It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield

Can assertiveness be mistaken for bitchiness? Bel Crawford is the powerhouse behind The Self-Love Club podcast and she has a LOT to share with Abbie about managing shitty friendships, establishing your personality and authority at work, a how to cut f*ck boys out of your life for good. Also, why on earth is Abbie talking about Grant Denyer going for a wee? This episode is brought to you by CHEEX: a sexual wellness platform with ethical erotica for everyone. Use code ABBIE for a 2 week free trial today at getcheex.com LINKS The Self-Love Club podcast https://apple.co/3gT1SK5 The Self-Love Club Instagram @selfloveclubpodcast Courtney Act + Vanity podcast  Brenda Call Me http://bit.ly/brendacallme  Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldGuest: Bel Crawford @belcrawfordExecutive Producer and editor: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode contains discussions of violence against women, and homicide. Please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au if any of the topics discussed raise any issues for you. The recent news of the death of Kelly Wilkinson has made national headlines. How many more women have to lose their lives for Australia to step up and pay attention. Also, is Abbie sleeping with a "reformed mansplainer"?  Plus we have a double whammy of a nightmare fuel. Abbie has a personal one about what someone recently said about her vajeen - AND a terrible albeit psychic first date to rival all weird ass first dates. LINKS Donate to Kelly Wilkinson's children https://bit.ly/3tSdGjb Find your local member to write to about legislation changes  http://bit.ly/auspol-localmember  Review the podcast on Apple http://bit.ly/ial-review  Listen to The Space podcast http://bit.ly/thespace-podcast  Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer and editor: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why has Abbie decided to identify as Queer and why are some people accusing her of bi erasure? Plus, who knew that there are people out there who can tell you exactly what they want and need out of whatever kind of relationship you're having with them and NOT gaslight you... Cause Abbie only just found that out and it's AMAZING. Also, a compliment and a medical/dating Nightmare Fuel? Yes please! LINKS Get Your Abbie Vibrator here https://bit.ly/3t6AEmq Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer and editor: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you seen or heard about Khloe Kardashian's "leaked" bikini photo? Well, Abbie has A LOT to say about it. Also, ABBIE HAS RELEASED A NEW VIBRATOR!!! Producer Elise tries it out first hand and you get to hear aaaaallll the details. LINKS Get Your Abbie Vibrator here https://bit.ly/3t6AEmq Margot Pincus' TikTok https://bit.ly/3mPC7eN Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is this season's MAFS screaming the word PROBLEMATIC? Other than a MAFS rant, Abbie gets a text from an ex boyfriend and she is SO not impressed. Also, can a palm lick make a woman cum? LINKS The Dan Savage Lovecast https://www.savagelovecast.com/ Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is "Condensed milk" the highlight of today's episode? Hint: It's nightmare fuel related. Also, what do you do when you run out of words in a conversation? Do you anxiously over-talk or just embrace the silence? LINKS The Dan Savage Lovecast https://www.savagelovecast.com/ AJ Clementine on TikTok https://bit.ly/3u64hnQ Belle Bambi on TikTok https://bit.ly/31pPnwJ Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we really questioning the fact that the Atlanta shootings weren't racially motivated? Abbie then moves on to a lighter note and unravels the elaborate table saga. Plus on Nightmare Fuel a listener wants to know, what the heck to do when her partner wants her to be safe, but she really wants to go to the beach. This episode of It's A Lot is sponsored by Esmi Skin Minerals. Use the code "ITSALOT20" at checkout for 20% off store wide https://bit.ly/3bHeeAQ  LINKS Intersectional.abc @intersectional.abc  Alyssa Ho Writings @alyssahowritings Kim Christine @kimchristine94 Christine Liwag Dixon @cmliwagdixon '75-year-old Asian woman says she fought back after being attacked in San Francisco' Mercury News http://bayareane.ws/3c8v3pz Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The following episode contains discussions of sexual assault, alleged murder, rape, and suicidal ideation. If this raises any issues for you please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 Will we (women and young girls) ever be able to walk home at night without holding onto our keys ready to pounce at any potential murderer or rapist lurking around the corner? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Plus Abbie talks about that Harry and Meghan interview, Piers Morgan walking off set and simply not returning (or being allowed to return?) to his TV gig, and how long it'll take Abbie's friend Danny to build her an IKEA daybed. Resources Lifeline 13 11 14 https://www.lifeline.org.au/  1800 RESPECT, National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service https://www.1800respect.org.au/ Links Mentioned  Just The Gist Podcast https://apple.co/3vxtwBp The King's Speech https://bit.ly/3rRv7zv  Comedian Daniel Sloss' monologue about violence towards women https://bit.ly/3cuGeI9 How Meghan Markle Became An Advocate For Women At 11-years-old https://bit.ly/3ljWeB2  Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfieldExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia LINKS Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You know what's been a lot? People telling Abbie off for being a bad role model for their kids. Plus hate following, why do we do it? And we have a double whammy of Nightmare Fuel for this week from one listener who has a UTI horror story, and producer Elise tells the story of her worst ever date. Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer: Elise Cooper LINKS Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What was it like for Brooke Blurton to come out as bisexual on The Bachelor? And what does it feel like to live in "four worlds" - white Australia, Indigneous Australia, social media and the queer community. Also, we challenge you to count how many times Brooke flirts with Abbie (feel free to turn this into a drinking game, if you like). Send your Nightmare Fuel via voice note to hello@itsalotpodcast.com CREDITS Host: Abbie ChatfieldGuest: Brooke Blurton @brooke.blurtonExecutive Producer: Elise CooperProducer and editor: Lem Zakharia LINKS Podcast Instagram @itsalotpod Abbie's Instagram @abbiechatfield Get your It's A Lot merchandise http://bit.ly/itsalot-merch  Nova Podcast's Instagram @novapodcastsofficial See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.