

Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.
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Sep 1, 2020 • 56min
When is the right time to have kids?
Should we be the final word on when to have kids? Or should every married couple have as many kids as possible because children are a blessing? Or... maybe these are the wrong questions to be asking in the first place? In this episode, we make an exciting announcement and, coincidentally, it has a ton to do with how we ask/answer the question "when is the right time to have kids?" We trust you'll find our conversation challenging and we hope you find it helpful as well.
Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Aug 25, 2020 • 59min
Worldviews and Marital Unity
Your deepest held beliefs, while they affect every aspect of life (including marriage), aren't always biblical. This can make it incredibly hard to discuss sensitive topics or work through deep disagreements in marriage. As we've discussed often, your beliefs always inform your behaviors. In this week's episode we talked about what a worldview is while contrasting biblical Christianity against 5 non-Christian worldviews. You may be surprised how often non-Christian worldviews influence your family dynamic. We had a ton of fun with this one, and we hope it blesses you!
Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Aug 18, 2020 • 53min
The Secret (and Super Obvious) Ingredient
This week we recapped a few recent arguments we had to help illustrate how this one ingredient changes everything. While our fights had to do with dinners and sex, they each actually had nothing to do with either. You'll have to listen to the episode to discover what that means! Spoiler alert: the ingredient is super obvious, but how it's added makes all the difference. We hope it strengthens your marriage!
Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Aug 11, 2020 • 51min
Narcissism and Marriage
Words like vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-regard, and egotism all have one thing in common: the self is viewed as the crux of importance. They also describe narcissistic personality disorder.
Everyone is selfish to a degree, but narcissists are self-focused at an extreme level. In today's episode we discussed narcissism as a personality disorder, explored ways narcissists hurt their spouse, and revealed why, at its root, narcissism is a rejection of the gospel (which is the only cure). We're not psychologists, so this podcast is an overview based on research done by others. We hope it helps you!
Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Aug 6, 2020 • 49min
Infertility and Childlessness (Sheridan Voysey)
Sheridan Voysey and his wife, Merryn were devastated when they realized their dream of having children would never become a reality. After infertility, an international move, and a professional change shook the Voysey's world, Sheridan realised that he couldn’t reconcile his expectations with the life he was living. In today's episode, Sheridan shares their story of heartbreak, despair, healing, purpose, and finally, joy. It was an immensely helpful episode for us, and we hope you can say the same.
Sheridan is the author of seven books, the latest being The Making: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned, which been featured in publications like The Times, Sunday Telegraph and Christianity Today. You can find all of his resources at SheridanVoysey.com or anywhere books are sold.
Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Aug 4, 2020 • 59min
Decision Drivers in Marriage
Decisions, decisions! The average couple makes hundreds of small decisions and many significant ones on a daily basis. The question is, where do our choices come from? As we discussed in this episode, every decision is rooted in some core value, and our core values have to do with our views of wisdom and folly as well as our ability to act on our views. This conversation got a bit heady, but we still had fun with it. We hope it blesses you in some way.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jul 28, 2020 • 48min
Serving is Pursuing
Serving is not likely to make it to the top of most people's "things that are sexy about marriage" list. Still, serving one another is one of the most profound (if not THE most profound) ways to love each other in marriage. In today's episode, we discussed three ways Jesus showed us to serve one another when he washed his disciples' feet. We also shared some of what's been going on personally as it's been a particularly emotional season in the Frederick household.
In this episode we worked through one of the devotions included in our Husband/Wife in Pursuit bundle. You can learn more about that at 31DayPursuit.com.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jul 23, 2020 • 42min
Surviving Infidelity (Tina Konkin)
Infidelity causes catastrophic damage to a marriage. Can it be survived? In today's special interview with author and speaker Tina Konkin, we discuss just that. Tina shares with great detail how God used her husband's affair, despite the damaging effects, to transform her heart and her marriage for the better. Listen in, we hope it blesses you.
Read Tina's book, "How God Used the Other Woman" or check out TinaKonkin.com to learn more.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jul 21, 2020 • 1h 1min
Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal
Being betrayed by the one you love is one of the worst feelings imaginable. How can a couple find reconciliation and healing after trust is shattered. It's not easy and it requires both spouses to work hard, but there is hope. In today's episode we discussed stories in betrayal in the Bible—namely how we've betrayed God in sin—and what they can show us about finding reconciliation in the wake of betrayed trust. This episode is a bit longer, but the topic is heavy. We hope it helps you.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, silicone rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month.

Jul 14, 2020 • 59min
Manipulation in Marriage
As we discovered, there is a vast array of manipulation methods at play in human relationships. The question is, which ones are you unwittingly using against each other in your marriage? Rationalization, minimization, lying (by omission and commission), shaming, vilifying, seduction, and many other methods might be at work in ways you're unaware. In this episode, we explored what the Bible says about manipulation (as it turns out, it says a lot), and discussed ways out of manipulative habits for couples to explore.
Thanks for listening! If you'd like to partner with us, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including free books, ebooks, rings, and exclusive ministry updates. Patron levels start at just $2/month. We'd love to lock arms with you!