Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The hookup culture is a societal shift characterized by casual, short-term sexual engagements, highlighting a reluctance to commit to long-term relationships. This cultural phenomenon, especially prevalent among young adults and college students, poses challenges rooted in an insufficient understanding of the physiological and emotional aspects involved. The immediate pursuit of pleasure, combined with societal expectations, frequently results in miscommunication, unmet expectations, and emotional turmoil, reshaping the dynamics of modern relationships. In this episode, Dr. Joe Malone and Dr. Jessica Higgins share valuable insights and actionable steps to navigate this complex landscape, providing a nuanced perspective on fostering healthier connections amid the complexities of contemporary dating norms. Join us as we unpack the intricacies of the hookup culture and discover strategies to cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Dr. Joe Malone, The Sexual Integrity Scientist. holds a Ph.D. in Health and Human Performance with a minor in neuropsychology and a specialization in women's health and sexual wellness. He taught at Middle Tennessee State University from 2005-2017 and has guest lectured at Vanderbilt and Princeton as well as other major universities. He's the author of Battle of the Sexes: Raising Sexual IQ to Lower Sexual Conflict and Empower Lasting Love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:40 From fitness to sexual wellness advocacy: Dr. Joe Malone's profound journey and insights into hookup culture. 13:46 The impact of technology on hookup culture and the quest for genuine connection. 22:10 The desires and challenges of young men in building meaningful relationships. 26:52 Dr. Joe Malone advocates for the vital role of marriage in young men's lives. 34:56 The challenges young individuals face in understanding their sexual desires amid prevalent societal messages. 39:04 Exploring the influence of testosterone and oxytocin on sexual thoughts and bonding. 40:58 Empowering women to redefine relationship standards and prioritize quality over quantity. 47:23 Balancing tradition and individual expression in contemporary contexts. Mentioned Battles of the Sexes: Raising Sexual IQ to Lower Sexual Conflict and Empower Lasting Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Joe Malone Websites: drjoemalone.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

According to research, in 39% of households, women contribute equally or more to the income compared to men. This transformation, while positive, marks a significant shift from traditional gender roles and poses a unique challenge when both partners are engaged in the workforce. Historically, women often assumed the role of stay-at-home moms, responsible for all household chores. Women raised in such settings encounter the challenge of harmonizing these deeply rooted expectations with the pressures of a thriving career. As a result, the need to redefine the concept of a successful mother and wife becomes crucial, calling for collaborative endeavors from both spouses. In this episode, we explore strategies and insights aimed at addressing this dynamic, guiding couples through the process of redefining gender roles and fostering mutual understanding. Brian Page is the founder of Modern Husbands. He shares ideas on managing money and the home as a team. He is a former Milken National Educator of the Year, CNN Money Hero, and Working Group Member of President Obama's Advisory Council on Financial Capability. He consulted for state governments, universities, and various nonprofits. He served a one-year term as a Visiting Scholar at the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau in the Office of Financial Education. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:26 Brian Paige's personal journey into redefining relationship dynamics. 10:28 Navigating the learning curve: Redefining roles and managing mental load in modern relationships. 17:20 Streamlining life: Outsourcing, automating, and systematizing for reduced cognitive load in relationships. 21:14 Navigating division of labor and money in relationships 34:05 Striving for equitable leisure. 31:41 The power of regular household business meetings. 37:19 Empowering marriages with valuable resources: The modern husband's toolkit. 39:34 The significance of understanding the deep-seated beliefs and potential traumas that influence a partner's financial decisions. Mentioned Transition to Marriage Toolkit (course) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Brian Page Websites: modernhusbands.com Facebook: facebook.com/modernhusbands Twitter: twitter.com/ModernHusbands YouTube: youtube.com/@ModernHusbands Instagram: instagram.com/modernhusband LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/modernhusbands Podcast: modernhusbands.com/podcasts Newsletter: modernhusbands.com/newsletter Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In the previous episode, we delved into the intricacies of navigating challenging relationships with in-laws, particularly amidst the holiday season. We discussed valuable insights on emotional regulation and proactive communication. Now, in part two, Dr. Jessica Higgins further explores the multifaceted nature of conflicts and disparities that can arise in these relationships. Drawing from client cases and personal anecdotes, she illuminates common challenges encountered. In this episode, Dr. Higgins focuses on three key areas related to privacy within the context of in-law relationships. The overarching theme is the crucial need for partners to align their perspectives and establish a shared understanding, especially when it comes to issues like proximity, boundaries, and the level of disclosure within the extended family. If you haven't listened to part one of this series, I recommend that you do. You'll find the link below. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:32 Navigating the delicate balance of privacy in in-law relationships. 13:13 Navigating differences in food etiquette with in-laws. 16:03 Navigating challenges of inclusion in family conversations. 19:06 Balancing time spent with in-laws. 20:14 Decision-making dynamics: Navigating influence and power in family interactions. 22:54 Navigating grandparental involvement in parenting: Balancing resources and boundaries. 30:24 Cultivating compassion and setting realistic expectations in in-law relationships 34:01 Self-care strategies for setting boundaries in family dynamics. 39:54 Cultivating generosity and kindness in family dynamics. Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication ERP 404: How to Manage Relationships with In-Laws More Effectively — Part One Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Navigating relationships with in-laws is often a subtle journey filled with its unique set of challenges, and it's a topic that has generated numerous requests from our audience. As we find ourselves on the brink of the holiday season, these challenges may become more pronounced, making it an opportune time to address the intricacies of managing relationships with in-laws. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins provides actionable insights and practical tips to empower listeners in navigating these relationships more effectively. Whether you're grappling with strained connections, seeking strategies for smoother communication, or simply aiming to enhance understanding within the family unit, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore the nuances of in-law interactions, offering valuable perspectives to help you approach these dynamics with intention and foster healthier connections within your family circle. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:07 Navigating challenging relationships with in-laws during the holiday season. 8:49 A reflective inventory and setting realistic goals. 13:03 Relationship milestones, family expectations, and cultural considerations. 20:33 The influence of family structure on in-law relationships and the vital role of consensus in marital success. 25:56 A gentle approach to discussing challenges and setting healthy boundaries. 34:59 Tips for emotional regulation and proactive communication. Mentioned You Aren't as Close to my Family as You Think: Discordant Perceptions about In-laws and Risk of Divorce (*NCBI link) (research) Marriage and In-Laws: Factors Influencing Marital Stability (*Adelphi University link) (research) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Spendthrifts and tightwads represent opposite ends of the financial spectrum. A spendthrift tends to be more liberal with spending, often embracing a carefree attitude toward financial matters. On the other hand, a tightwad tends to be more frugal, prioritizing saving and cautious spending. Navigating these distinct financial personalities can pose challenges in a partnership, requiring thoughtful communication, compromise, and understanding to create a balanced and harmonious approach to shared finances. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of these differing financial approaches, offering actionable strategies to foster collaboration between spendthrifts and tightwads. From exploring joint accounts with individual freedoms to deciphering the art of thoughtful gift-giving beyond monetary values, the conversation provides practical insights. By emphasizing the delicate balance between shared financial goals and individual autonomy, the episode aims to equip couples with tangible steps to navigate the complexities of money matters. Tune in for valuable guidance on building financial harmony and strengthening communication in relationships marked by diverse spending tendencies. Dr. Scott Rick is the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships. He is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan's Ross School of Business and holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. His research on consumer behavior has been covered in outlets such as The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. He has published in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, and economics. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:49 Scott Rick's journey into exploring spending orientations shaped by spendthrift influences. 10:17 Navigating the dynamics of tightwads and spendthrifts in relationships: Understanding protective strategies and attraction. 20:18 Financial continuums, tensions, and the concept of financial translucency. 26:05 Balancing financial transparency: Navigating autonomy, trust, and communal approaches in relationships. 36:19 Unlocking the art of gift-giving: Thoughtful gestures, sacrifice, and relationship enrichment. Mentioned Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The 36 Questions That Lead to Love (*The New York Times link) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Scott Rick Websites: scottrick.com Twitter: twitter.com/scottianrick LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/scottianrick Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Embarking on a journey of profound spiritual exploration, particularly through plant medicine, can be a transformative endeavor. However, with the promise of self-discovery comes the responsibility of navigating these realms with caution. In this episode, we delve into the potential pitfalls of venturing into the depths of spiritual work, offering cautionary insights to those considering or already immersed in plant medicine journeys. A wealth of knowledge and experiences are brought to light, highlighting the risks linked to inexperienced facilitators and emphasizing the significance of traditional shamanic practices. Offering practical tips for a safer and more intentional approach, this episode aims to empower listeners on their spiritual quests, fostering a sense of awareness and responsibility in the pursuit of profound personal growth. Megan and Nicole Michelena are Microdosing Institute-certified mental health experts specializing in psychedelic medicine. They are known as the @zenchronicity_sisters and are the co-founders of Zenchronicity, a plant medicine microdosing mentorship program that supports healing through psilocybin mushrooms. Megan is also a certified holistic nutritionist and health coach, and both are trauma-informed yoga teachers and experts in psychedelic medicine. They are also precious stone jewelry makers and crystal experts, and Megan is a gifted astrologer. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:07 Navigating the terrain of plant medicine: Insights and considerations with Dr. Jessica Higgins. 12:55 Journey to mastery: The zen chronicity sisters on plant medicine, healing, and self-discovery. 18:51 Nicole's perspective on plant medicine and the inner journey to transformation. 29:29 Navigating microdosing and plant medicine with Zen Chronicity. 39:38 How psilocybin softens neuroplasticity and transforms consciousness. 43:40 Balancing energies: Navigating the dance of masculine and feminine in psychedelic healing. 55:52 Integrating plant medicine with traditional shamanic wisdom. 1:08:03 Practical tips for safe and transformative plant medicine experiences. Mentioned Zenchronicity Podcast (*Apple podcast link) Plants of the Gods (*Apple podcast link) Transaction Analysis by Eric Berne Hamilton Morris (*Wikipedia article) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke (podcast episode) ERP 346: Accessing Relatedness & the Priority of Connection — An Interview with Gabriel Kram (podcast episode) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Nicole & Megan Michelena Websites: zenchronicity222.com Instagram: instagram.com/zenchronicity_podcast | instagram.com/zenchronicity_sisters Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

The impact of sexual trauma on survivors often leaves a lasting imprint on both their emotional and physical well-being. Alongside grappling with feelings of fear, anger, and sadness, the trauma may be unconsciously stored in the body and unexpectedly reexperienced through somatic triggers during intimate moments. This can undermine a survivor's sense of safety, trust in others, and ability to freely experience closeness. In this episode, we delve into an often unexplored topic of relationships—navigating the intricate terrain of supporting a partner who has endured sexual trauma. The episode not only sheds light on the challenges faced but also presents practical steps, fostering a sense of hope and connection for both survivors and their partners. Join us as we explore the profound impact of trauma on intimacy and how intentional, informed efforts can contribute to healing and strengthen the bonds within these relationships. Megan Lara Negendank, LMFT, CST, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a certified sex therapist. She is the founder of Love Heal Grow, a relationship therapy center in Northern California where she specializes in trauma-informed, relationship-focused psychotherapy for survivors of trauma and their partners. She has been featured as a relationship expert on PBS, NPR, and in Sacramento Magazine. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:15 Megan Negendank's mission to support survivors and partners through trauma-informed therapy. 9:49 Navigating the complexity of survivor experiences and partner support in the realm of sexual trauma. 17:02 Coping mechanisms, trust challenges, and partner support in sexual trauma recovery. 22:37 Communication, consent, and partner self-compassion in the aftermath of sexual trauma. 32:55 Building bridges to stability: Navigating trauma in relationships through co-regulation and secure functioning. Mentioned Loving Someone Who Has Sexual Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Supporting Your Partner and Improving Your Relationship (The New Harbinger Loving Someone Series) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Megan Negendank Websites: lovehealgrow.com Instagram: instagram.com/megan.lovehealgrow Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

The holiday season traditionally beckons gatherings with loved ones, friends, and family, often involving travel to reunite with those we haven't seen in a while. While these occasions can be overwhelmingly positive, the nuances of family and relationship dynamics often introduce challenges. In this episode, we delve into the common tendencies of complaining, comparing, and criticizing, which can disrupt the joyous spirit of gatherings. We delve into insightful strategies to pivot away from these unproductive habits, offering practical solutions for a more positive and enriching experience. By exploring the three P's—pride, pleasure, and purpose—listeners are guided on a journey toward fostering deeper connections during festive occasions, enhancing the quality of interactions with loved ones, and ultimately cultivating a path to greater happiness. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:29 The impact of holiday gatherings on our mental tendencies. 9:18 Negative thought patterns and their impact on relationships. 15:52 Applying Gottman's 5:1 ratio to strengthen connections in every relationship. 23:34 The impact of negative behaviors on relationships. 32:09 Cultivating happiness through connection and purpose. Unpacking the Three C's First, let's clarify the three C's to avoid. 1. Comparing We often find ourselves anticipating comparisons, preparing to evaluate and rank ourselves, and engaging in a subtle one-up/one-down competition. Measures of Success: Career Achievements (promotions) Health and Fitness (body weight) Financial Status Attractiveness and Beauty (aging, wrinkles, clothing, hair) Knowledge (current events, politics) Social Engagements (events attended, people met) Fun (recreational activities, trips, etc.) All these aspects contribute to an individual's sense of meaning, purpose, and pride. However, when the intention is to impress or compete to feel superior, it can lead to putting oneself above others, inadvertently diminishing their value. Antidote: Practice expressing appreciation and gratitude for oneself, aiming for a list of 10 appreciations as a countermeasure. 2. Complaining Expressing challenges is a natural way to seek attention and understanding, often as an attempt to bond with others who can relate to hardships. However, dwelling on difficulties, akin to sharing war stories, provides limited satisfaction in connecting. Antidote: Counteracting complaints involves identifying at least 10 positive aspects overlooked in the situation, fostering a more optimistic perspective. 3. Criticizing Judging someone's behavior, especially in family or friendship dynamics, can stem from underlying longings, needs, or vulnerabilities, with limited potential for change compared to romantic relationships. Antidote: If change seems unlikely, self-support involves addressing personal needs and longings through alternative means or advocating for oneself, including setting boundaries. Additionally, acknowledging 10 positive qualities or attributes the person brings to your life can help shift the focus away from criticism. The Negative Effects of the 3 C's Diminished Self-Esteem: Engaging in constant comparison and criticism can lead to feelings of inadequacy, lower self-worth, and diminished self-esteem. Strained Relationships: Continuous criticism and complaining can put strain on relationships, eroding trust, creating tension, and reducing the overall sense of safety and satisfaction. Dissatisfaction in Interactions: The repetitive nature of the 3 C's can leave interactions feeling less meaningful and satisfying, contributing to a sense of dissatisfaction. Avoidance and Disconnection: Over time, the cumulative effect of the 3 C's may lead to avoidance of certain individuals or a decrease in engagement, negatively impacting the connection in relationships. Missed Opportunities for Growth: Focusing on the negative aspects may lead to missed opportunities for personal and relational growth, hindering the exploration of positive and enriching experiences. Draining Interactions: Engaging in the 3 C's can be emotionally draining, both for oneself and others, as the emphasis on negativity outweighs the potential for positive and uplifting interactions. Empowerment and Blame Cycle: The cycle of blame, competition, and one-upmanship perpetuated by the 3 C's can create a disempowered mindset, hindering the celebration of others and fostering deeper connections. Lack of Meaning and Significance: Constant comparison and criticism may lead to a focus on surface-level attributes, overshadowing the potential for deeper connections and the meaningful aspects of relationships. The 3 P's of Happiness Now that we've explored the challenges posed by the three C's, let's shift our focus to the transformative power of the three P's. The concept of the three P's — Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure — draws inspiration from Blue Zone research, examining communities globally recognized for longevity and well-being. Here are actionable strategies aligned with the three P's to foster a balanced and fulfilling life: 1. Pride: Build Community Bonds: Connect with your community, nurturing positive relationships for a heightened sense of belonging and pride. Embrace Traditions: Celebrate cultural or community traditions to strengthen your connection to heritage and foster pride. Achieve Personal Goals: Pursue goals aligned with your values, cultivating a sense of pride and satisfaction. Share Your Successes: Acknowledge and share your accomplishments, reinforcing a positive sense of pride. 2. Purpose: Discover Your Ikigai: Explore your 'ikigai,' finding purpose at the intersection of passion, skill, societal need, and earning potential. Volunteer and Give Back: Contribute to causes aligned with your values, experiencing purpose through meaningful engagement. Set Long-Term Goals: Establish enduring goals reflecting your passions and values for a sense of purpose. Reflect on Core Values: Regularly align actions with core values, providing direction and purpose in life. 3. Pleasure: Prioritize Social Bonds: Cultivate meaningful relationships with friends and family, crucial for overall happiness. Opt for Balanced Nutrition: Enjoy a varied, nutritious diet in moderation for physical and mental well-being. Incorporate Physical Activity: Integrate joyful exercises like walking or dancing into daily routines. Practice Mindfulness: Dedicate time to mindfulness practices, enhancing the enjoyment of the present moment. Embrace Nature: Spend time outdoors, connecting with nature for increased pleasure and well-being. Cultivate Hobbies: Engage in passion-driven activities, such as art or gardening, for a more pleasurable life. By integrating these strategies, you can elevate your overall well-being, embracing the principles of Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure observed in Blue Zone communities. Mentioned The Magic Ratio: The Key to Relationship Satisfaction Blue Zones of Happiness, The: Lessons From the World's Happiest People (The Blue Zones) (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) 25 Days To Strengthening Your Love Through Kindness (free guide link) ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love (podcast episode) ERP 128: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Two (podcast episode) ERP 129: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Three (podcast episode) ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Four (podcast episode) ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Five (podcast episode) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Entrusting our happiness to others implies depending on external validation or circumstances to feel content, fulfilled, or complete. Instead of finding intrinsic sources of joy and fulfillment within ourselves, we place the responsibility for our happiness on external influences. This reliance on external factors, especially in relationships, may result in emotional vulnerability and fragile self-esteem. In this episode, we explore the complexities of self-discovery and healing within relationships, delving into the significance of inner child work and its impact on our emotional well-being. We discuss the challenges of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging our shadows, and breaking free from the patterns that hinder personal growth. The conversation highlights the role of self-love and acceptance in fostering healthier connections with ourselves and others, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and genuine expression in our journey toward fulfillment. Deb Blum is a visionary leader and the founder of The Whole Soul Way, a transformational program dedicated to empowering women on their journey toward self-discovery and authentic expression. Through her step-by-step process, Deb helps self-led, do-it-all women break free from fear, conditioning, and external expectations, enabling them to express themselves fully, therefore creating more success, emotionally fulfilling relationships, happiness, and inner peace without losing their edge or disrupting the lives they've worked so hard to create. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:59 Introducing Deb Blum and her transformative program dedicated to empowering women through self-discovery. 11:17 Unveiling unconscious behaviors: Exploring tendencies to criticize, blame, or project onto others. 19:02 Deb Blum recounts how the pressure of motherhood and a desire for control brought projecting tendencies to light, leading to insights about her expectations and relationship dynamics. 28:41 Navigating identity attachments: Embracing the complexity of the human condition. 33:20 Unveiling the energy dynamics of repression and embracing the multifaceted human experience. 46:03 Nurturing wholeness through reparenting: The transformative journey. 51:48 The significance of overcoming defensiveness and creating space for genuine dialogue. 57:07 Support and resources. Mentioned The Whole Soul Way (*program sales page) Out of the Shadows: A Shadow Work Starter Kit (*free resources) Do-It-All Inner Power Animal Quiz (*quiz) ERP 174: How to Experience More Love in Your Relationship With Byron Katie Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Deb Blum Websites: thewholesoulway.com Facebook: facebook.com/DebBlumOfficial YouTube: youtube.com/debblumnow Instagram: instagram.com/debblum TikTok: tiktok.com/@deb.blum LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debblum Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In a society that highly values individual achievements and personal pursuits, the dynamics of maintaining emotional closeness within relationships undergo a subtle but significant transformation. Emphasizing autonomy, self-expression, and personal goal pursuit, societal norms shape how individuals navigate connections. In this episode, we explore the nuanced dynamics of emotional intimacy within the context of contemporary societal norms that often prioritize individual pursuits. The discussion delves into the delicate interplay between autonomy and togetherness, shedding light on the challenges individuals face in maintaining meaningful connections while pursuing personal goals. The impact of trauma on relationships is unpacked, highlighting the complexities of healing in the realm of emotional closeness. Join us as we navigate the fine line between independence and the inherent desire for emotional proximity, unraveling the secrets to fostering meaningful connections in a culture that champions individuality. Dr. St John is a psychotherapist, somatic fluid movement and meditation educator, and author of "Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime". He overcame severe childhood trauma and has engaged in the healing process both personally and professionally for 60 years. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:09 From brokenness to healing: Dr. Don St John's personal and professional journey. 11:30 The coherence model: Balancing freedom and cohesion in intimate relationships. 14:56 The importance of embracing both closeness and independence in a relationship. 27:09 Navigating change, personal growth, and cultural shifts. 32:47 Shifting from individual identity to cooperative connection. 50:06 Additional resources and information. Mentioned Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: 30th Anniversary Edition (The Covey Habits Series) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love ERP 348: Access Intraconnection for Well-Being — An Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel Connect with Dr. Don St John Websites: pathsofconnection.com Facebook: facebook.com/don.s.john.90 Instagram: instagram.com/drdonstjohn LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/don-st-john-36636a55 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.