

Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.
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Jul 7, 2020 • 55min
Know Your Soil
Today we discussed gardening (of all things) and how "knowing our soil" in marriage is critical to loving each other in the fullest context of covenantal love.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jul 2, 2020 • 43min
Sexual Intimacy (Sharon Jaynes)
Have you ever felt that the person you thought was your best friend and your spouse has turned into more of a roommate? If so, then this conversation will help you. Sharon Jaynes is the author of many books, but in this interview we're discussing Lovestruck: Discovering God’s Design for Romance, Marriage, and Sexual Intimacy". We hope this conversation helps you see your marriage from a fresh perspective and perhaps, it will help you reignite the passion that was there in the beginning.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 30, 2020 • 51min
Laugh More!
Laughing is one of the best ways to break your marriage out of a funk. Could it be that laughter is a gift and a grace of God designed specifically to lift our hearts and clear the air in our relationships? In this week's episode we answered three questions about laughter and talked through various examples in Scripture where laughter, playfulness, and childlike faith.
We hope this podcast helps you and blesses your marriage. If you'd like to help keep this content coming, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage to explore partnership options.

Jun 23, 2020 • 55min
Expectations are Everything
Expectations are constantly at work in every marriage. The question is whether or not we're aware of them and in agreement on what they should be. In this episode we posed dozens of questions for listener consideration about expectations in sex, money, communication, in-laws, hobbies, divisions of chores/labor, church, and more.
While this episode will be particularly helpful for our nearly- and newlywed listeners, couples of all stages of marriage are sure to learn something about themselves. We hope it blesses you!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 18, 2020 • 50min
A Truer, Better, More Exciting Normal (Matt and Lisa Jacobson)
The Jacobsons are a gift and a blessing. In this episode we talked about how God's view for marriage and family is so much better than our own or the world's. We specifically covered when to have kids (they had 8, and late!), the adventure of marriage God's way, porn & purity, how to prioritize your marriage over kids, and so much more. This interview is one of our favorites, and we're confident you will be blessed by the Jacobsons!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 16, 2020 • 52min
Are Your Hearts Hard or Soft?
Soft hearts are necessary for a healthy, thriving, happy marriage. But our tendency is not to remain soft toward each other. Bad days happen, tiredness, sin, crisis, arguments, and more can contribute to each of the three indicators of whether or not your hearts are soft toward one another. We also discussed four efforts you can employ today to help soften your hearts if you feel them hardening. We hope it blesses you!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 9, 2020 • 56min
Having Political Disagreements as a Couple
With everything going on in society, we thought it would be timely to discuss ways to have productive political conversations as a couple. While we didn't cover the hot-topics themselves, hopefully this episode will help you and your spouse "come to the table" and hash out tough political disagreements. We discussed the four big presuppositions to every conversation, the cultural lies they dispel, and how to apply them when talking about (and disagreeing on) hard things. We hope this episode helps you!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 4, 2020 • 38min
Bringing Husbands Back to Life (Jerrad Lopes of Dad Tired)
In today's episode we talked with Jerrad Lopes, author of Dad Tired: Stumbling Your Way to Spiritual Leadership. Jerrad shared how his wife's prayers softened his heart when he thought they were on the brink of divorce, and we also talked about what helps bring men back to life in fatherhood and marriage.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jun 2, 2020 • 45min
Take Heart, Hope is Yours
Though this episode is still about marriage, we never anticipated how timely its message of hope would be. In today's episode we encourage listeners to remember that marriage is less about perfection and more about perspective and perseverance. You're both learning, you're both going to make mistakes, and you're both works in progress. God hasn't given up on either of you yet, so neither should you. Take heart, listener. Christ is your hope and he is unshakeable!
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

May 26, 2020 • 50min
How to Change Your Spouse
If you could change one thing about your spouse, what would it be? Life would be so much easier if we could just change our spouse, right? The problem is, God never called husbands and wives to change each other... heart change is God's domain alone. So, what can we do when we're living in a relationship where we're unequally yoked and change is needed, but you're powerless to make it happen? Thankfully, we're not without hope.
In this episode, we talked through the two domains God has commissioned us to work within, and shared three tangible steps you can take today to begin walking with greater faith in your marriage. We hope it blesses you.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.