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We will learn: The power of Irish keening for releasing emotions.  How to deal with fear around loss.  How to hold presence for grief, whether for yourself or a loved one.  There’s a huge spectrum for how people deal with grief. But it’s one of those things that I feel like we need a handbook for and we just don’t have one. We used to gather around to support one another for all major life events. We had collective rituals that helped us feel connected. That gave space to the grieving. That kept life moving when the griever couldn’t yet handle the little things. So what would that look like today, in the modern world? Today we’re going to explore some of the most helpful grief rituals that are worth bringing back. Our guest is Amanda Held Opelt. She is an author, speaker, and songwriter. She has spent the last 15 years as a social worker and humanitarian aid worker. And she writes about grief and creativity, and believes in the power of community, ritual, and shared stories to heal even our deepest wounds. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/X92 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: The seven most common big feelings and how to move through them. How to put a positive spin on envy. How to bust through perfectionism by replacing avoidance goals with approach goals. Do you have big emotions? How do you feel about them? Are you ashamed of them? Overwhelmed by them? If you don’t have big feelings, have you ever asked yourself why? The problem is, we aren’t given a handbook for our humanness. So we look to others and we model them. Or we compare. Or we judge. Or we just pretend like nothing is happening. And then we suffer in silence and then wonder why things don’t get a whole lot better. But if we’re all going through the hardships of life, it doesn’t have to be that way. Even if you’re not big on sharing your emotions with others, there are ways to help that emotional energy move through you rather than getting stuck. And that’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Liz Fosslien. Liz Fosslien is an expert on how to make work better, and co-author and illustrator of the best-selling book Big Feelings and the Wall Street Journal best-seller No Hard Feelings. Her work has been featured by Good Morning America, The New York Times, The Economist, Time, TED, and CNN. She has given keynotes about emotions at work at organizations including Google, LinkedIn, NPR, and Spotify. Links from the episode:  Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/240 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: The dangers of identifying too closely with our reflections. How to transform your relationship with mirrors. 5 basic steps to start a daily mirror meditation. Most people know their flaws so well they practically identify with them. And many people can’t even stand to look in the mirror because the feelings of shame or repulsion are so intense. The good news is, with awareness and intention, you can use the same mirror to reverse these patterns. The mirror can be a powerful tool for self reflection and for finding the you underneath the persona you’ve built up over the years. We just have to consciously practice with it. And that’s what we’re learning today. Our guest is Tara Well. She is an associate professor of psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University in New York, NY, where she developed a mirror-based meditation called “a revelation,” in the New York Times. Her new book: Mirror Meditation: The Power of Neuroscience and Self-Reflection to Overcome Self-Criticism, Gain Confidence, and See Yourself with Compassion was just released. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/X91 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: What we got wrong about toughness that actually was toxic. How to create inner confidence. Four pillars of toughness that we need to step up and do hard things. Struggle is a powerful catalyst for transformation. Some of the strongest, most fascinating and complex people in the world are people who have survived big life-changing things. But does that mean that those of us on top of the privilege pyramid - which is really anyone with a roof over their head and food on the table - are just doomed for dullness or apathy? I don’t think so. I think the key is to create our own struggle. But first, we have to remember how to be up for a challenge. We have to know how to sit in discomfort and willingly weather the storm. So that’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Steve Magness. He is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success. His most recent work is Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness. He is also co-author of the best-selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/239 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: How to recognize the “shoulds” that are at the root of your doubts, fears, resentment, and shame.  How to call out the BS stories you create and believe about yourself.  How to stop beating yourself up over the “should haves” and what already happened.  Do you keep shoulding all over yourself? The energy of words is a powerful force. And sometimes the way we speak about a problem, about ourselves, about other people is what holds the energy that either keeps us where we are or helps us move in another direction. And sometimes, even something as simple as a change of words can be the catalyst for opening up to things we didn’t even realize was possible. That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Tricia Huffman, aka Your Joyologist. She is a mental health and mindset expert known for sharing real talk with heart, calling you to uncover and honor who YOU are.  Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/x90 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: How to understand the defining moments that got you here without placing blame. How to find presence, even when the present moment isn’t where you want to be. The link between radical responsibility and mindfulness-based emotional intelligence.  Whose fault is it that you are the way you are? Or that you are where you are? We tend to get tunnel vision when things aren’t going our way. But our limitations are all just perceptions. Instead of seeing them as roadblocks, we can choose to see what they’re funneling us toward.  But how do we finally move beyond blame so that the wider perspective is our default? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Fleet Maull. Dr. Fleet Maull is an author and a renowned growth mindset teacher who delivers his training programs and seminars around the world both in-person and online through Heart Mind Institute. He’s a meditation teacher and founder of the Prison Mindfulness Institute and National Prison Hospice Association, all while serving a 14-year mandatory-minimum federal drug sentence, 1985 to 1999. He’s all about taking radical responsibility for your life. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/238 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: How mental health can impact power dynamics in relationships. Navigating what’s you and what’s your disorder. How to talk about mental health with your partner. Cultivating a healthy relationship can be hard enough. . . but what if you also struggle with mental health issues like depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar, or a spicy little cocktail of several together? If you have struggled with mental illness, it’s important to have a partner that you can communicate with so he or she can understand your unique needs. So today we’re gonna walk you through it so that you feel confident navigating relationships, from that scary initial conversation, to the day to day challenges. Our guest is Allison Raskin, a New York Times bestselling author, actress, director and co-creator of the YouTube comedy channel and podcast, Just Between Us. She’s also the author of Overthinking About You. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/X89 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: What the Magnetic Memory Method is and how it works. How frustration hinders memory and how to release it. How to create memories that stick not just in your short-term memory, but for years and years and years. How good is your memory? If you learn something new, does your brain recall associated information you learned a month ago? It may not seem like a big deal if you need a reminder here or there, but did you know that improving your memory also improves your mental well-being? So the question is, how do we consciously improve our memories? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Anthony Metivier. He is the founder of the Magnetic Memory Method, a systematic, 21st Century approach to memorizing foreign language vocabulary, names, music, poetry and much more in ways that are easy, elegant, effective and fun. He’s going to teach us simple techniques for memorizing the information that improves your daily life.   Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/237 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn:  How to identify where you hold you’re emotions in your body.  How to identify your default movement patterns. How to challenge your movement in small ways to open yourself up for change.  What if I told you that the way you move impacts the person that you are? And if you consciously begin to move differently, your life could change? That’s what we’re talking about today.  Our guest is Erica Hornthal. She is a licensed clinical professional counselor and board-certified dance/movement therapist and she’s known as the “Therapist Who Moves You”. Erica’s mission is to change the way people see movement with regard to mental health; moving people toward unlimited potential, greater awareness, and purpose by tapping into their innate body wisdom.  Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/X88 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: Surprising facts about lonely people.  How we can get better at reading people.  How to catch a liar.  Every über successful person I know is still most proud of their relationships. Relationships increase our life spans and even our health. Connection gives us meaning and purpose. So how do we master first impressions? How can we get a feel for someone faster? How can we figure out if someone is being truthful? How can we diffuse arguments faster or resolve conflicts better? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Eric Barker. Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree”, which has sold over half a million copies. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” His newest book “Plays Well with Others” was just released. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/236 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices