.7) Do what you say you will do. It's always better to under-promise and over-deliver. 8) Make lemonade out of lemons. Everything is fixable if you have the right mindset.9) Keep things simple. Yup.10) Relax. Life is short. Double yup. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Gift of Making a DecisionAs we approach the most spiritual time of year, I find more and more of my thoughts are focused on what my future will bring. But instead of drafting a list of goals, my mind seems to settle into a different place—What if I could give myself a gift that instantly gives me what I want?What if I don't have to chase my dreams and start living them instead?What if there was nothing in my way - ever?While that way of thinking may seem out of touch today, it's not. It happens daily for millions of people worldwide, and it can happen to you, too.Here's a simple truth—Everything changes instantly and, very likely, forever when you decide. If you hate your job and decide to quit, everything changes.Everything changes instantly if you decide you need space for yourself, turn your phone off, and walk in the woods.If you say "Yes" to yourself and "No" to others more often, your experience changes.I could go on forever, but I don't need to. If you've been alive for any time, you understand that you are only stuck until you decide not to be stuck. Once you make that decision, you are moving again. That's life.Is it easy? Are there limitations? Are there consequences? Maybe, but many of them are good! The point is that any directional change in your life is possible when you decide to recalculate your path.So this year, why not give yourself the gift of considering the possibility that the only thing standing in your way is you? If that's the case, why not get out of your way and do what you say you want to do?Yes, I know you may not know what to do.Yes, I know you may not know how to do it.Yes, I know you may be wondering how your life will be.All of that is true. But you know that you want something different?Do you know what's not working?Do you know what you don't want in your life?That should be all the motivation you need to go for your dreams. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All You Need is ONE GoalLet me start by saying that goal setting is powerful, and you should be doing it - but there is a good chance that you are overdoing it.It's human nature to set goals; you do it daily without thinking. That's why it's so powerful. It's also why it's so easy to set so many goals that you can never get any of them done. Let me define how I see goals.No matter what distracts me, I've come to think of goals in two ways:1) Legacy Goals that I will spend my entire life achieving.2) Living Goals that will propel me to my Legacy Goals.I didn't think this way for much of my life, but one day, I accepted that no matter what I was chasing, it was the "who I would become in my life and how do I get there" thoughts constantly rolling around in my head. My internal ScottLOGIC told me that if I'm thinking about something anyway, I might think about it purposefully.Also, since I've never met anybody happy to pursue daily activities that didn't lead to something bigger, I knew that everything should always lead to something bigger. Anything else will eventually break your spirit - and that should never happen.As you set yourself up for a life of satisfaction, no matter how much life gets in the way, think of "Legacy Goals" as the top of a pyramid built on a foundation of "Living Goals." "You must build up your life action by action, and be content if each one achieves its goal as far as possible — Marcus Aurelius.Your mission is to focus on daily "Living Goals" that are designed and intended for you closer to your "Legacy Goals," Stoic philosophy also says —The culmination of human endeavor or end is "happiness" or "flourishing." For some, the idea of a single "Legacy Goal" may seem impossible. After all-How can you possibly know who you will become after an entire lifetime of living?How is it even possible that you can reach a goal you can't define?How is it possible to stay focused on one goal your entire life?Frankly, understanding how that works is something we don't need to worry about today. It's been debated, analyzed, and tweaked for eons. There's no need to overthink; only accept.Your legacy will define itself if you live a happy and flourishing life. Someday, you will arrive at the person you are meant to be - and be glad for it.One goal is all it takes. Everything else is a step on the journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Slow is Fast and Fast is Slow.I was riding my Harley-Davidson Road King a few days ago when my mind suddenly thought -“The Chinese Philosophical concept of Yin and yang describes how opposite or contrary forces may be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world.”What? What? Huh?It happened right before the Daytona Speedway and got me thinking about the advice I give my clients about slowing down. It goes like this -“You must slow down to get what you want.”Advice like that is why I get the big bucks for what I do. No, not really. I get paid because nobody believes me, and it’s up to me to prove it.Let’s go riding.Whenever I’m cruising on my motorcycle, I love it fast and loud, making me smile. That’s the Yin of riding a bike, but you can only go fast and loud for so long before the light turns red in front of you or blue behind you.  Occasionally, the place you are speeding toward gets congested, and you have no choice but to slow down. But when you are a high-performance machine designed to go fast, slowing down can be challenging - especially on a 900-pound Harley. That’s where the Zin of riding a motorcycle comes into play.Slowing down is the opposite of fast, yet it can yield the same result - if you know what you are doing.Whether it’s your life or a motorcycle, success requires precision control. If you get it right and trust yourself and your machine, you will continue to make progress. On a motorcycle…1) Slow down but keep moving. Never stop.2) Rev your engine so that you always have power to your wheels.3) Since the motorcycle wants to go faster, pull the clutch into the friction zone between nothing and everything while putting your foot on the rear brake.What?Slow down? Rev your engine? Hit the brakes?Yes. That combination virtually assures that you keep moving forward in any situation, in full control, until it’s time to open it up again.That same thing happens in life.You can’t run full out all the time, and sometimes you must stop. You keep moving forward for everything else in between, no matter how slow you go. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Expectations in Love And EverythingWhen I first met my wife, Joi, I knew we would be married and live happily ever after. But there was a problem. Joi didn’t see it that way - at least not right away.If life has taught me anything, almost nobody is on the same page when they first meet. We might be in the same book but not on the same page. In the early weeks of our relationship, I was in full-on action mode and on a mission to achieve my goal as quickly as possible. I was also frustrated since Joi didn’t share my urgency. She was enjoying our relationship and in no hurry. One day, I decided to take action -I dragged myself out of bed at 4:30 AM, drove 30 minutes, and waited for Joi to arrive at the gym. I met her when she stepped out of her car, nearly scaring her to death, and said,“I love you. What do I have to do to catch you? We should…” Stopped by a kiss, she said, “We’ll know in about 6 months. Let’s enjoy the ride.”It wasn’t the answer I sought, but Joi had given me something even more powerful. She gave me an expectation; I knew her rules and how to play the game, and I knew she was right. All romantic, friendship, or professional relationships follow the same path. There is an initial spark, a period of trust-building, and commitment. In time, the relationship grows stronger or will fade. Time will tell.That’s how it works and how it went for us. Exactly 6 months later, I asked Joi to marry me, and she said yes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exploring Your PossibilitiesWhat do I want to be when I grow up? The first time you ask yourself that question is when you are very young - if you ever asked it at all. Frankly, somebody else usually asks you, and you probably don't have an answer, so you just take off running with this thing called life. And then it happens —Forty or fifty years later, people start asking themselves that question again after a family and career. The smart ones in the crowd don’t wait either; they question who they are right now. It can be a scary time.If you are looking for a change in your life, here are a few things to understand—You can't move forward by hanging on to what you have. Remember, you get more of what you focus on in your life. If you focus on what you are giving up, you'll get more. Instead, you must focus on the unknown future and look for clues about what you will do.I call the process "Exploring Your Possibilities.Imagine if anything is possible and there is no limitation or consequence. There is no commitment required, and money doesn't matter. Time has no impact. None of that matters because once you stumble upon what you want, you will have arrived, and everything will be forever different.How do you make this happen?The secret is to put the brake on what you are doing while you seek new adventures. It will take time to find a good fit, so you'll have to ensure you stay in your old ways. Please don’t do it, no matter how comfortable it may feel, to get back in your comfort zone.Pump the brakes. Hold the space you've created. Explore your possibilities, and let life unfold in front of you. It may take time to happen. Then again, maybe it won't. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine receiving the gift of a wonderful life filled with more free time, less stress, and richer relationships. Self-awareness is essential for identifying your dreams and taking responsibility for your happiness. Stop waiting and start living your desired life, focusing on small daily joys. During this reflective season, it's time to nurture your aspirations and embrace intentional lifestyle design for a fulfilling future. The journey toward a wonderful life truly begins with you!

Happy Thanksgiving!These days, most folks don't remember what Thanksgiving is all about - other than big sales all over Amazon.The Pilgrims celebrated the first Thanksgiving after a successful harvest in October 1621. The feast lasted three days. The federal holiday began in 1863 when President Abraham Lincoln proclaimed a national day of "Thanksgiving."  Thanksgiving is about being grateful. I think a statement from Stoic Philosopher Epictetus is fitting, "He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has."Today and every day, let's make it "Thanks-Living" day.Eat well, nap, watch football, and embrace your family and friends.  Joi and I are thankful that you allow us into your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices