It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield

The first of mini episodes (now called IT'S A LITTLE) that will be extras from the usual Tuesday installment, or just random thoughts that Abbie has. Today Abbie gets her birth chart read so you can see what a full reading is like from an Astrologer Jaz Borri is an empowerment astrologer & self-discovery mentor from Sydney, Australia. Using modern mysticism, Jaz is passionately in service to the 21st century woman who feels just as she did: lost, heavy minded and ready for change. After years of struggling with a mental health disorder, codependency, toxic relationships & unworthiness she created her women's empowerment business in service to her mission: to inspire unapologetic authenticity and ensure no woman, ever again, lives unbeknownst or in fear of their own power IG: @jazborri https://www.instagram.com/jazborri/ WEBSITE: https://www.jbhaus.com/ BOOK YOUR SESSION: https://www.jbhaus.com/book-online JAZ'S PERSONAL PODCAST "ABRACADABRA": https://open.spotify.com/show/4af7iqIKf5Ue5GdxTjbVge?si=3iQRX-G3SSKpNMKPEaYp6g JAZ'S FEMINIST PODCAST "QUITE FRANKLY": https://open.spotify.com/show/1JsytCvGJj1HnMYPo9tY6x?si=w_I-Y8D2SGe71gd-uXtebg  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Abbie has a chat with Astrologer Jaz Borri! Jaz Borri is an empowerment astrologer & self-discovery mentor from Sydney, Australia. Using modern mysticism, Jaz is passionately in service to the 21st century woman who feels just as she did: lost, heavy minded and ready for change. After years of struggling with a mental health disorder, codependency, toxic relationships & unworthiness she created her women's empowerment business in service to her mission: to inspire unapologetic authenticity and ensure no woman, ever again, lives unbeknownst or in fear of their own power IG: @jazborri https://www.instagram.com/jazborri/ WEBSITE: https://www.jbhaus.com/ BOOK YOUR SESSION: https://www.jbhaus.com/book-online JAZ'S PERSONAL PODCAST "ABRACADABRA": https://open.spotify.com/show/4af7iqIKf5Ue5GdxTjbVge?si=3iQRX-G3SSKpNMKPEaYp6g JAZ'S FEMINIST PODCAST "QUITE FRANKLY": https://open.spotify.com/show/1JsytCvGJj1HnMYPo9tY6x?si=w_I-Y8D2SGe71gd-uXtebg Email hello@itsalotpodcast.com for questions comment suggestions Head to itsalotpodcast.com for merch and everything else!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie reads your stories you have emailed in about your wild exes, including lots of cheating and drama. She finishes the episode off with a little advice on how to get over your own awful ex. It's A Lot now has a website and new email address. itsalotpodcast.com hello@itsalotpodcast.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

EBTIL has revoked his consent to have this episode continued. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TW: In this episode we talk a lot about vulvas, being two cis women who have only slept with cis women, our language defaulted to binary and cis language. I just wanted to say that we both acknowledge that not all women have vulvas and not all vulva owners are women, and we still have work to do in fully converting our language.  This week Abbie is joined by her friend Ellie who is the founder of Comfortable In My Skin. Comfortable In My Skin is a project started by Ellie in which she photographs vulvas whenever and wherever she can to help with vulva acceptance. Her website, https://www.comfortableinmyskin.com.au/ is an amazing resource.  Abbie and Ellie discuss how to pleasure a vulva, how to ask your partner for oral, the nightmare that is Bacterial Vaginosis and how we can grow to love our vulvas, and be "Comfortable In My Skin" (ha ha ha).  Contact Ellie at @comfortableinmyskin_ or via her website  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

HABITUAL NUTTER This week Abbie is joined by Lillian Ahenkan akaFLEX MAMI!!!! Flex is an absolutely glorious human who has made critical thinking *cool* again with her card game REFLEX along with her incredible IG stories full of reddit threads, and her two podcasts (Bobo and Flex and Whatever I want).   Flex and Abbie play REFLEX, asnwering a question each, then go on to answer a listener's question about her consistently lack lustre sex life (which inevitably leads the girls down a path comparing porn watching habits, duh.) They then chat about Flex's career, her journey with sexuality and how she got to the place that she is today and finish off with some quick fire questions from the podcast group!  If you like It's A Lot, remember to rate and review on Apple Podcasts and share with a friend! You can find Flex at @flex.mami on Instagram, and all things Flex related can be found https://linktr.ee/flex.mami    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie dissects a tweet that says the following: I'm the kind of girl that says I want a boyfriend but any time a guy tries to get to know me I'm like "nah not you"??? I'm the reason I'm fucking single". Lotsa issues but nothing we can examine!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Grrr!! This one is full of anger. A listener DMd Abbie a message asking how to deal with her D-Bag of an ex who is attempting to slut shame her. Gross.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's been a couple of days because Abbie needed a mental health break. Today Abbie rants about anti-vaxxers and conspiracy theorists in a very niche facebook group she is in. She gives advice on how to deal with being ghosted, how to just be "better" in bed (and how to deal with someone not being able to cum or get hard) and how to deal with being bisexual... even though she doesnt really know yet either.  Here is the link to the Ask Abbie mentioned:  https://www.popsugar.com.au/love/how-do-i-ask-for-what-i-really-want-in-bed-47723030   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Abbie talks about the anxiety of that first sexual encounter after a dry spell, and how to ease some of that anxiety!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.