Pivot with Jenny Blake

Have you ever considered teaching for a university? Even if you don’t take the path of Ph.D. student pursuing a tenure-track position, you can land adjunct roles after reaching a certain point in your professional career.Today’s guest Alex Budak—who happens to be someone I went to high school and college with (and someone who gave me hope that I could succeed in the earliest days of self-employment!)—is taking us behind-the-scenes of pivoting into a professorship.Alex shares how he got his foot in the door at UC Berkeley; going from googling “how to write a syllabus” to improving and curating his curriculum; how much time teaching requires; his process for revising materials after class based on how they land among students; and most of all, the “magic alchemy” rewards of teaching in a university setting even when the pay is lower than other opportunities.More About Alex: Alex Budak is a UC Berkeley faculty member, social entrepreneur, author, and speaker. At UC Berkeley, Alex teaches his wildly-popular course “Becoming a Changemaker,” directs the Berkeley Haas Global Access Program, and teaches in Berkeley Executive Education programs. Alex co-founded StartSomeGood in 2011, which has helped over 1,200 changemakers in over 50 countries raise millions of dollars to launch and scale new change initiatives. His book, Becoming a Changemaker: An Actionable, Inclusive Guide to Leading Positive Change at Any Level, has been endorsed by Nobel Prize winners, Olympic athletes, and most meaningful of all—his students. He is a graduate of UCLA and Georgetown University.🌟 3 Key Takeaways The academic flywheel, as described by professor Morten Hansen at UC Berkeley: Teach a class, refine that material into a book, share it with a variety of audiences, collect new case studies, then repeat those steps so that each builds upon the one before it, improving the content that follows. Teaching can be all-consuming at the beginning, but it does get easier and smooth out over time, especially as you get specific feedback from each round of students. “One person teaches, two people learn.” The magic and serendipity of teaching is that every single class is different, due to the alchemy of who is in the room. Teaching can help you stay connected to younger generations, and stretch you to keep your thinking fresh. ✅ Try This Next: Write a list of three classes you’d be excited to teach—don’t be afraid to dream! Ignore the constraints of disciplines and what currently exists, just capture titles and a description of what at least one course could look like. Bonus: consider running it as a 45- to 90-minute virtual workshop to pilot the material.🔗 Resources Mentioned Alex on the web, Twitter, LinkedIn Articles: NYT Magazine’s Interview with Laurie Santos, Inc—The Way We Count Our Time At Work Isn't Working: Instead of a 40-plus hour-per-week sprint, think of it as a relay race. People: Seth Godin, Allison Kluger, Morten Hansen, Jim Collins Jenny’s Pivot in the Classroom: Sample syllabi and case studies 📚 Books Mentioned Becoming a Changemaker: An Actionable, Inclusive Guide to Leading Positive Change at Any Level Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck Multipliers, Revised and Updated: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smart by Liz Weisman The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact by the Heath Brothers Different: Escaping the Competitive Herd by Youngme Moon Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Life After College 🎧 Related Episodes Podcast: The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos 324: Six Golden Shadows of the Imposter Complex with Tanya Geisler 251: Listener Q&A on (Furry) Imposter Monsters 310: When the Career Grass Really is Greener — On Job Crafting with Rebecca Fraser-Thill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“When there’s a fork in the road, take it.” That’s one of my favorite Yogi Berra classics of paradoxical wisdom. Pivoting is defined by its own set of paradoxes and tricky decision points, so today I invited a special guest to the pod to share two of her frameworks that I fell instantly in love with, and that I know you will too!We’re also celebrating the one-year bookiversary and recent Audiobook release of Sarah’s wonderful book, Expansive Impact: An Invitation to Lead in Everyday Moments.If you haven’t already, be sure to listen to our earlier conversation in episode 277 on Spacious Scheduling, and subscribe to her fantastic Friday Favorites newsletter! It’s one of my favorite messages every week, always chock full of great resources and links—from yummy French cookies and lemon loaf tea to playlists for any mood or season :)More About Sarah: Sarah Young is the Founder and CEO of Zing Collaborative and author of Expansive Impact: An Invitation to Lead in Everyday Moments. She works with conscious and committed clients who want to elevate and expand their leadership capacity. She has a deep appreciation for nature, travel, sunshine, warm weather, paddle boarding, rescue dogs, cooking, coffee, and the precious hours of the early morning.🌟 3 Key Takeaways Grounding—Connect to your highest self. Who are you when you are at your best? When you are operating from love, versus fear? What would your highest self do? Exploring—Try on the different options. Imagine yourself there. What does each option feel like? What do you see in each scenario? What is happening, and how do you feel? Clean energy is clear and flowing, with a natural feeling of psychological safety. You aren't wasting time or energy thinking about whether something is off. You can simply show up and be in relationship with the other person. ✅ Try This Next: As Oprah says, “Your life is whispering to you.” Sit with this as an inquiry—what is yours saying about a tricky decision or relationship?🔗 Resources Mentioned Sarah on the web, IG: @zingcollaborative Newsletter: Friday Favorites Playlist: Big Energy (Spotify) Apps for asynchronous communication Marco Polo, Voxer, Telegram (iOS, Android) Articles: Sarah’s blog posts on Tips for Making Tough Decisions and Clean, Clean Energy; Martha Beck on Victory by Surrender (clean vs. dirty pain), and Cheryl Strayed via Dear Sugar—The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us 📚 Books Mentioned Expansive Impact: An Invitation to Lead in Everyday Moments by Sarah Young Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed Finding Your Own North Star and Steering by Starlight by Martha Beck Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Life After College 🎧 Related Episodes Pivot: 277 on Expansive Impact and Spacious Scheduling, 292: True Fun vs Fake Fun with Catherine Price, [Best Of] Penney & Jenny 9: Truth and Making "Good Choices" (July 2019) Free Time: 174: What Glass Blowing has to do with Book Marketing — Celebrating Free Time’s One-Year Bookiversary ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you.”That’s just one of many gems from Kevin Kelly’s new book Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I’d Known Earlier, bits of wisdom that he thinks of like handrails to grab when he needs a quick reminder about what is most important.In this conversation, we revisit our 2016 discussion about the power of human-AI partnerships, give you permission not to become a billionaire, help you lean into serendipity and embrace paradox, and encourage you to buy your time (through delegation) so that you can focus on doing the work that only you can do. As Kevin says, “Don’t be the best, be the only.”More About Kevin: Kevin Kelly helped launch WIRED magazine in 1993. He is a renowned technology and science writer, futurist, and thinker who has been at the forefront of digital culture for decades. Kelly's work explores the intersection of technology, culture, and society, and he is known for his thought-provoking insights on the future of innovation and the impact of technology on our lives. He has authored multiple books including The Inevitable, Out of Control, The Silver Cord, and What Technology Wants. His newest is Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I’d Known Earlier (May 2023). He lives in Pacifica, California with his family.🌟 5 Favorite Takeaways from Excellent Advice for Living ChatGPT and generative AI tools are becoming the intern that everybody can have; you’ll still need to check their work, but you no longer need to start from scratch. You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person. Measure your wealth, not buy the things you can buy, but buy the things that no money can buy. Delegate what you can. Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone. Be generous. Give ideas (and compliments!) away, and even more will return to you. ✅ Try this experiment: You’ll get invited to an argument in the next week or two. Decline the invitation; don’t attend!🔗 Resources Mentioned Kevin on the web, Instagram: @kevin2kelly, Twitter: @kevin2kelly, YouTube, podcast: Cool Tools Articles: WIRED’s Picture Limitless Creativity at Your Fingertips, NYT—Bing’s AI Chat” I want to be alive,” and A Conversation with Bing’s AI Chatbot Left Me Deeply Unsettled Video: TED—The Future Will be Shaped by Optimists OpenAI’s ChatGPT 📚 Books Mentioned Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I’d Known Earlier by Kevin Kelly The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future and What Technology Wants by Kevin Kelly Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Life After College 🎧 Related Episodes Pivot: 36: Kevin Kelly on Techno Literacy, Systems Thinking, Artificial Intelligence and Virtual Reality (July 2016) 305: Is What You Are Wanting Actually What’s Best For You? With Luke Burgis 264: Embrace Your Onlyness with Nilofer Merchant 61: Virtual Freedom: Overcome Superhero Syndrome and Start Outsourcing with Chris Ducker 270: Free Time Framework for Moving from Friction to Flow in 2022 Free Time: 153: Behind the Podcast — Increasing Serendipity Surface Area — Mic Flip with Matthew Thompson, 084: Sprinkling the First 1,000 Serendipity Seeds of a Launch, 017: Serendipity as Business Strategy with Leanne Hughes ☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to ‘casts📝 Check out full show notes at http://pivotmethod.com/321 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How ambitious are you? More importantly, how ambitious do you want to be in different areas of life and work? Today’s guest, Kathy Oneto, takes the long view on goals, especially for those of us who are naturally inclined to overwork until we burn out. Instead, we can be more intentional by toggling the dials of right ambition, right effort, and right time up and down as we move through different seasons.In this conversation, Kathy and I discuss managing ambition anxiety, how to know if you’re bumping up against what Gay Hendricks calls an “Upper Limit Problem” versus your “truest fit reduced ambition,” mapping energy vs. urgency, and how to know when ambitions or life seasons have truly shifted versus handling a short-term setback.More About Kathy: Kathy Oneto is a strategy executive and life-work coach who is passionate about helping people succeed on their terms at work and in life. She is the host of the Sustainable Ambition podcast. Kathy champions being consciously ambitious and crafting fulfilling work from decade to decade without sacrificing your life or yourself. She is the author of the Sustainable Ambition 12-Month Workbook and Planner: Your Life plus Work Resilience Prescription and My Little Book of Curiosity: 26 Inquiries to Inspire What’s Next for Your Life and Work.🌟 3 Key Takeaways For any area creating stress, ask "Is this an ambition I still want?" If so, how much effort do I want to put into it? What you wanted at once time might not match where you are now. As a result, you may need to dial the effort you are putting towards that area up or down. Sometimes ambition can clash with what you're capable of, and that can contribute to not feeling like it’s worth the effort. Add structure to support your ambition and current capabilities. Four areas to consider if it’s becoming harder to move along a certain path: Your vision for your life and your work, your core values, what you want to give and contribute in the world and your community, and what you love. ✅ Try This Next: Dial-in your ambition. For any given goal, task, project, or area of your life, decide: How good do I want to be? Good, very good, the best? How much effort do I want to put into this? Be discerning as you recalibrate your ambition and the level of effort required to match.🔗 Resources Mentioned Kathy on the web, IG: @sustainableambition, LinkedIn, YouTube Kathy’s podcast: Sustainable Ambition Article: Reclaim Ambition on Your Terms Jenny’s private BFF Community for Heart-Based Business owners 📚 Books Mentioned Kathy’s book: Sustainable Ambition 12-Month Workbook and Planner: Your Life plus Work Resilience Prescription, My Little Book of Curiosity: 26 Inquiries to Inspire What’s Next for Your Life and Work Get It Done: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation by Ayelet Fishbach Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One 🎧 Related Episodes Sustainable Ambition: 93 on Dialing in Your Ambitions with Kathy Oneto, 48. On Yes! to Free Time & High Net Freedom with Jenny Blake, 60. On The Success Factor: A Blueprint for High Performance with Ruth Gotian Pivot: Pivot x Career Pathfinder Playlist, 281: Feeling Impostery? Become a Qualified Curator Instead of an End-All-Be-All Expert Free Time: 181: Be Irreplaceable with My Creative Coach Jay Acunzo, 035: The Long Game with Dorie Clark, 143: Exploring Time, Money, and Energy Capacity with Tara McMullin and Charlie Gilkey (Replay), 141: Process, Permission Slips, and Business Pivots with Tara McMullin ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter📝 Check out full show notes at http://pivotmethod.com/320 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who is sitting in the boardroom of your brain? Who is sitting around the table, challenging your decisions, making noise, and offering critiques?Today Adrian and I are walking through one of our favorite coaching exercises by offering up (and coaching each other through) identifying and describing three of our current loudest board members and who we want to hire moving forward. This work connects to a therapy tool called Internal Family Systems which Adrian will share more about in our next episode together.We want to hear from you! Leave us a voice memo about this episode or to request a future topic for us to cover at http://pivotmethod.com/ask.Are you working on a pivot-in-progress? For guidance on reconnecting with what lights you up and creating an action plan to move forward, check out Adrian’s flagship Career Pathfinder Program and apply promo code PIVOT at checkout.More about Adrian: Adrian Klaphaak is a coach, purpose guide, entrepreneur, and founder of A Path That Fits Career and Life Coaching. His coaching approach is holistic—a constant balance between getting results and a quest for meaning and fulfillment. He describes himself as “a deep seeker with a constant itch to make things happen.”🌟 3 Key Takeaways We all have parts of us that seem like voices in our heads speaking from different perspectives. When experiencing change, separating them out can provide powerful clarity. Ask questions and imagine (or write) the answers from each of your board members. What is each one's primary motivation? Their biggest fear? What are they trying to protect you from? What is the bigger vision coming from your more critical board members? For example, that you experience greater peace, success, time with your family, etc. ✅ Try This Next: Brainstorm your current board members, either on a piece of paper or together with a friend. Make a list of as many as you’d like, and build out the description by personifying them: What are they wearing? How are they acting? What is their primary fear and their primary motivation? What do you want to say to each one? Bonus: Who are the three board members you’d like to hire moving forward to help bring out your best self?🔗 Resources Mentioned Adrian on the web, Yelp, Facebook, LinkedIn Course: Career Pathfinder, promo code PIVOT IFS Training: Internal Family Systems Coach Training: CTI Articles: Finding Your Calling by a Path the Fits Selfleadership.org 📚 Books Mentioned The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want by Natalie Lue Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Life After College 🎧 Related Episodes Previous Pivot x Career Pathfinder Playlist with Adrian 313: What’s the pebble in your shoe? Pivoting from Wall Street to RadReads with Khe Hy 292: True Fun vs Fake Fun with Catherine Price 303: What is Your Soul Path for 2023? Follow What’s Most Alive — With Adrian Klaphaak Free Time: 138: ⛵️ Stop Sailing the Sea of Shiny Shoulds ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter💻 Check out Jenny’s Pivot courses on LinkedIn Learning: Figuring Out Your Next Move, Holding 1:1 Career Conversations With Your Team, Managing Introverts, Coaching New Hires, and Coaching New Managers💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to ‘casts📝 Check out full show notes at http://pivotmethod.com/319 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Friends! I'm re-airing this announcement from the Free Time podcast as a friendly reminder that we made it to the nomination stage of the Webby Awards, the "Oscars of the Internet!"The Webbys celebrate the best and most innovative online content across websites, podcasts, games, apps, and videos. This nomination alone is a major achievement, putting us in the top 12% of nearly 14,000 projects entered.📣 Between now and TOMORROW, April 20th:Please visit itsfreetime.com/webby and cast your vote for Free Time! We're up for best individual episode in the Business category. I did a double-take when I saw the other nominees, as we're by far the smallest show and the only indie that's not part of a larger network. So if you want to cast a vote not just for me, but for independent creators everywhere, I would be incredibly grateful if you could . . . ✅ Visit itsfreetime.com/webby and cast your vote for Free Time before EOD on Thursday, April 20! After that, you'll see the results of where we currently stand :) You do have to go through a small registration process (just a few questions), but after that you can peruse other categories and vote for your favorite show among those too :)THANK YOU!! For being you, for being here, and for helping Free Time stay afloat through accolades like this one :) I also want to thank the One Stone Creative production team for making both of these shows possible. Without them, there's no way we would have landed this nomination. They help the trains run on time, ensuring every single one of 12 episodes goes live across these two shows—Pivot and Free Time—every single month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“It’s OK to be a late bloomer as long as you don’t miss the flower show.” —Jane FondaThat’s a quote that today’s guest, Jenna Valovic, pulled to remind herself that not all of us are what she calls straight arrows when it comes to career paths, landing on a singular purpose early without wavering, and experiencing success and achievement from a young age.Late bloomers, on the other hand, can learn to embrace the winding road—at least once they stop shaming and blaming themselves for not having it all figured out yet.After all, as Jenna says, “Few things make you appreciate achievement more than waiting years to experience it. Consequently, many late bloomers find success to be even more savory when it comes.”Listen in to this week’s conversation for strategies on embracing the best parts of being a late bloomer, while having patience in the process of self-discovery and self-expression.More About Jenna: Jenna Valovic is a Certified Professional Co-Active Career Coach (CPCC) who brings an open mind and holistic lens to help clients build a life that feels impactful, aligned, and fully in integrity. She is one of our Pivot coaches, and holds a masters degree in leadership and organizational development, with a background in positive psychology, breathwork, and vinyasa yoga. We met many years ago through Google, where Jenna has worked for nearly a decade, most recently in executive recruiting.🌟 3 Key Takeaways Three qualities of late bloomers: They take a circuitous path; they tend to be experimental, rather than conceptual; and they are often misunderstood. Own your choices while still considering the soil you’re currently planted in: “When a flower doesn’t bloom, you don’t fix the flower, you fix the environment.” Hindsight is helpful: Often the outcome of where you end up is so much better than what you could have imagined, so make a practice of reflecting on where you’ve been and the accomplishments that brought you to where you are now. ✅ Try This Next: Set up a small, low-stakes pilot (even at an hour a week) for something sparking your curiosity. Park your insecurities on the side while embracing a “willful suspension of disbelief.”🔗 Resources Mentioned Jenna on the web, LinkedIn, Pinterest Work with Jenna as your Pivot Coach Articles: Jenna’s Lessons From A Late Bloomer: How To Uplevel Your Post-Pandemic Life and In The Wrong Career? Consider Planning A Pivot Now, New Yorker: Late Bloomers by Malcolm Gladwell Video: Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling | Emilie Wapnick Personality Tests: Enneagram, Myers-Briggs 📚 Books Mentioned Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Life After College Switchers: How Smart Professionals Change Careers and Seize Success by Dr. Dawn Graham The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self by Martha Beck Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement by Rich Karlgaard 🎧 Related Episodes 282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding 56: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber 112: Whose Voice is in Your Head? Perfection Detox Round Two with Petra Kolber 197: Should You Start a Podcast? "It's A Love Game" — Interview by Petra Kolber ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter💻 Check out Jenny’s Pivot courses on LinkedIn Learning: Figuring Out Your Next Move, Holding 1:1 Career Conversations With Your Team, Managing Introverts, Coaching New Hires, and Coaching New Managers💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to ‘casts📝 Check out full show notes at http://pivotmethod.com/318 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you feeling trapped by the infinite scroll of distractions? According to today’s returning guest, Paul Angone, we have all become cultural escape artists, what he dubs the “Refresh Generation.” Paul writes, “We are constantly getting a hit from our phone for the latest update. The iPhone is our cigarette, and too many of us are chain-smoking our phones."It’s time to get off the dizzying carousel of phone addiction, and relearn how to listen to ourselves and our day for aha moments instead. Paul believes that “the most successful and fulfilled people on this Earth are simply better at paying attention to what's important.”More About Paul: Paul Angone is one of the most trusted and sought-after voices in the nation to college students, young professionals, and those going through career change. Paul is the bestselling author of 101 Secrets for Your Twenties, 101 Questions You Need to Ask in Your Twenties, 25 Lies Twentysomethings Need to Stop Believing, and today we’re talking about his new book, Listen to Your Day: The Life-Changing Practice of Paying Attention. He is also the creator of AllGroanUp.com and the All Groan Up podcast, and a dynamic keynote speaker at universities, corporations, and churches nationwide. He was previously on the show in April 2018, episode 92: Adulting to Win: Powerful Questions and Pivotal Plot Points.🌟 3 Key Takeaways Create space to do your best work: Sometimes we do our best thinking when not actively working at all. Pay attention to what helps you get in flow, and engineer those opportunities for yourself. As Paul says, “I'm really learning that I do my best writing when I'm not writing.” Paying attention is the path to becoming an expert. “Experts focus on one thing through a lens that others are not willing, or cannot, see through.” What is your secret sauce? The unique ingredients you're combining to “create a substance that the world really needs, that the world is hungry for, that the world is desperate for.” ✅ Try This Next: Practice different ways of paying attention: How would a monk consider this problem? What about a farmer or an entrepreneur?🔗 Resources Mentioned: Paul on the web, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, Pinterest Paul’s podcast: All Groan Up TV Shows and Movies: The Last of Us (HBO), Chef’s Table (Netflix), Delicious (Amazon Prime), Searching for Sugar Man, Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade Articles: Paul’s Top five all-time blog posts 📚 Books Mentioned: Paul’s books: 101 Secrets for Your Twenties, 101 Questions You Need to Ask in Your Twenties, 25 Lies Twentysomethings Need to Stop Believing, Listen to Your Day: The Life-Changing Practice of Paying Attention Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Life After College 🎧 Related Episodes: Tristan Harris’s Your Undivided Attention All Groan Up: I’m a failure! And why that’s a lie, Moment 92 - How to Find Out EXACTLY What You Want to Do in Life: Mark Manson Pivot: 92: Adulting to Win: Powerful Questions and Pivotal Plot Points with Paul Angone 250: Staycation in the City 254: The Practice—On Generosity, Peculiarity, and Showing Up with Seth Godin 305: Is What You Are Wanting Actually What’s Best For You? With Luke Burgis ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter💻 Check out Jenny’s Pivot courses on LinkedIn Learning: Figuring Out Your Next Move, Holding 1:1 Career Conversations With Your Team, Managing Introverts, Coaching New Hires, and Coaching New Managers💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to podcasts📝 Check out full show notes from this episode with links to resources mentioned at http://pivotmethod.com/317 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s solo riff is on a three-word phrase that has helped quell countless waves of anxiety in the decade since I first heard it, wisdom passed from my friend Monica McCarthy's (aka MonBon’s) mom then to the pages of Pivot. Pardon the occasional panting (lol) and background noise—err New York City soundscape—as I recorded this one on a big hill at the park, running up and down while throwing a giant log for Ryder to chase. He chases sticks, I chase ideas!🌟 3 Key Takeaways: Memento Mori, though it is by definition morbid, is a practice of reminding ourselves that we (and our loved ones) will die. As the monks at Wat Umong temple hand-wrote on a note posted to a tree, “Remember: In 100 years, all new people.” How can you allow this reality to inform how you engage in relationships without leading to excessive anxiety or worry? The Second Arrow: Notice when you are suffering because of a story you are telling yourself after a painful event, grinding the gears of a problem and making it worse long after the fact. Remember, “Worry is praying for what you don’t want.” Try not to worry for or about others either; it’s not a nice energy to project or to feel. ✅ Next Action: If you notice yourself worrying or anxious, try to remind yourself of those three little words from MonBon's mom: Don't suffer twice.📚Books Mentioned Life After College Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves by Stephen Grosz When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by Tosha Silver Change Me Prayers: The Hidden Power of Spiritual Surrender by Tosha Silver 🔗 Resources Articles: Many Animals—Including Your Dog—May Have Horrible Short-Term Memories, Memento Mori, The Second Arrow People: Monica McCarthy, Tosha Silver, Penney Peirce 🎧 Related Podcast Episodes Pivot: 312: Are You Future-Tripping? Jenny & Penney Show (Spotify playlist) Slow Cooked vs. Pressure Cooker Free Time: 170: 🌈 “Imagine a World of Abundance” ✨ 172: Free Time Isn’t Just for the Fun Days 138: ⛵️ Stop Sailing the Sea of Shiny Shoulds ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter💻 Check out Jenny’s Pivot courses on LinkedIn Learning: Figuring Out Your Next Move, Holding 1:1 Career Conversations With Your Team, Managing Introverts, Coaching New Hires, and Coaching New Managers💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to podcasts📝 Check out full show notes from this episode with links to resources mentioned at http://pivotmethod.com/316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What would you do if you had more confidence? Today’s guest, Kelli Thompson, polled over 500 people with this question and received answers that were equal parts inspiring and heartbreaking.In this conversation, Kelli shares the story of walking down the aisle at her first wedding when her intuition was whispering that the relationship wasn’t right, but she didn’t yet have the confidence to listen.We discuss strategies for listening to that still, small voice within; how to stop “box-checking” for external validation; the flip side of the imposter monster: pedestal syndrome; and working through the “poop soup” of liminal space between major changes. As Kelli says, “You can’t criticize yourself into more confidence.”More About Kelli: Kelli Thompson is a women’s leadership coach and speaker who helps women advance to the rooms where decisions are made. She has coached and trained hundreds of women to trust themselves, lead with more confidence, and create a career they love. She is the founder of the Clarity & Confidence Women's Leadership Program and a Stevie Award winner for Women in Business—Coach of the Year. She is the author of Closing The Confidence Gap: Boost Your Peace, Your Potential & Your Paycheck, which was selected as a must-read by The Next Big Idea Club.🌟 3 Key Takeaways: Your intuition is going to tell you things your brain doesn’t want to hear, but it isn’t always loud. Those little nudges and questions are trying to get your attention and are worth spending time with. We often default to checking the boxes of what we, or our communities, think it means to be successful. Ask yourself: “Do I even want this? Does it feel good? Does this give me energy?” New job smell wears off. The problems we bring with us into new environments are going to come up again and again unless we deal with the internal issues—boundaries, communication, confidence—that cause them in the first place. Try This Next: Write down 3-5 things in your life that you no longer want. Where do you feel resentment? What is out of alignment? Choose one to have a conversation about or draw a boundary around as a next step.📘Books: Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business Closing The Confidence Gap: Boost Your Peace, Your Potential & Your Paycheck Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live by Martha Beck Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff 🔗Resources: Kelli on the web, Instagram: @kelliraethompson, Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook People: Martha Beck, Kristin Neff, Marissa Knox Article: Growing Wings: The Power of Change by Martha Beck Book Club: The Next Big Idea Club The Life Coach School Episode 9: It Doesn’t Get Better Than This 🎧Related Podcast Episodes 52: Martha Beck on Enlightenment and Messages our Bodies Send 282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding 251: Listener Q&A on (Furry) Imposter Monsters 281: Feeling Impostery? Become a Qualified Curator Instead of an End-All-Be-All Expert 313: What’s the pebble in your shoe? Pivoting from Wall Street to RadReads with Khe Hy 124: Penney & Jenny Show — Embracing Liminal Space (the In-Between) 164: Fix This Next (And Stop Keeping Up With The Entrepre-Joneses) with Mike Michalowicz ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :)💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter💻 Check out Jenny’s Pivot courses on LinkedIn Learning: Figuring Out Your Next Move, Holding 1:1 Career Conversations With Your Team, Managing Introverts, Coaching New Hires, and Coaching New Managers💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey☎️ Submit a question or comment for future episodes**🎧 **Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to ‘casts📝 Check out full show notes from this episode with links to resources mentioned athttp://pivotmethod.com/315 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices